Am I fooling myself into believing that he loves me just as much?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are facing a bit of a problem in our relationship and I would like some advice on how to handle the situation. Let's start from the begining. I am Swedish and he is English. After 2 years travelling between our countrie...
A. 28 July 2009: I can see that you do not have a problem, but he does. If my girlfriend moved from another COUNTRY to be with me, I would be exceedingly happy, and would have no problem being with her in a Uni city.
Your boyfriend sounds like a 'typical' Engl... (read in full...)
What is a womans perspective on a threesome? Why does my girlfriend want one?
Q. What is my girlfriend looking for in a threesome? My girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year. We are very close, and have a really good relationship. My girlfriend asked me if we could try a threesome with another guy (no g...
A. 28 July 2009: This is dangerous ground. I know you are not comfortable with the idea, so I think you are looking for re-assurance that a 'no' to your girlfriend is the right decision. Well, I would tell her that you are not comfortable. Ask her if she would mind ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my wife I haven't really ended the affair?
Q. I have recently separated from my wife after I had an affair, I told my wife that I was no longer seeing the other woman, to save her any further upset, but I am still seeing her and want to be with her, my wife sends me malicious emails, texts and ...
A. 27 July 2009: Well I have to give you a little credit for explaining the situation, and asking for opinions. But like I said, a little. You are not the most important factor in all of this, you are the 'bad guy'. Stop and consider what your wife might be feeling ... (read in full...)
Is it true that men will have sex with any female who is willing?
Q. Is it true that men can have sex with any female. If female is willing and approaching them , they never say no. Even if they love their partner, but for sex they everready for any female. Male readers plz answer this question...
A. 20 July 2009: This is not true. I have turned down sex with lots of sober women, drunk women, married women, and single women. When I was younger I didn't but for the last 17 years, I have been faithful. I will admit to wondering what might have happened with qui... (read in full...)
IS it appropriate to send flowers to an ex on an anniversary?
Q. My gf and I had dated for almost four years. We lived together for one, we didn't end on a bad note, never any huge problems, I am a pretty good guy. We were very good friends before we started dating and became lovers. We broke up over a month ago, ...
A. 20 July 2009: No flowers please.
Cast your mind back. If an ex sent her flowers when you were together, what would you have thought?
Move on, get over her. After a month, she is seeing someone else. Know what that means? She is clearly over you.
Start loo... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he ask for my phone number?
Q. This guy in my class approached me and we had a small conversation. When we got to the subway we went out seperate but he never asked for my phone number. Why would he do that? What are the reasons why a guy wouldnt ask for my phone number?...
A. 20 July 2009: Well done Beau. I think you have done well to give us a good explanation of how you are feeling.
In my personal opinion, I don't think that this man has done enough to warrant your question, and I am not sure why you think he is interested.
He ha... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he ask for my phone number?
Q. This guy in my class approached me and we had a small conversation. When we got to the subway we went out seperate but he never asked for my phone number. Why would he do that? What are the reasons why a guy wouldnt ask for my phone number?...
A. 19 July 2009: Stay calm Beau. Maybe if you told us the 'whole' story, it wouldn't seem so confusing.
You wrote three lines, and ask for advice. Read your question out loud. It took me around 20 seconds, if that, and didn't give us a lot to work with. It soun... (read in full...)
She has developed her own life's needs and wants which does not coincide with mine
Q. Hi ladies and gents, I am 29 going on 30 soon. I have been with my high school sweetheart for the past 13 years. We separated 7 months ago, right after new years. We have 2 kids a 12 year old daughter, and a 6 year old son. We had ups and downs, and ...
A. 19 July 2009: This is a very sad tale of life, but unfortunately it is not an uncommon one. When two people get together at such a young age, the risk of growing apart as they grow and mature is massive. I think that most people at age 17 or 18 have no definite ... (read in full...)
Where to find cute bras for big chested girls?
