Is 17 too young to move out?
Q. hey i have a question and i hope you all can help me out.. ok so my question is that if im 15 now and i have a job that pays very well im saving the money that i earned to move me in to an apartment when im 17..my family thinks its bad for me to ...
A. 2 September 2010: Mrs. Williams...the question I have for you is why do you want to move out? What is so terrible about your home life and family. ... (read in full...)
Is 17 too young to move out?
Q. hey i have a question and i hope you all can help me out.. ok so my question is that if im 15 now and i have a job that pays very well im saving the money that i earned to move me in to an apartment when im 17..my family thinks its bad for me to ...
A. 2 September 2010: Mrs. Williams...the question I have for you is why do you want to move out? What is so terrible about your home life and family. ... (read in full...)
Am I in danger from this guy who texted a nude pic to me?
Q. I went on plenty of fish several months ago and was flooded with emails. I tried to weed out the jerks and players and would block them when I realized they were users. There was alot sleezy guys on this site. (as a caution to the ladies out ...
A. 2 September 2010: Yes I think you are in danger! This guy is a total creep and a pervert! Yes call the police at once! There are laws about this sort of thing. When you call request a female officer for your own comfort level if you wish. Learn from this - never ... (read in full...)
Long time girlfriend suddenly ditches you for friends.
Q. MOD NOTER: OP's own title: My girlfriend and I have been dating since the middle of our sophomore year in high school, and we just started our senior year. So it's been a little over a year and a half. I really really hate her two best friends, so s...
A. 2 September 2010: Well you don't give a reason for "hating" her two best friends but really how bad can they be if your girlfriend is hanging with them? Here is your problem in a nutshell - you were forcing her to choose between you and them all summer long and that ... (read in full...)
I love him so much.... he left me please I need advice
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title please i really need help. i love my fiance more then my life but he just left me today. we were engage alomst three years ago. i hide him about my past . i was victim of rape when i was 11 years old. i did not tell him befo...
A. 2 September 2010: Dear Rubaab, First of all leave the rape out of this equation. It has nothing to do with sex. Rape is about power, not sexual pleasure.
You say you feel like a "slave" in this relationship, that's flag #1. Flag #2 is that he's calling ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by my younger b/f, I don't want him, or the baby.
Q. need help fast! I am a 30 year old female and have a boyfriend that is 21 I just found out i was pregnant he doesn't no yet because I didn't want this to happen he already made it clear that he want's a baby by me but lately I have been having a ...
A. 2 September 2010: Do not tell him. He's 21 and childish (your word)- do you really want him making life altering decisions for you? Get to Planned Parenthood immediately. And next time use a more effective form of contraception to avoid having to make such ... (read in full...)
Is this normal, or should I see a dr?
Q. Well i started not feeling good today.. i had terrible cramps and my lower back hurt really bad. It's two weeks before my period is supposed to start, and this really isn't normal for me. I'm on the pill, but i did forget one during the beginning of ...
A. 2 September 2010: I think you should see a doctor. Missing a pill early on just once is not likely to allow a pregnancy. Also not sure what type of BC pills you are on. This could be a urinary tract infection as well. Better see a doctor to be sure. ... (read in full...)
Period cycle question!
Q. This is a period cycle question. They say the "normal" period cycle is about 28 days however what i am confused about is whether that is the whole cycle or the days inbetween cycles???? So would the 28 day cycle woman have a 7 day period and then ...
A. 2 September 2010: In a nutshell. You are a 33 day cycle woman, that's all. On average you get your period every 33 days. I cycled every 29-30 days myself. The 28 day cycle is just an average. Best luck with your childbirth. ... (read in full...)
How can I 'woo' my travel companion into bed?
Q. I’m on a group tour. Most people on the tour have a partner or travel companion. Being a single traveler I was thinking about not going on the trip but then I thought I should. Anyways, on the tour I met a cute woman who is also a single traveler. ...
A. 2 September 2010: You don't say what country you are from and they are not showing those little flags anymore on this site but I think you line of questioning is odd for one. As an adult male, if you establish a romantic relationship with a woman then a sexual ... (read in full...)
