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Will men still want me when I have a child or am I damaged goods?
Q. My question is I'm 26 year old college student, I am so far working on my AA degree. I have a 4 year old child, will men still want someone like me or am I just damaged goods. ...
A. 13 January 2012: I have had plenty of experience (being a woman) in that department ;) I am a mother of 2 and been divorced for over a year now. I am 40yo. I was afraid of the same thing for myself. Not only that, but I have problems with both knees due to having ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want/need affection or sex. Is she just with me for security?
Q. I've been seeing my gf for 9 months and I'm starting to suspect her reasons for being with me are practical rather than romantic. Ever since we started dating sex and intimacy has been a bit of an issue. Basically most times thAt I attempt to get ...
A. 13 January 2012: She has been like this from the beginning?? Wow, these 9 months that you have been dating are supposed to be the best and most exciting times of all!! Everything is new and wonderful and you guys should be in love and can't keep your hands off of ... (read in full...)
Why do most girls prefer to let hell freeze before speaking up and telling a guy they like them? Rejection isn't a good enough excuse.
Q. Hello! My name is Scott and I have a question about women. "Why is it that most women would let hell freeze before they tell a guy they like them?" I'm pretty sick and tired of asking girls this and the only thing they can think of is not w...
A. 8 January 2012: I remember reading a book when I was a teenager called "The Rules." It taught us how to be a lady and wait for the guy to persue us if they really liked us. For me it always worked. At one time,I tried going up to guys and asking them out. I think ... (read in full...)
Are we ready for a threesome?
Q. Hi! Want to know if you think we are ready for a threesome. We have been married for 6 years and have children. We both come from a conservative Middle Eastern background, we are not fully liberal but both are relatively open minded. W...
A. 5 January 2012: Cerberus said it perfectly... TERRIBLE IDEA! No woman in the right mind would find this acceptable. You should thank your lucky stars that you are fortunate enough to have a loving wife at home. Don't risk your marriage!!... (read in full...)
How could he do this to me.....please help.
Q. Me an my partner split up a about 3 weeks ago we were in a serious relationship, but had a big argument and he decided we needed a break. Said he still loved me but just needed time to think. I let him think an thought he would get in touch....... ...
A. 31 December 2011: ((Some)) men are cowards.... Communication is SO difficult for them. Like the above post stated. Most likely, he will do the same thing to this new girl. What comes around goes around. I'm sure when things don't work out for him with her? He will ... (read in full...)
5 years and he left me for someone else. I'm so lost in my emotions!
Q. Hello all and thanks in advance for your feedback. This past September 25th i was told by my ex that he was leaving me for another female that he met at work and had just knew for a few weeks. Him and i were together over 5yrs. He told me the d...
A. 27 December 2011: By all means, do not get together with your ex. I have been in the similar situation as you and I was stupid for giving him one more chance. After getting back together for one month, he left me again. I knew the whole time in my heart that it was ... (read in full...)
If he loved me he wouldn't be thinking of sleeping with others, would he?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my partner for around 9 months, and in more or less everyway, we have a really strong friendship and relationship. He has had some pretty big fears of commitment, but has been really open and hardworking abou...
A. 19 December 2011: "Someone who's in love with me wouldn't think about sleeping with other people to the point of having to tell me" I think you just answered your own question ;) You sound like a smart person and (we) as women deserve the very BEST when it ... (read in full...)
My crushes always like my prettier friends
Q. I like a guy, who is a friend of mine. But, I think he likes one of my other friends. Neither of them knows I like him. I won't tell them. My friend is so much prettier than I am... she has great hair (I have thin, ugly hair), green eyes (I have ...
A. 16 December 2011: I love the above post ;) When I was younger ( 20's) I felt the same way as you did. (That's why I always chose to have friends that weren't prettier than I was) LOL! Well... kind of true! You do need to work on your self esteem. Yeah, grow your hair ... (read in full...)
How can we go from being so in Love..... To Nothing?
Q. I have recently just split up with a guy that I've been seeing for 8 Months. I have 2 children from a previous relationship, which he accepted and grew close to. Throughout the relationship we enjoyed do many things together, holidays and not a ...
A. 16 December 2011: I went through something similar this past year with someone I was with for 6 months. I also have two children and he grew close with them and pratically lived with us. Well, long story short... He grew further and further apart from me after (what ... (read in full...)
My husband is chatting flirtatiously with a girl from his office. Should I be worried?