Q. I'm a 32DD and when your boobs are that big, bras stop being cute or pretty and turn into "over the shoulder boulder holders" lol i was just curious if some other busty girls knew of someplace to find cute bras for big chested girls??...
A. 19 July 2009: My partner is a 36D, and we get her bras from M&S in the UK, and also from an online source named Bravissimo, who specialise in underwear for the more voluptuous woman. I think they are also UK based.
My partner has (in my eyes) the perfect hour... (read in full...)
My wife isnt horny enough for me...Any suggestions?
Q. My wife isn't horny enough for me. She beautiful and has a great bod for 50. But she's a tom boy. She's not affectionate or feminine. I am just a fat overweight husband that looks at my wife and fantisizes. We are intimate about once every ...
A. 18 July 2009: If you were a beautiful woman of 50, would you look at a fat overweight, drooling man, and FANCY him? I think not. Lose some lard. Tom-boy or not, she will notice and maybe you'll get lucky more often. ... (read in full...)
How do you forgive and forget the lies and deceit?
Q. Two years ago my husband had an affair and ended it. The affair lasted about eight months. I didn't know about the affair, but I was suspicious about his whereabouts during that period. Against my better intuition, I chose to trust my husband at the ...
A. 17 July 2009: Whoa! Hold your horses! Your cheating husband wants you to 'move on' from what he did! Ha!
Come on now. That is a little unfair. I don't think you should 'finish him off in court', but be strong here. YOU did nothing wrong!
He is basicall... (read in full...)
I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!
Q. I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...
A. 17 July 2009: Forget about her. Easy to say, but you broke up. When you had sex with the other girl, I suspect you were not thinking about your ex, and when she willingly had her threesome, she wasn't thinking about you.
This sounds destructive. You don't love... (read in full...)
Is my husband cheating?
Q. Hello all.I would like to get feedback from both men and women on this one. I am in a marriage crisis right now and at this point, I am leaning towards a seperation. My husband of 10 years looks at porn all the time. One day he left a porn clip on ...
A. 17 July 2009: I have every sympathy with your situation. Although I have been a 'player', and treated women very badly when I was younger, as I grew and matured I have become a great believer in marriage, or fidelity. I think that partners should do everything ... (read in full...)
Worried about my new life in Oz....
Q. Hi - I am due to move out to Oz to be with my boyfriend (he's 33 I'm 37) soon but he is cricket obsessed. I know he has always been really into playing it and there is no way I would get in the way of that in essence (he played since an early age ...
A. 16 July 2009: I am interested to know if he played cricket here in the UK, when you were together, and at what level. I am positive that you knew he was dedicated. He sounds like a typical sporty guy - much like any guy who plays soccer at a decent level here. ... (read in full...)
Should I just sit around and wait for him forever?
Q. Ok, I've posted on here once before about my relationship with my ex-boyfriend. Quick Recap: been together 18 months, he moved cross country with me when I was offered my dream job, 2 months after getting here he decided that "something just wasn't ...
A. 15 July 2009: Hello TwiggyCA
I just want to know why you are asking this question. It seems that even though you are calling this man your 'ex', you still think of him as your current boyfriend.
So, put me out of my misery. Is he your ex, or not?
Ex means ... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex in 12 years, WHY?
Q. My husband does not want to have sex. I am not unattractive, active and in very good shape for my age. We have not had sex in 12 years. When I ask him why he says he will try but never does. If he has a problem with ED would he tell me? If he does ...
A. 15 July 2009: My advice is to keep talking to him. Twelve years is an awful long time to be celibate when you didn't want to be. You must be pretty frustrated with the whole situation. He may be suffering from physical symptoms like ED, or he may be suffering ... (read in full...)
I'm so angry at myself after falling for a womanizers lies
Q. I have been struck by the womanizers arrow. I am so pinned up against the wall I feel my whole mind has been taken hostage. I am so angry at myself! Were both married. Obviously he led me to believe he was the victim of no sex in his marriage ...
