He refuses to touch me down there but I don't want to have shame and limitations in my sex life!
Q. Hi there, This is the first time I am asking for help with the sex problem. I would really appreciate your help guys and girls. My boyfriend and I have been together for about couple of month but we have been friends for a year before that. We a...
A. 30 August 2010: Sex is such a personal subject for each of us that sometimes we lose perception of what great sex really is. There are questions here where men complain about women not giving blow jobs, or swallowing, not giving in to anal, and for having the sheer ... (read in full...)
She won't swallow!! Help!
Q. How after 5 years of great sex do I get my girlfriend to swallow? I return the faver to her in every way..oral sex, anal licking, she dose not like oral sex on her but she lets me preform it on her every so often and enjoys it most of the time. She ...
A. 28 August 2010: Why the hell should she, if she doesn't want to?
Come on man, get over yourself. There is no paragraph in the sex manual that states 'your girlfriend MUST swallow your semen', primarily because there is no manual.
Back off. If she wants to she w... (read in full...)
Why do all the men in my life turn to porn?
Q. LONG story short: My boyfriend is great and I love him dearly. But (there's always a but, right?) I found porn on my computer and now I'm having trust issues. I confronted him and he has stopped (for 8 months now). I just can't quit thinking ab...
A. 27 August 2010: I wonder if TheFutureMrsCary knows that men hardly ever become addicted to porn, but they do become addicted to masturbation while watching porn. Tisha and some of the Aunts often give superb answers to this type of question. It may be an idea to ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my daughter about her masturbating?
Q. I discoverd my 12 year old daughter is masturbating. I do know its perfectly normal but she is doing it alot I am worried. I dont even know how to bring it up but would it be wrong to say doing it too much can be bad for you? Through advice of a ...
A. 27 August 2010: There are many online sites which give varying ideas and advice about masturbation. The common denominator is that everyone does it, to some degree, and many of us start masturbating at quite an early age.
There are tales of children as young as 7... (read in full...)
Do Gorgeous Women only date Equally Gorgeous men?
Q. Question... Whats the secret to getting a really beautiful woman? You know the type you run into every now and again that make your heart stop and fill your veins with ice water? Is there a secret method for attracting these higher echelon b...
A. 26 August 2010: I can state with some certainty that I am not good looking, at the best I have a slightly pleasant face. The thing that seperated me from the rest in terms of getting the girl was confidence.
I have always been confident, Lord knows why, but I am m... (read in full...)
Have a big penis and don't know where to put it.
Q. Im a 20 year old guy who has kind of a wierd problem or dilema. The problem is that I have an above average size penis(8 inches long and almost 6 inches around(its true, Im not kidding)) and I just have no place to put it in my pants. Sometimes ...
A. 26 August 2010: I was also a little self conscious in my youth, especially when mega tight, stretch jeans were the fashion.
It is something that in time you will get used to, and become completely unaware of, until others bring it to your attention.
These... (read in full...)
In a loving relationship but girlfriend's parents don't want her in an interracial relationship.
Q. Hey everyone They say life is a repeat, and I know that what I need advice on is a very common topic.Im in an interacial relationship with a woman that i am in love with. The good news is, she's in love with me too. The hard part is, her parents ...
A. 25 August 2010: You know how people say 'the more things change, the more they stay the same'. Well this subject echoes that feeling. You want to be with the daughter of somewhat racist parents. It's not right, but it is extremely common for people on this side of ... (read in full...)
Older woman w/ a younger man
Q. is it wrong for me to have a relationship with a 17yr lad i am a 33yr woman with 2 children, i don't look 33 and he doesn't look 17, we both are very much in love so i wanted to know does age really matter if you're happy?...
A. 24 August 2010: In England, the age of consent is 16, so there is no problem with sex offences.
There is no problem at all with the relationship, although you both need to be fairly thick skinned to deal with what other people will say.
I have been in this sit... (read in full...)