Q. So, I have had some trust issues with my husband in the past. Some of it he deserved, and some of it can be attributed to the fact that I tend to be a jealous person. I am having a similar issue tonight. He and I have been doing pretty well late...
A. 16 December 2011: I have been following your post and my blood is just boiling... I hope you are okay. You need to be a strong woman and leave him. I am trying to hold my tongue because I have so many "nice" things I want to call him for doing this to you. You sound ... (read in full...)
2 months in and I don't feel like I'm falling for her. What is holding me back?
Q. I'm feeling confused and I don't think that's a good sign... I've been dating a girl for nearly 2 months now (not long, I know). She really is lovely and we have so much in common, but for reasons I can't understand, I just don't feel like I'm ...
A. 15 December 2011: Well... It's been two months now? I feel that you would have known from the beginning if you were in love with this girl. ;) It looks like your giving the relationship a fair chance. Chemistry is so important, It's everything. I have dated guys in ... (read in full...)
Discovered his secret phone and dating site registrations...but he has managed to turn it around on me for violating his privacy!
Q. I discovered that my boyfriend of 4 years has been registered on several dating sites and texting off a secret cell phone. I asked him what he thought he was doing and he went very serious and asked me why I have violated his privacy. He has offered ...
A. 12 December 2011: ** It's time to get rid of him and move on *** ;) Good luck... (read in full...)
When dating, does age really matter??
Q. Hello everyone, I am a 26 yr old female who is considering dating a very nice mature 37 yr old male. He is divorced with two older children and I am a mature 26 yr old looking to settle down with a mature man. I have never dated anyone more than 2 ...
A. 8 December 2011: No :) It sounds like you are both mature adults. I do not believe age really matters especially when you are older. I am a 40 y.o. woman dating a 33 y.o. man. It's the best relationship I have ever been in & we are really happy. So, go for it & see ... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to have orgasm through penetration?
Q. Alright:L So, I'm currently in the midst of my 2nd long-relationship. I'm not particularly experienced, having only been with 3 girls including my present girlfriend and was inquiring as to which positions/rhythms and how much staying power wo...
A. 5 December 2011: I have never personally had an orgazm with penetration. (aged 40 now) Oral is the only way with me :D Sometimes that's the only way for women. :D... (read in full...)
Having an affair and thinking of leaving my husband. Thoughts?
Q. i have been married over twenty years and have cheated on my husband with another man that i have also known for over twenty years. during the course of my marriage i have been in and out of relationship with other man four different times. each ...
A. 5 December 2011: It's time to be honest with yourself and leave your husband. Would you want him to do that to you? ... (read in full...)
Why do we want people who hurt us back in our lives?
Q. Here's something Ive always wondered, when we love somebody, and let's say they take off with someone else, cheat, etc. outside of feeling the anger, how come so many people are inclined to take the person back so quickly? and overlook the fact that ...
A. 5 December 2011: I was stupid and did that... My boyfriend left me to go back to his his ex-girlfriend. When he realized that it was not working out with them? he wanted me back. I gave him one more chance ( I knew it was wrong ) Even know it wasn't the same as ... (read in full...)
What do you think about when you're masturbating and/or having sex?
Q. i have a question for guys and gals. me and my boyfriend got into a conversation about sex and masturbation. he told me that when he masturbates he fantasizes about things, and when we have sex and i close my eyes, he thinks that im fantasiz...
A. 4 December 2011: I fantasize about my boyfriend going down on me.... I find him so incredibly hot & sexy and he turns me on so much ;)I try to do it 4-5 times a week just for the fun of it. ... (read in full...)
He's gone from callimg me "hot and sexy" to "beautiful and gorgeous," does it mean anything?
Q. Hi Guys, I realise this isn't a serious thing and it isn't a problem, I am just wondering and don't have anyone I can ask. Thanks for your responses in advance. I have been seeing a guy for a while now, he was my friend before hand and he has...
A. 2 December 2011: I heard once that if he calls you hot, he likes your body. If he calls you pretty, he likes your face. If he calls you beautiful??? He loves your soul ;) Love it....... (read in full...)
How can he just turn his feelings off for me?
Q. I recently posted a question about having not heard from my boyfriend in a week. I ended up calling him that night to see what was going on and he ended up breaking up with me. He said that his feelings had been changing in the past two months and ...
