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My dad was a married woman's other guy for only a few weeks (about a decade before my mum met him), then realised he wasn't okay with helping her betray her husband. His friend became her other guy, husband came home while they were at it, the guy jumped out of the window and the husband knew, so grabbed a bicycle, chased him and punched him once, going 20mph, so it knocked him out. A couple of relationships later, after getting £15,000 in debt to help a woman leave her abusive husband and getting in a relationship with her, my dad came back from a holiday with his parents and found her with another guy. |
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My pregnant wife swears and breaks things when angry, sometimes I think I'd rather raise the baby as a single dad.
Q. She is 36 weeks pregnant. I've been night shift all week and sleeping during the day. I have university 2 days per week and I will go straight from work to a half day of uni. Return home about 4pm and sleep until 10pm then go to work. I'm full ...
A. 1 July 2018: OP, we're here to support you, but this is an advice site. You don't want advice. You need to either get a divorce and fight for custody or seek a professional therapist to vent to.... (read in full...)
I'm 25 my girlfriend is 67, its time we went public with the Age Gap.
Q. This question is about being true to myself in front of my family and friends. I seem like a normal 25 year old guy. I graduated from college 3 years ago. I have a good job. I don't smoke. Don't drink. I go to church when I can. On occasion, I date ...
A. 25 March 2018: Just don't make any long term commitments. She's not a healthy person and she's older. It won't be long before you'd become her carer and feel guilty for leaving. As I said, I'm a carer and it's tough. It's often very physical, some have to quit ... (read in full...)
I'm 25 my girlfriend is 67, its time we went public with the Age Gap.
Q. This question is about being true to myself in front of my family and friends. I seem like a normal 25 year old guy. I graduated from college 3 years ago. I have a good job. I don't smoke. Don't drink. I go to church when I can. On occasion, I date ...
A. 20 March 2018: It's good to see your reply. She's set rules like a grandmother and you've followed them like a grandchild. I hope you see how unhealthy that is. She's also using your young age as a way to get what she wants.
99% of women her age would be disgu... (read in full...)
How would a cheater act if he were cheating on you?
Q. Hi please can people give me some idea of how someone would act around you if they were cheating on you I have been with my fiancé now for 6 years we have a 3 year old daughter we’ve been having sleep issues with our 3 year old daughter so my ...
A. 19 March 2018: Unless he's cheating with your neighbour, how could he cheat in only 15 - 20 minutes? Seriously, OP - that's paranoia.
If you have trust issues, you need couples' counselling. You will sabotage your relationship if you don't get professi... (read in full...)
I wish I could find a big "jock" guy to treat me as this man does.
Q. Hi, am a 59 year old single woman, been dating this guy for five months, but am very busy, he wants more, but I don't have the time, we have fun one night a week, I haven't introduced him to family or friends, he comes on real strong,you know, ...
A. 19 March 2018: OP, HE IS THE NICE GUY! You're not a teenager, so you need to get over this "jock" fantasy. It's clearly not working for you because you are a WOMAN, not a GIRL.
This guy sounds great, so you should either realise how good you've got it with thi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is telling another girl she should marry him.
Q. Hi my boyfriend is deployed for 7 months in Latvia. I felt like he seems distant. I opened his Facebook I saw that he’s messaging one girl, he was telling the girl that he will send a letter to her and by the time that girl is 30 she should marry ...
A. 19 March 2018: 1) Break up with him.
2) Never snoop on people's social media. It's not your right to break their privacy, even if they are doing bad things.... (read in full...)
I want more from my friend who is also my FWB
Q. I'll get straight to the point. My best friend and I (I'm female, he's male) have a 'friends with benefits' kind of thing going on. We are intimate, sometimes affectionate, but never romantic. We have never dated, but despite clearly not being a ...
A. 18 March 2018: Unfortunately, you either ask him out or let it all go. You can't keep up the intimate stuff, like cuddling, sharing a bed, head massages, leaning on each other, etc.
