Before we dated she revealed that she used to meet up with strangers for sex. I'm disgusted. Am I being too judgemental?
Q. I have been dating a girl for the last 6 months. Last week she told me that she has used internet sites to meet guys for sex. This was before we dated and has not done it since. I am having a problem accepting it. It was not my business, I ...
A. 22 January 2012: Against the grain here, the answer is yes, you are being way too judgemental.
How would you feel, if she had said that she used to meet guys in a club, to have one night stands?
How about if she used to take 18-30 holidays, meet guys and have hol... (read in full...)
Why do people think it's wrong of me to not date within my own race?
Q. I've had people telling me that I cant "like" other people from different cultural/racial background. I don't understand why because as far as I'm concerned getting to know the individual is far more important. E.g The guy I like is mixed race (ha...
A. 22 January 2012: Unfortunately you will soon have to learn to ignore the stares and comments, otherwise you will go crazy.
Also, try not to use the word 'race', as I believe white, Asian, Indian, Oceanic, black and all the shades of colour in between are all of the ... (read in full...)
I didn't mean to, but now I'm stuck faking orgasms for my boyfriend!
Q. The first time me and my boyfriend did anything sexual, which was just fingering, I faked it. I dont know why, but I could tell he was getting tired, and frustrated, because i've never actually orgasmed before, and although it felt really good, I ...
A. 4 January 2012: 14 answers. 5 from you, and 9 from other women, giving you great solid advice, that can you can take or leave. In your defence, I will say that NO-ONE here can really give you ideas about what will make you orgasm, only you can experiment and find... (read in full...)
Husband (also doctor) addicted to teen porn...just told me he hates me for asking him
Q. My husband has admitted to being addicted to porn years ago but it was never a real issue because he hid it. I recently borrowed his laptop and he had over 89 bookmarks of 'teen' porn and he used the name like 'morgage payments' to hid the sites. On ...
A. 30 December 2011: I am always a little wary answering the 'porn' issues, as it seems to polarise the responses of the aunts and uncles here.
'Porn addiction' seems to be a recently created banner which covers all sorts of ailments. Porn addiction? Really? I am (jus... (read in full...)
How do I stop this guy's invasive presence?
Q. OK, maybe this is a stupid question, especially at my age, but here it is: I met this guy exactly three times, once when we met at a party, once we had coffee and once we went together at a workshop with a lot of other people, and now he is writing ...
A. 30 December 2011: I am not a fan of Facebook, so I very rarely use it. Why do you feel you need to check it EVERY day? Will it hurt you in any way to stay away from Facebook for a week? I guess by then him and his comments will look quite silly.
All my real frie... (read in full...)
The possibilities of sex with a bigger person?
Q. So I never had a boyfriend who is quite larger than me , I'm 1261bs and 5'3 I have some fat on me but my boyfriend is 280ibs and 6'0 feet we have been dating for month and half to two months and i want to have sex with him but I'm nervous ! I never ...
A. 28 December 2011: I think it is wrong to assume that the OP's boyfriend is fat/overweight. I am lucky enough to meet many current and former professional athletes, and a large proportion of them are around that size. I wouldn't call an average NFL defensive tackle ... (read in full...)
I "insulted" my husband about his performance in bed and I think I deeply wounded his ego. How do I fix it?
Q. I "insulted" my husband and I think I deeply wounded his ego. He cant please me in bed and he has stopped trying to quite a while back. I told him that what he is doing isn't working. He told me he never had problems pleasing women in the past. I ...
A. 30 November 2011: Well I have waited a while before answering this question because I am not sure there is a way back for you.
The first sentence tells me everything we need to know about this situation. I "insulted" my husband.
You don't believe you did insult h... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: I feel a little sorry for both of you, it seems that there is a small level of stubbornness and immaturity within your relationship.
At the end of the day, people are what they are, everyone of us is different, especially in our reactions to, and ... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 31 October 2011: I am (without sounding too big-headed), a mans man. I am big, black, bald and tough. I do exactly what it says on the tin. I have watched this question with a huge amount of interest, and outlined your thoughts to some of my friends over the ... (read in full...)
My past is coming back to haunt me.....
Q. I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...
A. 27 October 2011: Sorry young lady, but you only have a problem here if you make it one. If (big if) you love your husband, and are not bored with your marriage, then tell this ex to get lost, as you are happy and content.
If (as I suspect) you are feeling a litt... (read in full...)
Is there a time limit for how long I can keep a sugar Daddy interested?
Q. I turned 29 a fortnight ago. I will be 30 next year at this time. Throughout my 20s I have had several sugar daddies, older men who supported me financially whilst I was pursuing my musical aspirations. They've been good chaps over all, tho of cour...
A. 14 August 2011: The fact that you are here asking the question kind of gives the game away. You believe that there is a time limit, and you believe that your time is running out.