She gave him a hand job but said it wasn't cheating
Q. I have been married for eight years now, recently my wife found this guy at work, she felt sorry for him, so she moves him into our apartment, so he can heal from an operation on his shoulder. Well let me back up, before he moved in he was stay...
A. 15 August 2010: Good God man! Have you no boundaries? Have you no limits? Have you no pride?
You are being played to the hilt big time! She has no respect for you or your sham of a marriage. Turn her loose- she's playing the field anyway. ... (read in full...)
I experimented with another boy should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. hi. I have had a girlfriend for a year now, and I absolutely love her. I screwed up when I was in seventh grade and I experimented with another boy. It was the stupidest thing I have ever done in my life. Its been bugging me she doesn't know. Sh...
A. 8 August 2010: Before revealing this information to your girlfriend you should ask you self this: "What purpose would it serve for me to tell her?"
That you are over-reacting to Quiet-Echo's very sound and unflagging advice is yet another problem all together... (read in full...)
Should I have sex to lose virginity even though I don't think it will be as special to him as it is to me?
Q. I have been with my partner for three years and so far we only engage in oral sex. I havent been ready to go forward with full sex and he has been very understanding about this. However, now I am getting tired of being a virgin as I am 25 and its ...
A. 5 August 2010: Good gracious Ms. Virologist! What is going on in your head? Is it the scientist in you that keeps you referring to your boyfriend as your "partner?" You've been having oral sex (how intimate can you get?) for three years but no vaginal ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a workaholic, please help me!
Q. Dear cupid, I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 months now, and have known her for 5. And I am pretty positive now that she is a workaholic. She always told me that she had a weird work schedule, saying sometimes she would have to work lat...
A. 4 August 2010: This is a personality trait that will not - repeat --will not -change. People like her look for people like you - "always bending." You are not being too dramatic or fussy. You want a relationship! She already has one and it's with her job!... ... (read in full...)
Having children she can't afford without thought
Q. My best friend is 21, I have asked a post about her before regarding her child: (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/torn-between-love-of-a-best-friend-and.html) she already has one child who is 5, and she recently got together with (anot...
A. 4 August 2010: You are certainly NOT being unfair. Look, you sound like a nice, sensible young lady - why bother with a person like her? You have so much more going for you. Your so called "friend" - not so much. Stay in school and do not associate with her ... (read in full...)
How can I approach her?
Q. Recently a girl I have been friendly with told me that she really liked me. I was surprised but delighted as I have liked her for a good while, but I am a bit shy. A few days later when we met again I told her that I really liked her as well. Ever ...
A. 4 August 2010: From what I am reading you both sound like you are in your early teens? Has anything else happened since July 28th? Sorry for not getting back to you sooner.... (read in full...)
Long-time crush and I kissed!
Q. OP's own title. The other day a group of my friends were hanging out. Among that group was this guy I had had a crush on for YEARS! It's been about a few years since we've seen each other and we know that time probably changed each of us. Anyway, ...
A. 28 July 2010: I think that means he likes you. He turned his head to kiss you on the lips - not the other way around. Pay no mind about who ended up kissing him too later on unless he was the one doing the kissing. If she macked on him maybe he didn't have ... (read in full...)
How can I approach her?
Q. Recently a girl I have been friendly with told me that she really liked me. I was surprised but delighted as I have liked her for a good while, but I am a bit shy. A few days later when we met again I told her that I really liked her as well. Ever ...
A. 28 July 2010: I have a question for you. How old is this young woman? This will help me help you, ok? If you do not want to talk here you can email me privately on this site. ... (read in full...)
Breakup over bad past... please help!
Q. Please help... I am 20 years old and I'm in this fantastic relationship. It's been 10 months... I have a rather "dirty" past, I wanted to have fun and did and he feels so threatened by my past that once every 2 or 3 months he brings it up. He says ...