You chose to enter into a FWB and you now have to deal with the conseque... (read in full...)
I'm 25 my girlfriend is 67, its time we went public with the Age Gap.
Q. This question is about being true to myself in front of my family and friends. I seem like a normal 25 year old guy. I graduated from college 3 years ago. I have a good job. I don't smoke. Don't drink. I go to church when I can. On occasion, I date ...
A. 18 March 2018: You will become her carer and waste your youth on her. She may be a lovely woman, but her libido will not increase, it will decrease. You will be in your 30s, when she's in her 80s and you end up alone again.
Continue dating, but don't rush int... (read in full...)
Do you consider girl on girl action cheating?
Q. I am in a relationship for almost 3 years now. My boyfriend is out of the country most of the time. We are apart for months. I love him and I have never had sex wit another man nor have I ever kissed someone else. I haven't even flirted with another ...
A. 18 March 2018: You are completely wrong. You know you are - you're not stupid. If he had sex with guys, it would be cheating too.
You're probably bisexual - definitely not straight. Being bisexual is not an excuse to cheat. You need to be in an open relation... (read in full...)
My pregnant wife swears and breaks things when angry, sometimes I think I'd rather raise the baby as a single dad.
Q. She is 36 weeks pregnant. I've been night shift all week and sleeping during the day. I have university 2 days per week and I will go straight from work to a half day of uni. Return home about 4pm and sleep until 10pm then go to work. I'm full ...
A. 18 March 2018: OP, you're other post (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-wife-wont-allow-me-to-choose-our.html) and this one show you need to leave your wife. You can stay miserable, but she is a volatile person and your baby is not safe with her.
Quite... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't approve of my modeling career!
Q. My partner and I live together, we had an argument last night. He is 25 and I’m 23, I am pursuing a modeling career that is just taking off but he doesn’t approve the photoshoots; last week it was because the photographers are men and he feels ...
A. 17 March 2018: OP, leave this guy - he's controlling and hypocritical.
That said, when doing a job that can be intimate, it's best to have that job PRIOR to dating people, so you can be upfront about it and not waste your time with people who, understa... (read in full...)
She has cut me completely after our families learnt of our same sex affair
Q. Hello I fell in love with my same gender best friend of 4 years, we are both married to our husbands with children, had an emotional affair that turned physical for 2 months. We ended the affair but still work in the same building. She has cut me ...
A. 17 March 2018: Very few people can have successful friendships with an ex. Even fewer can do so without distancing themselves long enough to get rid of their feelings first.
However, even if you two could be friends as exes, you CHEATED which is why your fri... (read in full...)
I feel I have met the right person at the wrong time ... and he is lying to his girlfriend!
Q. I’ve known of this guy for about a year but I never knew his name I just knew him as we had mutual friends. I will add at this point that I had (and still have) a massive crush on him. I saw him whilst I was out clubbing at the start of this year ...
A. 17 March 2018: Cuddling you IS cheating, OP. Secual or not, YOU ARE HIS SIDE PIECE.
You're too young for this mess. If you were anything more than a friend, he wouldn't be with his girlfriend. If you weren't his SIDE PIECE he wouldn't be lying to her.
Serious... (read in full...)
He has broken my trust and lied to me so many times and I love him to bits!
Q. My partner and i have been together for 2 years in April i am pregnant with his child but he constantly checks out other women i have looked on his phone history and he has been on porn sites i confronted him about it he swears blind he didn't do ...
A. 17 March 2018: When you love someone, you risk getting hurt. It's a really sad, unfortunate fact of life. I'm going through a break up, right now. It's hard and painful, but it has to happen, sometimes.
His love isn't enough. You can't trust him. Breaking... (read in full...)
He has broken my trust and lied to me so many times and I love him to bits!
