Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 7 April 2010: I love it Old Moss! Go for it. She's yours! Keep us posted. @boo22 - perfect answer! ... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 30 March 2010: Dear Old Moss: What a great story! Best wishes both to you and Debbie. We are all so glad you took our advice and took a chance with your long lost love. May you lives the rest of your life happy. ... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 19 March 2010: Have a great summer! I think you will find love with Debbie and will finally be happy. Keep us posted. This is such a good story. ... (read in full...)
We confessed that we are in love, and now he's completely shut down. Why won't he talk to me?
Q. I am in a situation where my heart feels like it's breaking. I have been talking to a younger guy, which I told myself I wouldn't do, but with him I have broken a lot of rules and have fallen in love with him. I told him that I loved him and he told ...
A. 13 March 2010: Question - how old is this guy? ... (read in full...)
Does this sound like I'm in love?
Q. Does this sound like I'm in love or just have a crush? I may be considered young, but I ask that you not base your judgement on that. Here are some... (for lack of a better word) "symptoms": --Feeling really comfortable, serene, and just plain b...
A. 13 March 2010: Sounds more like infatuation to me but it could be love. Give it some time. Does he return your affection and admiration? Does he feel the same way you do? Who is seeing him as less than he is? Get back to me if you want. ... (read in full...)
Did I change so much that I'm not my own person?
Q. So I have been with my man for 3 years I love him so much and literally want to spend my life with him. However a girlfriend of mine told me that I have changed since I have been with my man. I always knew her and my man didn’t get along but the...
A. 13 March 2010: If you are happy with your man - forget your friend. There is a chance that she could be jealous of your relationship. She says that you have changed - maybe you just grew up a little and she hasn't. ... (read in full...)
Should I be worrying about pregnancy, even though I'm on the pill?
Q. Hello everyone! I am on the first cycle of Yaz which is a combination pill, and yesterday my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time and we used a condom. I am a perfect user - never missed a pill, so we had that extra bit of back up just in ...
A. 13 March 2010: You are worring about nothing. Continue to be a perfect birth control pill user and you should have nothing to be concerned about. ... (read in full...)
Someone is telling my "truth or dare" secret
Q. i`m so annoyed we played truth or dare in art ( me and some friends) and i told them something which is quite personal which i didn`t want to get round school. i told them that my ex boyfriend simon has seen me naked. which is true and now i found ...
A. 13 March 2010: Dear UptonGirl - 1) Cross Chloe off your list of friends. Friends to not betray a confidence. 2) You already have your answer - you said yourself that Chloe"lies a lot" let this issue ride and treat it like another one of her lies, it will ... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me a bit so should I just stop trying to communicate with this guy?
Q. There's a guy in the USAF who have been friend of mine for 3 years now. We have always been keeping in touch since we met in person. He had said he enjoys our friendship and communications and that it's good when he hears from me. Well, he's in ...
A. 13 March 2010: Why "confront" this guy? If he is on FB he can see that you on online as well. Apparently he no longer feels the same way you feel about him. Don't waste any more of your time on him. It also sounds to me like you may be in love with him but the ... (read in full...)
How do I make my husband's birthday a special one?
Q. hey everyone i really do need some help!!!! my husband Bday is very soon and i wanna do something for him that he'll never think off!!!! u see we've a baby so i cant take him out for dinner and so on.....so we'll just have to spend it all together ...
A. 13 March 2010: What a nice wife you are! Fix him his favorite meal, tell and show him how much you love him in the bedroom. Make him feel special - not just on his BD but every day. ... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 13 March 2010: Your original question was "I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?" The answer in one word is NO. It sounds to me that this woman is more trouble than she is worth. Some people are like that. Just because she gave birth to you ... (read in full...)
She wont let me in!
Q. well my question is this,ive been with the same girl for 2 years and a bit,she is great in so many wonderfull ways and not great in so many frustrating ways. We do not live together and have no real reason to do so at this point because were still ...
A. 12 March 2010: Dear Toothpic - opposites attract but likes stay together. You are not meant to be with this girl. Love should not be so stressful for you. Find someone more suited to you. You are not going to "stop feeling this way" until you get with someone ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's lying to me about drinking?
Q. My boyfriend is older than me so he used to drink and crap and on new years eve he told me he wasnt going to drink but all that day he posted shit on facebook about getting drunk that night. After that he sucked up and he said he cried cause he t...
A. 12 March 2010: Quiet-echo is so spot on. Listen to her. ... (read in full...)
Who to choose... my mom or my girlfriend???
Q. Ok.. to start from the beginning.. my friend and his wife moved back to where i live.. they had a hard time getting along and end up seperating.. soon after i start to date his ex wife (not divorced but separated) and everything was fine except for ...