Having played the game, you know what these men are looking for.
I do, I worked i... (read in full...)
I don't mind him ejaculating on me, but I'd rather not be peed on
Q. Me and my boy friend like to do alternative things in the bedroom. We act out some porn scenes that seem interesting. The one that he wants to try, I'm not into much. He wants to ejaculate on my face, then urinate on me. I can handle him cumming on ...
A. 14 August 2011: What pleasure would you get out of allowing someone to ejaculate on your face? If it pleases you because it pleases him, then go for it, if that isn't the case, tell him no. As for the urination, that is completely wrong. Unless you enjoy that too... (read in full...)
It doesn't seem like we're making love
Q. So, I'm not sure whether this is my problem or my bf's problem, but basically, when we have sex, it always feels like f***ing/sh*gging, not making love. In previous relationships, I've felt a difference between the two, and have felt like ex bfs...
A. 14 August 2011: I shouldn't be surprised by the number of people here who seem to think there is a 'right' or 'wrong' way to have sex, but I always am. Sex is a purely individual mindset, everyone has different reactions, responses and desires, but we all want the ... (read in full...)
My married lover destroyed my life!
Q. hi, i am single and had an affair with a married man. I managed to hack his mail ID and found he has chatted and flirted with many young girls. saying 'i love you' and all. he's definitely playing with innocent lives. I know his daughter's mail ID. ...
A. 13 August 2011: I believe that anyone who is foolish enough to embark upon an affair with one who is married deserves everything that comes their way.
I wonder what you hoped would happen. Did you think he would leave his wife for you? Do you think you are youn... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 9 August 2011: There have been hundreds of articles and posts here on the subject of porn, and I believe there will be hundreds more. Many men and women generally seem to fail to understand each other's viewpoints. I have never been a woman, so I cannot get my ... (read in full...)
Found photos of my bf having sex with another woman while we were dating, but he says they are not photos of him. Not sure what to believe!
Q. Hey I really need advice just now. I was going out with my boyfriend for over a year but we broke up last night. It's because last night I was on the computer typing up something for work and I ended up coming across some photos of him and another ...
A. 18 June 2011: I don't understand your confusion.
Either the pictures on HIS computer are of him, or they are not of him. After a year of being together, I assume that you know what he looks like from all sorts of angles. Like he just 'happened' to download pict... (read in full...)
How do I make him realise how serious this is for me?
Q. My husband doesn't satisfy me in bed. He is very quick at intercourse, he rarely if ever performs oral sex, and when he has done so only manages to last at it for less than a minute at best, just long enough to get me hot and horny. He does use his ...
A. 17 June 2011: Hold your horses! I am sorry but you don't have to endure frustration just to ensure that his ego is not dented. Wake up young lady.
You are in danger of turning your bedroom and sex life into a battlefield, a mistake which seems to be made by an a... (read in full...)
What can I do about my girlfriend's weight gain?
Q. Hi Ive been with my partner over two years now, and over that time she seems to have gained a lot of weight. When we first met, she was a 14-16, curvy, but absoloutly fine. Since then, shes gone to a size 20. And is eating lots/ not doing...
A. 3 December 2010: Oh dear, you are in a spot of bother. There's no easy way to broach the subject of a womans weight, without coming across as shallow. But size 20 is simply way too large for comfort and health, unless she is 7 foot 6 tall.
Unfortunately most peop... (read in full...)
I smoke... and he broke up with me because of it.
Q. My boyfriend is really really against smoking and even though I only smoked occasionally, I gave it up completely for him. A month or two ago we went through a pretty bad breakup after being together for 2 years and I was going crazy. I was ...
A. 28 November 2010: Unfortunately I think you are both to blame.
I imagine that he knew you smoked before he even asked you for a date, so it seems silly to try to change you after you became a couple. Also, why did you feel you had to give up for him? He is simp... (read in full...)
Is it possible that this guy could have liked me?
Q. Could this guy have liked me? I went to a pub , and he looked at me a few times. When my friend, who was sat next to me was talking, he leaned sideways to look at me a couple of times (he was sat on another table and my friend was blocking his view ...
A. 8 November 2010: I looked at a woman when I was shopping in Tesco yesterday. She looked at me too. Is it possible she could have liked me?
I might go back to the store at the same time next weeek. I might get to look at her, looking at me!
On the train on the way ... (read in full...)
Is a girl more attractive when she plays games?
Q. Does anyone agree that playing games spices up a relationship? I was with a guy for almost 3 years... we lived together 2 years and had spoken of marriage. One day we had a small argument and I came home from work and all of his stuff was gone. I ...
A. 6 November 2010: The simple answer to your question is no, in fact, a resounding no. Girls who play games are hard work, and as a guy, I would wonder why you are 'playing' at a relationship. I would question whether you are worth the effort. Relationships need to be ... (read in full...)
