Why masturbate in front of them?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to masterbate in front of him, but i'm not really sure what to do. I don't really masterbate often because honestly i'm not that good a it. He is just so much better at pleasing me than I am at pleasing myself. Also I have ...
A. 1 July 2009: Masturbation is usually the way that women discover exactly what they need to do to have an orgasm. Some women have great orgasms by stroking, rubbing and caressing their clitoris. Others have orgasms with penetrative movements. The thing to ... (read in full...)
His snoring interferes with our sleep -- what can we do?
Q. A rather silly question.... My husband and i just got married about a week ago.... Before we got married we use to spend long weekends together as normal couples do. His snoring has always been a problem, its not that it bothers me, i fall a sleep ...
A. 1 July 2009: There are many great snoring solutions on the market. I personally like the breathing strips, but they didn't seem to work for me, I needed to diet a little more. There is a really good article and a snoring solution at ... (read in full...)
My wife watches a lot of porn. Is this normal?
Q. I just found out my wife has a tonne of porn on her laptop. We have an ok sex life having sex about 2 times a week but many times she turns me down. I noticed she seldom goes to bed the same time I do and comes to bed really late like 2am. Her ex...
A. 30 June 2009: If my partner was being secretive, and hiding the fact that she watches porn and masturbates over what she watches, or what fires her imagination, then so be it. As long as we still had a level of sexual intimacy that satisfied both of us, there ... (read in full...)
I've been married for 11 years to the wrong man!
Q. I have been married for eleven years to the wrong man. I love my husband as a friend but am not in love and I don't think I have ever been. I knew the day we got married and he called me a bitch before walking down the isle I was making a huge ...
A. 29 June 2009: Isn't it strange to see how human nature works. Your husband called you a bitch on your wedding day, abuses you, and drinks himself to sleep every night. But YOU feel guilty about walking away!
It's ok for all the aunts to say walk away. I know it's... (read in full...)
My wife watches a lot of porn. Is this normal?
Q. I just found out my wife has a tonne of porn on her laptop. We have an ok sex life having sex about 2 times a week but many times she turns me down. I noticed she seldom goes to bed the same time I do and comes to bed really late like 2am. Her ex...
A. 29 June 2009: No, it doesn't bother me personally at all. In fact, I buy my partner's toys, watch her masturbate, I know she does it a lot without me. We have sex two/three times a week, depending on our moods. Her pleasure is paramount, and I enjoy the knowledge ... (read in full...)
My wife watches a lot of porn. Is this normal?
Q. I just found out my wife has a tonne of porn on her laptop. We have an ok sex life having sex about 2 times a week but many times she turns me down. I noticed she seldom goes to bed the same time I do and comes to bed really late like 2am. Her ex...
A. 29 June 2009: I think this is fairly normal. My current partner of 17 years hates porn, but masturbates a lot. Previous girlfriends have really loved porn. I am not a massive porn fan, but I would never complain, or restrict a partner from her computer or DVD. L... (read in full...)
How do I let her know I'd like to sleep with her without offending her?
Q. Hi, I think the wife of my brother-in-law is attracted by me. I get this idea by the way she looks at me, specially when I walk by her when nobody else is around. But I am still not 100% sure. Does someone have any suggestions on how I can let ...
A. 29 June 2009: If you were any kind of real man, you would not even ask this question. Your brother in law's WIFE! Come on now.
I don't blame her. I think you are misreading her friendliness for something more. Stop thinking about her, or you will make a fool of y... (read in full...)
Haven't heard from the guy I cheated with, what should I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a great man for 3 years. We love eachother and everything, but sex is out of the question. He is always working and I am always working so we barely have time for eachother. When we do have time I always try to get ...
A. 29 June 2009: Wait a minute. You actually want advice on whether you should continue to cheat on your boyfriend (who you say you love) or not? What would you like us to say? If your boyfriend were cheating on you, would you like people here to tell him to ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know how I can turn myself on to please him normally?