Q. My partner and i have been together for 2 years in April i am pregnant with his child but he constantly checks out other women i have looked on his phone history and he has been on porn sites i confronted him about it he swears blind he didn't do ...
A. 17 March 2018: You can't trust him. It's either couples' counselling or break up and get child support set up.
Cheating doesn't have to be physical. Ask him if he'd be happy for you to be doing all of that stuff.
Either way, he's a liar and you can't trust ... (read in full...)
Which of these potential partners is my best match?
Q. Ok, So this is going to be kind of lengthy so bear with me... So to start off I've been single for a long time, 6 years to be exact. Recently I've decided to get back out in the dating pool and see what happens. Oddly enough, I've met a coupl...
A. 16 March 2018: N91 said exactly what I wanted to say. If none of them stand out as the one you want to date, then none of them are the right one.
Think about it; how would you feel if you were one of THREE some guy you liked was considering. Even if he chose yo... (read in full...)
My brother does not accept my older boyfriend
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, So I have this new boyfriend. I have been with him for nearly 6 months now (which I know isn't a long time at all) however he is 10 years older than me and has 3 children. My family were aware of this and do not accept it at all...
A. 14 March 2018: Where do you see this going, "Step mother"? I get it; he's charming and being older makes you feel more mature, but he has three children. Are you prepared to become a stepmum at such a young age? If not, which would be a good thing, you're wi... (read in full...)
Did my wife believe me about the dinner receipt?
Q. Hi. I am a married man having an affair. My wife went out of town to her mother's for two weeks and I spent that time with my mistress. Last night my wife found a receipt of dinner for 2 when my mistress and I went to a restaurant the day her flig...
A. 14 March 2018: You're not overreacting. You are focusing on the wrong thing, though. You should be realising AN AFFAIR IS NOT OKAY. Own up. Seriously. Be a decent person. If you genuinely love your wife, at all, let her make the decision whether to stay or leave.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my crush that I like him without actually saying it?
Q. How do I tell my crush that I like him without actually saying I? Like maybe if I write a letter or give hints what should I do?...
A. 14 March 2018: In the nicest possible way, if you can't just say it, you're not ready for it to become a relationship.
Like Honeypie says, how often do you talk? How well do you know him?
A letter is a really bad idea because people your age are immature and... (read in full...)
My dad has always put me down and I'm afraid the damage is permanent
Q. My self esteem has come a long way from the criticism I experienced from my dad. Currently I have a good job and a happy relationship. Some days though I feel down. My dad always had something negative to say, from the way I sung in my church to ...
A. 12 March 2018: To keep it simple: it's only permanent if you don't get therapy to work through it.
Low days are normal, if they are infrequent, but you should see a therapist to build yourself up. Your dad handled things poorly, but many parents do.
You're ... (read in full...)
I feel like its my fault that my former lover has given up and gotten so heavy. I love her but know I couldn't take care of her
Q. This is kind of complicated and weird, so please bear with me. I will say up front that I have a fetish - I'm attracted to very fat girls. Please don't judge me for that - it's something that's always been with me and I can't do anything about it. ...
A. 12 March 2018: Be there as a friend, but not as anything more. If you're close enough to her, discuss doctors and surgeries, ways to reduce what she eats, etc.
If you can't be there as a friend because of your feelings for her, then you need to accept that and... (read in full...)
How do "average" couples have sex? How to politely avoid ejaculation?
Q. How do "average" couples have sex? How to politely avoid ejaculation? By that, I mean those who (if filmed) don't look like porn videos (pro or amateur). I can't find anything online about how less adventurous couples have sex. I'm probably co...
A. 8 March 2018: The OP didn't say she was nauseous having sex, FA. She said ejaculation makes her nauseous. Some people can't deal with blood, some can't deal with ejaculation. Perhaps have a towel available to lay across you and he ejaculates on it - so it's the... (read in full...)
Should I wait to date until I’m completely over my ex? Or is it impossible to be completely over an ex so I might as well date?
