Dating my friend, nervous about intimacy. How do I hold his hand?
Q. Dear Cupid, I got a boyfriend a few days ago I dont know how to hold his hand and hug him. Because I dont want it to be weird because we were almost best friends before we started dating. We get along sooo Soo well, people have always said we would...
A. 20 June 2010: Don't concern yourself with "making the first move." He already did when you were walking home from school. Relax. You and he are off to a good start. Take it easy and don't move too fast. ... (read in full...)
Are warts contagious?
Q. My boyfriend recently discovered he has a wart on his thumb. Shortly after without realising he fingered me. Will i get warts in my vagina? please help!...
A. 15 June 2010: Yes - thumb and finger are all on the same hand - get to the clinic. ... (read in full...)
My best friend is so self absorbed!
Q. Hey there, please read, sorry its long. I need your help. my friend since childhood, I'm 22 now and so is she, we've been friends since we were five, isn't that great of a friend anymore. Somehow I didn't see it before but as of lately I realize...
A. 15 June 2010: Dear LLindy - I agree with you. You only option right now is to cut her out of your life. That does not always mean forever. You are placing a lot of emphasis on how long you have been friends and yes 17 years is a long time but that also doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is this light period, my period- or a sign of pregnancy?
Q. Ok so me and my fiance have been using the pull out method for aslong as I can remember,were not trying for a baby but if it happens it happens,we would both love a child and be very happy,anyways I always have a regualr period and came on my period ...
A. 15 June 2010: Yes there is a chance you could be pregnant. Some women have been known to have a false period every month while pregnant. Why use the pull out method (that really is quite ineffective anyway) when you can use birth control. You didn't ask but I ... (read in full...)
I can't deal with him leaving me , so I call him constantly!
Q. im 16. have been with this guy for 1 and a half years and we have had sex alot of times. now, he have abondoned me. i feel so lost and awful. i try to resist myself from calling him but i cant. i keep calling him and he's giving me cold treatment. i ...
A. 15 June 2010: Part of the reason you feel this is way is because you had sex with him, you were intimate. He is now tossing you off, rejecting you and you feel used. You are only making it worse by calling him. Essentially you are inviting him to reject you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't see me as part of his future!
Q. I just listened to a voice message left by my boyfriend. I have been bothered by the fact that he doesn't ever talk about having any kind of future with me (this has bothered me for a while). I guess I know why now. He's apparently not planning ...
A. 15 June 2010: Well I think he is being up front with you in a round about way - but up front nonetheless. I'd rather have that than a man who lies to me. Six months is not a long time. Could it be you are behaving in a needy fashion which is why you got that ... (read in full...)
Are warts contagious?
Q. My boyfriend recently discovered he has a wart on his thumb. Shortly after without realising he fingered me. Will i get warts in my vagina? please help!...
A. 15 June 2010: Yes warts can be contagious. They are caused by a virus. Get to the clinic for a check. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be sad about the way my husband is acting?
Q. I have this problem me and my husband is getting along well,he recently started a new job. But he and the lady that works together is getting along but too much if you ask me,we went to a bbq the other day she where there he looked at her the whole ...
A. 15 June 2010: To answer your question - No you are not wrong to feel sad. Reading your story made me feel sad. Why are you even with this guy? He treats you like shit! You may think you love him but a man who loves you does not say "shut the fuck up" to you ... (read in full...)
Will my future husband be able to tell I'm no longer a virgin?
Q. Feeling very guilty. Hi,I had sex with a guy few months ago, am feeling very guilty about it now.getting very scared to marry. I had sex only once for few minutes and i did not bleed.will my husband come to know that i have lost my varginity whe...
A. 15 June 2010: To answer your question NO. He will not be able to tell by feel or the fact that there is no blood. That (the bleeding) doest not always happen any way. Not everyone is even born with a hymen or sometimes if there it is a hymen it may become ... (read in full...)
