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writes:hey guys..so last nite i had friends over..two girls and a guy..we had some vodka and ended up drunk..this girl and guy left about 2am..and i was left with the other girl..we went inside the house and had sex..it was my first wit a girl.she is lesbian n ive been bicurious for a while now.anyways.ive got a bf and we r in a ldr..my q is, is it cheating if it was with a girl? I betrayed him i know..i also wanna know how he would react if he found out. But i wont say a thing. I want to know how you guys would act if this happend to you. Thanks
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reader, 1sunshine  +, writes (16 April 2012):
 I agree with everyone here. You cheated on him no matter who it was with. You do need to break it off with him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2012): Of course it's still cheating. But just talk to him about it, assure him it was due to the alcohol and whoremoans (hormones). Maybe, he'll forgive you. People make mistakes, no one is perfect, right?
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 April 2012):
 Sex is sex, it's cheating... If you can't tell him, my recommendation would be that you end the relationship and let him go. It's selfish to say you can have sex with a girl, keeping this from your boyfriend as if nothing happened. In doing so, your relationship is now built on a lie. It's my view that when you cheat, you loose all rights to your relationship, which is only sustainable upon the forgiveness of the one you had wronged.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 April 2012):
 It is cheating as long as it is something you can't or wont tell your boyfriend about. Yes, sex with a girl is just as bad as sex with a boy unless your boyfriend has given you permission beforehand.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 April 2012):
 Would you consider it cheating if your boyfriend were secretly having sex with other men behind your back? What makes what you're doing any different? When you give your heart and/or body to someone else, the gender is absolutely irrelevant.
You betrayed your boyfriend. You cheated on him. If my husband were having sex with other men behind my back, my reaction would be the same if he were having sex with other women -- it would take a monumental series of events and a lot of counseling for me to even begin to be interested in building trust.
If he had cheated before we were married, he would have been dropped without delay.
You don't get a pass because you cheated with a girl. This isn't porn, where his reaction is supposed to be happily turned on at the thought of you making out with another woman. You betrayed him. There's nothing "turned-on" or "fantasy-fulfilling" about that. It's heart-shattering.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 April 2012):
 Yes of course it's cheating. I agree, you two should definitely break up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2012): Yes it is definitely cheating. I would dump you in a heartbeat, free you to explore your sexuality further and move on with my life without ever talking to you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2012): Thinnk about it..........Would you be upset if he did it to you with a guy instead of a girl.
It still cheating no matter what gender it's still wrong (unless your in like an open relationship.
But if its hurting your conscious bad enough to put it online....its most definitly cheating.
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reader, Oaf +, writes (15 April 2012):
 Cheating is cheating - no matter what the gender is of the person you sleep with and it's not your boyfriend, it's cheating. Period.
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