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writes:l am a 23 year year old. have been dating my boyfriend for a year now.he is 27. he has gone all quite. we were suppose to meet on new year eve to go to a party. he called saying he was coming but never showed up. he didn't even text a message apologizing or anything. l had to call his brother to check if he was ok of which he was. haven't talked to him since. he used to be so loving,this the first time he stood me up.he started acting strange when he came back from his parents home for Christmas, there was always issue of his ex because all his family members are against me and in favor of his ex.what should l do? should l keep on keeping quite?
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reader, candy1250  +, writes (24 January 2010):
So sorry this happened to you.Move on.....Surely you will meet someone that is more kind and respectful. Keep loving yourself and the universe will send someone better suited for you in due time.Shame on him !!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (23 January 2010):
oh darlin'. That's awful. It never ceases to amaze me how cowardly men can be. I think that if you need some closure or explanation you should call him and tell him you need to talk. If you don't need that then walk away. But most of all take care of yourself and love yourself. Surround yourself with friends. This isn't about you... this is about his cowardice and his cold-hearted, selfish inability to tell you what going on with him.
And to any gentlemen who might be reading this... If you are too afraid to hurt a good womans feelings that you think just running away is the answer, it's not. This sort of treatment is absolutely devastating to a woman. Give her the decency and respect of an honest conversation - even if it's hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): Don't bother calling, he couldn't give you the decency of a phone call to let you know how things were so it seems that he's sadly hoping that by not contacting you things will just end.
Its really sad but a man so cowardly isn't worth the time of day.
Make sure you get a real hot pic of you on facebook just so he can see how much fun you're having without him.
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reader, Angzw +, writes (22 January 2010):
Chingomusiya. Pamwe akadyiswa ikoko. Just move on and try your best to forget him. If you act desperate by phoning all over for him then you are cheapening your self. You are worth more than this. It will be hard but force yourself to move on, taking each day at a time. When he decides to be man enough to call let him sweat a little. He needs to know that silent treatment is unacceptable. If he changed his mind about the relationship then he should just speak up instead of leaving you hanging like this.. Tell him that when he finally calls.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 January 2010):
 Since you verified that he hasn't been hit by a Mac truck, I'd now pretend he did and move on.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (22 January 2010):
 I would leave him alone. It is sadly finished. He knows where you are and how to make contact with you but he has done nothing;- just taken the cowards way out. I wouldn't even bother contacting his brother again , it just makes it look like you are chasing him.
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reader, kaytie-babey +, writes (22 January 2010):
 Yeah - His brother seems to be the one who can give you the answers you need.
And to be honest, if he's not been in touch that long, the chances are he has another women. :/
I feel for you - I really do. x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 January 2010):
Phone his brother again and ask what's happened. It sounds to me like your boyfriend couldn't dump you to your face so just left you. Check with his brother, then leave him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010): I think if you keep quiet, and he keeps quiet, and a month of no contact has already passed... he's not your boyfriend any more. Call him! You can not just sit and wait for him to either show up or not.
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