Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 7 April 2010: I love it Old Moss! Go for it. She's yours! Keep us posted. @boo22 - perfect answer! ... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 30 March 2010: Dear Old Moss: What a great story! Best wishes both to you and Debbie. We are all so glad you took our advice and took a chance with your long lost love. May you lives the rest of your life happy. ... (read in full...)
Why didn't this shy girl say goodnight to me?
Q. * OP's own title* This just happened last night. I was at my friend's house and everything was going swimmingly. My crush, his sister, showed her usual signs of liking me (mainly looking at me). In the past, she would show other signs of liking m...
A. 21 March 2010: You are making way too much out of this non-incident. This girls likes you so be satisfied with that stop perseverating on this "good night" thing. She will find your behavior off-putting. ... (read in full...)
I really think she is the one... but she says she needs some time to get rid of the ex. Is this a game?
Q. I really need some help here. I met this girl about a month ago and we really hit if off. We have alot in common and I really think the world of her. We hung out almost every day for the first 3 weeks, then her ex came back into the picture. It ...
A. 21 March 2010: Give her a limited amount of time to untangle from this guy and then be on her own a bit. Let her know this but don't let this drag on and become the focus of your entire life. You also have to understand that if a girl starts a relationship with ... (read in full...)
Everyone takes advantage of me!
Q. So heres my problem. Everyone takes advantage of me. My last girlfriend constantly walked all over me then borrowed a bunch of money, never payed it back, and now refuses to admit im alive. My friends constantly have me help them and do work for ...
A. 21 March 2010: Do both. Clearly these people are not your friends. Understand that you teach people how to treat you. What is going on with you? I think that your problems are rooted in some very deep seeded esteem issues. If this is a recurrent theme in your ... (read in full...)
Will it affect her child if I split up with her?
Q. I'm 26, not exactly a teen anymore, and my gf is 24, we've been dating for year and a half now.She recently started a new job 3 months ago.But shes been acting really distant the last few days,shes been dressing up really nice,hardly calls me...
A. 21 March 2010: GF sounds very immature and is apparently not getting enough attention. She says nothing happened which is probably true up to this point but this guy at work clearly wants to get in her pants and she loves the attention she is getting from him - ... (read in full...)
A dedicated Christian is preaching at me!
Q. There is a friend of mine who is a dedicated Christian. He has been preaching most of the time we meet, but, despite some 'miracles I have seen, I refuse to convert. I would like to tell him to stop the preaching but I am worried it will come out ...
A. 21 March 2010: If anyone is being offensive it is your friend. Return the bible. Why are you even bothering with him? Sounds like a pain to me. ... (read in full...)
We broke up but are still having sex
Q. My ex and I broke up a little over a month ago see caught me in a stupid lie and was hurt. We stayed friends recently we began haveing sex agine and I stay with her alot she calls me hers but were still apart last night I stayed with her as we were ...
A. 21 March 2010: I am confused. She caught you in a lie and broke up with you? Is that right? Now she is having sex with you and then asks if you are "still together." By all accounts it appears that she wants to be with you. While are you waffling? ... (read in full...)
I feel I may have settled for less
Q. Last night my b/f and I attended a function and bumped into a couple we met several years ago, who at the time, were married to different people but found each other. I watched them from across the room when they did not know it, and obsserving ...
A. 21 March 2010: You are afraid of being alone which is why you are settling. Don't bring home an alligator and then be angry, upset and annoyed when it won't sit in your lap and purr like a kitten. This guy is the way he is and that's not going to change. You are ... (read in full...)
Pain upon insertion...who can help?
Q. jus replay if u can realy help me am am 28 yr male.having problem in sex with my girl only in the time of insertion i cant jus do it becoz she crays out of pain.we tried oil,my slightly large penis may be the problem,some body who have gone throu th...
A. 21 March 2010: Dear Santosyako, In my opinion your girlfriend may be suffering from vaginisms. The vaginal muscles involuntarily contract when penetration is attempted. She needs to see a gynecologist about this. ... (read in full...)
How can I keep my friend from getting hurt by a cheater?
Q. I think My friends boyfriend is cheating on her with his ex.He send her texts all the time and says he,s on the phone to his mother while its really the ex. I only found out about all this today that he,s texting and phoning his ex.They were ...
A. 20 March 2010: Listen to your friends. You are in a no win situation with this girl. You have already done everything you can. You said she was warned about this guy. Your friend is poised to get hurt by making poor decisions just don't make it your problem ... (read in full...)
Husband gave me an STD so what now?
Q. My husband cheated and I found out because after a doctors visit I have an std. What should I do, because we have a horrible past and I just began trusting him again? ...
