How can I convince my fiance to stop lying?
Q. Hello and thank you So I’m dealing with lies from my fiancé. I have confronted him and told him I don’t appreciate when he lies to me and it makes me not trust him. For example I’ll ask him so how was your night, what did you do? He will say...
A. 24 November 2019: You ask "How can I trust him if he lies all the time"?
You cant, and why would you want to? He is a liar. That's it, YOU cant MAKE him change.
You, however, can decide if this is good enough for you, or if this is how you want to live the... (read in full...)
Roommate took in a person who is way overstaying her welcome
Q. I moved out of the dorms last year because of shitty roommates and in with a gay guy I thought was a friend. E and I work full-time and attend school part-time. Other than him quitting jobs suddenly (he at least gets another one) and refusing to do ...
A. 17 November 2019: If you are being threatened with charges of kidnapping go to the police and tell them about your unwanted "guest"
Tell them what started out as an act of kindness has turned into you being scammed and threatened.
Your room mate is way out of li... (read in full...)
I've realised my partner is a lazy lowlife scrounger who doesn't bath frequently enough.
Q. Hey everyone what do you when you realise your partner is a lazy lowlife scrounger when I first met my partner he had a job his own flat and looked after himself that was 6 years ago fast forward to now he is a selfish scruffy low life who thinks of ...
A. 17 November 2019: Forget the guilt trip your user partner tries to put you on, he is probably more worried about having to support himself if you ever get the nous to leave.
You sleep in separate rooms, you do all the heavy lifting, you feel trapped, well, its high... (read in full...)
Would you be furious if your partner came home with a dog without consulting you?
Q. Can I ask a serious question - would you aunts be mad if your partner went and got a dog without consulting you first? Right now I am sat here absolutely raging! My partner went and got a dog last week and the thing just craps everywhere! We c...
A. 17 November 2019: Your partner certainly doesn't seem to have thought it through. Do either of you work, or both of you? Who looks after the dog then, and who cleans up after?
You and he need a long serious discussion, and if he is unwilling to budge or acknowle... (read in full...)
Should I give up on my alcoholic boyfriend?
Q. Hi. Iv been living with my boyfriend for 2 years.he is an alcoholic.he said he will never give uo drinking. Drinking is more important than me. He has met my family but doesnt want anything to actually do with them. saying they are lovely etc but ...
A. 13 November 2019: You have two choices, give up or be proactive.
Giving up is pretty much just letting the current situation continue … giving up would be giving up all chances of the life you appear to be wanting, a partner that cares about you, and is prepared... (read in full...)
Should I fade my manipulative friend out?
Q. I have been "best friends" with a woman for over 25 years. I started to notice when the bill came at dinner, or anywhere we were, she'll begin to complain about how broke she is and I'd end up either paying the entire bill or some of her ...
A. 12 November 2019: I doubt confronting her will do you much good, she sounds like the sort who will deny and demand and take charge of any conversations, so take the easy way out, just remove her from social media, block her as well, and block her phone number as ... (read in full...)
I'm so angry that he'll let his parents destroy our family
Q. Hi my husband and I are both 31 with a 4 year old daughter. Long story. I found out I was pregnant early on in the relationship and after I had lost my job. Lived with the in laws and my MIL and SIL are VERY INTERFERRING. I get post natal depression ...
A. 12 November 2019: You are in Australia. so help will be available. Your husband's family cannot just take your child.
If you were diagnosed with post natal depression go back to that doctor and ask him to refer you to a suitable counsellor for help …. he should b... (read in full...)
If I decide to quit a church associated group, how do I do that?
Q. I joined the Knights of Columbus a few years ago, and I regret it. I still believe in my Catholic Faith and I still want to attend the Catholic mass every Sunday. I just no longer wish to belong to the Knights of Columbus. When I joined,...
A. 11 November 2019: Write a letter to the person in charge, usually the President or the Chairman, resigning from the group.