Total Babe in One-sided Open Marriage
Q. I am an average looking/height guy, though I make a good salary. I have been married about ten years. My wife is a beauty -- very attractive/sexy. She gets a lot of attention almost everywhere we go, even if she's only wearing sweats and a ...
A. 23 August 2010: I am not sure what you mean by a 'European' attitude, but she has cheated. Where does the 'open marriage' in the title come from? Is it an open marriage? If so, whose idea was that?
I know exactly how you feel. It doesnt matter that you say you are ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want to watch girls masterbate?
Q. Why do guys like to watch girls masterbate? I mean I don't really mind it,but it's a bit awkward to me. I'd rather you finger me then me finger myself. I wouldn't ask a guy to jerk off or something while I'm there when I know he'd rather me do it ...
A. 23 August 2010: From a male point of view, I find watching a woman masturbate to be incredibly sexy.
There are several factors why. During penetrative sex, a man in the missionary position has fairly limited vision of a partner, depending on where the couple find... (read in full...)
After all the hurt he has caused my family, should I confess my infidelity now?
Q. I have been with the same man for 9 years, married 5yrs. I had fallen in love with the man of my dreams. Very supportive, great father and all around good husband (that's just what I thought). 3 months ago, out of the blue, he confessed he had been...
A. 20 August 2010: There are moments in time, when we all make decisions, or do very small things that change our lives for ever.
Your husbands decision to cheat then come clean has changed everything. Your reaction out of anger has compounded the situation.
What ... (read in full...)
Too wet! How do I make it not that wet?
Q. My vagina gets really wet, even when i think about sex. My 2 ex's have pointed it out, and frankly its embarrassing. I know its normal, but its really embarrassing. Is there anything i can do to not make it that wet? Thanks for your comments! ...
A. 19 August 2010: You have no need to worry. There is no quality standard or average when it comes to sex, every one of us is completely different. I used to live with someone who made the same complaints as you are - she always thought she was too wet. It took a ... (read in full...)
Is there phone hacking going on or does my husband have something to hide?
Q. Hi, this is going to sound really silly but I need some advice. I've been married to my husband for 7 years and we have a great relationship. We are happy, healthy, love our kids, love each other, sex is awesome and we just have a lot of fun. We've ...
A. 18 August 2010: Unfortunately, I do not believe your husband.
Why would anyone go to the trouble of hacking or cloning a phone just to make a few calls to an escort agency?
If you want to clear the air and regain your husband, you have to trust him. If you trus... (read in full...)
Is my wife addicted to her sextoy at my expense?
Q. My wife is reluctant to have sex with me, however when she travels the first thing she packs is her sex toy. She used to love having sex with me, or anyone else, but now it is just all about the toy. How do i get interested in sex with me again? ...
A. 18 August 2010: This is one of those questions where there may be a huge amount of different answers, depending upon our own experiences.
One of the most common complaints on this site is 'my husband/boyfriend likes to watch porn, rather than have sex with me'.... (read in full...)
I want to settle down, he says he doesn't want to be "trapped"!!
Q. I'm 33 and my boyfriend is 40. We have been dating for 6 years. We have a good, committed relationship, but it seems that we want different things out of life. I live in the middle of nowhere (and love it!), and I want to settle down and have a ...
A. 17 August 2010: You have to make a decision, and follow it through. I have seen family, girlfriends, wives, and lovers go through their thirties and make various lifestyle choices. All I will say is the ones who kind of did nothing, ended up with precisely that - ... (read in full...)
My father's porn addiction is tearing my family apart :( How do I deal with this?
Q. I'm finding it very difficult to cope with my family atmosphere at home at the moment. I live with my parents and a teenage sibling, and a few times in the past I have stumbled across my father's pornographic materials, like books, videos and ...