A. 10 March 2010: Ok - you are a young man and this girl is messing with your head and heart - here is what happened. This girl hooked you with sex in the beginning which you mistook as love. BTW - sex is the only thing she really has to offer. So now she is using ... (read in full...)
How can I bring up the subject of STI's without offending him???
Q. hello, well im in a bit of a dilemma, im 15 and i like this guy who is 18. im not in love or anything and i have seen him a few times, on which occaisions, he fingered me and i tossed him off. He is the first and only guy up to yet who i have don...
A. 10 March 2010: Why would you want to be "friends with benefits" as this sort of behavior will surly classify you as a "slag" as you say. Look this guy wants to get in your pants with no relationship or love - is that what you really want? You are willing to be ... (read in full...)
I'm scared he will leave me again...
Q. Dear cupid i have been going out with my boyfriend for 7 years and, he has been the only person who i have ever loved. A few weeks ago he left me and didn't give me a good enough answer to say why he left me, he told me he didn't love me the way ...
A. 10 March 2010: Oh Honey! When a guy leaves you for no good reason and then tells you that you are more like friends than bf/gf - he is breaking up with you. Do not put off the inevitable. This is going to hurt but try to break if off with your dignity intact. ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Did I make the wrong decision???
Q. So I have been dating this guy since February 5th and I just decided that I dont want to be together anymore. This guy freaks out on me for stupid stuff and whenever he has a bad day he takes it out on me and gets all angry. If I cant hang out with ...
A. 10 March 2010: Listen to Caring Guy. He is so right! This guy is not good enough for you. Cut off contact with him. ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my brother in law, or keep quiet?
Q. Well, this post is about “failure to leave and cleave”. Until six months ago I had no idea all the writing on this topic. The bible, a few books, and reading lots of internet posts later I kinda get it. Here is the situation. First of all ...
A. 10 March 2010: You sound like such a wonderful guy that any gal would feel lucky to have. Your wife has no clue. Any guy what wants "kids, wife at home and work five days a week" is a prince in my book. It is difficult to understand why your wife would choose ... (read in full...)
Eating disorder relationship...
Q. Hi guys, just wondering if any of you out there are in loving relationships with a partner who has an eating disorder and what are your experiences and sacrifices over a “normal” relationship? I am in a 6 month old relationship with a woman wit...
A. 10 March 2010: Bless you! I hear you when you say you don't have your head in the clouds but please proceed with caution. You sound like such a wonder man I would hate to see you get hurt or waste precious time. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Any ways to get rid of stretch marks?
Q. hey everyone do anyone kno how to get rid of stretch marks plz let me know thanks........b...
A. 9 March 2010: Dear Hunnie Poo - No not really. There are plastic surgons here in the US that are using some type of injectable stuff that puffs them out and reduces the appearance. Other than that - once you have them you have them and no amount of coco butter ... (read in full...)
Help! Why do I find it so difficult to have sex with my boyfriend???
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years.. he loves me a lot and I love him too. but my problem is that we have been trying to have sex since 6 months but we could not have.(not every day of course) I am a virgin and he is very experienced. I like ...
A. 9 March 2010: Make an appointment with a female gynecologist. You have vaginisms - involuntary constriction of the muscles surrounding your vagina. Seek professional help. ... (read in full...)
Who to choose... my mom or my girlfriend???
Q. Ok.. to start from the beginning.. my friend and his wife moved back to where i live.. they had a hard time getting along and end up seperating.. soon after i start to date his ex wife (not divorced but separated) and everything was fine except for ...
A. 9 March 2010: Ok - she's "real religious" but she has a baby, is still married and she moved in with you? Explain that please. Frankly I don't see a problem with asking about sex on your birthday. Ask yourself this - why did she? This has nothing to do with ... (read in full...)
Instead of joy in my relationship, all I feel is stress.
Q. Instead of joy in my relationship, all I feel is stress. I am constantly trying to reassure my girlfriend and stressing out because she won't take steps to get her life on some sort of path. I've tried and tried to encourage her, but she won't ...
A. 9 March 2010: Re-read what you just wrote. You are miserable because of her. This is not what real love feels like. You should not be so anguished. This girl is a brick and she is drowing you. You can't "encourage" her out of being a complete basket case. ... (read in full...)
I love him but I feel unloved in return...
Q. my boyfriend and i use to be very close. we used to see each other at least 3 times a week because the rest of the days he worked full time but now he's taken the whole week for work only left with 2 days off and now he doesnt want to spend them ...
A. 9 March 2010: Oh Honey! He does not love you. STOP having sex with him now. He is using you just for that. This is not what love feels like. Move on. This guy is a cad... (read in full...)
