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Jealous of my girlfriend's sexual experiences

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Question - (14 May 2017) 4 Answers - (Newest, 16 May 2017)
A male Poland age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I feel a bit silly really. I've been in a great relationship with a woman for several years now. She's fun, kind, understanding, we share a lot of common activities like music, cycling, swimming, travel, and she has really helped me develop - and the sex is great.

However, I'm really jealous of her past sexual experiences. I know it's silly, and I know I shouldn't be, but I am. She's quite a bit older than me (she's 60), and grew up back in the wild 70s. A little while ago I made a joke about threesomes, and she said they're fun, but you have to get them out of the way when you're young and single, and not when you're in a relationship. Of course, that is perfectly logical, and I get it. I just feel that it's a shame that I didn't have as much fun as she did back in my youth. Don't get me wrong - I don't want to get up to that kind of thing now, I just wish I had done it in the past. So, how do you get past jealousy? Is it possible?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (16 May 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntWell I didn't do threesomes or go wild when I was younger and guess what I am happy. I really am not sure what you are jealous off here, sex is at its best when its between people who love each other, so what exactly do you feel you have missed out on?

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A male reader, Phil052 United Kingdom + , writes (15 May 2017):

Phil052 agony auntIt's all a long time ago and she has moved on! Look on it as a positive, all that fun she had has developed her skills that you are now enjoying! As for your own past, there's no point in worrying about what might have been, just enjoy your future together!

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States + , writes (14 May 2017):

Focus on what you love about her and not the past. Remember at your stage of life almost every woman you meet is going to have a sexual past. If you can't let this go you're going to end up pushing her away.

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A female reader, NORA B Ireland + , writes (14 May 2017):

Reading your mail,i understand that you have a wonderful relationship with this why spoil it.. the past is gone and just a memory.Look to the Now and the Future and continue to enjoy your special relationship.So many of us wish we did this or that in the past...but it is only a wish.Whatever we did in the past was Right at the time.Yes it is quiet possible to get past this jealousy.Think in a very positive way and be grateful for what you have now,do not waste time or thought,of what you might or might not done in the past.Remember each day is a gift of life and extra special when you are in a loving relationship Enjoy .Best luck NORA.B.

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