How important are blow jobs in a relationship?
Q. Gentlemen, Guys, thank you for your time. Thesis research your age/months-years in relationship, please. On a scale of 1 to 10 how important are blowjobs in a serious relationship? Is it preferred to regular sex? Do you consider it an act of love ...
A. 5 November 2010: In a serious relationship, a blow job is not any more or less important than in a casual relationship. It is something that both parties need to discover and discuss. I would say that any man who 'demands' a blow job and threatens wo walk away if he ... (read in full...)
Everyone thinks I am a man when I go out in public
Q. For about the past year and a half, when I go out in pulbic people think I am a man. They will say it under their breath as I walk by, "That's a man..." or stare at me for long periods of time, concluding that I am a transvestite. I wear dresses ...
A. 5 November 2010: I thinks Odds has a point about your walk. It might be that you simply carry yourself in a slightly aggressive manner, i.e. legs pumping, arms swinging. Your walk could be what makes people think you are male.
Wear 2 inch heels, and try to soft... (read in full...)
Is it really right to strike someone in this situation?
Q. I was surprised and a bit shocked by some of the responses to A recent post about a guy wanting to know if women found it attractive when a guys junk happens to show. Several of the women say that they would slap the guy in the face if his junk ...
A. 21 October 2010: How on earth can a man have his penis and/or balls on display by accident? BY ACCIDENT??? Hahahaha!!! Come on now.
I'm in my mid forties, and even after all this time, I would KNOW if I was hanging outside of my jeans or trousers, simply by the ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell me about this girl he turned down?
Q. my bf and i have been together for 6 years. I recently travelled and he started a new course at a new uni and made a couple friends. one of them was this girl who out of the blue told him that she likes him regardless of the fact that she knew about ...
A. 16 October 2010: He didnt say anything because he dealt with the situation. I'm not entirely sure why this is such a huge issue, unless there is far more to it than you have said.
In the six years that you have been together, I'm sure that guys have hit on you, if n... (read in full...)
So sad...
Q. Hi I need advice as i have no one to confide in My husband had a year an a half affair with a workmate 5 years ago. We did not have sex very often because of me, i was suffering depression after my children and i think he felt regected and ver...
A. 15 October 2010: This is indeed so sad. The first point I would like you to consider is that none of what happened is your fault. A real good man, an understanding and loving husband, would not cheat on his wife under any circumstances. You were suffering from ... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 14 October 2010: Yes this does sound a lot like a rant. It also sounds like you really want to know why your ex continued to watch porn despite your best efforts to be his 'everything'.
Real women are more than enough for real men. My real women have had brea... (read in full...)
I am just so tired of being so lonely, and feeling so undesirable.
Q. My husband and I have had many problems in our marriage, we have been married 30 years, and the past 15 years, we have not had sex. I got tired of being turned down, so I let it go. Due to recent things that have happened in my life, I told him I ...
A. 14 October 2010: I put this question on my 'watch' list to see what answers you received. It is a very sad question, but as I get older this situation seems to become more common.
30 years is a really long time. I imagine that both you and your husband have beco... (read in full...)
Boyfriend ejaculates but doesn't orgasm. Any suggestions?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the past 6 months and we are having problems in the bedroom. He has never had an orgasm, he still ejaculates but he doesn't orgasm. I didn't even know that they were two different things until I met him. ...
A. 11 October 2010: I'm not too sure what your perception of a mans orgasm is. If your boyfriend is ejaculating with you, there is no need to worry. A man ejaculates BECAUSE he has an orgasm.
Just as a woman has involuntary pelvic floor muscle contractions, among her ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this work situation? My FWB blabbed!
Q. I recently had a few sexual experiences with a Dr at our hospital, I am a nurse. We don't talk a lot, although he is pretty flirty when I see him he is still hard to read outside of work, also I told him in the beginning I only wanted "friends with ...
A. 7 October 2010: Hold your horses a moment. Why is he suddenly gone from being good enough to be your 'no strings' sex buddy to being a jerk? Same man, same face, same casual attitude to sex as you. But now he's a jerk because he was also seeing someone else, and he ... (read in full...)
We broke up, I slept with his friend
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me,just up and left.A week later i slept with his friend.We got back together a couple days after that. I told him what happened,and he still can't forgive me and hates me everyday for it. I dont know if we are going to ...
A. 4 October 2010: Ouch.
Firstly, I think you have to decide if YOU think the relationship is important enough to fight for. Your actions suggest that you didn't understand WHY he left, and simply slept with his friend out of anger and bitterness.
Secon... (read in full...)
Don't men sometimes lose their erection because of the girl?
