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He gets his kicks from sex but I don't get mine! How can I get him to pay more attention to my needs?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been posted a question but I found no response. I am trying to know that what is missing in our love relation. My hubby is very hot for sex. He likes sex, and lots of it. I found him sexualy hot but not emotionaly.he cares ...
A. 9 May 2012: Basically you need to sit down with and him and let him know how you feel. Was the sex bad when you met him? If so, you knew this from the start and still married him... Sex is pretty high up there when it comes to a relationship.
I was in ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on chasing her?
Q. I keep attracting bad girls. I'm quite okay looking and tall. I guess I'm super nice and well mannered, but I'm quite shy and nervous when I meet girls. I basically do what I'm told and then get taken advantage of. . As soon as they know I am very ...
A. 8 May 2012: You sound like a really nice guy. I think you should let this girl go. Stop contacting her and if she wants to talk to you, she will do that. Don't chase her.
Money is nice, but it isn't everything. I think you should invest more time with a g... (read in full...)
12 years of marriage, him cheating and now that I want out he wants to change!
Q. I have been married to this guy for 12 years and we have 2 kids. He's been a reasonable dad but a selfish husband with strangers noticing and wondering how I put up with him with me having most of the load to manage my full time career and work at ...
A. 7 May 2012: It sounds like this "guy" (as you quote unlovingly) has the life... with entertaining the kids and so fourth. It doesn't sound like there is love in your relationship. He doesn't want to give up the convience of marriage with you or not being able ... (read in full...)
I want anal again but she refuses! What should I do? I want to go with a call girl just for revenge!
Q. We did it two times but she doesn't want it anymore, the first time was painful to her but the second one she enjoyed because i did it a soft way! Now i desire to have anal intercourse again with her but she doesn't want it, we've talked about th...
A. 4 May 2012: You need to grow up man! I tried it one time with my b.f. and it hurt like hell! I will never do it again. You should give her credit for at least trying....
I think she should return the favor. Have her put on a strap on dildo, bend over & t... (read in full...)
How can people not think of pornography as cheating?
Q. I have something bothering me i've read and discussed this and people say that a boyfriend using porn is no different than him imagining someone in his head but I strongly disagree. Masturbating to porn is alot worse it is an actual picture but ...
A. 3 May 2012: Nahh... him watching porn isn't cheating. It's his way of "releasing" when he is tired from a long day at work and doesn't have the strength.
I'm not thrilled that my bf watches it but... it makes him happy. He satisfies me in bed so thats al... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at other women?
Q. why do married men look at other women? I have a husband who does this and I'm so upset about it. I don't look at other men because I'm happily married with the man I'm with. He tells me I'm beautiful, sexy, bodacious, the whole nine yards, but ...
A. 2 May 2012: Every guy checks out other women. That is life. When my boyfriend and I go out somewhere, I don't "watch" for him to look at anyone( if you know what I mean. ) Just enjoy yourself If you don't stop obsessing over this? You will drive yourself to ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged. But should I act on my powerful crush I have with my co-worker?
Q. I have been working with this married woman for about two years. I'm engaged. There was an instant attraction. She is this sexy hipster with a really cute face and a hot body. We started texting and the texts became heated. We decided to pull bac...
A. 30 April 2012: If this was MY boyfriend posting this question ?? I would be so sick to my stomach right now. AND I'm not even engaged to be married!! Yeah, I think you should show this to your fiancee and see if she approves...
The best advise I can give to ... (read in full...)
Can I change her bad ways by loving her?
Q. Right so i have known this girl and i've dated her on and off. i feel an intense attraction towards her. She's a gorgeous lass but Problem is, she has a terrible family background and as a result has led quite a wayward life. She hasn't been abl...
A. 30 April 2012: I think you are setting yourself up for failure... She needs to want to help herself first. So what if she is gorgeous? Lots of other gorgeous women in this world that have their heads on straight.
I also think it's the lure of the "challan... (read in full...)
I know my man is going to meet this woman tomorrow. I am going to confront them
Q. The man I have loved for the past 10 years is once again cheating on me. I confronted him and his lover last year , funny enough about the same time of year. Since he has promised not to see her or meet her. Last weekend I picked up his an...
A. 23 April 2012: He is the one with the problem that will never end Rise above this and move on with your life. Be strong and let us how everything goes with you. ... (read in full...)
I feel jealous that my partner pays so much attention to our attractive friend
Q. I am very embarrassed to ask for advice over this, because I hate to admit to being jealous. This is about my boyfriend of 4 and a half years and my friend. I think he has actual feelings for her. Me and my boyfriend moved to a new area 3 ...
