I found porn on his computer, why does he need it??
Q. hi should i be worried , i stayed round my boyfriend house and was on his computer when i noticed a porn website that he vists should i say something to him , or keep quiet about it and why does he look at this when he has me as his girlfrie...
A. 22 December 2009: I am convinced that women do not fully understand why men watch porn.
I concede that porn is not necessary, but it exists because men are visual creatures, and they like to use visual mechanisms to get aroused and masturbate.
WHY???? All the wome... (read in full...)
Starving for Sex with the woman I love - Am I crazy?
Q. Starving for Sex with the woman I love - Am I crazy? I feel pretty weird for even writing this, and I dont know how to even talk about it with her anymore. My gf and I have been dating seriously for almost 2 yrs now (She's a Leo and I'm a Sagitt...
A. 22 December 2009: Generally speaking, two people create their own sexual compatibility. I believe that people who truly love one another will find a way over a period of time, to achieve mutual satisfaction. I don't believe that horoscopes or star signs have an ... (read in full...)
I need help making sense of the events, which caused our break up, help!
Q. My g\f (now ex) was not jealous, possessive, aggressive and didn’t mind me seeing friends\family but was so controlling in other ways, especially domestically. I couldn’t wash up properly, clean properly, make the bed, i was clumsy, a grot etc. If ...
A. 22 December 2009: Her condition was called selfish and manipulative. And you are far better away from that sort of life.
I have never experienced anything like this. I wonder if she really loved YOU, or was just happy to be in a relationship. Especially with a man ... (read in full...)
How can I forget about my girlfriend's sexual exploits while we were apart?
Q. My girlfriend and I dated for 2 1/2 years and broke up 2 months ago, we are now back together. While broken up she had sex with some guy she dated, and I went down on some girl but nothing serious. I know its none of my business what happened while ...
A. 22 December 2009: Well you're right, what happens when two people decide to split is neither's business.
But I am a little fazed by 'I went down on some girl but nothing serious'. Whoooaaa! I thought that going down on a woman was considered reasonably inti... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has naked photos of girls he knows
Q. I didn't really know where else to turn, I feel that this isn't something I can talk about with friends, I'd be embarrassed. Basically, I've been with my boyfriend for around 18 months, it's not the best relationship, we seem to argue a lot, but...
A. 20 December 2009: This is a serious problem that you need to address immediately.
It is one thing to have pictures of a semi naked Megan Fox or Carmen Electra in a 'pornography' file. These are Hollywood babes who will never set eyes on your man, and would not show... (read in full...)
Do men prefer fake over real breasts?
Q. Are fake breasts better than natural, small ones? I mean, I know this has been asked before. But it seems like they are. I've asked many guys and they say "Hey, if it improves her beauty, then it's all good!". And I read this article: http://...
A. 18 December 2009: You've probably heard it before, but I will say it again. Beauty comes from within.
In my past, I went out with all sorts of women. One of the sexiest women I knew was a cleaner in the TV studio where I worked. She was slim, had small breasts, and ... (read in full...)
How would married men handle the consequences if you mislead your other woman, who then becomes vengeful and discloses the affair to your family?
Q. I would like to address this email to men's point of view who somehow cheated on their wife both online affairs and in real situation. Men cheat because there are women who are wiling to cheat with them, these are facts. Most likely women too...
A. 18 December 2009: Well I have never been married, but in the past I was quite a bad chap with women.
The trouble is basically that everyone is different, and has different motives. There are many women who welcome the idea of being a 'mistress', just as many wome... (read in full...)
ITs going too slow for me and I am worried his ex wife is on the hunt!
Q. Hi, I posted before but was asked for more context/ info, so I'm re-posting with more detail. I split up with my long term partner a few months ago - we broke up after a big argument which was involved some big misunderstanding then we both sai...
A. 18 December 2009: Hello Tanya
Although you are aware of my views on 'exes', and trying to re-start relationships, I can see that your mind is in turmoil. Both Bitterblue and Oldersister have given you fantastic advice.
But now, in the space of 24 hours, your min... (read in full...)