Eating disorder relationship...
Q. Hi guys, just wondering if any of you out there are in loving relationships with a partner who has an eating disorder and what are your experiences and sacrifices over a “normal” relationship? I am in a 6 month old relationship with a woman wit...
A. 9 March 2010: Question: What is going on with you that you need to "rescue" this horibly wounded little bird? Are you prepared to take care of her for the rest of your life? Marriage to this woman will be a disaster. I know it feels good right now to be ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate to experience an orgasm...
Q. I am with my boyfriend 2 years and I am not able to let him make me cum. I get to a certain stage and then I push his hand away, I have tried at home myself but I'm just not able. I have never experienced the feeling of it before and really do want ...
A. 8 March 2010: How old are you? How old is your boyfriend? What is your religion/cultural background? What country are you from?... (read in full...)
Is this lack of a father figure or something else???
Q. I'm 17 - 18 in a couple of months. It's taken me a lot of courage to start writing this, because I am very, very embarrassed about what I'm going to say and I feel like such an awful, twisted person. I have always had confidence issues, paranoia ...
A. 8 March 2010: Poor child! Go the health suite at school, ask for help with a psychologist or a counsellor. You are in a big jam and you cannot get out of yourself. Your problems are undertandable what with your dad and all. Go for help. It will be ... (read in full...)
His mom is always butting into our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while and his mom seems to always be butting into our relationship. In our first few months of dating, she already tried to break us up because she was jealous that there was a second woman in his life. (she ...
A. 8 March 2010: Question? How old are you? How old is your boyfriend? Is the mom divorced? I'll get back to you.... (read in full...)
He is weirder but am I weirder?
Q. There is a guy, he's become a great friend, I admitted my crush to him and he was sweet about it, but I don't think he ifeels the same crush...but we still goof off, hang out, we had a few disagreements, we made up, we hug text talk on the phone ...
A. 7 March 2010: My dear you are between 30-35 and you sound like a 12 year old girl! In adult relationships why on Earth would the fact that he wears really pink shirts matter? Try actually getting to know this guy. Stop making this about you too - "what does my ... (read in full...)
We've been working on our relationship but he still calls the woman he cheated with
Q. I need some much needed advice. I have been with my fiance' for 9 yrs now and engaged for 4yrs. We planned a trip to get married in florida in 2006. He is my rock, best friend, lover and I feel I am the same to him. About 3 weeks before we were to ...
A. 7 March 2010: Move on. This guy does not love you. This is not what real love feels like. His behavior is reprehensible. Cheaters never stop cheating. They love the thrill of the chase and can't give that rush up. Lose this nasty guy.... (read in full...)
I need to take things slower but he sees it as neglect
Q. My bf and I have been going out for 8 mos,I'm getting divorced (separated more than a yr ago) and I have a son.Well, we see each other 1-3 times a week and mostly all day Mondays, we txt about 100 txts daily between both of us, and I call every ...
A. 7 March 2010: Lose this guy. He's too needy and is sucking all the energy out of your relationship and sapping your strength. Concentrate on raising your child. You don't need a guy like this around. I am afraid if you keep him around his neediness will morph ... (read in full...)
He asked me to be his baby mamma
Q. so i have boyfriend, we've been going out since last week monday but known each other for years, he's a senior 17 im a sophmore and 16 on thursday, we were talking about our futures, i want to make weapons like in the movie ironman and GI j...
A. 7 March 2010: Do not have a baby just because you can! That is just craziness. I agree with Aunty Alexxmo - finish school. Wait until you are 28-30 to get married. Teenage mothers rarely escape the poverty cycle because of the baby they are unable or unwilling ... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 7 March 2010: Oh Old Moss you sound like such a wonderful guy. What a precious man you are! I believe that fate has reunited you. Go to her! Take it slow....keep us posted! Who doesn't love a good love story?... (read in full...)
My girl friend has a very short temper!
Q. Okay, so me and my girlfriend have been going out for roughly ten months now. It initially started off amazing, but until school came along and we became physically distant, problems started emerging. Recently, we have been fighting constan...
A. 7 March 2010: Listen to puzzlesolver - he's spot on and knows what he is talking about. Lose this mean girl! You deserve better treatment!... (read in full...)
I just want my stuff back, why wont he answer?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about a month but we have only hungout 3 times because he says he always has his daughter. I have never hungout with him on a weekend its always been on a Monday or Tuesday. We always just get take out n watch a movie ...
A. 7 March 2010: Oh honey! So this guy never even actually took you out for a real date!? Why? Because he knew he didn't have to! These types of guys are to be avoided. I hope to God that you didn't have sex with him. In the future if a man is really interested ... (read in full...)