Q. Hi I was dumped about six months (We dated for about a year and I genuinely believe we were in love) ago after we went travelling for a month and had lots of stressful arguements but a couple weeks later he told me he missed me and that he didn't ...
A. 8 March 2018: Wait until you're over him. You *can* get over people 100% and it's not fair to any new guys if you're not over the last one.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else experience these types of panic attacks?
Q. hi I've been having a really big problem recently with anxiety for about a year now. I have struggled with jobs and been through about 5. some I have quit because I just couldn't handle the pressure where the jobs were just too physical and were ...
A. 8 March 2018: I do. It's hard, but life doesn't stop. While waiting for therapy, watch YouTube videos on how to cope, ways to defuse panic attacks when they hit, etc. There may be support groups in your area too. You need to be careful with quitting jobs, a... (read in full...)
Do I have to be a bad boy to find love?
Q. I met some one new, my question is, so do I act like my self,which is a gentleman, kind of guy who opens doors, says nice things, I keep hearing from my friends that am too nice, act like I don't give a hoot, my friends say she will like me more, so ...
A. 8 March 2018: Say being a "bad boy" (cringe! You're in your 40s!) worked.... then what, pretend for the rest of your life, just so you can stay with someone who doesn't even know who you really are? I get it; it seems like jerks "win", but they rarely have long... (read in full...)
How do I work through our sex drive imbalance?
Q. I am currently living with my trans ftm boyfriend and everything is so perfect in our relationship except for one area. Some backstory, I am a straight cisgender female and I met my boyfriend just before he started on T about a year ago. He and...
A. 8 March 2018: You're not being realistic. Maybe you'll find a compromise, but it's highly unlikely. Him being trans has nothing to do with it. You can't just be stubborn and refuse the most likely result: a break up. We generally find "the one" a couple of times, ... (read in full...)
How do I work through our sex drive imbalance?
Q. I am currently living with my trans ftm boyfriend and everything is so perfect in our relationship except for one area. Some backstory, I am a straight cisgender female and I met my boyfriend just before he started on T about a year ago. He and...
A. 6 March 2018: I've been with a trans guy and I'm still in love with him. This has very little to do with him and more to do with you needing serious therapy to manage your addiction and hypersexuality.
There's nothing to "give up on" with him. He hasn't d... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 6 March 2018: There are pros and cons to everything, but there are very few genuine situations when it's best not to own up to having an affair. Your husband deserves to know what you've done, so he can choose whether or not to stay with you.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for expecting to change my loner boyfriend?
Q. Hi all. I am having this problem with my boyfriend of four years. We have a good relationship overall but he is a loner-independent type of a guy. He meets my needs most of the time and although we have differences, we have been able to compromise. ...
A. 6 March 2018: We can't make people change. It's wrong to stay with someone you want to change. It also means you'll be unhappy because he won't do what you want.... (read in full...)
He pursued me and now I’m in love with him, but he has a girlfriend. Do I tell him how I feel?
Q. Please don’t judge me too much for writing this.. but I’d really appreciate some advice. This guy works in a different department in my office.. we knew each other vaguely for 2 years and and he started messaging me randomly around 6 months ...
A. 6 March 2018: Ultimately, no, you shouldn't tell someone you have feelings for them, if they aren't single. It is always that simple, when it's boiled down.... (read in full...)
I hate sex with my husband!
Q. OMG. I hate sex with my husband. It was always not great but I thought it would improve over time. I love him very much and I didn’t think that was a reason to break up before we got married. I’ve never discussed this with anyone.A...
A. 6 March 2018: You can love someone without being IN love.
We've offered countless suggestions, OP. If he refuses to compromise or go to therapy, then what? Cheat on him? Spend the rest of your life miserable? You can't make him change, but you shouldn'... (read in full...)
My husband spends the same amount on his son's girlfriend as he spends on me.