Please explain this to me, I have no idea what he wants.
Q. So, I've come to the point that I just have to ask other people for opinion. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have been dating this guy for about 8-9 months. I mean, we met in october last year and since then we've been texting each other, ...
A. 15 June 2010: First of all STOP FB'ing his friends. That is just plain silly and immature. If you want to be with this guy the behave that way. You are embarrassing him on line so stop it!Stop with the game playing. Trust me 22 is very young especially for a ... (read in full...)
Could there be another girl on the scene that he's not telling me about?
Q. I have been dating a guy for the past 4 months or so. At the beginning of the relationship we were so happy and had so much fun being around each other. We had lots of sex plus it was in fun, exhilirating places. He has been acting very strange ...
A. 13 June 2010: No honey there is no other girl - I hate to be the one to tell you this - you are way too easy. He's lost interest and has basically told you this by calling you a "horn dog." He may was well have told you that you were a slut or whore. That's ... (read in full...)
My legal rights???
Q. If I have been in a relationship for 5 years and we decided to call it quits, what are my rights when it comes down to having our access divided? We were not legally married but have lived together for that long in the state of Indiana....
A. 13 June 2010: Contact a legal aid clinic in your area. You can find one on line. Best of luck to you. ... (read in full...)
Intimacy question: do I get pregnant doing this?
Q. The other day my boyfriend was playing with my breasts and we have even been kissing each other and even touching my stomach.....and this is the first time and i was tensed a bit......do i get pregnant by doing such kind of activities...plz help me ...
A. 12 June 2010: No you can not get pregnant by doing this activity specifically. His sperm has to meet an egg inside your body for this to happen. My concern is that what you are doing is going to lead to sexual intercourse that is penis in vagina. You also need ... (read in full...)
Dating my friend, nervous about intimacy. How do I hold his hand?
Q. Dear Cupid, I got a boyfriend a few days ago I dont know how to hold his hand and hug him. Because I dont want it to be weird because we were almost best friends before we started dating. We get along sooo Soo well, people have always said we would...
A. 12 June 2010: How sweet! Take your time and let nature take its course. Let him take the lead, to make the first move. Boys this age are as uncertain as you are but you don't want to scare him off by being too forward. Relax. ... (read in full...)
Is this forever? Will I ever be able to trust him or anyone?
Q. So, I really don't feel that I was raised right, my mom being an alcoholic and my dad always at work. Being the only girl my two brothers have always turned to me for care and that stuff. I never really felt that I had someone there for me though. ...
A. 12 June 2010: First let me tell you this - you are one intelligent and articulate young lady. Very smart. You have identified your problem. Now you need help with it. To answer your question directly - No time will not solve this problem and No I don't think ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's mother gave her an ultimatum - now she's going to abort our baby and she won't even listen to me
Q. recently my GF and i had a falling out with one another. it wasn't because we didn't get along or anything like that. everything was fine until we found out she was pregnant. right now my GF has a 3 year old son and lives in an apartment in the...
A. 12 June 2010: You seem like a very caring and level headed young man to me and logical on top of that! What a combination! I will address each of your questions below - I have copied and pasted for easier answering and understanding. Ok?
was i wrong for call... (read in full...)
I feel I just need a push, to help end this troubled 13yr marriage..
Q. should i leave my husband after 23 years? i have been married for 13 years but been with my husband for 23 years in total meeting him aged 15 and he was 24, we have four daughters whos ages run from 20 to 3, the relationship was built on distrust in ...
A. 12 June 2010: You just answered your own question with your statement "Even my girls want up to split because they can't stand living at home." Leave now but be warned this guy is not going to make this easy. He is controlling (you can't go any where and can't ... (read in full...)
He isn't speaking to me over something that is completely out of my control. Am I wrong?
Q. I'm in a really tough situation right now and could use some fresh eyes. I know its really long but please be patient, I'm desperate. A little background: I dated my first love for two years and a year and a half ago he broke my heart. I still to...