A. 23 April 2012: Save yourself the "talk"... He sounds like a douche bag.
Ditch the boyfriend... NOBODY deserves to be treated this way!!! If he loves and respects YOU? He wouldn't make you feel badly like that in the first place. If my b.f. did that to me?? My ... (read in full...)
Guys, what are the general meanings behind the words hot, sexy, beautiful, cute and pretty and gorgeous?
Q. Okay this is a question For the guys mainly. what are the general meanings behind the words hot, sexy, beautiful, cute and pretty and gorgeous? I thought hit and sexy always meant the same thing. But i got called hot and sexy by a guy recently so ...
A. 20 April 2012:
40 y.o.
Hot- her body
Pretty- her face
Beautiful- her soul
ps. I prefer beautiful.... :D... (read in full...)
Cant perform during sex because I have been so used to masturbating for 20 years!
Q. Hi this is more of a sex question but Im hoping someone can help. I have been single for many years, and my only sexual outlet has been through masturbation. I have of course become quite used to getting myself off and can get hard quite quick...
A. 20 April 2012: *** Stop watching porn *** That's my answer ;)... (read in full...)
What kind of guys are likely to be interested in me? My husband wants a divorce. Feels tough right now.
Q. Hi everyone need some positive advice. I have just turned 40 and my husband has left me and wants a divorce - we don't have any children. I am feeling numb and empty but we have had a bad marriage for a long time. However I am worried that I a...
A. 20 April 2012: I was 39 y.o. and in your situation two years ago. ( I do have two children though. ) I found it exciting to be in the dating pool again. :) Yes, do take your time with all of this. Just like So Very Confused said, get yourself together first ... (read in full...)
I am having a really hard time adjustting to Americans.
Q. Ok so I know this is going to upset a few people and I am sorry but I really need some advice. So 4 months ago I was transferred from my office in Melbourne Australia to New York. I didn't really have a choice my work moved my role here so if ...
A. 19 April 2012: NYC :D "If I can make it there, I can make it anywhere" Song by Frank Sanatra. It's the truth! This coming from a chick that lives 1.5 hours away, born and raised. New York is the melting pot. People come from all over the world to change ... (read in full...)
When does anal stimulation/sex feel better?
Q. I have a question for the ladies, do you feel more comfortable with anal stimulation and anal sex after you have an orgasm? Or is it better before, in state of higher arousal?...
A. 16 April 2012: My answer is never. It hurts like a bitch! LOL ... (read in full...)
Is it still cheating if I was with a girl not a guy?
Q. hey guys..so last nite i had friends over..two girls and a guy..we had some vodka and ended up drunk..this girl and guy left about 2am..and i was left with the other girl..we went inside the house and had sex..it was my first wit a girl.she is ...
A. 16 April 2012: I agree with everyone here. You cheated on him no matter who it was with. You do need to break it off with him and move on.... (read in full...)
How do you initiate morning sex?
Q. How do you initiate morning sex? I always notice my fiance has morning glory like any healthy man but I have never had morning sex with him as I have to wake up about 2 hours before him for work. He comes home for a week or so in a few days and I ...
A. 15 April 2012: Super easy for me. ;)When we wake up, I lay down on my side and he will turn my way and put his arm around me. Wearing only a thong and a tee shirt. I slowly grind my ass into him. = morning wood. The rest is history! :D... (read in full...)
Why do people think the opposite sex cant be just friends
Q. Hi just a quick question why do people always assume that a woman and a man can't be friends without there being more to it this man and me met through my step sister and we get on well (as friends) but people always say they don't believe we are ...
A. 13 April 2012: From what have experienced?? Either I had feelings for my guy "friend" or likewise. It didn't neccesaraly mean either of us crossed boundaries but... the female/male attraction thing was always there for one of us. So... my answer is no. I don't ... (read in full...)
This girl I work with is cheating on her fiance! Should I tell him or stay out of it?
Q. Should I say something? Or say out of it? There is a girl Ive worked with at work that I got to know very well. Ive even met her fiance about four or five times when he stops over at are work to pick her up which they will be getting married ...
A. 11 April 2012: I would send him an anonymous letter stating everything that you have seen. ( Be very vague about it. )
Now the ball will be in his court. It will clear your conscience as well.
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I'm insecure because I'm not the hot blonde but a short Asian!
Q. So lately alot of people have been saying im pretty or beautiful. But i just pass it off thinking theyre just saying that because they feel bad for me, theyre my friends, or theyre my family. Whenever i look in the mirror at myself i dont see the ...
A. 10 April 2012: I think asian women are really beautiful!! I am tall and blond, (with brown eyes though.) Not plastic in any way LOL!! I think the grass is always greener on the other side. :) Your dark hair is shiny and straight and so pretty. Mine is ... (read in full...)
Men & Women: How long have you gone without sex?