A. 15 July 2009: You are angry at yourself, because the man you are having an affair with has had lots of affairs? Why are you having an affair in the first place? Because he told you that you are special? What is the problem with your marriage? Whatever this man... (read in full...)
White female attracted to black guys...
Q. I am a white female and i am really attracted to black guys. Its not just a physical thing, its their confidence. It's just my preference. Everyone has preferences right? The only problem, is there where i live, black guys like white girls for ...
A. 13 July 2009: I have received so many PM's on this, it was incredible. Thanks for all of you who took time to write to me.
To the OP, I think you also sent a message, but I cannot answer you privately.
I can respond to most of the additional questions that I r... (read in full...)
White female attracted to black guys...
Q. I am a white female and i am really attracted to black guys. Its not just a physical thing, its their confidence. It's just my preference. Everyone has preferences right? The only problem, is there where i live, black guys like white girls for ...
A. 12 July 2009: I am a second generation black man, and I have dated mostly white girls around South London.
After all these years I sometimes question why I never got married. I guess it's partly because I never found a black girl that I liked enough to marr... (read in full...)
Should I put a naked picture of myself on the Internet (covering my face)??
Q. Ok. There has been a previous question about porn and double standards. I have wondered this very thing myself. But thought that physically meeting someone is perhaps not comparable to just watching porn. So... My husband watching p...
A. 12 July 2009: If you want to put naked pictures of yourself online, I would go right ahead. This will clearly have the desired effect of making your husband stop watching porn instantly, go straight to the website with your picture, and make you feel great about ... (read in full...)
I keep worrying thinking something will happen to us
Q. Hi I am dating the girl of my dreams and she is my 1st girlfriend and i want her to be the only one because i believe in true love. But i constantly worry alot thinking this cannot happen something will happen to keep us apart and end up thinking i ...
A. 11 July 2009: I am always saying what a funny thing human nature is. We strive for something, find it, then spend hours locked in fear and dread worrying that we might lose it.
You have been well and truly struck by love. Now you are so terrified of losing it, ... (read in full...)
Can a person become brilliant despite having little or no relationship with their parents?
Q. Hey! I'd love to hear from anyone that's experienced something similar to me! The thing is, all my life, I've never been that close to my parents, particularly my Dad, and I think that's the main reason I have low self esteem. I've never really had ...
A. 10 July 2009: What is your definition of brilliant? Success at work? Money coming out of your ears? Girls falling at your feet? Or a happy family life? I was born into a huge family, single mother, lots of different fathers, we were brutally abused, but stuck to... (read in full...)
Will guys find this thing disgusting?
Q. i've had this thing around my rectal opening for quiet a time , protruded hemorrhoids , it is in an early stage from the pictures i saw online ,i'm really embaressed by it and can't go to a doc , is it normal or common , do guys find it disgusting ...
A. 10 July 2009: Lots of women have them. They do not affect sex in any way, unless you are planning anal. Most men wouldn't give two hoots about them, when they are about to have vaginal sex. If you are too embarrassed to see a doctor then you have a problem. ... (read in full...)
This is beyond crazy! I have developed a twitch. I have thrown up multiple times at work from the loads of anxiety! HELP!
Q. It was a coworkers last day today and our boss took us all out to lunch. I had to make sure that I sat next to all women because my boyfriend would otherwise be angry. I was on gchat with my blackberry the whole time in case he needed to check on ...
A. 10 July 2009: First of all, we all congratulate you for having the courage to even come here to write. If your boyfriend is anything like I imagine, then getting caught would have had some consequences. Like all the other aunts tell you, your boyfriend is destr... (read in full...)
I made a big fat stupid mistake and I'm scared my boyfriend will end things with me!
Q. Hi there Could really use some advice here. I was seeing a guy for a few weeks after Christmas but it was only casual. He left to work abroad for a few months and i met another guy who happened to be in the same crowd as the first guy (i.e they al...