Q. Is this appropriate? I remarried 3 yrs ago and inheritted two stepsons (now 21 and amp; 23) my problem is with the gifts my husband buys for the girlfriend of his older son (23yrs old-lovely girl who I like v much). When we go away and they ar...
A. 6 March 2018: For goodness sake, this is not about asserting power or virility. "okay, you're with my son, but I am the big gun here and I could buy him under the table any time' and I am more powerful / potent / virile than him. Just because I'm older, doesn't ... (read in full...)
The guy with the reputation treats me differently to everybody else, my friends don't trust him.
Q. I have a crush on this guy. He's known for being a playboy, so i'm not sure it he has feelings for me or if he's just flirting by accident. However, he's even acting different towards me than he was acting towards the other girls he's hit on. He's ...
A. 5 March 2018: First of all, a teenage boy can't be a "playboy" - he's just a "player" or "user". You know he's like this, just not with you - that doesn't mean squat.
Maybe he PLAYS the gentleman because he knows his usual approach won't work with you and you'... (read in full...)
Please help me!! No one is helping me.
Q. Posting Questipn again as no one answered before. Please help me. Don’t ignore me please! When people ignore you and your posts on social media, But respond to others what can do you do? Why do people do this? It’s like “Fomo” aka “ ...
A. 5 March 2018: OP, GET OUT OF YOUR BUBBLE. I'm ignored on social media too and it sucks, but it is NOT real life.
Start LIVING in the real world. Accept that your social media presence is invisible and learn to be visible in real life.
You don't even call ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for me to ejaculate and not realize it?
Q. I have sex with my gf, 3 times in fact in a night till morning, first was 6-7:30pm and 2nd was 2:00am, it's unprotected sex and I did a pull out, it was successful, but on the 3rd time I did it around 6:30, I did not cum, or I think so.. I was hard ...
A. 5 March 2018: No, no, NO! Stop having unprotected sex! I'm surprised the first responder didn't mention that.
PULLING OUT DOES NOT WORK. Seriously, OP - it doesn't. It only takes ONE SPERM to cause a baby.
Yes, it's possible you won't be aware of pre-cum... (read in full...)
Should I let my crush know that I am now single?
Q. I have a crush on an older man from out of state. He is 39 and I am 28. At one point he showed interest in me but he backed off after realizing I had a boyfriend (we met through a facebook group a year and a half ago). I didn't do much to encourage ...
A. 5 March 2018: The age thing may be an issue, but that remains to be seen.
However, you've only recently broken up with your ex, so perhaps now isn't the best time to jump into something else.
"If the LD part is short" - how short, OP? LDRs shouldn't be LD ... (read in full...)
What if I’m not his first?
Q. I've recently fallen in love with one of my guy friends who has been in love with me for 8 years but I never felt the same until now. I don't know for sure if he's a virgin or not, he's very good at somethings but feels a little "shy" in others. ...
A. 5 March 2018: So, you took EIGHT LONG YEARS to fall for him, but he's supposed to have waited all that time on the OFF CHANCE you'd finally date him?
I get that it seems more romantic that way, but you didn't wait for him and it's unrealistic to hope he has. ... (read in full...)
My husband spends the same amount on his son's girlfriend as he spends on me.
Q. Is this appropriate? I remarried 3 yrs ago and inheritted two stepsons (now 21 and amp; 23) my problem is with the gifts my husband buys for the girlfriend of his older son (23yrs old-lovely girl who I like v much). When we go away and they ar...
A. 3 March 2018: I understand why perfume is inappropriate, as it's a scent you like that you want them to wear, but how is makeup too personal? Seriously - how is makeup more inappropriate than bath gifts where she'd have to be naked to use them?
He's putting ... (read in full...)
We bathed together in a spa while on a trip. Does she like me? I feel closer to her now
Q. I have a friend (J). She and I are very close to each other. We are housemates and study in the same college though different courses. Recently we went backpacking in Europe to several countries. While staying in Austria we rented an AirBnb...