A. 22 July 2010: The problem as I see it is that it's more about him than you. He got into this relationship with you with eyes wide open - he knew EVERYTHING...as you say. I'll have to ask you to put the ball back in his court and ask him since he knew all this ... (read in full...)
I feel less of a man for my experimenting. How can I move forward?
Q. I'm a 25 year old male who experimented with another male a couple of days ago and did not like it. he gave me a bj that was wierd, I then let him give me anal I hated it. That lasted for all of like 2 minutes. I just feel like less of a man for ...
A. 22 July 2010: Ok so you were curious - maybe you thought you'd be ok with that - you found out you were wrong. This does not make you less of a man for seeking truth about yourself. Don't do this again. Move on. And for God's sake do not "confess" this to ... (read in full...)
Don't know if I want kids, help!
Q. I am 23 years old and have been in a committed relationship with a woman I love to death for about 2 years now. She knows she wants children in the future but I'm still unsure. When we talk about it, she gets upset and says she doesn't want to ...
A. 22 July 2010: Do not give into this sort of pressure. This is so unfair. Move on. Get your life underway. You two are going in two different directions. Remain true to yourself. I personally know of a few men who got married at your age under pressure and ... (read in full...)
I can't get aroused with my boyfriend... Help!
Q. Well I'm 24 and I lost my virginity at 21 with a guy I was with for 5 years. The thing is were not together anymore and I'm with my second bf since him and the problem is I can't seem 2 get aroused sexually with any other man! I mean I really love ...
A. 22 July 2010: Are you on oral contraceptives? ... (read in full...)
How effective is Plan B and how do I know if it worked?
Q. My fiance and I had sex a couple weeks ago and he didnt pull out when he was about to ejaculate. We of course know this is a really bad method for preventing pregnancy but he doesnt like condoms. I have tried the pill and Nuva Ring before but I ...
A. 22 July 2010: YOU: I still cant believe that the Plan B didnt work though. Should I contact the company and let them know it didnt work? Can they do anyhting for me in support of the decision I have had to make?
ME: Can they do "anything" as in law suit? G... (read in full...)
How effective is Plan B and how do I know if it worked?
Q. My fiance and I had sex a couple weeks ago and he didnt pull out when he was about to ejaculate. We of course know this is a really bad method for preventing pregnancy but he doesnt like condoms. I have tried the pill and Nuva Ring before but I ...
A. 14 July 2010: Go immediately to Planned Parenthood. They will help you. Let me know what happens. I care. ... (read in full...)
I plan to move to America... but how do I to tell Mum and Dad!
Q. hello reader i am 17 and i didn't stay at school or go to college i have regretted that as i haven't been able to fibd work. i am now thinking about going back to college and getting some education the thing is next year if i have enough m...
A. 25 June 2010: I need to ask you some questions first before I can move forward. There is some information I need in order to give you my best informed advice. Ok? Why do you want to move to America? Why did you not stay in school? You can either answer me ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mistress is his music....
Q. I'm in love with my musician boyfriend . But he's always spending time with his music . I go to the gym regularly and there is a really sweet guy there . He's cute and he seems to be attracted to me . I get butterflies around him sometimes and i'm ...
A. 25 June 2010: You are not cheating but you may be getting ready to. You are not overreacting - you are bored with your boyfriend. It sounds like you want more from your relationship but your boyfriend is into his music. I can tell you from personal experience ... (read in full...)
What is a good moment to go for a first kiss?
Q. Hello, Uhh, okay so me and this girl like each other, we've met up once and both really enjoyed ourselves, we only talked which was great I felt like I got to know a lot about her. we're meeting again and this time i really want to kiss her, I w...
A. 25 June 2010: Sounds to me like she is a very immature girl - she was "play" fighting you? That is just dumb! Move on to another girl who is more mature and would appreciate you.... (read in full...)
What is a good moment to go for a first kiss?
Q. Hello, Uhh, okay so me and this girl like each other, we've met up once and both really enjoyed ourselves, we only talked which was great I felt like I got to know a lot about her. we're meeting again and this time i really want to kiss her, I w...