Q. How long have you gone without sex with another person? ...
A. 9 April 2012: Two months for me. It felt like forever... LOL! :P... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any wise words of advice for online dating?
Q. I have finally made a break from a relationship that has not been going anywhere for years and I did not want to waste anymore time. I did fall for someone I used to work with and the feeling of attraction was mutual but neither of us moved it f...
A. 5 April 2012: The above posts were well informative and smart. Now on to the lighter side of things. ;)
I met my boyfriend online about a year ago. We are really happy and he is the love of my life!!
The trick is to be light and friendly. Keep things basi... (read in full...)
Stuck in a quandary between my wife and my married mistress
Q. I know that I am going to be judged for posting this, but that's okay. I need guidance. I am almost 39. My wife is going to be 42 this year and is already in menopause. We have no children, mostly because my wife is just not a sexual being....
A. 3 April 2012: I think It's time you MAN UP and divorce your wife. You should have done this a long time ago if you weren't happy.
I divorced my husband when I realized we weren't connecting anymore. I had nobody to fall back on either. Just had my two chil... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 25 March 2012: My boyfriend watches porn. I am not particularly happy about it but it is his way of "easy release." I would never watch it with him because I would be upset and very uncomfortable about it. I have no right in asking him to stop. I look at it this ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong in suggesting that my girlfriend should use botox? She just flipped when I said it
Q. I know this will make me sound like not a nice person (to some), when in reality I like to think I am decent, and am pretty diplomatic. Thing is, my gf of 3 years is aging badly. I love her to distraction, and that love is more about her lovely...
A. 23 March 2012: No offense...( said sarcasticly) but you sound like a selfish & arrogant dickhead! If my bf said that to me? I would be in tears and feel so insulted!! Wait a minute.. I would not be with someone so shallow minded and down right mean to me! It ... (read in full...)
What is too much when it comes to checking up on your man?
Q. Ladies: do you check up on your man? If so, how much and to what extent? I'm asking because I'm wondering what is "normal" when you are in an exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend relationship like I am. Do you check his cell phone every once in awhile? ...
A. 13 March 2012: I have never felt the need to check my boyfriend's phone. I trust him. He would be crazy to jeopardize the great relationship that we have. I wouldn't be with someone that I would have to "wonder" about... That would drive me insane! I think some ... (read in full...)
I asked him to marry me on February 29th, but he keeps changing his mind about buying the ring!
Q. i have a problem that some will think im stupid on. I asked my man to marry me on feb 29th and he said yes. we talked about rings and i showed him the ring that i wanted which wasnt alot 150 pounds. He said no problem he would get it for when we go ...
A. 9 March 2012: I agree with the above posts. He probably isn't ready for marriage. If he said no to your proposal? He knows that you would have been hurt by that answer. Go on vacation together, don't talk about marriage and enjoy yourselves. When the time is ... (read in full...)
Why do these men say they are not ready for a committed relationship?
Q. Can someone please give me an educated answer on this one? Preferbly a man?!! Why when you have been seeing or dating a man, spending all of your time together, getting treated like a queen, being introduced to the friends, being included...
A. 6 March 2012: I read a good book about relationships. It looks like you are the "good for now girl." He will keep you around until he finds someone that he wants to marry. Don't waste your time with him. ... (read in full...)
My husband ogles other women right in front of me
Q. My husband and I got married one year ago. We have been together for 4 years now. Since getting married, he ogles women. He is not in the chase anymore and is comfortable. He does this in front of me. We just went on our honeymoon (kids were with at ...
A. 24 February 2012: Yes, men do look, as we do also. ;) I think us(as women) can be a lot more low key about it.) If he respects you, he needs to stop making it so obvious. I think it is rude and obnoxious as well. My boyfriend wouldn't dare do that to me as he is ... (read in full...)
How do you stop feeling lonely?
Q. How do you stop feeling lonely, when you are constantly surrounded by the happiness of others? I have been single for almost 4yrs now and for the most part of that I have been extremely lonely. Everything I do in life is with couples, I sit t...
A. 24 February 2012: Don't give up! ;) I have personally been through hell and back with having two failed marriages... It took me forever to find the love of my life and I am now 40 y.o. It will probably happen when you least expect it. I met my boyfriend online. I ... (read in full...)
We are both divorced. Originally intended to stay that way. How do I how bring up "marriage" as an option?
Q. I have been dating a man for a year and we live together. We are very happy and love and respect each other the problem is we are both divorced and when we first met we both said we never wanted to get married again. I now feel like I would love...
A. 21 February 2012: Well... I am in the same situation as you! ( except we aren't living together ) He mentioned to me three months into our dating, that he was so happy with us being in a relationship and wanted it to stay that way. aka ( why spoil a good ... (read in full...)
