My foster child refuses to attend school.
Q. I have a 10 year old foster child who refuses to got school. I work in the day and cannot leave the child home alone. The foster care agency I am with allows youths to refuse school at any age. I don’t want to give her back she’s a sweet c...
A. 9 January 2020: Education is compulsory in the US. No foster agency would risk their licence by opening encouraging foster parents to break the law.
Sometimes it can take many months for a doctor or psychiatrist to build a rapport with children patients... (read in full...)
My foster child refuses to attend school.
Q. I have a 10 year old foster child who refuses to got school. I work in the day and cannot leave the child home alone. The foster care agency I am with allows youths to refuse school at any age. I don’t want to give her back she’s a sweet c...
A. 9 January 2020: I'M CALLING BS ON THIS POST!... (read in full...)
I'm a single mother unhappy at having to live with my parents.
Q. I’m in desperate need of help, I’ve been with my baby daddy for 5 years. On and off he’s put me through a lot We have been through so many things. The reason why I keep getting back with him is because I wanted to give our 3 year old son the best ...
A. 9 January 2020: Forget the dead beat dad, he has already proven himself to be totally useless at parenting, especially after 3 years and still unemployed and living with HIS parents.
Your parents obviously care for you, even if you do feel they are constant... (read in full...)
My foster child refuses to attend school.
Q. I have a 10 year old foster child who refuses to got school. I work in the day and cannot leave the child home alone. The foster care agency I am with allows youths to refuse school at any age. I don’t want to give her back she’s a sweet c...
A. 9 January 2020: what country are you in that permits children in care to not attend school?
Are they not there to ensure children are given the very best possible care, which would include access to schooling.
You may need to take some time off work, in UK ... (read in full...)
I feel like quitting on my famiily.
Q. Dear Cupid, I grew in a large family with 5 siblings. My mum had a career as a nurse and dad demanded she quit her work to look after is which she resented him for. Dad insisted he would provide for us but struggled to do so. But this was not the...
A. 8 January 2020: Oh your poor mum, it sounds like she may have been bullied for much of her adult life.
Help her move out of there, find her somewhere secure and nice to live, close enough so that everybody can visit and make her feel loved and comforta... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman calls a man "doll"
Q. Can someone help me understand the meaning of the world "doll"? I am not a native English speaker. My grammar is good but I have trouble understanding some slang. Maybe someone here can help me. When I was backpacking in Australia not long ago, I ...
A. 8 January 2020: I'm Australian, and older. I don't call anybody "Darl" but I know lots of people who do, and the different accents (different states), can sometimes make it sound like doll.
Slightly younger women DO use the word "doll" … it doesn't mean anything... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned that he really isn't into communication when we aren't together?
Q. I’ve just started dating a man but I can’t tell how into me he is. We’ve had around 10 dates and spent days together in between. We’ve spoken about how neither of us want to rush into things and are both happy taking our time getting to know ...
A. 7 January 2020: I cant see anything here to be concerned about, assuming he works its not always possible to answer straight away … he is there to do his job not respond to your texts.
Not everybody is into texting, if he phones you for a 30 minute conversa... (read in full...)
How can I tell him his teeth need sorting?
Q. Got bk in contact with an ex , he used to have a nice set of teeth but 2 yrs on hes lost quite a few to be honest hes lost the front and half the back. I'm not stuck up or snotty but hes let himself rot ( I know about his lifestyle) not the best. ...
A. 4 January 2020: He is a grown up, he knows his teeth are rotten, it doesn't matter if YOU want him to better himself but really that is up to him.
It would appear that if you are going to support him no matter what you are going to have to support him toothles... (read in full...)
I have never put myself first and I'm at a time in life where I'm exhausted
Q. Is my tactics going to work? I want to stop doing the chores and paying the bills, cooking, feeding the cat, cleaning his litter… because I’m the only one doing that. My husband is lazy and he doesn’t even see it because he’s ADHD and does ONLY wha...