The ex--best to build things up slowly?
Q. Hi, I split up with my long time BF a few months ago but we met up today and we arranged to meet up again next week but I feel as though it's very tenuous. Is it best to take it slowly and meet up once a week and rebuild a friendship/relationship ...
A. 17 December 2009: This post poses more questions than anything.
I think many of us need a little more information to really get to grips with the question.
The bottom line is this. You are chasing your EX.
EX, as in your former, used to be, was, not any more boy... (read in full...)
I'm a very sexual person and feeling deprived!
Q. I'm in my early 20s and my boyfriend of 3 years is in his mid 30s. We had a very healthy sex life up until about 6 months ago. He has started being somewhat distant when it comes to sex. I'm a very sexual person and I feel deprived. I've looked up ...
A. 17 December 2009: There is nothing wrong with being a very sexual person at all, but due to your young age, you haven't quite got the tools to solve the puzzle with your boyfriend.
You can't just flat out tell him that you need more sex. He will not respond to that... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's habit of taking care of "business' himself is creating problems in our sex life
Q. Good morning, I am having difficulties in my relationship with my boyfriend that I live with. One problem that seems to be getting bigger is our sex life. Lately, he has been masturbating before work in the shower and I know this is going on. ...
A. 17 December 2009: OK, now we are getting somewhere. Inching along, but moving. Do you and your boyfriend have sex at any time at all? If you do, where and when? If you do have sex, when was the last time? If you don't, is one of you trying to make a move only to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's habit of taking care of "business' himself is creating problems in our sex life
Q. Good morning, I am having difficulties in my relationship with my boyfriend that I live with. One problem that seems to be getting bigger is our sex life. Lately, he has been masturbating before work in the shower and I know this is going on. ...
A. 17 December 2009: Do you mean that you are not bothered by masturbation, as long as your boyfriend doesn't do it?
I have read your post quite a few times, and I can't quite get my male brain around where the problem lies.
Are you saying that his masturba... (read in full...)
Is it worth pursuing a relationhsip knowing it can't be sexual unless we're married?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a little over 2 months now. When we first began seeing each other, it was already understood about his standpoint with God. His faith is strong and he furthers his relationship with Him everyday. I respect that. ...
A. 16 December 2009: I have some doubts.
This man has already had sex with you, despite the fact that he claims that he leans towards God above all else. The pattern of your relationship had already been set.
To turn around now, two months later, and say 'no more sex... (read in full...)
How do I give him subtle hints that I like him without putting myself out there too much?
Q. I have known this guy for 25 years and we have gotten close in the last two years. We talk everyday all day on email, facebook and text. I know everything about him... as a friend. Six months ago we crossed that friendship line and have slept ...
A. 16 December 2009: Hang on a minute!
You've already slept with this guy, and you want to give him 'subtle' hints that you like him! I must be getting old.
Where I come from, when two people sleep together its usually because they like each other. They never usually ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not wanting my 22 year old daugther to bring boys home?
Q. Im a 49 year old divorcee and have a boyfriend. We get on well and my 22 year-old daughter also accepts him. My daughter never has a boyfriend until recently she starts asking a boy at work out for a drink. She said they are just friends he is ...
A. 16 December 2009: Yes you are immensely wrong!
Your daughter is 22 years old, not 12. She has her own mind, and can make her own decisions about any aspect of her life.
You don't like the idea of her being alone in the house with him? Why on earth not? Is she not ... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my boyfriend's accusations, I don't know what to do anymore!
Q. I have a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and we live together. Monday-Friday he works in another state and I'm at home by myself. I have three children from a previous relationship that lives with us too. I only get ...
A. 15 December 2009: I know that you love this man, but I will be honest. He is weak, and emotionally inept. He is a control freak bordering on rage and possibly violence.
It's not what you want to hear, I know, but I know a few men just like this.
No one, I mean NO-... (read in full...)
Will my dependency on sex workers affect any future relationships with women?
Q. I'm worried that my dependancy on sex workers might one day make it impossible for me to be in a real relationship with a woman I see strippers about 2x a week and visit prostitutes 3-4x a month. i also call sex phone lines or watch pornogra...
