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writes:dear cupidim a 27yr old male and i meet this girl whos 22 we dated twice which i broke up her the first time cause i felt i wasnt ready to date and i think thats because i had just had got a divorce from my ex-wife, we stayed in touch after that happen, we dated again a 6 months later i felt ready this time, everything was perfect when i really got to know her i knew she was everything i always wanted in a girl i can tell her anything we always have fun together every time were with each other, but i made the biggest mistake of my life i cheated on her i regret that everyday day, im such a douch she forgave me but i know she never forgot it, anyway we stayed together for a few more months but we split up. were still good friends we hang out alot and go out we still sleep together here and there it still seems were still dating even though were not, now my question is i want to b with her but she says shes not ready to date again she wants to have fun shes a lil bit of a flirt and she has done it in front of me with other guys she tells me all the time she still loves me. she wants to get a place together but as best friends what do i do please help
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reader, YouWish +, writes (27 May 2010):
 From what it sounds like, this girl is taking great pains not to ever let herself be hurt by you again. She has feelings for you, but she's keeping a major wall up to you and trying to keep things emotionally balanced with the flirting.
Have you been honest with her and yourself as to what made you cheat on her in the first place? Do you know why you did it? If you were vague with her and said something like "it just happened", I don't know about you, but I'd never trust getting close to you again.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Slow down! Yes of course she wants to get a place together! That way she can move out of her parents house and into yours and do what she want - in front of you - with other guys! Is this what you want? First of all you admitted that you "cheated" on her when you were dating the first time. Why? That tells me you were not ready for a serious relationship. Now you say that you "sleep" with this girl "here and there." WTF's up with that? This is not a mature relationship! If you move in with this girl she will only bring you heartbreak. You already know she is a flirt and trust me - she is having sex with you "here and there" to keep you on the line - to get what she wants - SEX - is her only bargaining chip. Don't be a sucker!
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