A. 12 June 2010: His feelings don't have anything to do with your ex. He is probably more embarrassed than anything. He put you on the spot and you balked. That being said - no more "dirty talk."
Leave your ex out of your life's equation. Agonizing over him... (read in full...)
He's using dating sites 'for fun' and claims I'm insecure..is he looking to replace me?
Q. I have been dating a man for five years. He asked me to move two hours away and come live with him after one year. I have two children that were in high school at the time who I left with my ex to finish school.(I also had a stalker problem that ...
A. 12 June 2010: CaringGuy is spot on. Why are you not trusting your intuition? You just described a terrible man and an even worse relationship. If your staking issues are resolved you should think about moving back to where the rest of your family is. Don't ... (read in full...)
Why do boyfriends, get jealous of guyfriends?
Q. My boyfriend is jealous of one my best guy friends and I. I mean, I can understand to an extent but he just kinda mad me angry/sad/idefk. We were all in a group talking and I was giving him shit for not texting me the past few days, only jokingly of ...
A. 12 June 2010: CaringGuy has a point but could it be the fact that you called him out in front of a group. His reaction may be caused more by embarrassment than jealousy.
More importantly - I want you to consider reversing the situation. What if you were all... (read in full...)
Why do boyfriends, get jealous of guyfriends?
Q. My boyfriend is jealous of one my best guy friends and I. I mean, I can understand to an extent but he just kinda mad me angry/sad/idefk. We were all in a group talking and I was giving him shit for not texting me the past few days, only jokingly of ...
A. 12 June 2010: CaringGuy has a point but cout it be the fact that you called him out in front of a group. His reaction may be caused more by embarassment than jealousy.
More importantly - I want you to consider reversing the situation. What if you were all... (read in full...)
I'm scared to have sex, what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend wants to have sex with me but im still a virgin and scared. wht should I do?...
A. 12 June 2010: Listen to what your gut is telling you. The fact that you are scared indicates that you are not ready for this type of relationship. Do not allow yourself to be manipulated or "guilted into" having sex. You will regret it if you do. Wait until ... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant...
Q. well i think im pregnant as the last time i got my period was 4weeks ago, i have been feeling very emotional and tiered. i have just left school and i really dont no what to do please help me ...
A. 12 June 2010: Go immediately to Planned Parenthood - they will help you. ... (read in full...)
Be a single mum to 3 boys or lose my daughter?
Q. Hi there. I'm hoping someone here can help me. I am in a relationship for the past 12 years. The early years were turbulent but we stayed together and now have 3 young boys. They are great. However ... I also have a daughter in her 20s from my ...
A. 9 June 2010: You have more control here than you think you do. It is your house and you stated you do not need him financially. Grow a backbone and tell him he either makes amends with Zoe or he can leave. You started this mess by having him move in with you, ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should give him the benefit of his efforts?
Q. Hello, It is now just over a year since I found out about my husband's emotional affair with another woman (texting/phonecalls/declarations of love and promises of future physical relationship when the time was right). He has done EVERYTHI...
A. 9 June 2010: Hello - to answer your question YES give him the benefit of his efforts. But what I really think you should pay close attention to is why he did this in the first place. How and why did he fall prey? That is the real question. Do you give him ... (read in full...)
Why would she let me take her shirt off in the first place?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out a couple months now, I'm not really into having sex just yet but i still want to have a good time while making out. One time in my basement as we're making out I take her shirt off, and she takes off mine, and ...
A. 9 June 2010: What is going on is that your girlfriend is not ready to go that far yet. Slow down. You say that you are "not really into having sex just yet." Really? Stop taking her shirt of while making out - that will help. And for every-one's sake when you ... (read in full...)
Did I cause a problem and could my friend be mad at me?
Q. My friend's boyfriend had put interested in women on his facebook page and I thought that he meant like he wanted to meet other women- he had prior to that interested in men and women and said he was single on there- I misunderstood and told my ...