A. 17 August 2010: Firstly I would like to say that I am sorry you are in the middle of a difficult situation, but you really need to try to see both sides - then advise both your parents on a course of action towards some middle ground, or butt out and advise ... (read in full...)
20 minutes of sex was all he wanted?
Q. Opinions needed. I am a little disturbed the last week because of what happened. Just a little about myself before i tell you the story. I got married very young, it was a short lived marriage that ended up w/a child who i had to bring up basical...
A. 15 August 2010: There are a lot of those 'hot good looking guys that girls like so much' around. They generally know that they are hot, and are only too aware of the effect that they have on women.
Like many men, he was enjoying the chase. He was getting exci... (read in full...)
I've been with 40 sexual partners, how can we get past this?
Q. My partner 25 and i 23 have been together for a year, i have been with 40 sexual partners and he has only been with me we have always stuggled with this and seems to be getting worse the closer we get has anyone got some advice on how we can get ...
A. 15 August 2010: The number of sexual partners you have enjoyed in the past is not the real problem for a lot of guys. It is whether they have had more partners than you!
If your guy had 60 women, he would not have a problem. But right now, not only does he feel... (read in full...)
Wife in need!!
Q. One year ago I underwent a radical prostatectomy and have been unable to achieve an erection without the use of a penis pump, obviously affecting our sex life. I am taking my wife on a princess caribbean cruise this december would like to know what ...
A. 12 August 2010: A radical retropubic prostatectomy is a serious operation, and the complications can include impotence.
Have you tried viagra, instead of, or in conjunction with the pump? I would try anything, before even suggesting another man.
A woman of subst... (read in full...)
Found out things about my wife's past and need to learn how to love her all over again.
Q. Hi, I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids ages 6 and 8.Two years ago I stumbled upon some old correspondence from my wife's ex boyfriend. When confronted with it she made light of the issue. I did some digging and found out that she has ...
A. 11 August 2010: I am amazed at how many people, especially men are appalled at their wives' past. It's no wonder that the majority of women lie about the number and type of sexual activities that they enjoyed, in order to protect our fragile male egos.
To be brut... (read in full...)
I want my husband back, not this overweight unhealthy man!
Q. i feel very lost.. my husband has always been heavy.. he is 6 ft 2 and 478. i am 5 ft 9 and 135. sometimes i think i know too much being a nurse as i watch his weight go up and our marriage go down. yes i love him. i have changed our home eating to ...
A. 9 August 2010: Wow, your man is lucky to still have you.
I am 6'2", 237, I used to play RB and LB at college, but consider myself overweight these days. I cannot imagine being TWICE my size.
I'm afraid that your husband has spiralled downwards to a place th... (read in full...)
How do I help him? No matter what we tried he couldn't stay hard
Q. I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend of 5 months. The first time we had sex, he had trouble getting it up at first but was eventually able to get up and stay up multiple times after. I figured maybe he was nervous because it was our first time or ...
A. 8 August 2010: It's admirable that you are such a loving partner that you would go to such lenghts to help him out with this problem. But that may also be part of it.
Focusing on his lack of hardness every time you have sex means thats ALL he can think about, and ... (read in full...)
After our weekend getaway he has changed.
Q. Last weekend, I slept with a guy from work, we were both sober so it wasn't a drunken mistake and actually it was a long time coming after weeks of flirty texts and flirting on nights out. I had absolutely fantastic weekend with him and even took me ...
A. 5 March 2010: He merely wanted sex. He wanted to add you to his list, and will probably brag about it to his work colleagues I'm afraid.
Unfortunately there are a lot of men like this, they will spend months, or sometimes years chasing a woman, only to drop them... (read in full...)
Where did his libido go?
Q. I have been invisible for my bf for months, we barely have sex. His dad died 2 months ago, do you think that can affect his sexual libido? I am not going to tell him anything, he is too lost in his own world. Imagine that I work all day long, when I ...