A. 3 March 2018: Things don't have to be expensive - especially if you can't keep up the expensive outings.
Also, don't *tell* her "let's go out on a romantic date" - ASK her if she'd like to go on a date.
That said, I think you should wait until you're no ... (read in full...)
I’m a 25 year-old lesbian trying to figure out why I am almost exclusively attracted to older women
Q. 'm a 25 year-old lesbian trying to figure out why I am almost exclusively attracted to older women. I'm currently in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than me. When I was 19 I was dating men and women in their late 30s. Ever since I w...
A. 3 March 2018: Maybe go to an LGBT-friendly therapist - not because there's anything wrong with it, but just to figure out the root, if there is something more than just liking what we like.... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 3 March 2018: OP, does he deserve this? No.
Do you deserve to pretend you've done nothing wrong? No.
Should you own up? Absolutely.
Do not choose a therapist who will tell you to keep it a secret, or there's little point going.... (read in full...)
My husband said he would have broken up with me if we weren't married
Q. I had a huge fight with my husband - married 1.5 years but toegthwr 5 years. He just told me that he would be broken up with me if we werent married. I asked him if he really means it and he said yes. Im 6 weeks pregnant so he calls me up just...
A. 3 March 2018: Male Anon, lots of people marry and don't love each other - either before or after marriage.
Even in the heat of the moment, there is no excuse to say you'd be broken up, if not married - unless you, OP, said something similar or a low-blow... (read in full...)
I think I’m falling for someone who has a woman!
Q. I think im falling for someone who has a woman.... We met at my job about 4 months go, when his lady was on her way to jail.. She has to sit out a year and a half in there, ans though they're still "together" hes still spending all hos time with me ...
A. 2 March 2018: You know he's cheating, so don't stay with him. It's that simple. No point staying with him and just doing your own thing, possibly even starting an affair yourself. So you're not even interested in this guy? You just want him until something ... (read in full...)
Should I remain in contact with my long distance ex?
Q. Me and my ex broke up in the new year as he has moved to Australia for a year. Our relationship was great, we had been together a year and were both very happy and in love. We both cried endlessly about the breakup. We had never been in this ...
A. 2 March 2018: Whether it's temporary or not, it IS a break up. You can't take a break for a year - especially as you have no idea whether you'll still be compatible or geographically close in a year. Please don't be naive - he doesn't need to find someone on ... (read in full...)
My husband spends the same amount on his son's girlfriend as he spends on me.
Q. Is this appropriate? I remarried 3 yrs ago and inheritted two stepsons (now 21 and amp; 23) my problem is with the gifts my husband buys for the girlfriend of his older son (23yrs old-lovely girl who I like v much). When we go away and they ar...
A. 2 March 2018: I'm not sure he feels romantically towards her, he just thinks that spa, makeup and perfumes are what you buy women for gifts, regardless of their relationship to you. I think you need to ask him why he chooses those things and see if he'll tak... (read in full...)
I hate sex with my husband!
Q. OMG. I hate sex with my husband. It was always not great but I thought it would improve over time. I love him very much and I didn’t think that was a reason to break up before we got married. I’ve never discussed this with anyone.A...
A. 1 March 2018: OP, please - either listen or don't. You need to see a marriage therapist. There is *no* way this will get better on it's own because you've tried. Not only that, but there are ways to make "directing" sexy. You need outside help or you will stay ... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 1 March 2018: OP, see a therapist. You are not weak, just selfish. You need someone, in real life, who can lean on you to take responsibility for your affair and not allow you to keep excusing it.
Your husband deserves to know he's been cheated on, especial... (read in full...)
Should I remain in contact with my long distance ex?
Q. Me and my ex broke up in the new year as he has moved to Australia for a year. Our relationship was great, we had been together a year and were both very happy and in love. We both cried endlessly about the breakup. We had never been in this ...