A. 18 November 2011: Yeah, It's over. Stop wasting your time & energy on him. I basically went through the same thing with my ex-boyfriend. He just didn't have the balls to break up with me sooner. Instead, he played mind games with me for almost two months. Delete him ... (read in full...)
Need help with online dating.
Q. Has anyone got experience of on line dating? I have met 3,but they have all been less than truthful. Professional was unemployed. Had 1 child was really 4. Single turned out to be in a relationship who enjoyed the thrill. Does it ever get better?...
A. 7 November 2011: I guess I was one of the "fortunate ones" that met the love of my life online :) We were both totally honest with our profiles, ect... Actually, when we met face to face he was even better looking in person than the pics. he had posted online! I u... (read in full...)
Boyfriend made a comment about my small breasts and now I don't want to go near him
Q. Hi guys! I need help from you to build my self-confidence. I have a lovely bf and we are planning our future together. However, our sex life is a complete disaster... I run away from him every time he want to get closer to me. The issue is my ...
A. 30 October 2011: I also have small breasts. My boyfriend has said things to me that were hurtful (but unintentional.) I also know that he likes brunettes (I am a blond) and women with big boobs. I know that what I have to offer to him outshines anybody else that he ... (read in full...)
What if I don't ever become happy and live unfullfilled? Age isnt on my side and its so hard seeing my friends getting married and having kids
Q. Im 29 and im at that point of life where im worried that things wont turn out they way I had hoped! I have a 7 yr old daughter which I had from a serious 5 yr relationship. Since that ended 5 yrs ago I just have had so bad luck with men, all the ...
A. 28 October 2011: Well hopefully this will make you feel better :)
I didn't have my daughter until I was 33 y.o and have a son now also. I am going through divorce right now and just turned 40. I am starting all over again ( single mom with 2 kids ) and have no ... (read in full...)
We were getting along so well, and now I have heard nothing! To contact or not to contact?
Q. I need a little advice. I met a guy on a match making site, we both are newbies to the online dating. Initially, I did the contacting and he responded. I was intrigued by his responses. After a few messages, I didn't hear from him again. (we were ...
A. 28 October 2011: I was doing the online dating thing for a little while. I noticed that the guys that I talked to, were also juggling talking to other woman. I also did the same thing, just kind of seeing what was out there. I don't know if that is the case with ... (read in full...)
Ladies: How important are a man's looks in a relationship?
Q. Hello. This is not a "problem" as such, but i have a question for the ladies.... TRUTHFULLY, how important are a mans looks in a relationship? I ask this for 2 reasons. Firstly women always say that its personality, kindness, empathy, sense o...
A. 24 October 2011: For me... Looks are the first attraction when meeting a guy. Next there has to be chemestry felt between us. Then you get to know their personality and them having confidence is an A+. I love when a guy has a good sense of humor and makes me laugh. ... (read in full...)
Left my fiancé today because I found out about 7 dating websites on his computer....
Q. Dear Cupid, I would truly appreciate a reply to my question. I am 28 years old and my fiancé is 26 years old. I even spoke with my mother this morning regarding this issue. Last Sunday I went to my fiancé's house as we normally spend our w...
A. 20 October 2011: Go with your gut instinct... he is guilty. Better you find out now rather then in the future when you are already married... ;)... (read in full...)
Ladies: describe your PERFECT date!
Q. This one is for the ladies - Just wondering, how would you describe your perfect date? Be as original or cliche as you want i'd just love to get some real life ideas! :) Thanks...
A. 20 October 2011: My perfect date was simple. We met online and talked for about a week before ever meeting eachother. We met at a bar/restaurant and had a few beers with appetizers. It was wonderful,very casual and nobody around us even existed... ... (read in full...)
Would he ever want to commit? How do I bring it up?
Q. Hello. Just wanted to get some opinions of my situation. ( especially the men ) I have been dating a guy now for 5 months. Both of us have been married before with kids ( on both sides ) I know he is the one for me. When we met, after about 2 ...
A. 9 October 2011: That sounds like great advise. I really don't want to ruin our relationship. Thank you so much!! :D... (read in full...)
I haven't found a girl I want to date!
Q. How do I find love? I'm still single. I haven't found the right women yet. I'm very nice, confident, not a push over, very smart, cool, a good kid and a sweet heart. I don't know why a girl doesn't like me back yet. I've been waiting for the right ...