A. 5 March 2010: The fact that he masturbates while you are at work means his libido has not gone anywhere.
Grief affects each person in a different way. I am sure he is missing his father, and looking inwardly more than at the world around him. Losing someone clos... (read in full...)
Do most prefer 'curvy' women?
Q. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-it-only-the-mans-biology-thats.html I want an opinion from the uncles of this site.Hopefully men will be able to shed more light on this. Is it true that majority of men only like curvaceous figur...
A. 4 March 2010: Curvy is a somewhat confusing term for women. When one woman says another is 'curvy', they often seem to be saying in a kind and gentle way that she is fat. Anything above size zero seems to be too big to women, mainly because they are force fed ... (read in full...)
I'm not getting any younger, and I want a chance at happiness. Would it be selfish to leave my partner?
Q. I have two young boys with my partner of ten years. It seems that most of those years have been a series of mounting stresses. My partner has always had difficulty with intemacy; relating to some abuse experienced as a child, but I have always had a ...
A. 2 March 2010: The anonymous female is a little harsh with her response, but is on the right lines.
You have a 'connection' with this potential new woman, much like you had with your partner when you first met. There you have it. What happened to that conn... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating if you sleep with a man but don't have sex?
Q. if a married woman just sleeps with a guy without having sex is that considered cheating??...
A. 1 March 2010: A married woman has no business whatsoever being in bed with another man.
What on earth were you thinking? This is cheating by implication, whether it was deliberate or accidental. I can picture the explanatory conversation. 'I'm sorry darl... (read in full...)
I'm scared now that I made the wrong choice...
Q. I broke up with a man I had been seeing about a month ago. We only dated for about 3 months, but it was the most intense whirlwind relationship of my life. I have always been a bit aloof in relationships, and considered myself to be strong and ...
A. 26 February 2010: I think there are a lot of people who use this site who can appreciate exactly what you are going through.
I have persoanlly had a relationship just like that many years ago. Even though I have been with my current partner for 17 years, and cann... (read in full...)
It bothers me when my girlfriend masturbates. Can you help me understand why?
Q. Preface: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We've been sexually active for slightly longer than we've dated. That aside. My problem: It bothers me when she masturbates. But the problem is, I can't pin point why. Its the "hear...
A. 26 February 2010: This is awesome.
This is the 'porn' issue, with the roles reversed. Only he cannot physically 'see' what she gets off to, so he is afraid that her mind is on someone else.
Whether it is porn, or whether it is a huge vibrating, rotating battery ... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 25 February 2010: I don't believe that it's only a man's point of view that is considered at all. Porn is just a common male masturbation tool, but it seems to polarise womens attitudes.
I have read many many answers from both sexes who have many various points of v... (read in full...)
Wife went down on old man just to come to the USA....
Q. I love my wife, but now I just found out that my wife sucked the d__k of a 59 year old man in order to get a VISA to come the final time to the USA, the time that she met me and married me! I knew she wasn't a virgin, but I'm caught up on two...
A. 24 February 2010: I am amazed that you seem so truly offended by your wife's behaviour.
I don't know if you have experienced life outside of the comfort of your own home, but in many places in the world, life is cheap, and extreme on the best of days.
You should f... (read in full...)
I hate my surname! Is there any solution to this?
Q. I know this problem is lighthearted compared to some of the other stuff people are going through, but it's been bugging me for a long time. I can accpet an honest answer but please don't judge me as shallow. I love my family, but I absolutely hat...
A. 17 February 2010: Hello Sara.
Back on 6th July 2009, you posted almost the same question as now.
I think you may have posted before that too.
There are valid arguments both for and against changing your name to 'stand out' or stop mistakes with law enforcement ... (read in full...)
I feel it is not fair that my wife wont give me anal sex when my ex-partners enjoyed it so much!
Q. do girls like anal sex, Ive been after my wife for 7 years and she just won't give it too me. I feel like thats not fair, Ive had other relationships where my partner enjoyed it sooooooooo much. how do i get my wife to try something new, we've ...
