Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: Oh dear Ms sltaylor. A game.
Are you not seeing eye to eye with the aunts because you didn't get the answers that you wanted?
You've got this all wrong.
If you are trying to prove that 70 per cent of black women are single, and that black women ... (read in full...)
How do I know if the sex was good or not?
Q. So I had sex with this guy last night. It was totally a one night stand and I'm not expecting anything out of it. I was just wondering, how do i know if he liked it or if I was bad? I wasn't laying there like a dead fish and when i gave him head he ...
A. 8 February 2010: Oh my goodness.
Hey guys, shall we all get our heads on and rate this young lady's one night stand?
She met him, went home with him, gave him head (he did moan), had sex with him, (he did grunt), and she didn't lay like a dead fish.
But he wa... (read in full...)
My guy lasts FOREVER and can't even orgasm when he masturbates...help!
Q. On Jan 19th I lost my virginity to my bf (who was also a virgin)...and he lasted at least an hour, possibly upwards into two. I only know that before we started it was 2:30 am and shortly after he finally came it was 4:30. I was in pain, obviously, ...
A. 7 February 2010: You ladies are making me smile, mainly because for many of us guys who are like this, we are in a no win situation.
So to make the answer bearable for every other woman except my partner (who never bothers with this site anyway), I will talk abou... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him since. What do you reckon is happening here?
Q. He is a relative of mines, yet distant. a few years ago, he contacts me for a favour..something to do with his music. I said I dont have what he wants but then he started talking more and more...until one day he just showed up at my door without my ...
A. 7 February 2010: From what you have typed, I think there is nothing happening at all.
He texts you. You ignore him. You see each other, you ignore each other. You don't have the skills that he needs (whatever those might be), so it's pointless that he texts you ... (read in full...)
Does her having large sex toys mean she is not happy with me?
Q. I have been with my partner for 8 years and I have always assumed we both enjoyed sex, but I have recently found a very large dildo and 2 large vibrators which she has obviously been using, to be straight about it I feel she does not enjoy sex with ...
A. 7 February 2010: Do you masturbate? Of course you do.
Does that mean that you are not happy having sex with your girlfriend, that you prefer to masturbate, and are looking to meet another woman? Of course not.
Women have just as much right to masturbate as men d... (read in full...)
Mind Games or Is it really over?
Q. I met someone online 1.5 months ago. I blew him off for a week after our first conversation and apologized. I let him know I was talking to other people but nothing serious so I wanted to get to know him better. We met 3 weeks ago. He has a foot fet...
A. 4 February 2010: I am not a fan of people meeting online at all. I have never done it, and will never do it, because a couple of my circle of friends have become 'serial' daters. I cannot agree with what they do, but they tend to come up with amazing tales that ... (read in full...)
Boy, revenge is sweet...
Q. Hi, my wife recently cheated on me with a guy who lives in a small town about 10 miles away from me, anyway to cut a long story short I found everything out, confronted my wife and then I confronted the guy in question and gave him the mandotary ...
A. 4 February 2010: You are already in trouble.
If this guy wants to make an issue out of the punch, and goes to the police, you are facing an assault charge.
What will follow is a possible appearance at a magistrates court, but definitely fingerprinting, DNA swab... (read in full...)
Dating a different race...
Q. Okay, so here's my problem. I'm 16 and have always been attracted to all races, it's never been an issue until recently. I'm white, and have become really close friends with this guy.. who's black, we're very flirty with each other. I like him and ...
A. 4 February 2010: You posted this same question on 13th December 2009.
The answers that many including myself gave you then, will still apply now.
At some stage, you will have to face the truth of the situation. No-one here can tell your father for you. It's som... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 4 February 2010: Growing up and living in the UK has meant that my entire family was surrounded by predominantly white, english people. I have four older sisters. I watched them grow up to become beautiful, clever, independent black women.
In the past, they all suff... (read in full...)
Did he have sex with her before coming to see me???
