She loves me but she doesn't want to date!
Q. dear cupid im a 27yr old male and i meet this girl whos 22 we dated twice which i broke up her the first time cause i felt i wasnt ready to date and i think thats because i had just had got a divorce from my ex-wife, we stayed in touch after that...
A. 27 May 2010: Slow down! Yes of course she wants to get a place together! That way she can move out of her parents house and into yours and do what she want - in front of you - with other guys! Is this what you want? First of all you admitted that you ... (read in full...)
I'm too controlling in this relationship, please help!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, since I was 16 and now am 20 going on 21 and we live together now. I have always been "the boss", perhaps I can say... In my relationship! meaning that, its mostly all about me. I am a very bitchy mean ...
A. 27 May 2010: Let me start by saying that you are moving in the right direction. You have already identified a big part of the problem. Your behavior is learned - think about where you learned that, from whom you've learned that - is that the way you want to be? ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with being pregnant...help, its driving me mad!
Q. Hey, I hope you can help me out with my situation. During last summer, I 'thought' I was pregnant with my boyfriend's (now ex's) baby. My periods became abnormally light and irregular, I always felt bloated, felt faint, was urinating more o...
A. 27 May 2010: Consider this - having a child is a 18 year chunk out of your life. Is this what you want? Consider this - you thought you were pregnant with your now-ex's baby - you would be raising that baby by yourself with no dad (getting a girl pregnant does ... (read in full...)
Should we be together longer before we move in together?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 months, and in a months time hes looking for his own place and wants me to live with him, i stay at his at the weekend, and sometimes stay at his for 3-5 days at a time, and we get along fine, we've never ...
A. 26 May 2010: Um...the question that really begs to be asked here is why are younot using protection or birth control? You hardly know this guy - why would you risk a pregnancy?... (read in full...)
Any good advice on how to handle an alcoholic, my nerves are frayed?
Q. hi i'll keep this as short as i can,three years ago my father inlaw died.my wife of sixteen years took it really bad and started drinking.my father inlaw left her a substantial amount of money .when this came to her she got progressivley ...
A. 23 May 2010: In my opinion YOUR SON should be your man concern. Not her. Let her hit bottom - she is the only one who can see her way out or not. Not you. If you have AA in your country try going to Al-anon to help you learn how to deal with her and ... (read in full...)
Husband erupting over the silliest things, what can I do to help??
Q. My husband and I have been married for 9 years. I can't even ask him a question about the simplest things without him making me feel like I shouldn't have asked. I asked him to slow down in a neighborhood because he was doing 50 miles an hour. ...
A. 23 May 2010: Dear Alberto - is this new behavior?... (read in full...)
How do I improve myself and be more attractive, please help?
Q. I know this is going to make me sound like a complete tw@t but I'm really shallow, the thingg is I'm not even really very attractive myself, does anybody know how to stop this?? Any help would be apreciated x...
A. 23 May 2010: Frankly I think it's a maturity thing. Most of us are shallow until we start relating to others on the same level. Try to give it some time. ... (read in full...)
Have a boyfriend, but dream of other boys, is this normal?
Q. hi,i have a boyfriend that i love very much.when i am with him,it's amazing,when i am not,i badly miss him.the problem comes at night,when i have dreams with other boys of my surrounding all the time.and the other day when i see them i feel a small ...
A. 23 May 2010: Relax Helen - this is normal. You personally are not in charge of your dreams. It has NOTHING to do with you as a person. Ok? Relax. ... (read in full...)
Need ideas on how to impress a girl two years younger than I?
Q. How do you impress a girl that's 2 years younger than you? ...
A. 23 May 2010: Hi Phill! No worries! Don't bother about tyring to "impress" her. Just be yourself. Be nice. Compliment her. It's really that simple. ... (read in full...)
Any way that I would get pregnant doing this with a guy??
Q. i was with a guy and he was lying on me and putting his hand between my leg and coming closer to my vigina would i get pregnant....
A. 23 May 2010: No this cannot make you pregnant. More importantly is this guy your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
Living with and loving my cousin but now he likes someone else!
Q. >ok,so, i have a problem,I'm in love with my cousin,i live in the same house as he does his 18 and I'm 24 yrs old, i live with my 2 aunts, and the thing is that i don't look 24 i look like I'm 17 or 18, OK it all started one day wen we decided ...
A. 20 May 2010: Ok - so I see you are back for the third time. I told you this would go down hill. Your cousin does not LOVE YOU. You keep attacking him (you call it playing and wresting) he gets aroused because he's a kid/guy (BTW-I know that you know this) and ... (read in full...)
Is this normal or am I losing him?
Q. How do I know if my bf still loves me.? Lately maybe 4months ago I been notice someting wrong in my relationship my bf doesn't calls me like before and when I'm with him he seems soo bored sometimes he dosent even want to have sex. He says he's ...