I need to take things slower but he sees it as neglect
Q. My bf and I have been going out for 8 mos,I'm getting divorced (separated more than a yr ago) and I have a son.Well, we see each other 1-3 times a week and mostly all day Mondays, we txt about 100 txts daily between both of us, and I call every ...
A. 7 March 2010: You are not beinginsensitive. Your guy is very insecure right now and is sucking up all the enery in your relationship with his neediness. Be firm and warn him that this sort of behavior will ruin a relationship. If you can have him examine his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is over protective
Q. am inlove with my boyfrend but he is over protective,he thinks every where i go am going to cheat on him.however he once found out that i cheated on him and now things are complicated coz i dnt do what i want,now coz of the love that i feel for him ...
A. 7 March 2010: This guy is seeking to control you. This is never a good idea. Relationships like this can also turn violent once you start resisting his attempts at conrol. Proceed with caution. ... (read in full...)
My girl friend has a very short temper!
Q. Okay, so me and my girlfriend have been going out for roughly ten months now. It initially started off amazing, but until school came along and we became physically distant, problems started emerging. Recently, we have been fighting constan...
A. 7 March 2010: You are not asking for too much! Loose this mean girl. She is making your life miserable! Re-read what you wrote - you will see what I am saying- it's all in your text. Truth be told - you think you do but you don't "love" this girl. This is not ... (read in full...)
Helped someone with money and now they don't wana return it!
Q. i was with this guy for a while and we studied together. he was out of money to travel back to our home country and asked me for help. considering he was a good friend at that point in time i helped him out with 1000$ i know im really stupid fo...
A. 6 March 2010: Poor girl! I'm with Marieclair in Ireland. Time to move on. Learn from this experience. You got used by this creepy guy and your feelings of distress are understandable but it's time to move on. ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to ignore how other woman look and what my boyfriend thinks of them?
Q. I'm not a very attractive female. I'm 21 years old and I guess nature wasn't too kind with me when I was created, lol. It's not a weight issue. I have a healthy BMI. I won't get into details. But my face isn't attractive. And it's not like I can get ...
A. 6 March 2010: Listen to your boyfriend or you will drive him away with your neediness. All guys look at other women - that being said you asking him for constant reassurance about your looks will eventually wear him out. Stop doing that! PS if it's your family ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's lying to me about drinking?
Q. My boyfriend is older than me so he used to drink and crap and on new years eve he told me he wasnt going to drink but all that day he posted shit on facebook about getting drunk that night. After that he sucked up and he said he cried cause he t...
A. 6 March 2010: Yes of course he drinks and he lying to you about it. Find another guy who is up to your standards. Trust me you are too good for this guy and he knows it which is why he is lying to you in the first place. He will only drag you down. Move on. ... (read in full...)
He loves me but is not 'in love' with me. What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing a man off and on for a year and 2 months. He is 10 years older than me and successful. We were casually hooking up last year and I stopped talking with him because I felt like he was only seeing me when it was convenie...
A. 6 March 2010: Run - do not walk to the nearest exit! This guy is using you. You know this. What? Not kissing you because you went out with a black man - but I'll bet he's having sex with you! Why would you allow this sort of treatment from a man? This is ... (read in full...)
We have conflicting schedules and he doesn't respect my time
Q. My boyfriend works on weekends, from 3-8 (sometimes 3-11) and I never have any time with him on Saturday or Sunday. It's a little upsetting because I never get to do couple-y things with him like go to the movies on a Saturday night or go out to ...
A. 6 March 2010: Oh honey! You just answered your own question! Look at your last line - lazy and unproductive? Again why are you with this guy? He is draging you down. That won't change. ... (read in full...)
Inappropriate touching from an uncle.
Q. My uncle touches me inappropratly he always touches my bum and boobs and it makes me sick! I am 16 by the way. I'm a really shy person, i know i should tell someone but i don't know who to tell and it's so embarrising. The only person i would ...
A. 6 March 2010: If you have a parent tell them! Time to stand up to this scum bag! Get over your shyness - get in his face the next timehe comes over to your house and tell him to get the F out your room - don't be afraid. That is what he is counting on - your ... (read in full...)
We have conflicting schedules and he doesn't respect my time
Q. My boyfriend works on weekends, from 3-8 (sometimes 3-11) and I never have any time with him on Saturday or Sunday. It's a little upsetting because I never get to do couple-y things with him like go to the movies on a Saturday night or go out to ...
A. 6 March 2010: You don't want to "hurt his feelings?" Apparently he is not taking your feelings into consideration here. You are a serious student and he is not. Why are you with this guy? ... (read in full...)
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