A. 22 June 2010: Stop with the "play fighting" now. That's not play, that is being agressive and it's what 12 year old boys do with each other - you don't do that with a girl you like - ever! No wonder you had a problem! The notion that she was so hurt by her ... (read in full...)
I want so much more in life...
Q. I'm 15 and I pretty much going through a LONG stage of depression. I don't get a long with my family including my annoying lil sister. They don't understand me and never will. They only have one mind set, they always think of the negative happening, ...
A. 21 June 2010: Your parents are trying to maintain control but not doing a very good job of it I am afraid. You say your parents do not understand you and never will - well the problem is that they forget what it is like to be 15. I remember being 15 so well ... (read in full...)
Dating my friend, nervous about intimacy. How do I hold his hand?
Q. Dear Cupid, I got a boyfriend a few days ago I dont know how to hold his hand and hug him. Because I dont want it to be weird because we were almost best friends before we started dating. We get along sooo Soo well, people have always said we would...
A. 20 June 2010: Don't concern yourself with "making the first move." He already did when you were walking home from school. Relax. You and he are off to a good start. Take it easy and don't move too fast. ... (read in full...)
Help me to get abdominal muscles please?
Q. *OP's Original Title* I am a 18 year old male. I have tried to look around for tips/routines/exercises around various searches on the internet but cant seem to find anything that isn't "register" or "pay"... Does anybody know, do or have don...
A. 19 June 2010: What shows the "six pack" is having no fat on your middle whatsoever. Everyone pretty much has that six pack it is just a matter of stripping off the fat. It is really more about diet than anything.... (read in full...)
Stuck in a love triangle, what should I do?
Q. i have this huge crush on this guy im 14 hes 16 i practicly love him i jus met hiw this year and he keeps telling me he wants to hang i want to but idk if my parents will aprove and there is another isue he has a girl friend which he loves but is in ...
A. 17 June 2010: No! I would not kiss him until he is officially broken up with his girlfriend! If he "loves" her then why is he wanting to kiss you? It could be that he feels sorry for her because she is in foster care. That being said - make it clear that yes ... (read in full...)
What is a good moment to go for a first kiss?
Q. Hello, Uhh, okay so me and this girl like each other, we've met up once and both really enjoyed ourselves, we only talked which was great I felt like I got to know a lot about her. we're meeting again and this time i really want to kiss her, I w...
A. 17 June 2010: So sweet and nice! There is never an exact "right" moment for a kiss. Never force it or yourself but when you feel that it is the right time tilt your head to the right or left (which ever is comfortable for you and a good angle) and move in a ... (read in full...)
How should I act? Can I get him back?
Q. My relation ended after five long years . We were studying together . Now he has changed his city n moved out . And we have broken apart cuss his parents aren't ready for us to marry as we av a different caste . So he has stopped talking to me , ...
A. 16 June 2010: Dear Jial - you are an adult and I assume he is too. I know a little bit about the caste system in India but I can tell you this - couples since Romeo and Juliette - have been going against family wishes. Sometimes resulting in tragedy sometimes ... (read in full...)
My vagina has this smell which is making me uncomfortable..
Q. i have this ugly bad smell at my vagina, dont know why but i have it. I shower atleast 2 times a day when i have my period sometimes more, even if i take a bath. After intercourse i shower before intercourse i shower after intercourse the smell is ...
A. 15 June 2010: If you bathe on a regular basis and you do you should never ever have a bad odor coming from your vagina. You have something going on, could be an infection, could be an imbalance. Why can't you go to a doctor? If you are trying to get pregnant ... (read in full...)
Are warts contagious?
Q. My boyfriend recently discovered he has a wart on his thumb. Shortly after without realising he fingered me. Will i get warts in my vagina? please help!...
A. 15 June 2010: Yes - thumb and finger are all on the same hand - get to the clinic. ... (read in full...)
Are all guys straight forward or are some shy too?
Q. Hi i need some advice on guys! Most people say that guys are simple and straight forward, if they like you they will show it or they will tell you or tell someone (e.g your or his mate) People say they dont mess around and say they dont when they do ...