A. 8 October 2011: Hi :) Just wondering how old you are? This might be an aide in helping you. Maybe your not looking in the right places? Tell me where you go now? Maybe your trying too hard? I have been in all kinds of relationships, was even married at one time. ... (read in full...)
She contacts me all the time. I ignore her. I am heartbroken. How do I move on? How do I forget her?
Q. I Just recently broke up with the love of my life. We broke up about a month ago. I cant stop thinking about her. I want to so badly. I broke her heart and i want to forget her. I cant. I thought maybe I can get her back, But i realized the...
A. 7 October 2011: Plain and simple. Block her texts too, start all over. Who needs a girl that plays games? Just like my ex. He was playing mind games with me and it sucked. Now that I look back.... I AM SO HAPPY HE IS OUT OF MY LIFE!! Really... he was poison t... (read in full...)
She contacts me all the time. I ignore her. I am heartbroken. How do I move on? How do I forget her?
Q. I Just recently broke up with the love of my life. We broke up about a month ago. I cant stop thinking about her. I want to so badly. I broke her heart and i want to forget her. I cant. I thought maybe I can get her back, But i realized the...
A. 6 October 2011: Yes. You need to tell her to stop texting you. I had the same kind of situation 6 months ago. ( I'm a girl though ) He broke up with me an still wanted to be friends with me. It was so hard to get over him... I know the feeling that everything ... (read in full...)
Why would she delete that other guy's comment from her Facebook wall? What could she be up to?
Q. A girl I met recently added me to Facebook and we had a 2-3 hr conversation on fb. I've met her a couple of times and both times she was very nice and laughed at all my jokes and all that usual stuff. On the second time I met her I even touched her ...
A. 3 October 2011: My boyfriend and I are friends on fb also. We met on Zoosk an online dating site (it's part of fb) I am always deleting posts on there from my guy friends... sometimes they are obnoxious, ect... I don't want him to see them. I think it's good that ... (read in full...)
She recently added the ex as friends on facebook. Should I be jealous? Will it affect our relationship?
Q. My girl friend used to love some guy before we met but didn't start relationship.she said she only loved him because of peer influence and she was a fresh man student and alone.this was before 5 years.now they are friends on facebook and i don't ...
A. 30 September 2011: Hi :) I really wouldn't worry about it. If you two trust eachother, that's what really matters. Has she ever given you reason to worry before this? Do you have any ex's on your fb friend's page? I know I do! My current boyfriend doesn't know this ... (read in full...)
Why do I have all of this jealousy and insecurity?
Q. Hi. I am currently in a relationship with this really awesome guy. We are really happy and its been almost 4 months that we have been together.( both of us divorced with two kids each ) I don't know how to handle how I feel. I feel jealous whenever ...
A. 30 September 2011: Thank you so much for your replies :) Being in this new relationship is so diferent for me. Being married for six years,I was more relaxed about the issues I am having now ( not fully though ) It's like I am starting all over again, relationship ... (read in full...)
Getting uncomfortable with my boyfriends increasing voyeuristic interests...am I make too much of this?
Q. I am starting to become uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s increasing voyeuristic interests. After many years of a sexless marriage, I am divorced and in an exclusive relationship with the greatest guy in the world. We are incredibly in love with ...
A. 30 September 2011: I also totally agree with the above posts :) Be true to yourself! Do what makes you happy. If my boyfriend had a desire to go to a strip club? I would be offended and break it off with him... that's just me being me. Best of luck to you :D... (read in full...)
Morality Issue? To tell my partner, or not, that I received an unwanted, and rejected, advance on line?
Q. Here's a question for everyone, just curious: Let's say you get a personal message from an online community member (like you're on a forum with hobbies you enjoy, or whatever, not Facebook.) This message is from a person of the opposite sex and...
A. 10 September 2011: I wouldn't feel the need to say anything :) Just delete it and go on with your life. If you are somewhat ingregued by this... You should analyze the relationship that you are in now. Make sure it it something that you really want to be in with your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't interested in my breasts, should I get implants?
Q. My boyfriend never really touches or looks at my breasts. They are small, about a 34B or so, and I have a bit of insecurity about them because I'd prefer to be bigger. Not porn-big, just... big enough to turn a few heads even when I'm not wearing a ...
A. 6 September 2011: I am also in the same boat as you. Unfortulately when my bf (jokingly said) that when we go to the beach, he and his friend will look at all the girls in their bikinis... and it hurt me. I sortof flipped out and said "Now you can be happy and see ... (read in full...)
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