A. 15 December 2009: Unlike the other answers here, I will actually try to help you. You are being labelled a 'sex addict'. The other posters feel safe hiding behind that statement. They have heard the term, and think they know what it means. You are a 'sex addict' ... (read in full...)
I'm a woman and hate my genitals!
Q. So I feel female, I love being a woman, and love being my gender. I was born a woman etc... However, I hate having the genitals I have. I've asked a question here before and someone responded telling me I had bad self-esteem and asking if I also ...
A. 15 December 2009: I'm with Emily. Therapy seems a little drastic for what appears to be your particular sexual trigger.
I can't say it is strange, as I have been with women who needed all sorts of different actions and words to push them over the edge.
No-on... (read in full...)
I get a sinking feeling when I realise it will never happen again
Q. My husband is circumsized, and lately I've found myself CRAVING sex with an uncircumcised man. I've been with both cut and uncut men before, and hands-down I've found sex with uncut men to be more pleasurable. My husband knows that I've been with ...
A. 14 December 2009: I am at a loss as to why you feel there is a difference, because physically during sex there is none.
It is all psychological.
A man who is not circumcised will find that his foreskin retracts upon vaginal entry. No ifs or buts about it. Penile s... (read in full...)
Does this sound like the beginning of Erectile Dysfunction to you?
Q. Hi all Ive been with my partner for 18 months now, we see each other weekends mainly due to distance. But are looking for a place of our own. Obviously our sex life revolves around the weekends. This weekend seemed fine, we made love friday ...
A. 14 December 2009: If this is the first time it happened, I really wouldn't worry too much. Get the phrase 'Erectile Dysfunction' out of your head asap.
Men have enough sexual 'performance' type pressures to put up with, and negative thoughts can really mess thin... (read in full...)
My dad doesn't want me dating black guys
Q. My dad doesn't want me dating black guys. Which I think is terrible, but there's nothing I can do to change it. I just started going out with this back guy (I'm white), and I'm afraid of how my dad might react.. it's not that he's racist, he ...
A. 13 December 2009: Living in the UK, I grew up surrounded with this attitude against me.
I have dated mostly Caucasian girls and women, my partner is white, my son is mixed race. I come across this situation quite a lot.
Unfortunately, having black friends doesn't ... (read in full...)
Men's opinions on this please!
Q. I would like a male opinion on how the vagina looks with the inside labia bigger than the outside.... Women's opinions are welcome also! PLEASE BE TRUTHFUL!!...
A. 12 December 2009: As far as most men are concerned, a vagina is the most beautiful sight in the world. On the whole, no man examines a vagina before putting his mouth or penis there. Ask a man to describe a vagina and he will probably say that 'it is a warm wet plac... (read in full...)
Married sex issues! He says I take too long to orgasm.
Q. I've been married for two years been with him total 10.5 yrs. I enjoy giving oral...he does not..he says I take too long...and has "sighed" in the middle of it once. I seem to only get oral when he's been away with work...like it's a welcome home ...
A. 11 December 2009: Your husband needs a lesson or two in patience and consideration.
I wasn't aware that foreplay and sex has a time limit. I mean, exactly how long is 'too long'?
His sole aim during sex should be YOUR pleasure, not clockwatching and getting ... (read in full...)
How can I accept that I can never be hot for my b/f?
Q. I'm not a hot and sexy female. I know this because ever since I hit puberty, I've lacked the attention my friends got. Then I got a boyfriend, and I felt secure... until time passed, we started getting more comfortable with each other and I started ...
A. 10 December 2009: Oh dear.
I'm not sure exactly what type of response you'd really like to hear. Some people will have a lot of sympathy for how you feel, others may not.
I am twice your age, and I have lived a great life. I am lucky that I have an athletic frame. I... (read in full...)
Masturbating in her sleep???
Q. Is it possible that my girlfriend just masturbates in her sleep? A few times now I have woken up to the my girlfriend moving her hand quickly under the covers over her vagina. She doesnt sleep fully naked. I have asked her if she was mastur...