Q. My boyfriend usually takes around 10-15 minutes to orgasm. But the other day he came over after meeting with a girl and when I tried to give him oral sex.. he said his penis was sore... so he wanted just normal sex.. but once we had sex he orgasmed ...
A. 4 February 2010: Hang on, this all sounds a little strange. Is there more to tell?
Why was he meeting a girl? What sort of meeting was it? Was it innocent? Was it a date? If you have trust issues, why didn't you go with him?
As soon as he walks in the door, wh... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to ask my new husband for a new bed?
Q. Is it wrong for me to ask my new husband for a new bed because I do not want to sleep in our current bed because his live in girlfriend slept there? Every time I think about it makes me angry and would like a new start even with our things. I'm ...
A. 3 February 2010: A new bed, because his ex slept in the same bed that you are now? Hmmm. What about a new bathroom suite? She bathed in there you know. What about a new carpet? Her feet might have touched the present one. And as for her ass on the settee .......
I... (read in full...)
Considering dating an older woman...
Q. I am a college student and I am really not attracted to any girls I know personally or for that matter my recent and distant past. I have joined an online dating site, and have considered dating an older woman. I have just turned 23. My question...
A. 3 February 2010: When I was 19, I dated a 36 year old company director. Because of her position, and my colour, (she was blonde and very hot), we didn't actually go out on dates very often, but we did go abroad together a lot, where she could relax and be herself. ... (read in full...)
I waited 3 months for a dinner reservation in a top restaurant and my bf has just cancelled out. Is it ok to take another man to not miss out on the dining experience?
Q. A while back I booked a table at the supposedly best restaurant in the UK and it took me 3 months and a cancellation to get in. My b/f has known about it for weeks and how excited I am about it. Today he texts me to say that the mother of his child ...
A. 3 February 2010: Any reasonably good parent would put the world on hold for their children.
It is slightly out of order to be annoyed at your boyfriend for prioritising your excitement behind time with his child.
I take it the restaurant will still be there in... (read in full...)
Would a man forego the SuperBowl for a first date with an attractive, successful woman?
Q. I met a man that is very charming. He lives out of town. He seems to say all the right things. He claims he had tickets to the SuperBowl in Miami this weekend but would rather come out and visit me and will cancel his plans. My questions is to the ...
A. 2 February 2010: Hahahahaha!!!
Awesome!
I work in TV in the UK on the NFL programmes that are shown on a specific 'pay to view' channel. I have worked in this environment for nearly a decade, having played the sport for the National team, and watched countles... (read in full...)
Should I take police advise and sue my ex?
Q. I have an awful ex - he abused me emotionally and sexually for years (physically only right at the end, when I was finally getting out). I'm wondering if revenge is worth it at all? I could either do nothing and continue working through my issues, ...
A. 31 January 2010: I need to ask why on earth you put up with emotional and sexual abuse in the first place. You could have left at any time, with real time evidence to show the world what was happening.
It will now be extremely difficult to get the conviction that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an anger problem and I'm worried about my unborn child
Q. im pregnant and worried about by boyfriends anger. been to the doctor as he has hit me in the stomach and i am worried bout hurting my baby. my friends say i should leave him! i don't know what to do. please help ...
A. 31 January 2010: I know you love him, and you think he loves you, but it dosen't alter the fact that he hit you. He hit you in the stomach, deliberately trying to hurt you and the baby.
He might be the best man in the world, when he is being nice. You might even... (read in full...)
He didnt get me a birthday present, am I just being used?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months. A few weeks ago he moved away for work for 3 months. It was my birthday last week and he sent me nothing. Yes he rang a few times on the day and sent a few texts...its not like he forgot. I asked him ...
A. 28 January 2010: It seems that you simply 'expected' to get a present or something, and are a little disappointed.
Well I personally feel that you are missing the point slightly.
The man has gone away to work. He isn't on holiday. He lets you, allows you, to live ... (read in full...)
I have 5 girlfriends and now it's a problem.