Q. I've always been turned on easily and been willing to try almost everything except for blow jobs. The first month my husband and I were dating I was more that willing to give him blow jobs and swallow as much as he wanted (he never forced me or held ...
A. 28 June 2009: I am a man who loves to receive oral sex. I can tell you that I have NEVER forced a woman to suck, swallow, held her head down, or given her the impression that she is obliged to do it.
In the wedding ceremony, did you promise to love, honour, obey... (read in full...)
Lost libido after the menopause and his porn addiction is making it worse. What do I do?
Q. I'm practically a newlywed, less then 2 yrs. This our 3rd. We are 48 and 56. We met online and it was a whirlwind. Here is the problem. I've menopaused and lost most of my libido. My husband, who is a gorgeous man, is prescibed meds that cause ed...
A. 28 June 2009: I am a little confused by this question, so forgive me if I am getting the wrong impression.
It appears that due to the menopausal stage of your life, you have lost your libido. This means that you are not too interested in sexual activity at the ... (read in full...)
I faint during sex! What can we do?
Q. hi, I really need help have ever this happened to you before every time I have sex I feel hot I sweat a lot and my heart beats so fast and I end faint. what can I do I saw a doctor he has no idea why this happened he said that I'm fine I know ...
A. 26 June 2009: And I have also had a girl who fainted every time she had an orgasm! Thank GOD it has happened to someone else! Her doctor told her this can happen on occasion, but not every time. The first time she fainted, I was on the verge of calling the ... (read in full...)
We are married but she still wont have sex!
Q. My wife and me have been married for 2 months now. Everything is great but we never had sex in our relationship. She's a virgin but im not. When we were dating she didn't want to do anything sexual besides kissing until marriage. It didn't bother me ...
A. 25 June 2009: Well this sounds like a classic case of fear of sexual pain. Your wife has probably heard horror stories about broken hymen, vaginal bleeding, childbirth, ovarian cysts, or whatever, and her fear has now manifested itself into her own personal ... (read in full...)
Is he sorry about his affair? Should I forgive him?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a younger woman from work for five months. I have children and because of that I packed his bag , and asked him to leave. He says he wished he could turn the clock back and see the kids more , also t...
A. 24 June 2009: Isn't it strange that the male aunt suggests you forgive your husband, while the females, especially the exceedingly bitter anonymous lady wants you to burn him in effigy. What would you like to do?
Over the years I have watched in amazement as m... (read in full...)
Is he insecure or just nasty?
Q. Hi, I'm hoping for some advice/support. I'm very upset about comments that my partner makes. I've been with him for 4.5 years and gave him loads of support when his ex wife was divorcing him. I live in a council house, have two mixed race child...
A. 24 June 2009: I think you need to re-read your own question here, and then answer it, as if someone else were asking it. Why would you WANT to put up with this person? He is insecure, immature, and basically a nasty piece of work. I also hope that he is not being ... (read in full...)
He masturbates to my cousin's naked pics! I'm so angry about this..am I over reacting?
Q. I have a 20 year old cousin who works as a model. Recently I found my husband keeps naked pictures of her in his sock drawer. We see her at family gatherings and I'm scared he will want to have an affair with her. She flirts a lot with him but ...
A. 24 June 2009: I think that there are several questions that you need to answer about your own reaction. What is it that you are angry about? Is it the fact that you know your husband masturbates? Is it because the woman in question happens to be your cousin? Or ... (read in full...)
Why kiss like this?
Q. Hi. I asked this question a few weeks ago but things are still no different. My boyfriend when he writes/texts me tells me he loves me and I am his rock etc etc. But when he kisses me his eyes are HALF OPEN and his tongue never really enters m...
A. 23 June 2009: Hello Ms Anon, there is one obvious question. I guess you would prefer that your man closes his eyes when he kisses you. If that's the case how would you know his eyes were only half-closed, unless yours are wide open!
Also, many people are not huge... (read in full...)
Am I a fool, or is there still hope?