A. 20 March 2010: It's bad enough that this creep cheated on you and I imagine that it's not the first but he didn't even bother to use a condom and now you have an STD! What does that say about him!? Pack your things now and leave. Get an HIV test at once. There ... (read in full...)
Was our marriage doomed from the start?
Q. ive been married for one yr,wth hubby for 11-12 yrs now..he lives by mother,pays all bills,etc,while she's back and forth from abroad.she wants him to add on to the original home.suffice it to say,tht for more thn a month now,i have been mad as ...
A. 20 March 2010: Marriage does not change a mamma's boy into a husband. It is clear that he is choosing his mother over you. What is in this marriage for you? By your own admission you have a nonexistent sex life, you are very angry and you don't respect him. ... (read in full...)
I'm concernd about the size of my penis?
Q. My current girlfriend, who had sex with one person before told me that he had a small penis, but she later told me that it was 6 inches, which I certainly don't consider small. She also told me that having sex didn't feel good at all with him. She ...
A. 20 March 2010: Dear Rayday: No you should not be concerned with the size of your penis. BTW when erect most penises are around the same size. I will tell you this though - there is a lot to be said in the old adage "What is important is not the size of the ship ... (read in full...)
Lost, don't know what to do?
Q. Hi, I've been married for 17 years. There is a 12 year age gap between me and my husband. At first it did not seem to matter, but now he has turned 50 and has no teeth, i'm struggling. I have had 2 one night stands in the past and felt very g...
A. 19 March 2010: Why are you drawn to the man at work? This guy gives you a lot of attention and you like it. You are no longer in love with your husband either? Why? Because by your own admission "he has always belittled me and my abilities." Who would love a ... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 19 March 2010: Have a great summer! I think you will find love with Debbie and will finally be happy. Keep us posted. This is such a good story. ... (read in full...)
Are we dating? Going out? Seeing each other? Help?
Q. We are both exchange students in a strange country. He is slightly older than me and we have been meeting in our university campus between and after classes for like two. We constantly text each other in college to find out when we both are free so ...
A. 19 March 2010: Ignore your friends, relax and take this statement "I am attractive and carry myself well and men apparently feel I'll reject them" out of the equation. This is not helpful in the least.
This guy likes you and he's being a gentleman. What a c... (read in full...)
How do I change?
Q. Hi,iam 17 years old and have been daeling with a lot,now iam ready for change.iam sexually active but after sitting down and thinking about it i asked myself 1 question (what have i really gained from having sex?)my answer was a lot of ...
A. 19 March 2010: Can you tell me what happened before? You said "the only problem is this is not my first trying to change.i need to know is how can i get my mom to believe me this time." What does this mean? Get back to me on that I may be able to help but I ... (read in full...)
He finds reasons to talk to me. Does he like me or not?
Q. I like this boy I've known for a few years but just recently become friends with. We have 2 classes together, but we really only talk in the 2nd class. In the first class, he sits with a group a people I'm not friends with and I sit on the other ...
A. 19 March 2010: You are so cute! Yes!~ If a guy stares into your eyes and then gives you a big smile and also finds reason to talk to you - that is a huge indicator that he likes you ~ trust me. ... (read in full...)
Her father has caused us all these problems!
Q. Hi I need help. My fiancé and I have been having problems, because from what I have witnessed her father won't let her live her own life as he is a control freak and a bully. Over a year ago he threw me out of my fiancée house after he threatened ...
A. 19 March 2010: Questions:
How old are you?
How old is your fiance?
How old is your son?
How old is her son?
Why is she living with her dad?
Are you taking medications for your bipolar?
Comment: I think you are minimizing what happened between... (read in full...)
Loose? Or control issues?
Q. Ok...I have visited this site on several occassions with the same dilemma...my boyfriend complains about sex with me. He says that my vagina and anus are loose and I do not feel the same way I did when he met me one year ago. The anus I can ...
A. 17 March 2010: Good grief woman this guy is a jerk! Why would you have sex with a guy who calls you a slut! You have had two docs tell you what he is saying is bull and then some! What medical school did your bf attend! To answer your question yes the fact that ... (read in full...)
Didn't want to appear clingy, which backfired
Q. So me and this girl are getting rather serious. Today she asked the question "If i kissed another guy would you be jealous" I didn't know what to say. So i decided to say "No i wouldn't mind" because I didn't want to appear clingy. But now she is ...
A. 17 March 2010: Dear Confused - Easy one. Take it back and tell her "yes of course you would care (jealous is too strong of a term here) if she kissed someone else!" Now be careful with this girl as well as she sounds a little immature since she is asking such a ... (read in full...)
