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writes:My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird?I work in an office and wear skirts and blouses on a daily basis. When I first started dating him he said he loved what I was wearing but recently it seems to have got even more intense. I wear a lot of silk and satin blouses and the occasional leather skirt to the office and these in particular drive him crazy! A couple of times now my work clothes have stayed on for sex... right to the end... and... well lets just say my satin blouses have ended up very messy. I just can't work out if this is normal, or a healthy obsession / fetish - or if I need to stop wearing these clothes. Any advice appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (29 July 2017):
100% Normal.
Most men (and women) have some or several kinds of fetish.
I get turned on by looking at my GF in her swimsuits or yoga pants. We men are specially visual beings, and visual stimuli drives our engine.
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reader, Billy Bathgate  +, writes (29 April 2017):
If you're okay with it and it doesn't become an obsession, by that I mean he can't or won't have sex unless you're wearing work clothes and as long as he covers the cleaning bills I say relax and enjoy it.
One other thing; as long as your needs are also being met relax and enjoy it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 April 2017):
 Does it bother you? Then tell him to stop, or possibly pay for new blouses.
Does it not bother you? Then keep it up.
Who on earth gives two flying farts if it is considered normal or not. If it works for you, it works. You know, you don't need the approval of everyone around you, not for how you have sex with your boyfriend!
But just for fun, I will add that you don't need to search the web very far to realize that this is so normal, I wouldn't even call it a fetish. It's no more of a fetish than being attracted to sexy underwear.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (29 April 2017):
This is interesting in that it gives you a lot of sexual power in this relationship. You can dress in something that he especially likes when you really want to have sex. And it is a great way for you to keep his interest...he'll be there for the rest of your life as long as you dress to his likes. And it sounds like the wardrobe is complimentary and classy, not slutty. As someone else mentioned, you should have him take you shopping (at his expense) for his favorite outfits. Or he could buy them on-line for you.
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reader, carbone +, writes (28 April 2017):
Enjoy my dear. Nothing wrong here I can see.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2017): Hi,
Its the asker of this question :)
Thanks for your answers, definitely making me feel better about it. I took your advice and spoke to him about it and suggested a shopping trip, you should have seen his face! He bought me about 5 new shirts and 2 leather skirts and I actually can't wait to tease him. He can do whatever he wants with these lol.
He also asked me if there's anything I like for him to wear. I couldn't really think of anything but I've always loved a guy in a rugby kit. So he bought one! He's working tonight but tomorrow evening should be fun!
Thanks again :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2017): It's weird at all, don't worry! I'd say most, if not all, men have a particular liking for a sort of outfit in the bedroom. Everyone is different. If you both enjoy it, there's nothing to worry about!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2017): No it's not weird at all, in fact it's always good to have something like that you can use to your advantage in the bedroom. Having something to drive your husband wild, I think it's sweet. Enjoy it.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (28 April 2017):
 As long as this does not become something he absolutely needs every time in order to enjoy sex with you, then I really wouldn't worry. Satin, silk and leather are very common materials for men to get aroused by. (Not sure about the leather, but the satin and silk certainly feel nice, don't you think?)
Perhaps build this knowledge into your sex play by stroking him with these materials to arouse him. I am sure you will both enjoy it!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 April 2017):
 This one's classified as an okay, and healthy fetish! I was with a guy who had a serious foot fetish, and I remember once that I was going to replace a pair of tennis shoes. Since he was giving me a foot massage, I just mentioned that mine were starting to get worn out and it was time to replace them as soon as I had saved up my money. He went CRAZY eager to get my old pair of shoes! He even bought my replacements for me, which I was going to throw out the old ones. Let's just say I didn't ask at ALL about why he wanted my old shoes.
My point in sharing with you is - messy is messy! It's a harmless fetish, BUT replacing clothes and cleaning things like silk and satin (I like wearing silk, though I did it more in the 90's when it was in) costs. If he wants to incorporate your clothes into sex play, he needs to help cover the costs of their upkeep or replacement. Silks and satins are very fragile and stain easily as you and I both know!
It's quite harmless, but with favorite silk clothes, if you're worried about them being ruined by the...err...effects of sex play, then tell him that he needs to pay up for these extremely expensive sex accessories! Then tell him how much real silk ACTUALLY costs!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (28 April 2017):
 I don't think it's a bad thing at all. I'd be more worried if he wanted you to dress up in little girl's school uniforms, if you get my drift...
I'd suggest he takes you SHOPPING for an outfit HE would like to see you in at home.
However, IF you feel uncomfortable about it, I think you need to address it. Personally, I think it's pretty tame. It could be "used" as a FUN roleplay "game" if you are up for it. Might make things fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2017): He fancies you don't knock it ....but if you hate it tell him so ....don't worry. ..he likes the sexy office look
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