Use the same wording as you would use to hand in your notice from a job, something along the lines of
I wish to let you know I am withdr... (read in full...)
My ex is a jealous, negative-minded selfish idiot in the relationship area, should I take him back?
Q. I have a tricky situation that will probably receive mixed reactions based on whether you're a dog-lover or not. Basically - I broke up with my partner a few months back. We fought at first but eventually learnt to be civil. We don't have any k...
A. 11 November 2019: Read your last sentence, it says "my ex is a jealous, negative-minded selfish idiot in the relationship area" so why on earth would you even consider getting back with him?
If its the dog you really want go get a rescue puppy to dote on.... (read in full...)
A man I have a crush on is involved with someone else
Q. First Question: To all reading this I will keep this as short as possible. I work for a supermarket chain. There is a guy who is aged 37 in work and I am aged 28. We have been friends for just a year and I developed strong feelings for him but neve...
A. 11 November 2019: This guy did the smart thing by de-friending you on facebook as soon as you told him you didn't want to be his friend anymore …. your announcement out of the blue at work was probably a shock and he may now view you as a bit of a nut job.
If he... (read in full...)
Don't like to see the signs of the girls he's been with in the past
Q. In love with my boyfriend of a year sex and love life is great but I feel like I can’t fully give my self to him he has so many back scars scratches from another or other females in the past I hate seeing him in the light with no shirt seeing other ...
A. 10 November 2019: My husband had a girls name tattooed on his groin …. from his wild and wicked teen years, it was a home done tattoo.
I met the girl in question quite a few years after they were a couple, and all her family and one of my children became good fri... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a separate SIM card for his cell phone
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, and during all those months I noticed multiple times that he has an extra SIM card in his phone cover, but I didn't ask him why does he have another phone number, I gave it time and thought that he might ...
A. 10 November 2019: It does seem odd to have a separate sim card, especially with phones being available quite cheaply these days …
There are any number of possible reasons to have the sim card, you've already asked and are not happy with the answer you received... (read in full...)
My husband's use of porn has really hurt me
Q. I am 49 year old woman, my husband is 53. He had his prostrate removed 3 years ago and we have still manage to have sex with the aid of a pump. he as looked at porn for years and I told him I think he wants the women on the screen he said he does ...
A. 10 November 2019: What do you want? You cant change your husband's attitude or behaviour so whatever you want is up to you.
You are still relatively young, just over half way through your expected lifespan, do you want to continue the rest of your life as you have... (read in full...)
Would you be scared to email someone you treated badly?
Q. if you knew that you had treated someone very badly and they left you and changed their phone number, and they lived in a different country from you and so you asked a mutual friend to contact them by email and they more or less ignored that mutual ...
A. 6 November 2019: If you treated somebody so badly that they left and changed their phone number and ignore emails from mutual friends I think you should take the hint and leave them be. If there is a legal or health reason they should be contacted as a lawyer or ... (read in full...)
I want closure from my ex. Is it wrong or silly to want to talk to him about our ending?
Q. Hi all! I have a question about a past relationship. Quick info: I am 27 and live in Nashville, I have been dating my current SO for 5 months. He is 28. It is my first healthy relationship, and I am very happy with it. The question I have ...
A. 5 November 2019: You need to realise with situations such as relationship breakups there are always three versions of what happened, your version, his version and, somewhere between those, the truth.
What are you hoping will happen if you contact him for your "cl... (read in full...)
No one seems to like my daughter
Q. My 12-year-old daughter is constantly being rejected and I'm sick of it! When she was 6 month old I sent her to an in home sitter so I could actually get work done. (I'm a medical transcriptionist). I sent her w expressed milk, cloth diapers, and ...
A. 3 November 2019: There may be a medical reason for your daughter not being accepted by other kids, take her to a pediatrician and tell them what you have written here. She may be slightly autistic, or have slight hearing problems …
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets nasty when I don't do what he wants!
