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I'm 5 months pregnant and he's with another girl and he still comes round to sleep with me.
Q. I am so hurt. My ex boyfriend is with another girl even though he knows i'm 5 months pregnant from him. He tells me he loves this girl. He phones me all the time and tells me he will be there for the baby, but he doesn't want to be with me. I feel...
A. 10 May 2008: You deserve so much better than this. He is irresponsible and selfish. It may be difficult, but you must stop allowing him to come back to you when he wants. Giving in and sleeping with him is giving him permission walk all over you. You're primary... (read in full...)
Is it possible I could be pregnant even though I've had my periods?
Q. I've had my periods over the past few months although they've been a bit irregular, however recently i'm not sure if i may be pregnant as it feels as though i am, and i'm sure i can feel it move. Could i be pregnant although i've had my peri...
A. 10 May 2008: Its pretty rare, but on occasion, women still have periods throughout pregnancy.If you've been pregnant before, you'll know what to expect, symptons-wise. Do a test anyway, to make sure.
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When will I know she's ready to have sex?
Q. Hi everyone. I've been dating this girl for nearly a year, we get along very well, finish each other's sentences and all that, lovey-dovey kind of couple.I swore I would not be like that in another relationship, but.. here we are, lol. Anyway here's ...
A. 10 May 2008: Shes lucky shes found someone so considerate! You say sex with your first girlfriend 'just happened', well isnt it possible that it could 'just happen' again?
If location is a problem, you could always suggest a weekend away together? It'd be roma... (read in full...)
Unusual sperm fetish? I even swallow sperm from used condoms..
Q. Hi, I have an unusual fetish. My thing is that I really enjoy having a guy ejaculate in my mouth. My friends think I am mad but I love the taste of sperm and have always allowed a partner to do this for me. I have not had a boyfriend for ...
A. 9 May 2008: You havent really asked a question there, just told us a long slightly strange story.
Like most aunts here, Im reluctant to believe this is a genuine post, but if it is you're putting yourself in danger. You can catch STDs amongst other things from... (read in full...)
What do guys in their 25's think, and how do they think?
Q. I need some help from the guys, girls can help too. My question is what do guys in their 25s think, and how do they think? I am very close to this guy, we talk over msn almost everynight, and everybody knows that we are very close friends. To the ...
A. 9 May 2008: What one 25 year old male thinks isnt what all men the same age think. Everyones different regardless of age.
You obviously have a great friendship with this guy. The age difference is a bit bigger than normal, which he may be uncomfortable abou... (read in full...)
My lecturer's been with his wife for 15 yrs, I really like him, so I'm planning to act!
Q. The lecturer I fancy knows my name and i think he likes me. He's married but he's been with her for over 15 years (even though hes only 35, i'm 20) and has indicated to me he's a bit bored. He's so clever and interesting and i'm dying to spend time...
A. 9 May 2008: This is a tough one. He very well may like you, but the bottom line is hes married and even if he wanted to he probably wont do anything about it.
Do you really want to play second best to someone else? I'm sure you deserve more.
It could cause al... (read in full...)
I think he does love me but he's never got time for me. Please help.
Q. We're working abroad and we are both married, he has a girlfriend but i couldn't help falling in love with him, he said he love me too. I really love him so much (well i'm just a human). My problem is i feel bored with our relationship because we d...
A. 9 May 2008: He is playing games with you. You say you're both married and he also has a girlfriend? This clearly shows he is having his cake and eating it, knowing you and this other girlfriend wont say anything. If he had any type of respect for women, he ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend who I still love moved away, and I miss him so much!!
Q. Okay there is this guy at my school who i really like but he moved away. We went out once but not for very long. He is sooo shy. All his friends said he liked me still, but i don't know if it's true. I really miss him. What should i do? I real...
A. 9 May 2008: If he went out with you for a while he must have liked you!
Its a shame you've lost touch, I bet he wants to talk to you too.
If you havent already got an email address or phone number, ask one of his friends (albeit a nice one) if they could gi... (read in full...)
He found out about my hairy armpits and now he's flirting with my friend
Q. I really like this guy but he found out i had hairy armpits and is really freaked out now he is flirting with my friend wat should i do...
A. 9 May 2008: Well he must be a very shallow person to do that.
Show him you dont care and ignore him.
Like the other aunts suggested, you could shave/wax/ use a cream and wear a vest.Its also alot more hygienic.
But to be honest, is he someone who deserves... (read in full...)
I really just want to let myself go with him tomorrow night, but what can I do to stop the nerves?
Q. Bit of a strange question. Recently, my best friend, who is a guy admitted he was in love with me. We have always had an amazingly intimate and close friendship and I think deep down I have always been in love with him too. He left me a letter...