Q. I've got five girlfriends and I honestly don't know what to do. Basically, I met a girl three years ago in college. We began a relationship, got serious, then she left for work in the USA. We're still together in the form of a long-distance ...
A. 28 January 2010: I won't judge you at all. Twenty years ago, I used to be you.
As long as you are (reasonably) honest with each girl from day one, you have no worries about having to tell lies, getting 'caught', or time constraints.
The problem that you will hav... (read in full...)
He told me to quit my job to save our marriage, should I?
Q. Im a mid twenties woman who has been married for a few years, we have two kids. Ive been uneasy in the relationship . WE finally talked about the possibility of it not working out, and he told me to quit my job, it wasnt really an ultimatum. but ...
A. 28 January 2010: I do not fully understand how suddenly quitting your job will save the marriage. What makes your husband think that this is the magic formula? Perhaps you could enlighten us.
I do get the impression that you did not anticipate being asked to be a 's... (read in full...)
In order for them to 'improve' their own life and become strong men, I have to boot them out! Right?
Q. Hi, I'm a 53 year old lady, with 3 kids. Husband and I are divorced and he works away, in another area of the country. My kids are all adults, 2 sons aged 29 and 18, 1 daughter, aged 31. The older 2 kids have 'boomeranged' back to living here with ...
A. 27 January 2010: You are completely right. Kick them both out - today.
I understand your fear that they will hate you, and for a short time, they will. But I have lived through this as a son, who moved out early and watched two of my younger brothers 'boo... (read in full...)
I am worried I crossed a line and did major damage.
Q. I feel bad about the most recent talk I had with my boyfriend and I don't know if I caused irrevocable damage to us. I am 25 my boyfriend is 20 and age has not been an issue until recently (and it isn't really an age thing anyway, just ...
A. 26 January 2010: I normally try to see each story from both sides, and give a half decent response. But first I just want to latch onto one thing you said.
'I have anxiety issues'.
This is meant to be a fantastic trip, a chance to experience a slightly differen... (read in full...)
I agreed that my wife have sex with another man and now she is pregnant with his baby and won't give it up!
Q. me and my wife made a mistake but my wife thinks different, don't know what to do I’ve been married to my beautiful wife Robin for almost 2 years, we dated for just over a year before we got happily got married, I would say maybe about 8 months...
A. 21 January 2010: Some of the best advisers on this site are always telling people to avoid threesomes, and never invite a third party into the marital bed.
The most obvious thing would have been to seek advice prior to agreeing to such a drastic night.
Well,... (read in full...)
Can being too wet be a bad thing?
Q. This is a question coming from an obvious virgin, but I'm a little worried at the same time. I get wet very easily and very fast. It's enough to saturate my underwear. My only problem is I'm worried I'm going to be TOO wet when I actualy have sex. ...
A. 15 January 2010: For me, there is no such thing as being 'too' wet.
A woman's natural response to sexual arousal is to lubricate the vagina, and men get an erection. It makes everything that much easier!
Many girls of your age, especially virgins, tend to worry ab... (read in full...)
Do women sleep around when they are in a boring relationship?
Q. Hi. Thanks in advance for any insight you may have on this matter. I am sort of hung up on my girlfriends past. She lost her virginity to her first boyfriend when she was almost twenty. Their relationship got very platonic and stale after a couple...
A. 12 January 2010: Whether or not women go through a phase is neither here nor there. You need to get a grip on yourself.
Why are you so bothered about what your girlfriend got up to before she met you?
If she was a drug user, or a serial killer, then you have eve... (read in full...)
My ex with another man is destroying me. Please help!! Please.
Q. I am in a very low bad place at the moment. I have just found out that my ex girlfriend who split up with me 2 months ago has a new man. It shook my world when she split up with me but whilst she wasn't with anyone else, I was coping ok. Th...
A. 9 January 2010: Although it may not help your current state of mind, everyone here will say roughly the same thing - it's a question of time.