Q. 18 months ago I met the man of my dreams and began what I look back on as the best year and a half of my life. Our relationship was everything that I had ever wanted, everything I had searched for. This was it, I just knew it. We talked of marriage ...
A. 23 June 2009: I remember a similar scenario in my late teens. I had met a model, and we had moved in together. As you can probably guess, she was extremely good looking, albeit very insecure, and I was a linebacker in college (yes, we play football in England, ... (read in full...)
My Bigoted Wife!
Q. It wasn't obvious when we got married, but over the years her attitudes have become more and more racist and bigoted, which I find surprising in such an educated woman. I try to bring up my children to respect all people, but it isn't easy when my ...
A. 23 June 2009: I guess my name gives the game away a little .... but there is always hope for everyone. My partner is white, in England some people tolerate this, a lot do not. My partner's older brother seems to be moving along the same lines, so much so that I ... (read in full...)
Cheating wife and I don't think I can forgive her!
Q. just found out my wife has done something with another man,she said they havent had sex but only done it the once,we been together 20years,dont think i can forgive her,she says shes sorry and wants us to start again, she said it was because she was ...
A. 23 June 2009: Firstly, although you did not elaborate on what she did, we are all assuming it was something sexual, as you say that even though they did not have sex, in your eyes it still qualifies as 'cheating'. I usually try not to blame anyone, but instead ... (read in full...)
How do you know the difference between just a booty call vs someone who has feelings for you?
Q. hi all, my question is this.... How do you know when someone is coming to you, booty call iv heard it called lol with just getting what they can from you or just scared and have feelings for you and unsure i hope iv worded this right its took me 3 ...
A. 22 June 2009: Ok, you worded your question very well, after 3 days of worrying.
I think in your heart, you will know if you are in a relationship, or just a booty call for this guy. Apart from him calling you for sex, do you do anything else together? Do you ... (read in full...)
I need some advice on getting guys to approach me
Q. I need some advice on getting guys to approach me. Guys look at me all the time but I never get approached. I don’t want to sound too vain but sometimes they turn their heads in the street to look at me. As for none of these guys approaching me, I ...
A. 22 June 2009: Mr Anonymous makes some very good points. Some men are terrified of beautiful women. You know that fear of rejection that you have? Multiply it by ten, and you may come close to how some men feel.
I was a bit of a 'player' in the past, during whic... (read in full...)
I've never had an issue with my body until my boyfriend started making comments about my weight!
Q. I'm 5ft8 and a size 12-14 which ive always thought is pretty normal. My bodies in proportion and ive never really had an issue with it. Until i got with my boyfriend and now am sexually active, i was before but only little flings, ive never been ...
A. 21 June 2009: This is so common amongst young, mostly immature men. I would bet that most men find your body shape to be quite spectacular. To me, you sound like perfection!
Young men are very insecure about all sorts of things, but mostly about themselves. If a... (read in full...)
How can I start to like oral sex?
Q. My problem is that I would really like to like oral sex, but I don't. As far as performing oral sex goes, I have many, many problems. The first and foremost is that it simply feels awkward and demeaning to me. Sure, I've tried to think of it like...
A. 21 June 2009: If you don't like anything about oral sex, then don't do it. No-one is forcing you to. Most men love to have a woman suck their dick, but I haven't seen anything to suggest that it is the law, it has to be done, or there is a penalty if you don't. ... (read in full...)
She knows I can't get it up, but wants "the real thing" anyway
Q. Im 51 years old and my wife is 38. Just to make this short and to the point . I cannot get an erection to have sex . I have told my wife out of frustration and respect for her that she had my blessing to have sex with other men . She has done that ...
A. 20 June 2009: Well while I can understand your frustration, I also think you should attempt to see things from your wife's point of view. She dosen't want any other man. She wants you. I appreciate that drugs etc might have bad side effects, but how bad? A ... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm through intercourse!
Q. Hey, I find it really hard to orgasm through vaginal intercourse, and by hard i mean practically impossible. I can cum fine through personal masturbation or if my boyfriend goes down on me, its just the actual sex that doesnt make me orgasm. ...