A. 8 December 2009: Having read this question, and the previous one (mysteriously, this was also posted by an anonymous male aged 18-21 from the UK), I also have to question your motives.
If you awoke, to find your girlfriend masturbating, why does it disturb you so m... (read in full...)
How much do I have the right to ask and know about his exes?
Q. Hi all. Ok, i know that it is very individual and unique to a person and to a couple, but how important/necessary is it to know details about a partners exes? So, what are common things to know (or me to ask about?). What questions should...
A. 4 December 2009: Instead of tormenting yourself with questions about what he was up to before you even met him, focus on the here and now.
Today, he is your boyfriend. Look forward to every day with the knowledge that whatever he done and experienced in the past... (read in full...)
Angry about the double standards of sex
Q. Ok, I don't want to be polemic here, but I'm really shocked and angry with the double standard. You see, my boyfriend suffers with retroactive jealousy, even though I wasn't a slut (I was a virgin when we met, granted, I was just 17 so it was normal ...
A. 3 December 2009: I think it is a question of maturity.
The men who want to know chapter and verse about their girlfriends pasts are usually young and inexperienced in life and the ways of the world. They tend to worry more about what their friends might think or s... (read in full...)
My brother in law bad mouths our country
Q. Hi I am currently staying in USA with my sisters family. My brother in law too is an Indian like me but he always grombles and cribs about the Indian system. He always uses foul language while talking about India and says that the country has not ...
A. 2 December 2009: You have to accept that people bad mouth everything! Their neighbours, their family, their friends, their own city, their economy and even the weather.
America did not 'give' your brother-in-law anything. He worked for it, and maybe made more of h... (read in full...)
My husband of four years watches gay porn and denies it! What should I do
Q. I have a real problem! My husband of four years watches gay porn online and denies it. We have two children and I’m 8 months pregnant with our third. I first caught him about two years ago. He refused to admit it! So, I confronted him with ...
A. 1 December 2009: Unfortunately, through a general lack of communication between the sexes, women seem to have absolutely no idea about why men watch porn. I tend to blame most men for that fact, because, on the whole, men seem to be ashamed or embarrassed about ... (read in full...)
The baby was born 11 months after I was home, is the baby mine?
Q. I have a question when i was home from Iraq last year 2008 the last time me and my wife had sex was april 4th 2008 when i cam back from iraq ahe told me she was preg and then on March 1st 2009 our son was born her due date was feb 26 2009 now is ...
A. 29 November 2009: If you had sex with your wife in late May, or early June 2008, the baby boy is your son. If not, it is impossible that he is yours. I would go straight to the forces legal services to get a 'hold' on your account, and have your wages put into a d... (read in full...)
My jailbird husband holds a get out of jail card, but I have moved on
Q. I have a very complicated situation. Most people would say it is very clear cut but to me it isn't. I married the man of my dreams, who I was very much in love with. Eight months after we married, he strangled me and beat me up. He called the police ...
A. 29 November 2009: OK, I guess that as you won't take any advice, your mind is already made up. In 30 days you will re-sume your relationship with 'the man of your dreams'. It will be hot and exciting, because, after all, he's been in jail for two years, and can't wa... (read in full...)
I want my best friends wife, I already had her friend
Q. I need help.... I find my friend's wife attractive and I am afraid that I desire her.... We were watching a game few years ago and when our team scored,everybod was jumping, congrulating each other and me and her hugged each other...It was s...
A. 29 November 2009: You are deluding yourself if you think you can get anywhere with your friends wife. She likes you as a friend, she has already told you that. If she wanted more, she has had plenty of opportunities to say so. Just because you touched her, and... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend faces prison for what he did, should I continue case against him?
Q. I stupidly met up with an obsessed ex boyfriend reasons I do not know nor can explain. We met up and returned home to his house by taxi around 11.30. On entry into the house I went to the toilet. During this time he had taken my mobile and proce...
A. 27 November 2009: Your Father is completely correct. Press charges. I know you made a mistake and went to his house late at night, and it was a bad decision on your part. You are the only one who really knows what your intentions were. However it looks, he is your ... (read in full...)