Q. My boyfriend is in his late forties, I am a few years younger. He sometimes loses his erection, and today he lost it as soon as I removed my clothes. We had already been doing it and then bam, it was gone. The timing made me feel like it was ...
A. 26 September 2010: Oh no Marielana! Its not you, you poor thing. Please dont think that way.
You are blaming yourself for something that many of us men suffer from in middle age, something that is never, ever, ever, related to the way a woman looks.
It is hard to ... (read in full...)
I think he is a bit put off that I'm a tad taller than him! anyone been in this situation?
Q. So I met this guy a few weeks ago... we hit it off immediately, we have loads in common and he's such a great guy in everyway, he can make me laugh till im practically crying and i feel so at ease with him (Normally i get so nervous that i can't ...
A. 25 September 2010: I am 6'2", and I once dated a girl who was a statuesque 6'4", and loved her heels.
She was always worried about her height compared to her boyfriends, but just couldn't bring herself to wear flat shoes. It really doesn't matter about height, what... (read in full...)
Did I ruin his pride or is sex all he wanted?
Q. I been talking to this guy for a couple of months.he has really been nice he never made a move on me or anything. when im alone i can call him no matter what time it is.we eventually had sex a week ago and it was horrible he came within 3min and i ...
A. 25 September 2010: Well after a couple of months of not making a move, you need to ask yourself how the sex came about. Was it a joint decision, or did you decide to reward him for his sweetness and niceness? If he wasnt pushy, what makes you believe he only wanted ... (read in full...)
Heartbroken by a jealous husband
Q. I have been a good woman. I never cheated on him. He was my first love, my first (and only) sex, my first everything. I have loved him for eight years. And I did not deserve this. The culmination of these years, is one year of calm and seven ...
A. 14 September 2010: You need to be aware of the warning signs here. You dont need to take action, but be very aware.
This man is a control freak, and his love for you borders on the obsessive. He cannot control how he feels about you - so he is trying to control YOU ... (read in full...)
I don't like when the guy I have been seeing for 4 months just shows up at my door!
Q. I am dating a guy for the last 4 months. I feel like he is already trying to mark his territory. Gave me two teddy bears with his colone sent.. three pictures of him on a frame. He left his toothbrush with his name labled. Now he is starting to ...
A. 4 September 2010: Sounds like you have found a 'needy' male. I think you need to set some ground rules fairly sharp.
If you are used to having your own space, then this must seem like a total invasion of your privacy. I don't think that the time factor is such a huge... (read in full...)
He doesn't love me enough to leave his children
Q. If your married lover says that he doesn't love you enough to walk out on his children,does that mean he never will?...
A. 4 September 2010: Yes.
You have probably been told before, but affairs are sordid times, full of lies and deception, and based on sex and excitement. Love and commitment rarely enter the world of affairs. What he said is just another way of telling you where you stan... (read in full...)
Ladies: am I too small?
Q. K to understand how I am asking this question understand how I am approaching this topic. I am a 25-year-old male B/F American who has done some good and some bad thus far in his life. My character has been labeled as respected, honorable, dependab...
A. 2 September 2010: Young man, please stop worrying about yourself. All I will say is that if it works, and can do the job, why worry? If a woman ever tells you during sex that she can feel nothing, then that is the time to frown. Until then, do not create a problem ... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to be bothered that we don't have that much sex. I don't want to have to keep going after it.
Q. hi all my partner and i have been together for two and a half years now and over the past year or so we have been having less and less sex. I am someone who loves sex and it seems my partner doesnt. we are still young (he is 20 and i will be on su...
A. 1 September 2010: After two and a half years, I would have thought that the two of you could talk about anything. The key is talking, not keeping quiet and simmering with frustration.
If you love sex, then tell him. Dont just HOPE he will notice somehow. If you want... (read in full...)
I have a son with my married lover and now he has cut off all communication with us since his wife found out about the affair!
Q. i have had a lover for 28 years. he has 3 sons with his wife and 1 son with me. i stayed away from him for about 6 years and now he has come back into my life. i am 55 and no one ever wanted to date me. except him. Anyway his wife just found out ...
A. 1 September 2010: It is difficult to stay neutral in cases like these, my natural instinct is to blame the lover and the cheating spouse for destroying the general equilibrium.
When you first started your affair, you were in your pomp, a woman at her most attr... (read in full...)
He refuses to touch me down there but I don't want to have shame and limitations in my sex life!
Q. Hi there, This is the first time I am asking for help with the sex problem. I would really appreciate your help guys and girls. My boyfriend and I have been together for about couple of month but we have been friends for a year before that. We a...
A. 30 August 2010: Sex is such a personal subject for each of us that sometimes we lose perception of what great sex really is. There are questions here where men complain about women not giving blow jobs, or swallowing, not giving in to anal, and for having the sheer ... (read in full...)
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