Remember the first time you went to school as a young child? Remember the times you were hurt physically playing with frie... (read in full...)
I'm in the friendzone...help!
Q. I find myself in the friendzone with a chick that i've fallen 4.i've known her 4 eight years and have told her that i would want 2 be more then just a friend 2 her.but my advances have been met with confrontation and tears.according 2 her she is ...
A. 9 January 2010: Dear sir, I am sure that during some stage of our lives, we have all been in your shoes. But the way I see it, if I were to tell a woman I want her as more than a friend, and she is so upset at the thought that she sheds tears, I would back right ... (read in full...)
Why won't my married lover call me??
Q. hello im a 32 year old woman who has been seeing this married man for 7 years. i thought we had a really good relationship and we talked on the phone every other day. now for some reason i have not heard from him in a week. i know thats not a very ...
A. 9 January 2010: Why wont he call you? Why should he call you?
He is married after all. Seven years of seeing a married man. I guess that you feel he 'owes' you an explanation, or something?
What are you doing? Step back, and look at the situation. Why are you wast... (read in full...)
Struggling with my foreskin
Q. Hello everybody, I'm a 16 year old male and I have some questions/concerns regarding my uncircumcised penis. Over the years I have managed to pull my foreskin back, to the point were it is very easy to do when i am not erect. Although, whene...
A. 8 January 2010: I am always interested in these questions as I have been in your position myself.
When I was a teenager my foreskin was incredibly tight, and I could not pull it back over the head of my penis without experiencing immense discomfort. Basically, I ha... (read in full...)
Afraid 2 have sex with virgin gf
Q. my girlfriend of 3 months is a virgin. i am not a virgin and hav been in 1 relationship so far in my life. im not looking for anything 2 serios yet due 2 my former heartache but my gf keeps pestering me for sex n im afriad 2 give it 2 her. if i take ...
A. 3 January 2010: Young man, I am quickly getting the picture, the more I read your question.
The more honest you are, the more help and sound advice you will receive.
It really doesn't matter who is a virgin, and who is not.
A person generally knows if and... (read in full...)
Every time we meet we hook up but why doesn't he make a proper move?
Q. Iv had my eye on this fella iv known for quiet a while. There is amazing chemistry between us, we seldom see each other but over the last few years every time we have met we have hooked up. We got "reaquinted" :) over xmas (i hadnt seen him in ...
A. 3 January 2010: How do mean 'make a proper move?' What, you think he should ask you out for a date? Suggest that you become boyfriend and girlfriend? Why would he?
Every time you meet him, you allow him to have sex. What a great situation for him. He doesn't have... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't trust me and I'm sick of it!
Q. I just saw the search history on my boyfriends computer. We've been together for almost two years, and I have never once been unfaithful or lied. I reassure him constantly that he is the one I want to be with. He tells me that he trusts me and...
A. 29 December 2009: Hate to say it, but your boyfriend is a moron.
If he doesn't trust you that's one thing, but the total rubbish he is coming out with is something else.
His constant checking is designed to gain complete control over your actions, your thinking... (read in full...)
Husband having an affair I don't know what to do!
Q. I posted before but have added some more information. I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got ...
A. 28 December 2009: Angzw has just written some brilliant advice. I have never been in your situation, so I cannot claim to know what you are going through, but clearly Angzw has.
All I do know is that you are obviously in immense pain. 22 years is a long time, and ... (read in full...)
What's the safest way to cum inside my girlfriend without getting her pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend really wants me to cum inside her, while yes this sounds very hot, Im at the same time very apprehensive to do it because i'm not ready for a kid, she said she is going to get on the pill so we'll wait 7 days before we have sex, but my ...
A. 28 December 2009: Don't come inside her. Don't.
Wear a condom. Always, always, always. Heard of girls getting pregnant? Heard of STD's? Of course you have.
You better believe it can happen to you.
Don't come inside her. Don't, don't, don't, don't ...... (repe... (read in full...)