Q. My boyfriend gets nasty and angry if I don't spend the night staying over with him every weekend and refuses to come over to see me and take me out for the day because I wont do what he wants which is stayover and have sex all night and day. the ...
A. 30 October 2019: I don't understand why you are even bothering, he has shown you quite clearly what he thinks of you. Take the weekend he is giving you to do something you actually enjoy, and then block his number and contact details on all your devices.
Just ... (read in full...)
I have two interviews and am not sure what to wear or how to act.
Q. i have two interviews coming up in the week , one is a group interview and the other is just with the manager im assuming . they are both for a the same retail shop but in different areas . they are also both xmas temp positions. I would really ...
A. 30 October 2019: For both interviews dress as you would if you had the job already.
Interviewers generally are aware most interviewees are nervous and will make allowances for this.
In the event you are successful in the job interview it is unlikely you wil... (read in full...)
Why does a guy have sex with 2 women in two sexual relationships? Has the first dropped the ball? Why is one not good enough?
Q. I'd like to know why and how a man can have a sexual relationship with two different women concurrently? Why isn't one enough? Does that mean he isn't attracted enough to the first one? Or doesn't love her enough? Or she isn't satisfying him? ...
A. 30 October 2019: A male friend once told me having sex meant no more than shaking hands.
So, to answer your question he is there for the sex, he isn't interested in a relationship, nor does he care much if either of the women he is having sex with wants more tha... (read in full...)
Why didnt my colleague want me going to his house?
Q. I hsd been part of a group of people out and about patrolling anf one of the men had lent me suitcase but it took a bit of time to get it back to him simply because he didn't respond. I eventually contacted his wife to who agreed for me to drop ...
A. 20 October 2019: Could be any of many reasons, maybe the house is a bit run down, maybe his wife talks too much, maybe he is embarrassed about his address, maybe his drunk elderly dad lives with them and accosts any female visitors, maybe they have a big bitey dog, ... (read in full...)
what do you do when your partner doesn’t make your children and partner a priority
Q. Hey everyone what do you do when your partner doesn’t make your children and partner a priority we split up for 3 month then we ended up getting back together because he promised things would change he has been working 7 days a week and he doesn’t ...
A. 20 October 2019: You split up, he promised certain things so you got back with him and he isn't following through on his promises ….
You might as well be single. If you want to make it work seek counselling, if he wont go with you go by yourself, ask your GP if th... (read in full...)
New boyfriend friends with former FWB
Q. Am I overreacting to be upset that new boyfriend still friends with older FWB lover? He told me they started having sex after he split from ex-wife. But once he wanted to meet up with me, he told her they would have to be friends and she agreed. ...
A. 20 October 2019: For dinner? Have you met her, if she is his friends surely he will be wanting to introduce his new girlfriend to her, isn't that what friends do?
I think he is having his cake and eating it to.
Toss this one back, and yell NEXT!
... (read in full...)
I'm a grown man and yet my mother controls my life. Help
Q. My mother hit me, threatened me, and made me break up with my girlfriend after one day. Here's what happened: Throughout my entire life my mother has disapproved of any women that I choose to bring in it. I know now that she is a classic example ...
A. 20 October 2019: Move out, even if you couch surf until you have enough money to get your own place. Get some counselling, your relationship with your mother, even if you cut her out of your life, is going to affect everything you do from here until the day you ... (read in full...)
I'm having a tough time with my new, older boyfriend.
Q. Hi There is this guy at work and for some time now he has deffinately been trying to chat me up ,the thing is im on work experience. He is probably in his 40's.A few weeks ago we went out and it got more serious and eventually soon after we ended up...
A. 12 October 2019: This guy, who is old enough to be your Dad, is playing you like a fiddle. He also appears to be trying to control you with his constant texts and phone calls and dictating what you will be doing. I am also concerned that he is making it very ... (read in full...)
Am I too old at 54 to meet any men who will want anything more than sex?