A. 9 May 2008: Maybe you're nervous because you're truly in love with him and you want it to be perfect.
Are you sure you're ready to make the next move? If you are then let it happen naturally, dont be nervous, he loves you and will probably be feeling the same... (read in full...)
I wouldn't leave this teacher alone and now I want to apologize! How do I go about this?
Q. I am leaving school next week and before I go I want to put all my wrongs right and leave on go terms. Sounds good? Yet its going to be soo hard, there is a teacher who I used to get on with yet I had a thing for her n always have had! But she sta...
A. 9 May 2008: Its nice you want to leave things are good terms. It would also make her feel alot better knowing you're sorry.
Meeting her in person could be difficult and awkward for you both so a short letter or a card would be a good idea.
I'm sure she'll b... (read in full...)
I'm meeting my ex for first time since we broke up 3 months ago. Any opinions or advice would be welcomed.
Q. So im meeting my ex of 3 years at the weekend for a bite to eat. I havent seen her for nearly 3 months, and only communicated a couple of times through text. It was kind of a mutual agreement to meet up for as she puts it "a casual catch up". ...
A. 9 May 2008: She may just miss you and want to see how you are doing.
What exactly are you hoping to gain from this meeting? A friend or a girlfriend?
If you still have feelings, go along and see how the mood is between you. Even if it becomes clear she just... (read in full...)
I want to be pregnant but it's not happening
Q. I want to be pregnant. Im 19 i had an abortion last year and had the depo provera straight after which lasts for 3 months. I feel i made the choice for all the wrong reasons and now really want a baby with my fiance. Problem is he doesn't know! i ...
A. 9 May 2008: You must let him know that you are ready for a baby. If you suddenly got pregnant without his knowledge then he could grow to resent you for this and you could be left alone.
85% of couples get pregnant within a year, so the chances are you are in t... (read in full...)
Will a brace put the men off me?
Q. I want to meet and date other people again after getting out of a relationship. But i maybe getting a brace this year, as i want to straighten my teeth. will it put men off me? when they see it? ...
A. 9 May 2008: I would honestly say that I had more interest in me when I had braces, not neccessarily because of them but because I didnt let them bother me.
Any men worth knowing wouldnt be bothered at all, thats if they noticed at all (men arent the most obse... (read in full...)
How long does it take before the chlamydia takes effect and makes her infertile?
Q. Ok, I have a friend who might have chlamydia. She doesn't want to tell her mom so she can get treated. How long does it take before the chlamydia takes effect and makes her infertile?...
A. 9 May 2008: Unfortunately Chlamydia doesnt always have symptoms, hence it being the most common STD as people don't get treatment as they arent aware they have it.
It taks quite a while for it to damage fertility- but she should still get it sorted as soon as p... (read in full...)
I'm too embarrassed to tell my mum about my period
Q. i'm 12 years old and just started my period about a week ago. i haven't told my mum because it's to embarassing. i have tried a few times but can't bring myself to say it. also i have two older sisters who would make fun of me about it. what should ...
A. 9 May 2008: I also have two older sisters so I know how you feel completely! Starting your period happens to every girl at some point so its really nothing to be embarassed about.
Tell her when you're sisters arent there, she'll probably be expecting you to t... (read in full...)
Why don't I have an orgasm when I have sex with my partner?
Q. hi, i just want to ask why i did'nt feel orgasm every time i had sex with my partner? my partner is good in sex i know it. he always ask me if im finished i said not yet,if i feel that he can no longer to wait for my orgasm, im just pretending and ...
A. 9 May 2008: Its completely normal, most women find it easier to orgasm through clitoral stimulation not through sexual intercourse. Concentrate on this aspect and tell him what you like. Im sure he'll be understanding.
Good luck
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I have a BF, yet this other boy tries to hold my hand and kiss me in front of everyone! What to do?
Q. I have a boyfriend and i love him to peices, i really do! But a boy I know has just asked me to have an affair, and i dont know if i should say yes. I really like him and before i went out with my new boyfriend i was always waiting for the boy to a...
A. 7 May 2008: Firstly, don't have an affair. Not just because you're boyfriend will get hurt but because this other lad dosent deserve to be playing second best.
It is a difficult situation and you must think hard about whether your present relationship is wort... (read in full...)
Romantic music for a wedding - ideas please.
Q. Hi, This is probably an unusual one! But I am looking for help in regards to picking out music for an upcoming wedding ceremony! I dont want anything too lonely as it will be lonely enough. But ideas of more romantic tone. The main one I am having ...
A. 7 May 2008: Truly madly deeply by Savage Garden! x... (read in full...)
Gaining this much has me scared to eat, because I look so fat.
Q. Okay, well this is kind of a personal question, but i think i'm about to start my period (this isn't my first time) but i have never gained weight like this before, and like i used to have an eating disorder, and it looks like i gained like 10lbs. ...