A. 4 January 2020: Seek legal advice and then get out of the relationship. He is not going to change, you already know that.... (read in full...)
The affair ended when I became jealous that she had sex with her husband but I love her and want her back
Q. I have no interest in anything since my affair with a woman I cared deeply for ended. I had an affair for over a year with my cousins wife months before the affair I was attracted to this woman she made my heart race and made me imagine life in ...
A. 2 January 2020: You need to show this lady how serious you are so the first thing is to end your marriage ….. make sure you look after your wife financially, as is the honourable thing to do.
Then ask your cousin for advise on how to get his wife to leave hi... (read in full...)
I didnt get an answer, should I approach him again?
Q. Hi, male in my late fiftys, always been by curious, never been with a male before, a woman friend has a gay friend,well I ask him straight up, if he interested in having sex , told him I was a virgin, he said he has been, staying away from sex for ...
A. 1 January 2020: No! He has politely brushed you off, quite frankly your approach is assuming and intrusive. If you are so keen to try sex with another male find a male prostitute and pay for it. At least that way the other participant will be getting something ... (read in full...)
I didnt get an answer, should I approach him again?
Q. Hi, male in my late fiftys, always been by curious, never been with a male before, a woman friend has a gay friend,well I ask him straight up, if he interested in having sex , told him I was a virgin, he said he has been, staying away from sex for ...
A. 1 January 2020: No! He has politely brushed you off, quite frankly your approach is assuming and intrusive. If you are so keen to try sex with another male find a male prostitute and pay for it. At least that way the other participant will be getting something ... (read in full...)
My ex and I remain friends, he has invited me to a family party.
Q. my ex and I dated for two years we have been broken up for a year now we still remain friends and hang out almost everyday he has invited me to a family party what should I expect...
A. 31 December 2019: I'm not sure what you mean by what to expect, but I am sure, if he is the same age range as you, that his family are aware you have been invited and, unless there is something you haven't told us about them, that you will be welcome.
It sounds l... (read in full...)
What is this girl doing? Is she into me or not?
Q. This girl at college stares at me a lot. Ive walked over to her while with her friends a couple of times to make conversation but I ended up speaking with her friends and she walks off, not instantly but usually pretty soon after. She has the mo...
A. 31 December 2019: She's got a boyfriend, when asked to meet up she said she's not free, what do you think?
I think you are reading more into than really exists. She's blown you off and its time for you to move on.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend acts single and doesn't respect me.
Q. Hello My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now. I’m having issues because his social media. He brings his exes to it a lot. Particularly one that I caught him having an emotional affair. As well as a bunch of flirting. He...
A. 30 December 2019: Only you can decide how much of his drama and disrespect you are going, or supposed, to take.
As long as there are no consequences for his actions he will continue.
Have you tried telling him how his actions make you feel? It may be time for ... (read in full...)
I found out my husband is cheating, I want to be able to do the same.
Q. Question 1 ive been with my husband for 10yrs we both did our share of cheating and I thought we were passed it I promised to never cheat again I recently found out he still cheating but here I stay but now that I know his secret how can I tell him ...
A. 30 December 2019: Why are you even married if this is the way you both are. What are the benefits of marriage?
I honestly don't understand.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't like my new hair colour.
Q. ive been with my partner for twenty years when I met him I was natural brunette but now im in my mid forties got a few greys and I changed my hair to blonde which everyone likes my family and friends and I get much more attention. Most importantly I ...
A. 30 December 2019: Your husband might be a man who simply doesn't like change, or he might be the sort who lacks self confidence and doesn't want you to be blonde or looking good or younger because it throws him in a different light.
We don't know you husband ... (read in full...)
Why did my husband go my sister-in-law's house when he knows I dislike her?
Q. Let me give you a little background first before asking the question. My husband and i live in city A, his brother and his wife live in city B, and all our parents are based in city C. We wre all currently in city C with our our respective paren...
A. 30 December 2019: He went there because he was invited to spend time with his brother and his brother's family.
You even acknowledge your questions makes you sound petty …. I agree with you, it does make you sound petty. I would also add juvenile.