Husband drinks, and I'm attracted to someone else
Q. I have been married for 5 years, and lately I have been REALLY unhappy and torn. My husband is a binge drinker on the weekends. He ignores me often, and can be very verbally abusive after drinking. I feel like 10% of the time I'm really happy, ...
A. 17 March 2010: Do you have any kids?... (read in full...)
Unrequited...
Q. There was a girl (Miranda) that I briefly dated when I was 17. The relationship was emotional, but never turned physical because she decided that she was going to see her ex-boyfriend again so, like a dope, a let her go. We both moved on and saw ...
A. 17 March 2010: Dear Mercutio6 (so cute that you have adopted this on line name - this tells me something about you) There is nothing wrong with you. I promise. You were very young and deeply in love. These feelings are real. Don't discount them. That being ... (read in full...)
How can I get to know him a little better?
Q. Hi there all agony aunts. I have a "problem". I like this guy who is in my school but he is 17 I am 15. He doesn't really speak to me much unless we are in the same place for more than 5 minutes. I really like him. He added me on facebook, ...
A. 17 March 2010: If he added you as a friend on FB then that's a start. He may feel shy about talking to you directly on FB because it's out thee for EVERYONE to see. This is the problem with FB. Have you tried private messaging him on FB? If not - do it ONCE and ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so irrationally heartbroken when not with my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Aunties, I have yet another question: I'm very much in love with my boyfriend. I was curious as to why I always feel so irrationally heartbroken when he goes back to his house. I know I miss him, but it's a ripping feeling in my chest and some...
A. 17 March 2010: Dear GG: I have some questions before I can offer my opinion:
How old is your boyfriend?
Are you having sex with him?
How far away does he live?
Do you go to the same school?
Let me know - I'll see if I can help.... (read in full...)
Is there any special meaning when a guy posts love song lyrics as a status online?
Q. Hello, I was wondering, is there any special meaning when a guy posts love song lyrics as a status on Facebook/MSN?...
A. 17 March 2010: Well if you think it's directed at you then the answer is yes - there may be a "special meaning." If he's your guy and the lyrics have noting to do with you and your relationship then that's an all together different issue. Is it possible to ask ... (read in full...)
He says there is something missing...
Q. 3 months ago this guy asked me out at a party, hes 55, sweet and kind, we went for coffee twice then to the cinema on 3 consequtive saturdays, I told him from the beginning I wanted to take it slowly and I was so determined to stick to this and not ...
A. 17 March 2010: Dear Meadowsweet: Ring him up. Tell him how you feel that "you like him a lot" to use your words! I totally get where you are coming from - taking it slowly and not jumping into bed. I wish more women were like that! That being said - I think ... (read in full...)
Why can't he just tell me things and be open with me?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much, he has done a lot for me and been there for me when no one else has. We have been together for almost a year. He lives about 45 min away at school and has a lot on his plate. When he's gone it hurts because i only g...
A. 17 March 2010: Oh honey! Just listen to yourself! This is a direct quote! "I know he loves me a lot, but what I want from a relationship is different from what he wants." Really? What is that supposed to mean?
And here is another one! "I feel like a ghost ex... (read in full...)
I know a Japanese widow, and would like some advice on how to appraoch dating her.
Q. Hello, I would be grateful for any advice on the advice of starting dating a (Japanese) widow. We live in London, England, and she has been living here 20 years. Her husband died 10 years ago. I am in my late 40s, she is about 5 years older. Many...
A. 16 March 2010: Dear Sunflower -you sound like a perfectly charming man. Ask her if she'd like to have dinner. It's that simple! ... (read in full...)
One minute he says he is happy, the next that he can't stand being around me!
Q. ihave been with my boyfriend for a year. we moved in together a few months ago. he has 2 kids from a previous relationship. everything has been fine so far but a few weeks ago out of the blue he said he thinks we shouldnt live together anymore but ...
A. 16 March 2010: Sorry - you don't give enough information here. Did he say why you shouldn't live together anymore? Any reason for this rationale? Get back to me.... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend overcome her trust issues?
Q. I think my girlfriend is losing interest or getting scared. I have kids, I'm 11 y older, I'm divorced. She don't have kids, is going to University soon. My life is more stressful and more relax activity wise. My friends are all from differen...
A. 16 March 2010: Find a more mature woman who will not use "past relationships" as an excuse to be "scared to love." It has nothing to do with you having kids. Do you really want to hang out with 20-somethings anyway? ... (read in full...)
Miserable husband clouding our relationship.
Q. OKAY! Me and my husband got into an arguement yesterday because I asked him about his bank account. Make a long story short he tells me that he is miserable, he has come to the point where he is content with him being miserable. He cheated on me ...