A. 7 May 2008: People with eating disorders often have an unrealistic perception of their bodies.This just means you think you look bigger than you do.Its very common. If you've gained ten pounds then that is probably a good thing if you looked thin before.
R... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest any cool 'tag lines' I can call my own at school?
Q. Hey, well i am 18 years old..and i am in 12th grade studying in a school in the United Kingdom. I dont have a major problem, but there is something i want your help for. All my friends have their own line or something that they say all the time, so t...
A. 7 May 2008: haha this post is crazy. There is probably something you say all the time that you havent even noticed. I tend to say 'Thats lush' alot for some reason. just pay more attention to yourself, you probably say something already.
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I don't have the guts to ask him if he's in this relationship just for sex. Can you help please?
Q. Just started seeing this new lad.. Seems amazing..i don't know what to do though, as i have been messed around so much in the past. I don't want to be hurt again. I don't have the guts to face up to him, if he is just in it for the sex, or if he w...
A. 7 May 2008: You could ask him straight out but when put on the spot he might just say what he thinks you want him to say.
You could always lessen how often you have sex a while maybe completely and see if he is still as commited and as interested as he was prio... (read in full...)
How can be both relax more so we can enjoy sex together?
Q. Right erm ok me and my gf have been together for 7 months and known each other for about 14 years ish. I stop over at hers most of the time and because her parents know me so well they don't mind that we sleep together. They trust us both and her ...
A. 7 May 2008: Firstly well done for not rushing into things, its also good that you're first time will be with someone you've known for along time.
Now for the problem, I'll be honest sex for the first time is usually a disappointment, ask anyone and they'll say ... (read in full...)
My best friend is gay, but he wants to start a family with me, I'm confused. Please help!
Q. So my aboslute best friend is gay. I'm a senior and he is a junior we met two years ago but we are incredibly close. He has been gay for quite some time (since middle school) and has had many many male partners and was against dating girls because ...
A. 7 May 2008: If he is attracted to men and you, then he's probably bisexual even if he finds this difficult to admit.
Try not to talk about the surrogacy topic for a while as it isnt relevent to your life at the moment and things change.
Ask him straight... (read in full...)
What would you think if you found out a friend had punched his 3 yr old?
Q. If you had a mate who always bad-mouthed his ex girlfriend who has his teenage son, and always says it's because of her that he doesn't see his son. But then you were shown a neswpaper report which says, your mate years ago punched his child at 3 ye...
A. 7 May 2008: I'd usually say you should be able to forgive people but in this case I dont.
People who act like this rarely change. He has commited one of the most disgusting crimes that a person possibly can.
I'd break off contact with him slowly, not even men... (read in full...)
Is an 8 year age gap a major one?
Q. I am dating a boy 8 years older than me. Will this be called age difference? I mean relationship with major age difference or this is normal as normal as when one is just 4 years older??? Any comments??...
A. 7 May 2008: It just depends on the ages of the people involved. At you're age I wouldn't consider it a major difference and you're both young enough to share the same interests etc
It may cause a little inconvience at times and some compromising, but don't all ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mum I have a boyfriend? Are there any parents out there can help me?
Q. I don't really have a good relationship with my mum, and I really want to tell her about my boyfriend, he is 23 which I know is a lot older then me, but I wouldn't let him hurt me for the world. I know he is not perfect compared to my sister's ...
A. 7 May 2008: I know there will be alot of people who are going to say this guy is too old for you.
But in reality you are above the age of consent and old enough to make your own decisions. This includes your choice in boyfriends.
Don't rush ahead and tell the... (read in full...)
How old do you think is old enough for teens to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends at home?
Q. How old do you think is old enough for teens to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends at home? I know if they really want to be alone chances are they’ll find a way even if parents don’t allow them but what are your views on allowing your kids ...
A. 6 May 2008: I guess it depends on how mature they actually are. If you feel they will be responsible and use protection etc then theres not much to worry about.
Having said, the age in the UK to legally have sex is 16 so maybe its best to wait till they reac... (read in full...)
Someone is sending messages. How can I find out who it is?
Q. can anyone tell me how can i find from where someone is calling or sending annoying messages? I know the number but every time a call back is not ringing. For a year now his sending messages to my girlfriend and recently to me. I do not know who he ...
A. 6 May 2008: Try Ringing back using a different number the caller doesnt recognise.
If its possible, change your numbers, if the caller still texts then its obvious that they are still in close contact with either of you.
If the texts are malicious report t... (read in full...)
I'm depressed, bipolar, and people don't like me! Am I going to ever be able to cope?
Q. im in my last year of school, im a guy, im 15, nearly 16 i know a lot fo you will say its to early in my life to make a decision but i truely believe that i am bisexual. i "came out" some time last year and well... everyone hates me i hav...
