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writes:I am 32 years old and one of my best friends, Danny, is 28 years old (we played football together in high school). He has two sisters (an older sister, Rebecca, who is 32 years old and a younger sister, Lisette, who is 22 years old). I am close to their whole family. The problem is that I keep on having sex dreams about Danny's little sister, Lisette. We do spend time together by ourselves (we both are into Geocaching) but I see her as a friend. I do not see her in a romantic way. If anything, I see her more of a little sister since I been knowing her since she was in elementary school. Plus I would never do anything that would risk my friendship with Danny or his family. Their friendship means too much to me. Why am I keep on having sex dreams about her? Is there anyway I can stop having sex dreams about her?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 February 2017):
 She is an adult now, you may still think in your head that you see her as a little sister but your mind is saying different. Honestly try not to worry to much about the dreams. They are normal enough. It doesn't mean that you need to act on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2017): You may have thought of her as very young in the past, but the reality is now she is a full-fledged adult at 22 years old, well over the age of consent.
So it is only natural to have an attraction to an adult woman.
I think you probably grew up where the age difference felt really large (her being a kid while you were a teen) and now the reality is it would be absolutely fine to date this young woman. I think that reality has hit your subconscious, but consciously you are still repressing it, because you don't want to think of her that way, because you still feel it is "wrong".
Well it is not wrong! So don't beat yourself up about it. Ask her out if you want to!
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (11 February 2017):
Because subconsciously you think of her as a potential mate. She is young and fecund so that isn't unusual. As long as you control yourself while awake there won't be a problem. But on the other hand the more time you spend alone together the greater the possibility of your subconscious feelings coming to the fore?
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reader, 02DuszJ  +, writes (11 February 2017):
 Ask Freud haha... You prob have some suppressed feelings for her... I think it IS natural for any hetero man at some point to have feelings for their female friend. That whole 8 out of ten of your male friends want to sleep with you n all that.Cos you spend regular one on one time together, there likely is that sexual tension, you dont really acknowledge. Not thatyoure thinking of her like that. Just I believe in those boy/ girl dynamics If you truly dont want to step on any toes in this family, I would maybe spend a bit less time with her to prevent feelings/ stronger feelings.Stay friends and if in a few years you find you have strong feelings for her, that's a bit difference. 22 is a bit young for the age gap.Maybe if you dont find anyone until then, it's a sign. If it blossoms into love it's love and the family shouldn't be too against it.
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