If cheated on will the man suddenly find the woman sexually unattractive?
Q. If you made a mistake and was found out for cheating, can it make a man go from finding you very sexually attractive, into not finding you attractive any more? Can men change just like that? How do you pull them back? Any one ever been through this?...
A. 21 February 2012: I was cheated on last year by my boyfriend (at the time.) After he realized that he made a mistake? He tried to get back together with me. I wanted to forgive him and we went on 2 dates. It wasn't the same. My feelings had changed and he had become ... (read in full...)
Why am I not enough for him? Why is he active again on those dating sites?
Q. Hello, I need some advice and I hope you can help me. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now. We've had our ups and downs, but for the most part (at least in my mind) it's been good. I've enjoyed spending time with him and he'...
A. 13 February 2012: He is young ;) You are young ;) Remember that ((some)) guys his age are very inmature. Get rid of him... Sounds like he needs to go out and sew his oats. You should go out and have some fun! There are so many awesome guys out there :) Lots of jerks ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend ditch me, or am I completely overreacting?
Q. Yesterday, I took lunch to my boyfriend of 6 months while he was at work. He mentioned catching a 7:30 movie, and that he would talk to me when he got off work. So, I assumed that we had a date, just like every Saturday night. Usually, we go out and ...
A. 12 February 2012: Hey :) I do the same thing as you! Over react ;) When my bf and I first started dating we went through the same exact thing... Some nights he just wants to chill but feels bad telling me no. He's too nice of a guy :) I would ask him if he wanted to ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being unhappy with the engagement ring?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of 4 years and I just recently got engaged. I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long. We shopped around for rings and at first I didn't care which one he'd...
A. 27 January 2012: You are so ungrateful. You should feel so lucky that you have someone special to you in your life. ( When there are so many people out there still looking for love.) I am wearing a sterling silver ring that my boyfriend used to wear and gave to me ... (read in full...)
Just learned that my wife cheated while we were engaged
Q. I just found out my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. I'm really confused about what to do. Part of me wants to just leave and get a divorce, but my wife and I have been married for more than 10 years and 3 children. My trust in her is ...
A. 27 January 2012: I am wondering how you found out? Did she just break down and tell you out of guilt? Or another source ? I don't blame you for feeling terrible.
My friend just found out that her husband was dating a girl at the same time as her for the first year... (read in full...)
He flirts secretly with other women on Facebook. What should I do?
Q. my boyfriend is pretty much perfect. he always makes time for me. he trusts me. we never argue. he always tells me he loves me, and how he wants to one day get married and have a family. he always tells me he never speaks to other girls anymore, ...
A. 26 January 2012: Perfect?? Find him the perfect way to the door and kick his butt out!! He is a liar and a cheater. You deserve much better than that...... (read in full...)
Am I right in wanting more time?
Q. I have been seeing my gf for 10 months now and it has now become apparent that she wants me to decide pretty shortly if I want it to be a lifelong commitment ie marriage and kids. Or not = end of relationship. We have lived together for around 6 ...
A. 23 January 2012: ** Don't let her rush you into marriage!!.... If she is yelling at you now? Just imagine how things will be for you if you proposed & dealing with her planning all the wedding craziness!! Let alone her temper for the rest of your life... If she ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says the mark on his neck is a bruise. I say it's a love bite.
Q. Thanks in advance for your answers! Last night I noticed what looks like a lovebite on my boyfriends neck. When I mentioned it he said it must be a 'bruise'. Since when do love bites look like bruises? When I tried to bring it up again he got angry, ...
A. 18 January 2012: Liesss lol ;) Man, a bruise is an oldie but a goody!! Yeah, the curling iron also! Vacume? We used to try to hide ours with makeup :) Time to kick him to the curb!... (read in full...)
Dating a single mom and I'm confused!
Q. Having been married for 6 years, I'm now in my first relationship post-divorce (which is kind of strange for me in and of itself). I recently met this amazing woman and we've been going out now for about three months. She is also divorced and has ...
A. 18 January 2012: I guess I'm on the opposite end of the stick lol ;) I also feel so secure and wonderful when we are together. After about a day of not seeing eachother, my insecurities seem to build up. I know he is busy at work or with his kids but I get so ... (read in full...)
Will men still want me when I have a child or am I damaged goods?
Q. My question is I'm 26 year old college student, I am so far working on my AA degree. I have a 4 year old child, will men still want someone like me or am I just damaged goods. ...
A. 13 January 2012: I have had plenty of experience (being a woman) in that department ;) I am a mother of 2 and been divorced for over a year now. I am 40yo. I was afraid of the same thing for myself. Not only that, but I have problems with both knees due to having ... (read in full...)
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