A. 9 June 2010: The question that really begs to be asked here is this: Why did you feel the need to contact her via voice mail and text about his status? Sure she's mad most likely at both of you and I am sure he pissed at you as well. You did not misunderstand ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, so that means I'm more likely to be pregnant?
Q. okay so i had sex with my boyfriend the 3rd of june, my last period ended may 19th. anyways my boyfriend didnt pull out during sex, i dont know why he didnt! i'm so worried that i could be pregnant now..isnt it 2 weeks after my period the best time ...
A. 9 June 2010: You age (under 18) has nothing to do whatsoever with the likelihood that a pregnancy has occurred however not using birth control does! Get to a clinic immediately! And CaringGuy is right - the "pull out" method is no method at all. This will in ... (read in full...)
Does my ex want me back?
Q. My ex got in touch maybe 6 weeks ago 6 months after we ended. We were meant to be 'friends' but I never made effort to contact her after the relationship ended as if hurt and I was crestfallen about it (she suggested just being friends). Anyway, s...
A. 9 June 2010: Proceed with caution. You are opening yourself up to be hurt and crestfallen again but sometimes that's the chance you have to take. Is there any way to ask her about her intentions toward you? That might be helpful. ... (read in full...)
First time sex and really really worried
Q. Im 16. Not had sex before. But have had oral sex. Am seeing a really nice girl who i met on holiday at the moment. Shes had sex, she knows i havent, i feel she could be the one. The only thing is, i keep making up excuses why not to have sex because ...
A. 9 June 2010: Look you are only 16 - what you are experiencing is normal. Leave bisexual out of the equation - you are making yourself crazy with this thinking. You are nervous because this girl has more experience than you do and you are only 16! It's as ... (read in full...)
Loved by my GF but I don't feel the same. Is it time to leave?
Q. OK, my girlfriend and I have been together for almost three years with a brief split (three months) about halfway through. When we first started dating, she was very depressed, but now she is much happier. She tells me she loves me and I know she ...
A. 8 June 2010: To answer your question directly - YES - it's time to leave. This is one of the hardest things in the World to do. Of course you don't "want that" - to have your life planned already for you by someone else when you are only 20 years old. Jesus ... (read in full...)
I think she is "the one" but money troubles are in the way
Q. I have a question as to what to do with or i guess i should say how to handle a situation that has come up in my relationship. The basics, i met her 6 months ago and it has been the best 6 months of my life, i love her more than i thought i could ...
A. 3 June 2010: Ok - you have both had a tough row to hoe. Good for her for finishing up college and with a 5 year old! You seem like a sincere guy to me AND you have been honest - that is the biggest mother of them all - not kidding. You were and are honest ... (read in full...)
How to get him to ask me out again?
Q. Ok, I became friends with this guy a about three and a half weeks ago. Well we really got closer when we had this spring fling water day right before school ended. ( I just turned 15 and he is about to turn 14, I'm going to be a sophmore and he's ...
A. 3 June 2010: Oh gosh honey this guy is soooo young - and this is pretty much how they behave. You are just going to have to wait. He is more afraid of himself than anything. There could also be other factors like his mom or older sister(s). Keep that in mind. ... (read in full...)
I cant let him go and the lonliness of being in another country is like hell for me
Q. i am 25 years old n my bf 23. its 2 years we are dating first 1.5 was like heaven i acted a bit childish and he was the one who did EVERYTHING to make me happy and after that time i realized his true love and its 6 months we have corrected our rela...
A. 3 June 2010: Oh honey let him go! The jig is up! You said so yourself "we don't want to marry but i can't tolerate loneliness and can't let him go!and finding another bf in this country is impossible."
WTF's up with that? You are 25 grow up and find ano... (read in full...)
My first time, the whole school knows and I think I might be pregnant!