Q. I’m recently dating after a divorce . He was interested in much younger women all the time we were together and had now found one and is happy . I took quite a while on my own and felt I’d really like to meet someone special one day. However I’m ...
A. 7 October 2019: My father in law, widower, met and married a lady in her 50s and they went on to have over 30 years together.
If that is what you want then believe it is possible. But you do need to know what you want, and remember you have to kiss a lot of frogs... (read in full...)
How do I handle my frustration over my friendship with my ex?
Q. My partner and I were together for 6 years we aren't together anymore but remain close friends and still very much in one another's lives. When we were together she let me down a lot, she would lie, she cheated once, she would disappoint me as she ...
A. 6 October 2019: While you and she were part of a couple she lied, cheated, disappointed you and didn't really care for your opinion.
Why are you expecting her to suddenly become a better person now that you and she are no longer a couple?
This is who she is, s... (read in full...)
An old friend I always have feelings for has re-entered my life and reignited old feelings, now that I am on the brink of getting engaged. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I am in my 40s and have been dating a woman for the last 1.5 years. Let's call her T. She is close to my age. Neither of us have been married before. We have been speaking about marriage for a long time now and every day I consider proposing...
A. 5 October 2019: I have often heard others ask about men over the age of 40 who are not, or have never been, married.
Your story is a prime example …
man meets woman who is in same age range, she ticks all the boxes until a pretty young thing with perky boobs... (read in full...)
My partner is constantly questioning the food bill. Why do I have to always explain?
Q. Just moved in with my boyfriend, been together three years and he questions constantly the cost of the food bill. He gave me half towards the rent etc this month and £100 extra for the food bill and said that would cover his half for the whole ...
A. 5 October 2019: woo sorry, it looks like the bulk of my answer got lost in cyber space. I did ask why the job of shopping and having to explain costs etc fell to you …. share the burden of shopping and cooking and cleaning and he will (hopefully) gain a better ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went on a business trip and ghosted
Q. My boyfriend of four months left for a business trip to another state on Sunday. Everything was normal and he said he couldn't wait to see me this weekend. We usually communicate daily. However, he hasn't reached out once and all of my texts and ...
A. 5 October 2019: No, don't demean yourself by turning up at his house … what is that going to achieve for you other than a bucket full of humiliation.
Turning up at his house will also validate his treatment of you, he will be able to say to others "crazy bitch ca... (read in full...)
My partner is constantly questioning the food bill. Why do I have to always explain?
Q. Just moved in with my boyfriend, been together three years and he questions constantly the cost of the food bill. He gave me half towards the rent etc this month and £100 extra for the food bill and said that would cover his half for the whole ...
A. 4 October 2019: If you both work why is the buying of food your job alone. Who was shopping for him before you moved in, and have you started a new home or moved into his or yours?
Agree receipts need to be kept and the pair of you work on the monthly grocery ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend isnt bother by people invading her personal space.
Q. My girlfriend seems to not be bothered by people getting too close up in her personal space . When she looking for things or working she doesn't seem phase by people squeezing through her or their body brushing up against hers without even flinching ...
A. 29 September 2019: Your follow up is interesting, you agree your girlfriend isn't bothered but that you are, which makes the problem yours, not hers.
You admit you are jealous and want her to think just like you do. If that's what you want, ie a girlfriend who does... (read in full...)
My girlfriend isnt bother by people invading her personal space.
Q. My girlfriend seems to not be bothered by people getting too close up in her personal space . When she looking for things or working she doesn't seem phase by people squeezing through her or their body brushing up against hers without even flinching ...
A. 28 September 2019: I grew up in an area where there were more sheep than people, my personal space is about 4 to 5 feet, but I have learnt that to effectively work and live in society I need to over come any uncomfortable feelings I experience when people get close, ... (read in full...)
Should I go on a date with him?
Q. I met a guy on Facebook a week a go. He messaged me first saying hi and I responded and we chatted for like an hour and told him I had to sleep to wake up early the next morning. He ask me for my number and I have it to him.the next day he texted me ...