Your sister i... (read in full...)
My Ex Girlfriend has told me the only person who will raise our son is her.
Q. The mother of my child and my ex girlfriend got a new boyfriend. We’ve been broke up since October 28, of last year. So roughly 14 months ago. About, May of that time period, only a month or two after our son was born. We were at my senior ...
A. 29 December 2019: Oops, hit enter before I finished. You need to clearly demonstrate you take your parental duties seriously and intend being in it for the long haul.
Do you have parents who will be able to support you through this?
Its going to be very hard ... (read in full...)
My Ex Girlfriend has told me the only person who will raise our son is her.
Q. The mother of my child and my ex girlfriend got a new boyfriend. We’ve been broke up since October 28, of last year. So roughly 14 months ago. About, May of that time period, only a month or two after our son was born. We were at my senior ...
A. 29 December 2019: The only good thing in your situation is the fact your ex girlfriend and the baby are still living with her parents, hopefully they are able to add some stability to the child's life.
You are very immature to be a parent. The first time you left... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated, and I don't know how to rebuild the trust.
Q. Hello, I have been with my partner just over a year. We were work colleagues for around 6 months prior to that, and our relationship didn't start in the best way - my then boyfriend was working away and I had an affair with current boyfrien...
A. 28 December 2019: Your actions don't match your words, while you are stressing how important trust is in a relationship you actually were cheating on a boyfriend while having an affair with this guy.
You are also upset about him lying about having sex with somebody... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend inconsiderate or am I overreacting?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles and happy holidays! I have a question and trying to figure out if I’m over reacting. My boyfriend of 10 months was supposed to spend the Christmas afternoon with me, I’m 37 and he is 45. He was invited to his friend’s...
A. 27 December 2019: Yes, he is inconsiderate, and also incapable of putting himself in your shoes. An empathetic person would understand him attending dinner with your parents is important. He is also, very effectively, showing you exactly where you sit on his list ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend inconsiderate or am I overreacting?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles and happy holidays! I have a question and trying to figure out if I’m over reacting. My boyfriend of 10 months was supposed to spend the Christmas afternoon with me, I’m 37 and he is 45. He was invited to his friend’s...
A. 27 December 2019: Yes, he is inconsiderate, and also incapable of putting himself in your shoes. An empathetic person would understand him attending dinner with your parents is important. He is also, very effectively, showing you exactly where you sit on his list ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going away for a month, how do I get through this?
Q. My boyfriend will be going away for a month soon. I can't go. I am worried he will cheat on me. I fear I will not be able to cope with the constant anxiety and stress about what he is doing. Can anyone provide tips on how to stay SANE? An entire ...
A. 24 December 2019: A month?
I'm thinking of people who are regularly away from home, families and loved ones for a month …. or more. And not always for a ordinarily recognised important reason, like the defence forces for example, but others, people whose jobs are ... (read in full...)
How do I win my AWOL husband back?
Q. Hi I am at my wits end and I don’t know what to do. My husband and I have been separated for years but I’m still in love with him. He won’t divorce me but he’s now moved abroad and aplenty living with somebody. Before he moved away we would meet up ...
A. 21 December 2019: There is no way of "winning" him back, and if you and he have been separated for nine years and people have been telling you for that whole time to "move on" I just want to take you by the shoulders and give you a shake.
He isn't coming back, an... (read in full...)
How do I win my AWOL husband back?
Q. Hi I am at my wits end and I don’t know what to do. My husband and I have been separated for years but I’m still in love with him. He won’t divorce me but he’s now moved abroad and aplenty living with somebody. Before he moved away we would meet up ...
A. 21 December 2019: I'm sorry but you can't get him back.
He doesn't love you, he doesn't care if you still love him, he has moved on. He has a new woman and a new life in a new country, he is not going to miss you or realise anything …. not until its too late for... (read in full...)
My estranged husband is still trying to rule my life.