A. 11 February 2010: It's not fair !! It's not fair !!
You're right. It's not fair that you won't stop nagging her!!
If she doesn't want to do it, why are you trying to break her down to give in? Her reasons for saying no are valid to her. So respect them.
Your ex p... (read in full...)
How do I survive this without him?
Q. i have a fifteen year relationship, two wonderful kids, seven and three. he will not marry me as i am so interested in money. what will i get out if it, not the fact of our children (young as they are), he is well off, but hasn't always been, he had ...
A. 11 February 2010: How do you survive WHAT without him?
Life? Global warming? An illness? What? ... (read in full...)
My wife has more time in bed for her toys than she does for me
Q. I'm totally confused over whats going on - I normally sleep really well. I recently couldnt sleep and heard my wife orgasm harvesting (masterbating) - she had several orgasms it seemed at different times of the night. she would have an orgasm(s) ...
A. 10 February 2010: Because I'm an inquisitive kind of guy, I ask women questions, and you what women are - talkative! Ha, a generalisation I know, but when women talk, men should listen.
Lots of women do this. Some do it because their partner comes in 3 minutes flat... (read in full...)
I am not sexually compatible with my husband. How can I get him to stop being such a prude?
Q. (Mod Note - OP's own title) I can't say how glad I am to have found this site. I am a 28yo mother of three boys. I have always been very sexual. I can remember masturbating as early as 5 or 6. My first sexual incounter was with the little girl...
A. 10 February 2010: I have known a couple of women like you, one who became my girlfriend for a time. It was great fun, but ultimately destructive, as sex became less and less special, and like your husband, I began to avoid it. We worked for the same company in ... (read in full...)
Why should I put up with my man looking at porn?
Q. Ok, why do I just "have to accept" porn in my life? My boyfriend jacks off to porn. Sure, our sex life is great, and believe me I don't mind quickies or gettigng him off without anything in return. But why does he have to look at other naked women? ...
A. 10 February 2010: I have had four tremendous private conversations with some of the females here about porn.
The way that women view porn is completely different from men. For some reason, womens eyes appear to be drawn straight to the porn actress. They look at the ... (read in full...)
Why should I put up with my man looking at porn?
Q. Ok, why do I just "have to accept" porn in my life? My boyfriend jacks off to porn. Sure, our sex life is great, and believe me I don't mind quickies or gettigng him off without anything in return. But why does he have to look at other naked women? ...
A. 9 February 2010: You don't have to put up with your boyfriend looking at porn. You honestly don't. You can ask him to stop looking at porn, and he might. But what you can't do, is stop him from 'jacking off' full stop.
And the thing is, that men are visual. He i... (read in full...)
3 months married and I feel I've made a BIG mistake!!!
Q. Reposted with an update: We've been married for 3 months, been together for 3 and half years in total. We lived together for a year but I moved back in with my parents cos I hated his housemates. We got our own place and moved in a week before th...
A. 8 February 2010: There are some great responses to your dilemma. There is no doubt that you are in a tough spot at the moment. But the question arises as to whether you want to stay with this man or not. The marriage is in trouble, but nowhere near dead.
It will... (read in full...)
She says I am the best at eating her out but I want her to return the favour!
Q. I have been dating my girl for 10 months and she still refuses to give me a blow job, I mean she says I am the best at eating her out but I want her to return the favour. ...
A. 8 February 2010: To 'eat her out' ..... such a horrible description of a glorious act.
People of your age tend to make sex a power struggle. That is just immaturity and inexperience. But I want to ask you WHY you give your girl oral.
Do you do it to get her off?... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: Oh dear Ms sltaylor. A game.
Are you not seeing eye to eye with the aunts because you didn't get the answers that you wanted?
You've got this all wrong.
If you are trying to prove that 70 per cent of black women are single, and that black women ... (read in full...)
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