A. 18 June 2009: Firstly, Desesperada is right, try asking your current boyfriend to play with you some more, until you are not thinking about anything except reaching an orgasm. It doesn't matter how long you take, it's worth it. But also, try not to get too ... (read in full...)
Found my boyfriends fake vagina..what should I do?
Q. I've been dating my bf for almost 3 years now and I found a fake vagina in my boyfriend's closet during in the middle of our first 1 1/2 year together. I found out that he bought it 3 days before my birthday! I was so mad that we got into a huge ...
A. 14 June 2009: Sincerely is spot on. There is no harm in him having a fake vagina. He masturbates, and I would bet huge amounts that he thinks of you while he's using it. Masturbation for men is all about fantasy, and the role of the women in that fantasy.
If I wa... (read in full...)
I haven't had a relationship in ten years
Q. Man, I haven't been with a women in ten years. I've moved to house to house at least three times in those ten years. I spend most of my time looking for full time work; and hanging with friends; but no girlfriend or Women. I'm African American and ...
A. 13 June 2009: When people say 'there is someone for everyone', they are generally right. So somewhere out there, the woman of your dreams is waiting to be found.
Try not to complain about the women you have dated. Instead, keep on dating, and remember that each... (read in full...)
He's Going through depression and taking it out on me in horrific ways
Q. Not sure what to do, with the man I thought I wanted to marry but he's been going through a stint of depression and has been taking it out on me in horrific ways. He acknowledges this, and is profusely apologetic - and on his good days, when it's ...
A. 11 June 2009: I am going to answer this question as honestly and fairly as I can, and without trying to make you feel like I am trying to scare or upset you.
I have four older sisters, three of whom suffered varying degrees of psychological and physical abus... (read in full...)
Affairs by email
Q. My husband has struck up an email relationship with a widow with a son of 16years because 'he felt sorry for her'. This has been going on for several months. They write pages to each other every few days. He has told me the gist of their emails - ...
A. 10 June 2009: I am sorry, but I don't understand your dilemma. You have read his emails, and you can't un-read them now. He has lied to you - these are not everyday, normal chatty convesations between a man and a woman. They are sexually explicit. Your husband ... (read in full...)
Guys: Does it bother you if your girl uses a vibrator?
Q. This is a little embarrassing. I have enjoyed masturbation for many years, and then for my seventeenth birthday my weird but lovely best friend bought me a vibrator. Ever since then I have loved using them on a daily basis. I was quite a late ...
A. 10 June 2009: Men should never feel threatened by a woman using a vibrator. He should feel fantastic. His woman is comfortable with her own sexuality, and knows how to have orgasms. If she can show him how she uses it, even better. If your boyfriend feels ... (read in full...)
Do I stay married and let her cheat?
Q. My wife and I have been married for six years and together for eleven. We have two beautiful boys soon to be five and six. On our third year of marriage work required me to leave for a year and I was only able to return for a two week block about ...
A. 10 June 2009: I think this is a terrible situation. You went away from home with the best of intentions, to further yourself in your career, and do all you could to look after your family. Your wife has an affair while you are away. There is no easy solution... (read in full...)
Pornography, cheating & lying
Q. my husband is watching porn and lying to me about it and every time i offer sex he makes up excuses like im tired or im sore. i have confronted him several times and i go through the history on the computer and his phone. there is porn sites. what ...
A. 9 June 2009: I am a little disturbed by the number of women who claim that their partners have 'porn addiction'.
Porn addiction? This label has been created by therapists and experts to try to explain why some men jack off while their partner is available, will... (read in full...)
Is something wrong with me because I don't want to or like to masturbate?
Q. Im not sure if i have a problem or not, i cant masturbate, its not because i dont know how but simply because i dont want to and i think the thought is so dirty so i never do it. my boyfriend always tells me i should do it and that it will des...
A. 8 June 2009: You don't have a problem at all. Everyone is different, it would be impossible for us all to feel and act the same way.
