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writes:>ok,so, i have a problem,I'm in love with my cousin,i live in the same house as he does his 18 and I'm 24 yrs old, i live with my 2 aunts, and the thing is that i don't look 24 i look like I'm 17 or 18,OK it all started one day wen we decided to stay home cause we didn't want to go to a party, the rest of the family left and we stayed home alone,for the rest of the day we just kicked it together and didn't do anything, but then when we got home we started to play around with each other it wasn't anything sexual it was just like play fighting, OK,a couple of weeks went by and i notice that he was looking at me in a funny way,and a way that a cousin is not suppose to look at another cousin so i just said whatever, so then i started to have feeling for him, but i didn't tell him anything, so then a couple of days went buy and we were playing around again but dis time he pushed me to the bed and got in top of me,and got my hands and told me that i was not going anywhere, at that point i knew that he did have feelings for me, so i just let him do whatever to me i told him that if he didn't get off that i would do something to him, but nothing to hurt him, he told me that he didn't care, so he just started to touch me every were, OK that was our first encounter,a couple of months went by and we started to get closer and closer, we went from friends to friends with privileges,so then just two months ago we stayed home alone again we were playing around with each other i got in top of him but then he got in top of me and was holding my hands so then we started to talk and then i ask him why he had let me do whatever wanted to him and he told me that it was cause he liked me to, so then i asked him if he would let me kiss him and he said yes, so i started to kiss him (every where)but when we were done he just stop talking to me altogether, he wouldn't talk to me for 2 weeks, those were the longest 2 weeks of my life so then the 2weeks past by and we started to talk(little by little) but then he started to talk with his best Friend(which is a girl)and now i think that they are going to to go out, but i still have a lot of feelings for him and i don't no how to win him back, i really want him, its just torture living with someone who you know loves someone else. do you think that i have a chance in winning him back?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 May 2010):
 It sounds to me like he was just playing. He doesn't love you. Sorry. He has a girlfriend on top of it. I think your best strategy at this point is to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, resolve not to play anymore teenage games with a teenager and walk away. Don't push on this anymore, he's not interested, he has a girlfriend, there's a significant age gap and your parents probably wouldn't much like this whole idea.
Good luck.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Ok - so I see you are back for the third time. I told you this would go down hill. Your cousin does not LOVE YOU. You keep attacking him (you call it playing and wresting) he gets aroused because he's a kid/guy (BTW-I know that you know this) and you get fingered and God knows what else. Why? Because he's a guy and you are provoking him - that's why! Please leave this kid alone and stop trying to lay a guilt trip on him for having a gf his own age. You are all under the same roof and you keep messing with him but then act like he's messing with you - NO it's all you! You do not fool me or any of us for one second. I know exactly what you are about. FIND A GUY YOUR OWN AGE THAT IS NOT A RELATIVE. Is there a term for "female creep"? Anyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok soo a cuple of weeks have past, and then one day he just comes up to me asks me if i still have feelings for him,so i said yes and aventuly we end up tuching eachother and fingering eachouther, but the next day i started to act strange with me, he dosnt want to talk to me or c me straght in the eye, so i ask him if he regreted evrthing and he told me yes becuse i was 24ys old ok so i said "ok", but then like two weeks past and we end up talking to eachother agin and we startd to play wrtsile with each other, you no tuching and grabing but htis time he acts like whatever we still talk good. so then last week we do the same thing but this time i just tell him that if i can give him a kiss, he then tells me to give him two good resons why he should alow me to kiss him,. so i just tell him stright out that i love him, he went quiet, i was still in top of him then i told him agian that i love him, and that i was sprung over him, but all he told me was that he did not love me and that he is really in love with her that the only reson why he was leting me do this to him was becuse we were plying, do you think he dose love me but is just lieing to me or is this really what this is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): Ok, girl. Then I say try to get in that playing situation where you wrestle around with each other and get on top of him. Only this time, get his clothes off and start kissing him everywhere. While you're doing it, ask him if it feels good, then ask him if he loves it when you do this for him, and then if he says yes, ask "and do you love me too?" If he says yes again, keep kissing him all over his body, including his genitals. Then ask him again if he loves you, and if he says yes, say "enough to make me your girlfriend, exclusively?" Don't go any further until you get a commitment from him that he loves you. If he agrees to make you his GF, then you move to consummate the relationship. But don't do that until you get that commitment from him. If he refuses, you'll know where you stand and you can move on to another guy.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (6 April 2010):
I'll repeat myself! Grow up and act your age. You are a 24 year old woman. He is 18 and ruled by his hormones. He's not even old enough to go in a bar! This can't go anywhere but down hill and very fast at that! He's got a girlfriend. Get a guy your own age. This is not love this is something different all together. Obsession comes to mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk First of all he is not a KID his 18, meaning that he is an ADULT free to make his own decisions. someone very dear to me once told me that in love nothing really matters, its not like his under age. =(, OK, and for the anonymous reader, i can't really talk to him because his a bit stubborn, his very mystery's and stubborn at the some time i do try to talk to him about it but... just that the right words wont come out so i just try not to make each other uncomfortable but sometimes i do act very jealous when he is talking on the phone with her like for example: he'll be talking on the phone with her and then he'll ask me something or tell me to do something for him and I'll ignore him, act like his not even there. or i just simply put on my ear phones on and just walkaway, but then i feel very guilty and start to talk to him, dame i just can't stop loving him i don't know what i what i did wrong, how do make him love me again? i need his love so much, his like my addiction, sometime i try to hurry up and get home just to see his face. is this real love or just some childish dream? I'm very confused i don't know what to do. sometimes i just sit and think and i just can't even bring to my head that i feel in love with my own cousin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): I would go to him when you and him are home alone and talk to him about your feelings. Tell him you need to have a serious talk with him and ask him about how he feels about you and does he want to pursue a relationship with you, cuz if he does that you are willing to pursue it also. Tell him you need to know how he feels about you and to be honest about it. Then take it from there. Post back after you have talked to him so we can know what he said and how to advise you, based on what he says.
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reader, veraciousone  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 For that matter(after reading comments) I read a scientific article once that stated that even having kids with ones first cousin has an almost negligible increase in the possibility of birth defects. It is only when this becomes common and is done multiple times that there are problems with offspring. The laws were made to prevent continuous inbreeding.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (2 April 2010):
What you doing here? You are six years old than him! I don't care if you look like you're 12! Doesn't matter. You have no business messing around with him like this! Lay off. Get a guy your own age and leave this kid alone. Shame on you!
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reader, TimmD +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Have you tried confronting him?
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