A. 9 July 2009: I'm one of those guys who think that alcohol is not an excuse for sleeping with someone.
Although you met your original guy 'by chance' one night, you 'ended up' in bed with him after getting drunk. So basically, your co-ordination was poor, you ... (read in full...)
My wife admits that she's addicted to viagra but I don't understand.
Q. I found Viagra tablets (about 10 bottles, 5 consumed!) when cleaning the house the other day on a day off from work. My wife was out at work that day. When she came in, I told her what I'd found, and asked her sensitively and calmly if there ...
A. 9 July 2009: Although you don't mention your age, it appears that you are a little young to be suffering from erectile dysfunction.
You need to get to the bottom of your wifes purchase. I don't think she is giving them to someone else, but could she be slip... (read in full...)
I'm much older than him and he's interested and I want to make his first time memorable
Q. I live alone, and there's a boy in my neighborhood who helps me out with odd jobs. He turned 18 two months ago. He's leaving for college in September and has been nervous about the whole thing. We were talking about it recently. I told him not ...
A. 9 July 2009: Ha! I like your name. Naughtycougar. COUGAR! You acknowledge what you are.
When I was 19, I was having a fantastic fling with a 36 year old. I was not a virgin, but our different levels of experience meant I might as well have been. She taught me s... (read in full...)
He told me I couldn't go to the gym because I might cheat on him
Q. Today I went to my local gym and I was excited about starting, then I told my boyfriend and he said I couldn't go in case I cheat with the instructor :( I need to go because my confidence is low as hell and i know that'd help so much, I’ve told my ...
A. 8 July 2009: Go to the gym!
Your boyfriend is an immature, insecure control freak.
You can't go to the gym in case you cheat with the gym instructor. What next? You can't have driving lessons in case you cheat with the driving instructor? What about work, an... (read in full...)
What can I do to make son realize his girlfriend is destroying him/family?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if this is where I should be asking for help but I figured it was worth a try.I have 26 yr old son whom I love very much and thats the hard part.He has been into drugs for some time, I'm not sure what he's on, I know at first , ...
A. 8 July 2009: Well I can understand your feelings. This girlfriend does not sound like someone who I would welcome into my family with open arms. But on the flip side, she is your son's girlfriend, like it or not. She is HIS choice, even though she might no... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife have a fling?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 12 years. We married young and both have had few partners before marriage. My wife is starting a bit of a mid life crisis and wishes she had played the field a little more when younger. I am afraid that it will ...
A. 7 July 2009: Wow. Why are you even considering this crazy idea? I am all for pushing sexual boundaries, but you should agree what to do, and do it together.
Remember that a marriage is a partnership. There are two people. Two people make a great marriage, and ... (read in full...)
Can tight vaginal muscles damage a penis?
Q. My boyfriend is always extremely worried that I'm too tight and will cause damage to his penis. I have really good control over my vaginal muscles, but usually during orgasm they squeeze down on him and it freaks him out. He says it's too tight ...
A. 7 July 2009: Oh my dear Lord. There might be a thousand men reading your question right now, and grinning just as much as I am. Not at you I must add. You are a man's dream. You are a woman with amazing control over her vaginal muscles. You are a rare creat... (read in full...)
I don't want to use birth control and don't want her to get pregnant
Q. when is it ok for me to cum inside my girl???wit no pill and no condoms.. and please dont tell me to use a condom cuz its not the same and i dont want to hear .make her take pills.. ...
A. 6 July 2009: You don't want to use a condom, you don't want your girl to take pills. You want to come inside your girl.
It is never truly safe to have unprotected sex. So either man up and get responsible, or start buying baby equipment.
The choice, as they ... (read in full...)
What should I change my name to?
Q. I've decided to legally change my name. I've been unhappy with my name since I was a child, and I've decided that life is too short to live with a name that makes you miserable. The reason I hate my full name is because I con't identify with it...
A. 6 July 2009: Hello Sara.
I am not going to assist you with a name choice, because like Satin says, if you want to change your name that's a choice that you make. But I am intrigued as to why you think changing your name will instantly make your life bett... (read in full...)