A. 19 May 2010: To answer your question - no this is not normal. Find another guy.... (read in full...)
She's having sex with another but I'm still not over her!
Q. I'm sorry if this has been asked before. I've recently split from my girlfriend but we still live together cos I can't afford to move out yet. Anyways she goes out the other night with het "friends" but she doesn't get home till 9am the next day. ...
A. 18 May 2010: Oh honey! You are going to check her phone and find stuff that you don't want to see or read! Why? What are you going to do with that information? You say confront her. Why? About what? You are split remember. And there is no way to "confront" ... (read in full...)
He didn't trust me but I never did anything wrong!
Q. Hi guys, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years but he's always had trust issues when it comes to me. I can't go out to parties without him and if my girlfriends are planning a girls night out we have to argue before i go and he will find ...
A. 18 May 2010: For now give him another chance because of what your step-sister did to him. I agree that he should have been much more up front with you but hey he didn't so you are going to have to let that go. As I said give him another chance for now and do ... (read in full...)
Is she cheating on me over the internet?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a little over 2 years. Every since we started dating she's always hidden her cell phone from me. I never thought anything of it. She's also always had a password on her computer. We've had our ...
A. 16 May 2010: If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's a duck. She may not be cheating in the traditional sense - i.e. sleeping with someone else but just the same - her attentions are elsewhere and you are unhappy about it.
YOUR QUESTION... (read in full...)
I want his love even though I don't love him
Q. okay so me and my current boyfriend have been dating on and off for 10 months...at one point i was inlove with him but after a awhile i fell out of love...i started cheating on him with different guys...i have commited so much infidelity its ...
A. 16 May 2010: Dear Idoitbetter - First and foremost PLEASE get on some easy to use and reliable -long-term, birth control. If you care to you can private message me. I have some rather personal questions for you that you may not want to answer for all to see. ... (read in full...)
He has no passion for anything
Q. My husband is emotionally unavailabe. He is passive agressive but not in a hurtful way. He never tells me "No you cant go here or do that" but when I go ahead and do things, he literally lays on the couch the whole time I'm gone and feels sorry for ...
A. 16 May 2010: Get out now! This guy is a cinder block around your neck! You said so yourself "I am at my wits end! He just refuses to try...anything...ever. My life has turned into a pit of sad disparity and lonelyness. He thinks things are great." None and I ... (read in full...)
Should I just settle for the kid?
Q. My ex and I are having a baby. She's 11 weeks gone. Now she doesn't want to get back with me at all and I recently found out that when we were together she had cheated on me. I'm so stuck I don't know what to do, do I forgive her and hope we can w...
A. 16 May 2010: If she cheated on you is it possible that the baby is not yours? ... (read in full...)
Did he lie about using a condom?
Q. I recently met my childhood crush in the park. He had grown to be rather handsome, and I sat next to him talking about memories. He then asked who I had liked in college, I said he was my sweetheart. He then cupped my face and snogged me, then asked ...
A. 16 May 2010: Are you sure you are pregnant by him? To answer your question "What shall I do?" My gut reaction is to tell you to get to a clinic immediately if not sooner. This cad has already made it abundantly clear that he is not interested in you or your ... (read in full...)
She's having sex with another but I'm still not over her!
Q. I'm sorry if this has been asked before. I've recently split from my girlfriend but we still live together cos I can't afford to move out yet. Anyways she goes out the other night with het "friends" but she doesn't get home till 9am the next day. ...
A. 16 May 2010: Deal with it by moving out. Find a way. You started your question by telling us that you two had recently split - but you don't say why. That being said if you are "split" then you really don't have much say in the matter. She is no longer your ... (read in full...)
He didn't trust me but I never did anything wrong!
Q. Hi guys, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years but he's always had trust issues when it comes to me. I can't go out to parties without him and if my girlfriends are planning a girls night out we have to argue before i go and he will find ...
A. 16 May 2010: Sorry to say this dear but his behavior will only get worse. He has all the earmarks of an abuser. Right now he is trying to control you with verbal harshness - later on it may become physical. Ask yourself this - Why do you want to be with a guy ... (read in full...)
He only talks to me on the bus
Q. Would you still be friends with a guy who doesn’t ever answer your texts anymore, doesn’t care, and ignores you! I wouldn’t. The only reason I stayed friends with him was because I liked him. Not Anymore. I didn’t talk to him for a whole week. ...
A. 16 May 2010: Time to move on sweetie. This guy is not interested in you and has made that pretty clear and he's actually mean to you. You said so yourself "he makes me feel crappy." and "He makes it seem as though he doesn’t want to keep in touch." and ... (read in full...)
Is this what marriage is all about? I'm lonely!