My naked neighbour!
Q. I live next door to a young woman who walks around naked in her house. She is very fit and has every reason to be proud of her body, I guess, but she keeps the windows open for the whole neighborhood to see her. This has upset me a lot especially ...
A. 26 November 2009: This is open to interpretation.
The law in the US seems a little vague, depending on which state you live in.
Generally, it seems a woman cannot be arrested for being naked in her own home, especially if her 'picture' window does not overlook... (read in full...)
My wife says that some of the texts were to the wife, not just this married man! Should I verify that with the wife?
Q. I've been married 22 yrs. and everything seemed perfect. About a week ago i checked my cell phn bill and saw text msgng charges. I checked the bill and figured i would need to cal cell phn company and have another argument. when i looked at the ...
A. 25 November 2009: I am around the same age as you are, and I was brought up without computers or mobile/cell phones, even though I live with them now. My preferred method of communication remains to TALK, the same seems to be said about many of my colleagues. Texting ... (read in full...)
How should I approach sharing my wife?
Q. Hi, I want to hear from guys who have shared there wifes with a friend,stranger,etc. How did you approach it. How did it feel watching her when he started making love to her etc. My wife and I want to try something new . We sat in conversation one...
A. 9 November 2009: I am always skeptical about this subject. SatinDesire raises some very good points about how strong your marriage needs to be. I would simply say that if you had a PERFECT marriage, you wouldn't want to share your wife with another man, and she ... (read in full...)
Why, if she cares for me, does she insist on me earning as much as I can and accept the benefits that it brings, and yet despise me for it?
Q. I work so hard at my job because we need the money. My gf wants us to buy a larger place with some land and outbuildings etc so I feel I have to work as hard as I can. On the other side my gf will not get a paid job. She says that she already...
A. 5 November 2009: When I read through this post, and then at the responses, I almost found it laughable, if it wasn't so sad.
I will accept that you love this woman, and I will also accept that you want to remain with her.
But I cannot accept that she has such hug... (read in full...)
Can you suggest me tips on how to raise my chances with her?
Q. I passed by our company during my vacation leave when I met this beautiful, smart, and interesting lady in our office (so far she is the most beautiful woman in our office). I successfully established communication with her through chat and text ...
A. 29 October 2009: I get the impression that this woman has completely blown you away.
The trouble is that in this day and age, you have to be a little careful. You don't want to look like a stalker, or a pest, or a plain fool.
You work with this woman, so take pre... (read in full...)
Is it true that men like women with a few more curves?
Q. My b/f and I have both gained about 25 pounds since becoming involved with each other 4 years ago. (What can I say, we both love to cook, eat and drink). But I've decided enough is enough and started watching my calories and making time to work out ...
A. 29 October 2009: Firstly, the answer to your question is a yes, with conditions.
Men like curvy bodies like a Beyonce, J-Lo, or Shakira. Those girls are not fat at all, just really curvy. They have hourglass type figures. Men want curvy figures, but don't want to s... (read in full...)
Help with my boyfriend that's addicted to porn, but still has sex with me. I feel like I'm his sloppy seconds.
Q. My boyfriend masturbates to porn everyday. He still has sex with me, but it makes me feel horrible about myself because I am a very attractive woman that is in my early 40's. I look very good for my age. Men tell me all the time that any guy ...
A. 22 October 2009: This is a really tricky subject, as men and women seem to approach porn from different angles. Most of the answers tend to come from men, who consider that watching and masturbating to porn is a harmless and everyday ocuurence that has absolute... (read in full...)
Will he forgive me for cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for several years. We live together, and have for the past 3 years. After years of being together, I cheated on him. I am not going to make any excuses. I know what I did was wrong. I knew it when I did it. ...
A. 9 October 2009: The answer lies with you. What would you like to happen? Do you want forgiveness? How would you regard him, if, knowing that you blatantly cheated, he forgave you? I think that deep down, you already know that your relationship is finished. Only you... (read in full...)
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