Q. i just had sex two days ago with this guy i have been talking to , he didn't use a condom but he swore he pulled out. im so scared that i might be pregnant. My entire school knows. it was my first time so im really scared. please help me....
A. 2 June 2010: Get to Planned Parenthood immediately for a test. Do not wait! It's free. They can help. DO NOT PUT THIS OFF. After that get back to me.... (read in full...)
He thinks he's too young to settle down!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years. we never argue and we are great together. recently he has been thinking that hes too young to settle down because hes only 17 and says hes bored. he tells me he loves me, but he wants more excitement in ou...
A. 2 June 2010: Well 17 is very very young especially for a guy. What does he mean by more excitement? Do you know?... (read in full...)
He says he never loved me and just wanted to have sex!
Q. Help! I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago and I feel like im missing something. Its really strange because it always happens whenever i break-up with a boyfriend. also he keeps on texting me sayin that he never loved me and he just wa...
A. 31 May 2010: Oh honey this is just a mean guy. You did the right thing by saying NO to sex - you are not ready. He's mad because he could not get what he wanted. What a crybaby! Block his text - it's just that simple. ... (read in full...)
Why is he no longer attracted to me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is 44, I am 25. When we first met, he pursued me, trying reallyyyy hard, and I know he thought I was really hot. He still tells people about how beautiful his girlfriend is, even tells me if he could ...
A. 30 May 2010: Do I think he is really turned off by you because you get mad at him - YES. Honey listen - you may be hot and all that but that in no way makes up for being mean (you yourself have admitted to this) That being said looks have nothing to do with ... (read in full...)
Something always gets in the way of our meetings, what can I do?
Q. Hello. Thanks for reading. Okay, so me and this girl have established that we like eachother, but when trying to meet up with her something gets in the way, and then she says how she wished we had met up. I think it has something to do with her l...
A. 30 May 2010: Dear Cantbelieve - this girl is playing games with you. How old is she - 12? Don't buy that "last relationship" nonsense. Sounds a little silly to me. Wouldn't you agree? Indicate to her that you are moving on because of her nonsense - see if ... (read in full...)
Why would he beg me to remain friends just to ignore me?
Q. What does this mean? I tried to tell this married guy that we cannot be friends anymore because I had feelings for him and he for me and I am married 2 so that was the best thing to do.He talked me out of it and told me that we need eachothers ...
A. 30 May 2010: Just let it go - you dodged a bullet this time. Pay more attention to your husband and your marriage unless you don't want either. ... (read in full...)
I gave him oral and now I have a bump on my lip, what could it be?
Q. so i gave a blow job to this guy i have known for awhile but the day after i gave him one, i noticed a little bump in the corner of my mouth. Im not sure if it is a cold sore or not and i want to know if i caught herpes?...
A. 30 May 2010: Dear Shankster - to answer your question - probably not - let's hope not - ok - take quite a while for the herpes virus to show up. Now that being said - the question that really begs to be asked here is this - WHY are you giving a oral sex to a ... (read in full...)
Birth control question!
Q. Okay so I have been on birth control for about 4 months and after the first two months I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend a bunch. A condom is not used AT ALL. Do you think I should have less sex, sex with a condom all the time, or ...
A. 30 May 2010: Dear Jessmca - please, please just make sure that you use your birth control pills the right way - that is take it every day at the same time- to maintain proper hormone levels to be effective. Pregnancy on the pill occurs with improper use oral ... (read in full...)
She loves me but she doesn't want to date!
Q. dear cupid im a 27yr old male and i meet this girl whos 22 we dated twice which i broke up her the first time cause i felt i wasnt ready to date and i think thats because i had just had got a divorce from my ex-wife, we stayed in touch after that...
A. 27 May 2010: Slow down! Yes of course she wants to get a place together! That way she can move out of her parents house and into yours and do what she want - in front of you - with other guys! Is this what you want? First of all you admitted that you ... (read in full...)
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