Q. my husband goes to work at 6:00am and gets off at 10:30 pm he even offers to work weekends..i just got promoted and i work from 6-5pm i wait day after day for him to come home and when he finally does he walks in greets the dogs heads in the kitchen ...
A. 15 May 2010: You are in a tough situation and you are very young. First of all stop with the crying - men hate that and it's counterproductive. You can't cry, moan or nag him into paying attention to you. Sometimes men seek solace in work - it's an escape for ... (read in full...)
Got too drunk and don't know how to apologise
Q. help. I'm feeling so crap about myself, i got way to drunk last night. all i had was 3 drinks of vodka and my tolerance is normally way higher. i dont remeber anything but i had gone and insulted both my friends who i also live with telling one...
A. 15 May 2010: Are you sure you did not inadvertently combine some medication with your vodka? Sounds to me like some sort of reaction. But to answer your question write your friend a sincere note of apology. It's that simple. ... (read in full...)
I feel lonely and depressed. Does everyone feel like this sometimes?
Q. I sometimes feel a sense of extreme loneliness. Do all people feel like this sometimes? Even when I am in a room full of people, I feel this way. I don't know exactly what is causing this. Is it some kind of depression? Or does everyone feel this ...
A. 15 May 2010: Dear Bruce - it is very possible that you are suffering from depression. Clinical depression is not your fault but rather a brain chemical imbalance - much like diabetic has an insulin imbalance. You have already taken the first step by making an ... (read in full...)
Why didn't she ever call back?
Q. I met a girl in one of my college classes, and slowly I began talking to her more and more. After class one day she asked me if I wanted to go to dinner with her within the coming week. Unfortunately, she ended up being busy. I tried setting up ...
A. 15 May 2010: You sound like a nice guy so don't be so hard on yourself. It is possible that she met someone else maybe around the same time that she started talking to you and doesn't have the heart or maturity level to tell you that. Have you thought about ... (read in full...)
Clingy or having healthy emotional needs?
Q. How do you determine if a girlfriend is being "clingly" or is just having healthy emotional needs? Where do you draw the line?...
A. 15 May 2010: Here's some food for thought. It could be the type guy you are choosing and not you at all. You could be going for the "strong-silent" type because they are a challenge. You may think to yourself "I'm gonna see if I can get this guy to open up." ... (read in full...)
Torn between two wonderful men
Q. I need some major help. I'm torn between two wonderful men. The first one I'll call him Fred and the other I'll call Matt. Fred and I have been together for 11yrs. I love him so much. We've been through so much. But a couple of years ago my f...
A. 8 May 2010: You have been with Fred for so long that you did not realize that he was not an ideal man. An ideal man does not have sex with you for his pleasure only. That's a big one right there. An ideal man does not tell you that you are a bad GF in front ... (read in full...)
Yellowish discharge, bad? a way to stop it?
Q. everytime i go to the bathroom or change or something there is a yellowish discharge on my underwear. its been like that ever sence i can remember but is it bad to have the discharge? and is there some way to stop it?...
A. 8 May 2010: If there is no odor this is most likely normal. There is no way to "stop" it but you may want to start using pantie liners. If it's possible consider seeing a doctor though just to be sure.... (read in full...)
Am I being a gullible fool?
Q. hey all i really need advice. this is quite long so forgive me and hopefully you may help me. last year i split with my long term boyfriend-we were dating for 7 years and during that time he was emotionally and on 2 occasions physically abusive....
A. 8 May 2010: You have already answered your own question with your comment "there are lots of red flags." Trust your gut. You already know that you are prone to these sorts of guys from your last 7 year relationship - step away from this one. ... (read in full...)
Do I wait for her to come and find me, or do I go and find her?
Q. Dear Madam, I am a 29 year old male. About 3 weeks back, I met a girl in the university I attend. she's passed 18. Well, we believe the same doctrines as christians and when I approached her, she was very responsive. She seemed to enjoy my company ...
A. 8 May 2010: Dear Isaac - 1) Why do you think anyone would advise her to stay away from you? 2) You are a man - go look for her - that is what you are supposed to do. Women are generally raised to not be the aggressor. Go find her. See what develops. ... (read in full...)
Should I feel any guilt for wanting to make a new start for myself?
Q. I am a 46 yr old woman, I am in desperate need for change. I want to relocate somewhere else and make a new start. New job, meet new people, boyfriend, etc. I have two grown children 22,24 who I have raised alone, after divorce when they were ...
A. 8 May 2010: Feelings of guilt usually implies that we are doing something wrong but if you mother has conditioned you to feel that way that could be what is going on here. I don't think you are doing anything wrong. Your children are grown men. You have done ... (read in full...)
Clingy or having healthy emotional needs?
Q. How do you determine if a girlfriend is being "clingly" or is just having healthy emotional needs? Where do you draw the line?...
A. 8 May 2010: Define "clingy." What is she doing or saying?... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll never be happy with anyone!