A. 28 September 2019: You met him a week ago on facebook and he is telling you what to wear??
You don't see a problem here, or with any of his actions?
You are being reckless, he sounds like bad news. Instead of listening to the little voice telling you some strange... (read in full...)
I was brought into this company to improve it, but am meeting a wall of resistance and sabotage!
Q. I recently took over a company (4 months ago) as the new managing director. It’s not a big company as it only has 10 people. I was told that the company was not in good shape but that it should be easy to turn round and had 4-5 meetings with my ...
A. 28 September 2019: Thankyou for your followup, it sounds as if your employers don't really care about the business improving. My advise is to start looking for another job.... (read in full...)
I’m married but crushing and it’s messing with my head!
Q. Just going to lay it out..I'm sure their are some that are going to say I'm a piece of crap for asking or thinking this, but it's just the shitty place I'm at in my head right now. I'm married, late 30's and have a few kids. Love my family , wife...
A. 27 September 2019: Your "crush" gets that you've been married, got kids, and while you love your family life is a bit ho hum and so she is playing with you, and the reasons could be one, or several of many possibilities.
Whichever it is she is bad news, so unless y... (read in full...)
I was brought into this company to improve it, but am meeting a wall of resistance and sabotage!
Q. I recently took over a company (4 months ago) as the new managing director. It’s not a big company as it only has 10 people. I was told that the company was not in good shape but that it should be easy to turn round and had 4-5 meetings with my ...
A. 27 September 2019: First up all staff attend a Customer Service Skills course, a half day course, 5 in the morning and 5 in the afternoon. Ensure there is a mix of people so roles are covered in the workplace. You attend both course and note the willing ... (read in full...)
Just because I blocked him doesn’t mean I’m still stuck on him, right?
Q. So, my ex and I broke up two years ago! We’re together about 2 years. It was a very toxic relationships. He never left me alone! Him and I would break up he would show up at my job. Or he would put things on my car when I was at home. He is...
A. 23 September 2019: I remember your first letter to Dear Cupid, and at least one after that. From memory he broke up with you for somebody else and then changed his mind and started stalking you.
I don't know the laws about US military but Wise Owl's advise seems sp... (read in full...)
Should I quietly delete him?
Q. I think i know what people will advise but its better that i hear it from other people and their views. I joined a dating site 4 month ago met a man had a few dates then he decided he wanted to be single he had split from his girlfriend 5 months ...
A. 19 September 2019: Yes, he has you on hold. Delete him and yell out NEXT!... (read in full...)
Should I leave my marriage because of my husband's attitude towards his baby mama?
Q. This may not be the site to ask this question as some people do not believe in God. I believe there is a God and there is of course the devil. My Christianity has not been up to par and there were times I dealt with psychic before even a pundit. ...
A. 16 September 2019: What country are you in, the church with the intercessor sounds wacky … and the stuff about witch craft is not something I would expect to hear in any Christian church I know of.
You husband has a child other than with you, its best for that chi... (read in full...)
Why hasn't my crush ever sent me a friend request on facebook?
Q. I met this girl about a year ago through class. Both of us were in relationships at the time but there was attraction, I would even say she had a major crush on me but she was very shy. I was going to break up with my partner and leave my number ...
A. 14 September 2019: She hasn't sent a friend request because she doesn't want to be your facebook friend. It's that simple.
I doubt she is hoping you will send a request, the suggested list is something facebook does based on mutual friends and also what you look... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I went away together for a whole week and nothing happened sexually
Q. If you went away with your partner and you didn’t do anything in bed, would you consider that normal? It was a whole week and I never been so stressed, trying to plan things, make sure it’s all right, so it would of been nice to be intimate in our ...
A. 12 September 2019: There are so many variables here, so please excuse the questions but I'm just trying for a bit of the back story.
Do you currently live together, as you refer to her as your partner. Was the week away in the posh hotel planned by you both or did o... (read in full...)
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