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My girlfriend left me to go back to her husband. She said she didn't love me enough

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Question - (14 May 2017) 5 Answers - (Newest, 16 May 2017)
A male Canada age 51-59, *unny62 writes:

My girlfriend recently broke up with me of 4.5 yrs to go back to her husband she left 8 yrs ago. She never stopped working for him and has been doing the same dead end job for 28 yrs. He is a grandiose type person, a bit of a show-off and loud. He is in sales (vacuum) I am not the loud type person. He still lives in the same house they raised their kids in and now their grandkids.She said she had to make a choice, she loves me but not enough and I wasn't in the same league. she always missed her home She loved how I was with her on an emotional and personal level but she said I didn't motive her. She said I have to find happiness within myself and not her. I was happy to have her in my life. Doesn't she seeking her motivation from me should be found within herself?

We are so much alike in many different levels.

Her Daughter and grandkids love me.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (16 May 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntAs hard as it is for you to get over, you need to accept that she has choose him and not you. I don't know what happened between her and her husband to break up but it sounds like she never stopped loving him or wanting to be with him. As difficult as it is you need to accept it and move on.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2017):

Your GF sounds like a gold digging, unfeeling, selfish woman.

She had the best of both worlds for as long as it suited her.

Did she really leave her husband? Do you know that for a fact?

Or was she living in the same house as him? The same house where they raised their family together?

The fact she was still working for him shows she did not cut ties entirely or make a clean break from him. Her foot was still in the door that he had left open for her.

But she liked her cake on the side. You. Having a good time. Having sex with you. That was it. You were her boy toy. Her pleasant distraction. To have fun with. She never did love you. I hope she never told you she did. Not loving you enough? That is bullshit. She never loved you at all. Either you love someone or you don't.

All she did was string you along until she decided she has had enough.

Sadly, you were played.

To say you were not in the same league is cruel. Who is she to say something like that? Obviously she was not in your league either. She has no morals, or decency or kindness in her heart. She is a user. And a manipulator. So be glad you are rid of her.

Let her husband have her. She is not a prize.

In time, she will be onto the next distraction while hanging onto her husband for comfort and financial stability.

And you? You will be over her. And have found a real woman. One who treats you right. Who makes you her priority.

One final note. If she ever shows her face again and asks you to take her back... gives you all the bull shit excuses in the book, tell her to fuck off.

You do not need that kind of messed up in your life. I do suggest you start working on yourself and taking care of yourself. Ask yourself why you chose to be with a woman like this in the first place and use it as a learning experience and growth process.

Wish you well.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (15 May 2017):

Well, she has made her decision. All you can do is accept it. She gave her reason. She doesn't love you enough. You had her for awhile. So now you are free to find someone better. In the meantime; you can work on yourself and prepare to be worthy of someone better for you.

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States + , writes (14 May 2017):

Please move on. She made her choice and now it is time for you to bow out. And keep in mind the time she was with you, she was always with her husband and do you really want that?

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (14 May 2017):

Fatherly Advice agony auntYou are the Other Man, The Fling, The Distraction. Whatever she said to you meant exactly this: "I choose my husband over you". Sadly for the homewrecker this is very often the result. Now after over 4 years you need to put out the torch, stop contacting her family, and Move On.

This time do the honorable thing and choose a partner who is already available. Divorce is rampant. There are single women of every age, culture, interest and situation. Pining away after someone who has solidly rejected you is a poor choice on your part.

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