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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've always been turned on easily and been willing to try almost everything except for blow jobs. The first month my husband and I were dating I was more that willing to give him blow jobs and swallow as much as he wanted (he never forced me or held my head down). After that first month it really started to gross me out and I never wanted to do it again. Now that were married though I suddenly have a hard time getting turned on at all. It's like, now that he excepts it of me I don't want to do it. But I know that's not right and I found a few things that do turn me on. Sadly my husband doesn't like to do them all the time, sometimes he wants it plain and simple. But my main problem is blow jobs. He always wants them. Most of the time I don't feel too bad not giving him one because I can satisfy him in other ways. But when it's that time of the month there's nothing else I can do. Though I don't like it I can bring my self to give him one, but for some reason I can't bring my self to let him finish... anywhere. Not in my mouth, not on my face, not anywhere. I know it's not fair to him but it really makes me want to throw up just thinking of it. Does anyone know how I can get over that? Also does anyone know how I can turn myself on to please him normally?
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reader, happy 374  +, writes (28 June 2009):
awe its a hard one a feel a bit the same but throgh time it gets easier try practising a little more and try not to think of it going down.
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (28 June 2009):
 I am a man who loves to receive oral sex. I can tell you that I have NEVER forced a woman to suck, swallow, held her head down, or given her the impression that she is obliged to do it.
In the wedding ceremony, did you promise to love, honour, obey and swallow? You are not under orders to do anything that is uncomfortable, or distasteful, just because you are married. If you don't want to give a blow job, then don't. During your period, you don't HAVE to do it, that is your husband's way of trying to get oral sex by making you feel guilty. If he truly loves you, he will wait.
Don't do anything that you don't want to do. Otherwise, where will he stop?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): you mentioned that there are things your husband doesn't want to do in order to please you yet you try to force yourself into doing things you don't want in order to please him.that doesn't sound fair to me.same way there are things he doesn't want to do,there are also things you don't feel comfortable with.some ppl like performing oral sex and some don't.it really is that simple.there isn't some way to keep yourself from feeling disgusted by it.if it grosses you out,it does.i think that you should explain that to him and try to get him to understand that this is something you are extremely uncomfortable with.good luck xx
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