I would think that most women masturbate, not all. It is hard to tell what percentage of women pleasure themselves. Men talk open... (read in full...)
I am seeing a therapist, but the issue is not resolved.
Q. Please give me some perspective! I am a 41 year old recently married male. In my younger days, I led a very very wild life. I have had sex with hundreds of women, been with escorts, done threesomes, dated strippers, etc etc. I always was safe ...
A. 7 June 2009: This sounds like me about a 15 years ago.
I am a couple of years older than you, but did all and probably more of the things you describe here.
I am not married, as I never believed it would be possible for me to curb my wild urges, but I have bee... (read in full...)
How can I change my abusive hubbie without involving the police?
Q. I'm 21 y/o and I have been with john for 5 years we got married 3 mos ago and we have 2 daughters (1yr and almost 2 1/2 y/o) but we had an abusive incident about a year ago he hit me, when i was pregnant he was arrested in jail for 4 days and ...
A. 7 June 2009: This is a subject which is very close to my heart.
I have four older sisters, and three of them have experienced violent partners at some stage of their lives.
I am well aware of how this usually works. When your husband is good, he is very lov... (read in full...)
Her family doesn't approve of on interracial relationship
Q. Recently the girl of my dreams and I broke up because of the disapproval from her family. I am an African American and she is white. We dated for four years and I am completely heartbroken over the circumstances considering I moved away for a year ...
A. 7 June 2009: You can probably tell a little about me by my login name.
In the UK, there has never been a law against inter-racial relationships like there was in the US, but still there is a lot of aggravation.
My partner is white. Her mother was never co... (read in full...)
If a man ejaculates a lot, does that mean he has not had sex for a while?
Q. Just wondering if I can get some help on a sex question I have. I have heard that when a man ejaculates a lot that means he has not had sex for a while. Is this true? Thanks for reading....
A. 4 June 2009: Troubledtoomuch has probably hit the nail on the head.
The amount of sperm in one ejaculation does not correlate directly with the amount of time a man has not had sex for.
I tend to produce a lot when I am highly turned on.
If I masturbate i... (read in full...)
Should I Feel Guilty About Pleasuring Myself?
Q. I've just got this little problem, and I don't know why I'm even seeing it as a problem. I'm 18 years old (nearly 19), and I'm still a virgin. I've never done anything sexually active with a boy, but I have done some (no polite way to put this)...
A. 3 June 2009: I am with Satin all the way.
It helps all round when a woman can have great orgasms through masturbation.
She knows EXACTLY what floats her boat.
And a woman who knows how to get what she wants is a great help to us fumbling guys.
I only wish m... (read in full...)
I'm not invited on holiday as my boyfriend says "It's a lads thing!"
Q. Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. He normally goes away with the "lads" on holidays without me. When he goes he usually doesnt contact me very often and we usually would be have alot of contact during the day normally. He's ...
A. 3 June 2009: This seems to be quite a common question around holiday time. I have been with my partner for 17 years. Before I met her, I played football all over Europe, and every year in the autumn, a group of a dozen of us would head to the States for two week... (read in full...)
Abusive b/f and his sponging family
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 yrs. i'm 40 and he's 38.Most of the relationship has been very abusive both physical and emotional. He's been arrested 3 times as a result. his family treats me well as long as there's barbecues,parties,or ...
A. 3 June 2009: I'm right with Grimm on this one. I don't understand why you are still with a man who has battered you, been arrested over it, and continues to do so.
The trouble is, you let him get away with it, so he will continue to do it.
He will never ch... (read in full...)
Is there any way of finding a random stranger to do it with?
Q. my boyfriend has asked me to have a threesome and im fine with it cos ill try anything once but he wants me to ask one of my friends and im not really confortable with the idea of it being a friend so i was wondering is there any way of finding a ...
A. 2 June 2009: First of all, I have to admit that I have participated in group sex in the past. I was young and single. From a male point of view, having a number of women on the bed, willing to satisfy your every whim is a massive buzz. I must also add that I... (read in full...)
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