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female
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36-40,
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writes:my husband goes to work at 6:00am and gets off at 10:30 pm he even offers to work weekends..i just got promoted and i work from 6-5pm i wait day after day for him to come home and when he finally does he walks in greets the dogs heads in the kitchen talks on the phone sometimes and then after all that says hi, no kiss no hugs not even an i love you anymore. hes 29, im 23 and im beginning to think hes not in love with me anymore. when i go to my room and cry for hours not even any sympathy from him. all i want is a day to spend with my husband. just me and him and our son together. is that too much to ask. is it reasonable for me to ask him not to go on a sunday? im moving to alaska soon and if he doesnt change im wanting a divorce before i go. is this how love is, marriage, please tell me iv been married for 2 years 1 in which i was gone due to deployment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): How long were you deployed? You have only been married two years if you have been gone and he is working long hours, I would say you both haven't even got used to be married yet. You need to talk to him, tell him how you are feeling, he might not even realise, thinking he is is doing the best for his family by working hard long hours.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (15 May 2010):
 You are in a tough situation and you are very young. First of all stop with the crying - men hate that and it's counterproductive. You can't cry, moan or nag him into paying attention to you. Sometimes men seek solace in work - it's an escape for them. Could it be that he wants to escape from you? Take a very honest hard look at yourself. Are you the type of wife that he can't wait to come home to? Do you start in on him about not paying attention to you the second he comes in the door? Are you making home life unpleasant for him? Put yourself in his shoes, look at yourself and your actions - would you want to come home to you? Try a different approach with him. Try greeting him warmly at the door and don't say anything else about your wants and needs. Talk to him about him, about his day. This may not work over night give it some time - you have a son to consider as well. This is not all about you. Playing the divorce card prior to moving to Alaska and taking is son away is not fair either. Marriage takes work. Get busy!
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