Does true love really exist?
Q. Maybe this is a stupid question: but I really want to know. Does true love REALLY exist? Can people really love each other FOREVER? Can two people really accept each other and love each other in EQUAL balance- meaning 1 not love the other more or ...
A. 5 July 2009: Yes true love does exist. It isn't rare, it is very common. The destructive side of human nature means that at times, when we find it, we don't believe it, and simply look for ways to prove that to ourselves. I have been with my partner for 17 y... (read in full...)
I don't want gifts, I want his love. Why has he gone off sex?
Q. Ok, this is a long one... I'll start from the begining... Two years ago, I just entered highschool as a freshman in highschool... I met Lukas, a senior ready to graduate. I'll tell you a bit about him. Before me he only dated two other girls, non...
A. 5 July 2009: This is probably not quite as bad as you think Babykiins. I notice that you are both still very young, and while you are feeling secure and comfortable in the knowledge that you live with your boyfriend, the 'intensity' has gone a little.
When your... (read in full...)
If it's okay for men to meet visual and sexual needs through porn then surely its okay for married women to date and go on romantic outings with other men to have their romance 'needs' met?
Q. I often hear men (and some women) claim that porn is ok for men within relationships because they are 'visual' and only seeking thrills....etc If this is the case and these people like to stereotype then the other side of this argument is that wom...
A. 5 July 2009: This is actually a great question, but it only highlights the massive difference in the way that most women and men perceive porn.
The sex market is generally run by men, and most porn is aimed at men. Women on the whole seem to range between hati... (read in full...)
Wife left and after 2 months, she still isn't home
Q. Hello I seem to have a massive problem with my wife. She left after the death of a pet. She is living with a family member and doesn't want me visiting the house. There is no reason for this as far as I can see other than we recently had a p...
A. 4 July 2009: I feel very sorry to hear how the situation seems to have spiralled down into a battle of wills, instead of being two people trying to find common ground.
I have been told that for some people, losing a pet can feel like losing a member of the fami... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him comfortable with me using a vibrator during sex?
Q. I find it extremely difficult to become aroused from manual stimulation, whether it's by myself or by my boyfriend. So I purchased a rampant rabbit which is wonderful - but the only downside is I don't like the penis part (it's too hard), so I came ...
A. 3 July 2009: The simple answer is that you probably can't. Your boyfriend is very young and still a little insecure. He thinks that it is his 'right' to be the one person in the world to give you an orgasm, and the fact that you want to use a vibrator at all is ... (read in full...)
How can I get my wife to want ME? I feel so undesired
Q. I have been married for 19 years and my wife has to fantasize about other people in sexual situations in order to recieive pleasure. This means she usually shuts me off by closing her eyes and not wanting any talk during love making. It takes her ...
A. 2 July 2009: I actually feel that your wife is completely normal. I believe that the vast majority of women close their eyes to slip into their own fantasy world during sex. This way they get to concentrate on the sensations they are having, become more aroused, ... (read in full...)
I wish this guy I was dating was black.
Q. Hi, well im 14 and ive always dated black boys. im white and recently im dating a white boy, we're "in love" but i dont love him a lot because he is white but when i date a black boy i always love them so much but they play me. I don't know wha...
A. 2 July 2009: There are plenty of girls like you around the globe who feel that they should only date black guys. I should know! But I would ask you to consider the reason why, at your age, you feel it is so important.
It's not cool, it's not going to help you ... (read in full...)
Why masturbate in front of them?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to masterbate in front of him, but i'm not really sure what to do. I don't really masterbate often because honestly i'm not that good a it. He is just so much better at pleasing me than I am at pleasing myself. Also I have ...
A. 1 July 2009: Masturbation is usually the way that women discover exactly what they need to do to have an orgasm. Some women have great orgasms by stroking, rubbing and caressing their clitoris. Others have orgasms with penetrative movements. The thing to ... (read in full...)
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