Q. My "estranged" husband is always trying to keep tabs on me and I feel like it's an invasion of my privacy. We are separated and no longer live together. We have a young child (under 10) who lives with me and will stay with him on the occasional w...
A. 5 December 2019: If you want your ex to get over his sense of entitlement as far as what you are doing and with whom is concerned you need to formalise arrangements between the two of you.
While its nice to think he feels welcome enough to drop in and have din... (read in full...)
I've been tracking my wife via her phone and she lies about where she has been.
Q. I’ve had suspicions my wife has been cheating on me for some time. There were signs all over the place that I just couldn’t ignore. In the end I decided to track her day to day using the ‘Find my iPhone’ app whilst I was at work and the kids were at ...
A. 5 December 2019: You could take a day off work and go knock on the door or you could do the mature thing and start the conversation …. ask her why she seems distant and confess (yes confess) about spying on her movements. She what she answers.
She might be cheat... (read in full...)
Why am I being treated different to the other's in the friends group?
Q. I’m not sure what to make of this but i know I don’t feel good about it and wonder if there’s something I did that led to this: I’m part of a group of four friends... one of the friends (A) just purchased a new place, and was telling me about...
A. 2 December 2019: I would change countries to avoid confrontation, so maybe another email is in order
Using your own words just say you have noticed the others in the group have been given her new address and been asked not to share it with you …. have you don't so... (read in full...)
Is my wife exaggerating everything just to try and make me feel bad?
Q. Last week my wife injured her pinky toe after we (her being barefoot and me with shoes on) clipped each other's feet as we walked past each other. It was a freak accident. She was in a lot of pain and there was a bit of blood. At first she was ...
A. 2 December 2019: Maybe. Maybe she is exaggerating to make you feel bad, and maybe it was a case of her believing the toe was breaking and so therefor she convinced herself it hurt.
Such things are possible. Only she knows the true answer.... (read in full...)
We both have children, he wants us to live together but his children need more help!
Q. I love my boyfriend of one year. He would do anything for me and appears to want this relationship more than ever. We've been spending a lot of time together over the months and hes ready to start living together. I dont think its too soon but i ...
A. 2 December 2019: No! Why put your kids into a situation where they are hit and kicked on a regular basis? No. Why do that to your children, furthermore I think you should ask your boyfriend why he thinks you should deliberately be putting your children into a ... (read in full...)
I think this girl was just using me!
Q. at work, a female joined and she seem quite friendly and we got to know each other. she wasn’t with the company for long as she was going back to college. when I messaged her to ask what course she was doing and if she might come back to work in the ...
A. 1 December 2019: You are owed nothing! You are owed nothing! The girl was in a new workplace and was friendly, which makes for a happier, more cohesive workplace.
You have a skewed view of people and relationships and I suggest you discuss this with your GP or th... (read in full...)
I cant stand up to my wife when it comes to money.
Q. I don't know how to stand up to my wife when it comes to money. She literally spends a fortune on things and activities we just don't need to do and no matter how much I try to put money away for a rainy day, we always end up with nothing at the end ...
A. 1 December 2019: I think "youcannotbeserious" suggestion about telling her to be in charge of paying for the Disney trip is a good one, and don't bail her out!!
If words aren't having any effect then maybe that will.
The kids will get over it.... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with my ex who is married to someone else.
Q. Hello everyone, so I'm in a situation that I've never been in one before. And I don't know where to start so I'm going to try to keep it as short as possible. I have a daughter that is 8 years old. Her father and I have been split up since...
A. 1 December 2019: Ask him what his wife thinks about him withdrawing from his marriage and sons to have sex with you and play happy families.
He is a cheater, wants to get you pregnant again to keep you close, he is such a good father he didn't even see his chil... (read in full...)
I think this girl was just using me!
Q. at work, a female joined and she seem quite friendly and we got to know each other. she wasn’t with the company for long as she was going back to college. when I messaged her to ask what course she was doing and if she might come back to work in the ...