A. 15 June 2010: To answer your question yes some guys are simple and straight forward and some are shy and hold back. It's as simple as that. That's just not guys either - that's people in general - all about personality. I don't think this guy is "shy" I think ... (read in full...)
He seems to have just vanished, should I text him again or leave it?
Q. Met this nice guy. Spent a few days together. I could see he liked me, but nothing really happend. We just had a few nice dates. He texted me every day since our last date then suddenly I haven't heard form him in 2 days. i texted him pretty ...
A. 15 June 2010: Leave him along and see what happens. I agree it is a weird situation but he also has your number. He may also have a girlfriend. Let it ride. ... (read in full...)
I feel distressed that I misunderstood her text and now she won't forgive me..
Q. Hi all, I am young man of 24yrs and in a relation with a lady for 3yrs now. I left town for work in another city for six month now. But we do communicate on phone all times. Last night she sent me an SMS which I replied the following day. Some ...
A. 15 June 2010: Sorry - you are going to have to tell me what was in the text message and what was said before I can render any kind of opinion here. There is something that made her angry that you are leaving out. ... (read in full...)
How can I make my not so innocent husband see I'm completely honest with him?
Q. My husband had an affair for 12 months with a woman from work. I knew what was going on but hadnt had it confirmed by him. He wasnt nice to me at all, putting me down and pushing me away, however I remained the supportive wife allowing him to do his ...
A. 15 June 2010: Why are you taking all the blame for everything that is wrong with your marriage? Physical abuse by a spouse is never deserved so please stop that kind of thinking. Also what you are describing are extreme mood swings. Please seek help for this. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might be getting my hopes up over nothing
Q. Hey. I really like this guy, and I think he likes me back. I’m worried that I’m getting my hopes up over nothing so could you tell me what you think, please? We started off as mutual friends just speaking on msn but we’ve grown a lot closer recently...
A. 15 June 2010: Everything you listed about him certainly points to him liking you. Sounds to me like you are both shy. If you can talk on line you should be able to talk face to face. Go slow, it will be ok, no one has ever died from shyness. He sounds like a ... (read in full...)
How effective is Plan B and how do I know if it worked?
Q. My fiance and I had sex a couple weeks ago and he didnt pull out when he was about to ejaculate. We of course know this is a really bad method for preventing pregnancy but he doesnt like condoms. I have tried the pill and Nuva Ring before but I ...
A. 15 June 2010: You say your boyfriend doesn't like condoms? I think he'd like a baby even less! Plan B is 99.9% effective if used properly. Please go to Planned Parenthood for a test to ease your mind. And PLEASE keep trying to find a birth control method that ... (read in full...)
My best friend is so self absorbed!
Q. Hey there, please read, sorry its long. I need your help. my friend since childhood, I'm 22 now and so is she, we've been friends since we were five, isn't that great of a friend anymore. Somehow I didn't see it before but as of lately I realize...
A. 15 June 2010: Dear LLindy - I agree with you. You only option right now is to cut her out of your life. That does not always mean forever. You are placing a lot of emphasis on how long you have been friends and yes 17 years is a long time but that also doesn't ... (read in full...)
Are warts contagious?
Q. My boyfriend recently discovered he has a wart on his thumb. Shortly after without realising he fingered me. Will i get warts in my vagina? please help!...
A. 15 June 2010: Yes warts can be contagious. They are caused by a virus. Get to the clinic for a check. ... (read in full...)
Dating my friend, nervous about intimacy. How do I hold his hand?
Q. Dear Cupid, I got a boyfriend a few days ago I dont know how to hold his hand and hug him. Because I dont want it to be weird because we were almost best friends before we started dating. We get along sooo Soo well, people have always said we would...
A. 12 June 2010: How sweet! Take your time and let nature take its course. Let him take the lead, to make the first move. Boys this age are as uncertain as you are but you don't want to scare him off by being too forward. Relax. ... (read in full...)
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