A. 1 March 2018: 1) Even if you weren't studying, a year is WAY too soon for a young adult to move to another country with a partner, let alone another continent. That would have been silly and ended in disaster, with you alone and no way of supporting yourself ... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 27 February 2018: Just for one minute, OP, put him first. God forbid something happens to him - do you really want it on your conscience that, instead of being with someone who loved him and was faithful to him, YOU forced him to stay with a cheater because you were ... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 25 February 2018: OP, hope isn't good enough. Let your husband GO. You CAN make the right decision. You're CHOOSING not to. You're RUINING your husband's life and WASTING it, when he should be with someone who LOVES him and won't cheat.
You are old enough. You are ... (read in full...)
My husband said he would have broken up with me if we weren't married
Q. I had a huge fight with my husband - married 1.5 years but toegthwr 5 years. He just told me that he would be broken up with me if we werent married. I asked him if he really means it and he said yes. Im 6 weeks pregnant so he calls me up just...
A. 22 February 2018: We do say stupid things in arguments, but saying "I wouldn't be with you if we weren't already married" is NOT just a "stupid" thing said in an argument. It should be taken seriously and addressed, rather than swept under the rug.... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 22 February 2018: What's for the best is not being so selfish and cruel. You're not concerned with your husband's feelings. Act your age and be a DECENT PERSON. Cheating is NOT okay. You CAN let him go. You CHOOSE not to because you just don't care about or truly ... (read in full...)
I hate sex with my husband!
Q. OMG. I hate sex with my husband. It was always not great but I thought it would improve over time. I love him very much and I didn’t think that was a reason to break up before we got married. I’ve never discussed this with anyone.A...
A. 22 February 2018: "are you trying to tell me something?" You say "I am. I need X, Y and Z from you. You are happy, but I am not."
Seriously, OP. Don't do it in bed, when it's late. Do it when you have TIME to discuss it properly. Next time you bring it up, and do i... (read in full...)
I hate sex with my husband!
Q. OMG. I hate sex with my husband. It was always not great but I thought it would improve over time. I love him very much and I didn’t think that was a reason to break up before we got married. I’ve never discussed this with anyone.A...
A. 22 February 2018: OP, either take the advice or leave it and stay hating sex. "Honey, we need to talk. I love you more than anything, but I don't enjoy sex and I need us to try new things or go to sex therapy. If we don't, I'm afraid I will be unhappy and we s... (read in full...)
My husband said he would have broken up with me if we weren't married
Q. I had a huge fight with my husband - married 1.5 years but toegthwr 5 years. He just told me that he would be broken up with me if we werent married. I asked him if he really means it and he said yes. Im 6 weeks pregnant so he calls me up just...
A. 21 February 2018: I'm sorry you've found out. Please ask him to go to marriage counselling to get to the route of why he wouldn't still be with you, to try to improve things.
If he refuses to go, it's worth considering a divorce, as he will only resent you for bein... (read in full...)
I hate sex with my husband!
Q. OMG. I hate sex with my husband. It was always not great but I thought it would improve over time. I love him very much and I didn’t think that was a reason to break up before we got married. I’ve never discussed this with anyone.A...
A. 20 February 2018: Blunt communication.
Other than that: "he is so conservative and straight laced he may never agree to that", except he cheated (you think?), so he's not *that* conservative. What, he'll do it in secret, but not when told he can? Not if it means yo... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 13 June 2017: You can't keep both, OP. You must cut contact with the old flame if you intend on keeping your husband. Get therapy together to work on your issues, but don't pretend they don't exist or continue seeing someone else.... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 13 June 2017: It's ironic because he's old (as in someone you used to know), but he's new, that's why you're infatuated. He's not real; he's a fantasy. This isn't love.
Don't cheat on your husband and family. They deserve better.
Seek couples' counsel... (read in full...)
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