A. 16 March 2010: Dear laniece04 - Ok so your husband goes out to work and makes enough to support you and three kids. Is that right? Are all these kids his? Here's the deal - the house and kids are YOUR JOB. He already has one. Men are really very simp... (read in full...)
His mother left him but how much can we excuse his behavior.
Q. I have been married for 4 years. We not had children of our own(o jam two sm he had one) his son has always done what he wants being an only child for so long and having been abandoned by host mother contributed in my husband and mother Im law to ...
A. 16 March 2010: Frankly I am more concerned about your 11 year old! Get that kid out of this caotic situation now. He should be more important to you than your awful stepson and his equally noncaring father. That 15 year old is playing you two against the middle ... (read in full...)
We're in love, but her Mom wouldn't approve
Q. I am in love with an amazing girl,though she is like a family member to me,we have known each other since the begining of our lifes (or for as long as we can remember or been told) her mom is like my mom she took care of me when I was a baby,I ...
A. 15 March 2010: Dear CharmedNoodles - question: Why will her mom kill you both? Get back to me and we'll see if we can sort this out. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I gave him chlamydia?
Q. It All Started a couple years ago, when i met this really nice boy richard, he gave me his number and we started talking more, we got really close then we started going out this boy was my "first love" we was going out for almost a year!. when we ...
A. 15 March 2010: Dear L, You "realy do not know what to tell him"? Start with the truth. Put yourself in his place. You owe that to him. p.s. start using condoms for Godsake!... (read in full...)
Cut short on pleasure.
Q. Okay, ive been with my boyfriend for a year now. I love him more than anything and am 'head over heels' as they say. However i feel like im being cut short when it comes to sex. Im definetely an oral type of girl and i orgasm every time, dont get me ...
A. 15 March 2010: I agree with strongfp! Pleasuring me is my husband's favorite part! To answer your question - yes youa are being cut short of pleasure. See if he can work on this. ... (read in full...)
Could this get me pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfreind were dry humping, he asked me to relieve him and I let him cum over my breasts and stomach and there was loads of it, I cleaned it up with toilet paper and had a bath about an hour later, my friend said that was silly because I ...
A. 15 March 2010: I agree with anonymous reader! Get on the pill NOW you are getting very close to having intercuorse and you don't want a pregnancy at your age. Get a move on to the clinic! ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend can't get over losses ...
Q. I need some advise please,I have recently asked a question and I have another please,It's to do with my girlfriend.She is always crying and stuff,she is like obsessed with her lately passed aunt.She's always going on about she misses her and she ...
A. 15 March 2010: Dear CharmedNoodles: Question: You are 16-17 and are the boyfriend of a girl you have not seen since you were about 9 or 10. Is that right? There could one of two problems with this girl. She is either a) seroiusly depressed in which case she ... (read in full...)
How can I cope with everything that is going on in my life right now?
Q. im 15 and a girl who said she was my bestfriend going out with da boy i personally tole her myself i like; nd my dad is in jail; my b/f nd I are on and off, but we know we love each other. my other suppose to be bestfriend spreaded a rumor a/b me. ...
A. 14 March 2010: Oh honey! You are all over the place! What is your real question? Is this about your best friend, the guy you like or your dad being in jail? What is the rumor that is being spread by a so called other best friend? If you have people in your ... (read in full...)
Should we get back together? Does she want me back?
Q. I lied to my ex a month ago that's why we broke up we decided to be friends hung out a few time at first Just friend. We made a few drunken mistakes here and there and fooled around every time she get drunk she tells me I love you and trust to get ...
A. 14 March 2010: Question: Your first statement - "I lied to my ex a month ago that's why we broke up." What was the nature of the lie? I'll get back to you if you are interested but I need more information to give you an informed answer to your end question.
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What are his intentions? I'm so confused by him!
Q. Here it goes: In an attempt to get over my ex I made an account on a dating site. I met a guy and he wanted to text so he sent me his #. I was skeptical at first but feeling really outgoing and adventerous so I decided I'd text him. After seein...
A. 13 March 2010: Auntie E's #1 rule - never agree to being "friends with benefits." This is a sure fire way for a girl to get used and feel used. That being said I think this guy was just making sure you clicked (as he said) before saying he wanted to be in a ... (read in full...)
We confessed that we are in love, and now he's completely shut down. Why won't he talk to me?
Q. I am in a situation where my heart feels like it's breaking. I have been talking to a younger guy, which I told myself I wouldn't do, but with him I have broken a lot of rules and have fallen in love with him. I told him that I loved him and he told ...
A. 13 March 2010: Question - how old is this guy? ... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 7 March 2010: Oh Old Moss you sound like such a wonderful guy. What a precious man you are! I believe that fate has reunited you. Go to her! Take it slow....keep us posted! Who doesn't love a good love story?... (read in full...)
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