A. 1 December 2019: I think you read more into this girl than there was. It sounds to me she was friendly when she was at work and you took it for more. Lots of people add others to their social media without being close friends with them, she answered your initial ... (read in full...)
I cant stand up to my wife when it comes to money.
Q. I don't know how to stand up to my wife when it comes to money. She literally spends a fortune on things and activities we just don't need to do and no matter how much I try to put money away for a rainy day, we always end up with nothing at the end ...
A. 30 November 2019: Hard call. I would personally consider cutting off her access to the credit cards and bank accounts until the Disney trip is paid for.
You don't say how old the children are but maybe its time she looked at getting a job so she can pay for the ... (read in full...)
I don't want my MIL in the delivery room!
Q. I've been with my husband for over a decade, we've been married for 7 years and have one child so far and one on the way. Over the years, my mother in law has made several disrespectful comments about my mom and some of my other family members. She ...
A. 30 November 2019: You are the one giving birth, you are the one who is going to have all her private parts on full display, you are the one who needs to be comfortable in the delivery room.
If you don't want your mother in law in the delivery room with you make sur... (read in full...)
I think this girl was just using me!
Q. at work, a female joined and she seem quite friendly and we got to know each other. she wasn’t with the company for long as she was going back to college. when I messaged her to ask what course she was doing and if she might come back to work in the ...
A. 30 November 2019: What was she using you for? Free lunches, did you carry her heavy handbag, did she manipulate you into giving information that would help her with promotions?
If you can tell us what she used you for then we will be able to better answer your que... (read in full...)
What do you do with an acquaintance who is just plain cheap and also invites herself?
Q. What do you do with an acquaintance who is just plain cheap and also invites herself? She and I see each other all the time because we're in the same homeschool group where our children go on field trips to the same places. Also, our children are in ...
A. 30 November 2019: I would be very uncomfortable sitting down to a meal in a group if one of the group could not afford to buy food but instead nibbled on complimentary bread sticks …. going somewhere for a meal that I don't have to prepare or clean up after is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seemed understanding that I developed two crushes, and that I want closure from one of them.
Q. This summer I had a full-time internship that took up most of my time during the week and I had long, early hours. My boyfriend of 5 years and I couldn't see each other as often as we wanted since I lived at a dorm, he lived pretty far away, and I ...
A. 26 November 2019: Closure from a crush? Contacting a crush while you are in a relationship with another man (your boyfriend), to see if he was crushing on you at the same time?
Are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life with your boyfriend, wanting ... (read in full...)
My wife wont wear a bra when people are over.
Q. Not sure how I should feel about my wife and her feeling nudity is only a problem if your looking at it sexually .. I find it disrespectful if someone is over and she doesn’t have a bra on or is t fully clothed .. am I over reacting?...
A. 25 November 2019: Is your wife bare chested when people come over, or simply wearing a shirt with no bra underneath? You questions hasn't really made that clear. You might need to let us know what you consider "fully clothed" … I have an Aunt who considers anybody ... (read in full...)
My GF is not a virgin but want have sex with me until we marry.
Q. I am dating a girl who is 40 years old , it’s almost two months . We have great chemistry but I have one issue. She don’t want to have sex until we marry. She is not virgin ( someone raped her ) I don’t think she has to refuse sex If she is not ...
A. 25 November 2019: Nobody OWES you sex just because they are not a virgin, nobody. You are not entitled to sex just because you have been dating somebody for two months who is not a virgin. Hell no!
Your girlfriend's body is hers to decide who she has sex with... (read in full...)
How can I convince my fiance to stop lying?
Q. Hello and thank you So I’m dealing with lies from my fiancé. I have confronted him and told him I don’t appreciate when he lies to me and it makes me not trust him. For example I’ll ask him so how was your night, what did you do? He will say...
A. 24 November 2019: You ask "How can I trust him if he lies all the time"?
You cant, and why would you want to? He is a liar. That's it, YOU cant MAKE him change.
You, however, can decide if this is good enough for you, or if this is how you want to live the... (read in full...)
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