Q. dear DearCupid, I am 21 years old and have never been in a healthy relationship. my last relationship was with my ex boyfriend who only used me and lied to me about his wife who had left him and who he still lived. he also got someone else pre...
A. 8 May 2010: I am so sorry you took that the wrong way. I did not mean to imply that you were mentally unwell. I just thought that a good talk with a therapist might help you to understand why you attract and tolerate losers. If you have a better ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll never be happy with anyone!
Q. dear DearCupid, I am 21 years old and have never been in a healthy relationship. my last relationship was with my ex boyfriend who only used me and lied to me about his wife who had left him and who he still lived. he also got someone else pre...
A. 5 May 2010: Please make an appointment at the mental health clinic. You need some therapy. You are attracting losers because you tolerate them. Why? Who knows! But you need to get to the bottom of this problem or it will self perpetuate. Ok?
You have to l... (read in full...)
Do you think this girl and I are right for each other?
Q. Hello, I wanted to ask whether this girl and I are right for each other. I think we are. I'd like some more feedback before I make a move. I care about this girl so much that the though of rejection petrifies me. I want to be as certain as possible ...
A. 5 May 2010: Stop over analyzing everything! Good grief - take a risk man. PS - as for #9 - no you're not! Otherwise you would not be agonizing like this. This is going to require a leap of faith on your part - however, to ease your mind all the stars seemed ... (read in full...)
My family doesn't like this boy but I do!
Q. im 14 and i really like this boy and hes 17 my sister knows him and my mam dont know i like him and he likes me allot but my mam dont think its right for a 14 year old to be with a 17 year old i really dont know what todo hes lovely and wou...
A. 5 May 2010: Ask him to come over to your house to meet your mam and sister. If he really likes you he will do this. If he refuses then pass on him. ... (read in full...)
He does not even speak to me when we cross paths, ... so how should I tell him he got me pregnant?
Q. A few weeks ago my friend introduced me to the guy she's dating bestfriend. The 4 of us ended up chillen together. Drinking, playing games, just enjoying ourselves. At the end of the night me and the friend ended up sleeping together, ...
A. 14 April 2010: To answer your question. No don't tell him. He doesn't care about you and the fact that you are pregnant and telling him it's his baby will not change that fact. He will care even less and probably be pissed. You do not have a relationship with ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant from oral sex?
Q. I recently gave my boyfriend oral sex and he did the same for me, but since then I've been feeling strange. Could I be pregnant?...
A. 14 April 2010: No! Sperm has to meet egg for that to happen. Keep uncapped penis away from and out of vagina and you won't have that problem. Get to the clinic for birth control NOW!... (read in full...)
Is it too late to back out now I have filed for divorce?
Q. 13 April 2010: I filed for divorce last week. Is it too late to back out? Have I made a horrible mistake? I am so confused! My husband was a good man. He treated me like royalty I just lost my attraction for him. We've been separated for 5 year...
A. 14 April 2010: I have some questions:
1) how old are you?
2) how old is your husband?
3) how long were you married?
4) any kids?
5) if he treated you "like royalty" why were you separated for 5 years?
If you don't want to answer here you can PM me on this si... (read in full...)
I confessed I had sent fake pics to my online boyfriend, ..now he wants to see the real me but I am scared he wont like what he see's.
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for 9 months. We're recently broken up, and I showed my boyfriend fake pictures, and only JUST showed him my actual self a few days ago. I was terrified to tell him, but he actually took it MUCH better than ...
A. 14 April 2010: Chances are he feels the same way about himself (self conscious) that you do. If you have been talking for 9 months I should think that he is in love with you (the person) not your body or physical appearance. The fact that he "forgave" you for ... (read in full...)
Living with and loving my cousin but now he likes someone else!
Q. >ok,so, i have a problem,I'm in love with my cousin,i live in the same house as he does his 18 and I'm 24 yrs old, i live with my 2 aunts, and the thing is that i don't look 24 i look like I'm 17 or 18, OK it all started one day wen we decided ...
A. 6 April 2010: I'll repeat myself! Grow up and act your age. You are a 24 year old woman. He is 18 and ruled by his hormones. He's not even old enough to go in a bar! This can't go anywhere but down hill and very fast at that! He's got a girlfriend. Get a guy ... (read in full...)
Living with and loving my cousin but now he likes someone else!
Q. >ok,so, i have a problem,I'm in love with my cousin,i live in the same house as he does his 18 and I'm 24 yrs old, i live with my 2 aunts, and the thing is that i don't look 24 i look like I'm 17 or 18, OK it all started one day wen we decided ...
A. 2 April 2010: What you doing here? You are six years old than him! I don't care if you look like you're 12! Doesn't matter. You have no business messing around with him like this! Lay off. Get a guy your own age and leave this kid alone. Shame on you!... (read in full...)
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