I've been sleeping with a younger man who has a boyfriend, I don't know what to do!
Q. I'm a older woman I haven't been in a relationship for two years but I have been sleeping with this younger man off and on for six years he has a girlfriend and sometimes when he calls I don't answer I think I'm starting to really like him I don't ...
A. 28 December 2009: You don't know what to think?
Well I cannot tell you what think, but I guess you know that what you are doing is not 'right'.
But let me tell you a little story.
One of my sisters was doing something similar to you. To live in this way requires... (read in full...)
Taking a chance with a coworker?
Q. Thanks for your help in advance. My boyfriend lives with me (6m) we are happy. Now at work before I dated him I had this connection w a coworker(female). I really like her- I am very attracted to her. However she has never been straight forward...
A. 28 December 2009: Ok, there are two things.
Firstly, if you have been living with your boyfriend for six months( I guess thats what 6m means?) and you are happy, what else would you like from your life?
Secondly, are you considering a lesbian relationship with the... (read in full...)
Porn - how is it fair to the mother of your children
Q. So often I seem to see questions posted by women hurt by their partners use if porn. So many men seem to feel justified in using it even when in committed relationshis. The question I have is how it can possibly be fair to women? So often a couple ...
A. 27 December 2009: I completely understand that many women feel utterly devastated by porn. In the eyes and minds of many women, porn is merely an excuse for a man to ogle an incredibly beautiful woman, with a body sculpted in heaven. He can fantasise over what he ... (read in full...)
Give me something witty to say to him about the fact that he didn't ask for my number after I told him to call me?
Q. Ok, so I like this guy at work (but we work at different companies and only see each other 3-4 times a week) and we exchanged Christmas cards with each other. He gave me his 1st, then I gave him mine. He gave me a small coffee gift card and both of ...
A. 27 December 2009: Candy, are you really aged 41-50? Come on now. You are playing a game as if you are 13 or something. You don't need to say something funny. Just say what you mean.
If you like him, and want a chance to be with him .... tell him!
You didn't give him... (read in full...)
I am white and married a black, hubby doesn't see how mean many of his race are to me!
Q. i have been married to a black man for 20 years. my problem...well...i am not black and when we go places together i always get the snobby,rolling eyes and staring hard at by black women. some who goes as far as trying to flirt with my husband ...
A. 25 December 2009: As a black man in England, I tend to smile at the word inter-racial. Inter and racial. Are we two seperate races -not both of the human race? So white people and black people are DIFFERENT RACES? What, like we're human and whites are not, or vice ... (read in full...)
Made to feel bad for not wanting anal sex??
Q. Hi there, I just wanted some advice! I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. He's a gentleman, charming and does everything under the sun for me. There's just one thing that's concerning me. I first let me boyfriend try anal sex about ...
A. 23 December 2009: I have heard that some women love anal sex. I have always been respectful and honest about sex. I think it must hurt, because it hurt me. So although I was asked, and have tried it a few times, I could never relax and get into it.
My opinion is, ... (read in full...)
Should I go back to dating black men?
Q. I am trying to date to try to get over my last relationship.. I know that they say finish a chapter before you start another, but I say the only way to get over the last one is to have sex with a new one. Anyway, I am an interracial dater and it i...
A. 23 December 2009: How about you just live your life, and see what happens? There is nothing wrong at all with being single. The world will continue to spin, even if there isn't a man on your horizon.
It seems that you feel a little confused about your racial iden... (read in full...)
I found porn on his computer, why does he need it??
Q. hi should i be worried , i stayed round my boyfriend house and was on his computer when i noticed a porn website that he vists should i say something to him , or keep quiet about it and why does he look at this when he has me as his girlfrie...
A. 22 December 2009: I am convinced that women do not fully understand why men watch porn.
I concede that porn is not necessary, but it exists because men are visual creatures, and they like to use visual mechanisms to get aroused and masturbate.
WHY???? All the wome... (read in full...)
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