A. 6 May 2008: When I read your post I automatically thought of a friend of mine.
Like you she is also bipolar and has sufferend from eating disorders in the past. She also 'came out' as bisexual a couple of years ago.
She went through a very depressive time and... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of being alone with my best mate, as he's a Sex Pest. Should I tell him he has a problem? Should I tell someone?
Q. My best lad mate has become a total Sex Pest. A couple of his last ex girlfriends have told me that he tried to force them to have sex with him. This has really scared me. Once when i was alone with him , he was touching me inappropriately and i ...
A. 6 May 2008: Most young lads look at porn from time to time. But what is concerning is his 'over-friendly' behaviour.
Have any of his past girlfriends been straight with him and told him that his advances werent welcome? If not he may not realise there is anyt... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my new partner of 6 months is or was bisexual?
Q. I've just discovered that my new partner of 6 months is or was bisexual, although she doesn't identify herself as this. Should I be worried?...
A. 6 May 2008: Most people are attracted to the opposite sex at some point. Even research shows very few people are completely heterosexual or completely gay.
As you've been dating for six months without any problems then its unlikely there would be in the futu... (read in full...)
I don't feel I can talk to my Mum about anything!
Q. I have a problem. I cant talk to my mum about anything! And I dont know why. Shes lovely and I always felt I was close to her but.. well things like I started my period last september and STILL cant face up to telling her. I dont know why! Its ...
A. 6 May 2008: Maybe you dont tell her because you're mature enough to handle situations on your own.
There are some things a daughter wouldnt want to share with her mother.
It just sounds like you're a very independant person thats all, its nothing to worry ab... (read in full...)
The class clown might have a crush on me, but is it a joke?
Q. ok so i wuz at a party and since it was so loud, everyone ended up txting each other so we could talk. The class clown the txted my friend and said he liked me. She said to tell me and ask me out or sumtin, but he never did. Anyway, he knew that my ...
A. 6 May 2008: It does sound like he likes you. He may have said he was joking to his friend as he thought you wasnt interested and was scared that you dont feel the same.
Just give it time without texting him, if hes truely interested he'll let you know even... (read in full...)
They say, visit a doctor, but I really can't tell my mum! What do you suggest?
Q. Help me! I know discharge is normal but I get SO MUCH. I'm not sure if it's right. I have to put loo roll in my knickers all the time its awful. When i wake up, and then stand up, its realy heavy, as if its been 'collecting' overnight. I hate it b...
A. 5 May 2008: Excessive discharge is rarely anything to worry about.It varies within your cycle so unless it has been like this for a while try not to worry.
From what you've described it sounds as if you could have an infection.
Doctors in the uk wont see anyo... (read in full...)
I am a little overweight, any suggestions?
Q. i would really like to lose some weight as i am a little over weight. i have tried to diet lots of times before but nothing seems to work for me and i am a very fussy eater. Has anybody got any tips of how i could lose some weight....
A. 5 May 2008: I'm afraid there isnt an easy way around it.
Most diets you read about are completely unrealistic and you'll gain the weight once you finish.
Eating healthily and exercising regularally is the best thing you can do.
Swimming and running are ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid my ex taking custody of my kids again?
Q. i had an ex who put an ad in the paper and got custody of my kids while i was locked up. She had my kids stealin,prostituting,welfare fraud my kids got caught with her and another lady so facts intervened my mom was awarded custody of them my kids...
A. 5 May 2008: If this 'other person' is no relation to you or your children then she has no rights at all.
As the mother of your children has already shown she is not able to care for your children responsibly, there is a good chance you will be awarded cust... (read in full...)
How can I impress my girlfriend?
Q. Im 13 and i have a really nice gf she hasnt really opened up yet and her friends really annoy me how can i impress her???...
A. 5 May 2008: It can be difficult mixing boyfriends with friends so dont feel bad.Her friends might be jealous shes found herself a nice boyfriend like you.
Shes probably just a little shy.
Spend time together away from her friends and she may open up more to ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that my friend he fancies is only 14?
Q. I went to a show with a friend and my other friend *D was there, and I also ran into some other friends. He was checking out my friend *C who turns out to only be 14 while *D is 17. I noticed he was checking her out but I didn't really think much ...
A. 5 May 2008: Its nice that you dont want to ruin things for the 14yr old girl but I think its best you let him know.
Not only because he has a strict rule but because he could get in allsorts of trouble with her being underage.
If he did start seeing her its ... (read in full...)
Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place despite the mutual attraction?
Q. I've made a decision to NOT get involved with a man who I am attracted to at work, and he's attracted to me as well. Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place and just remain co-workers? Do you think these ...
A. 5 May 2008: Speaking from past experience, it is possible to work with someone who holds a mutual attraction for you. Sure, it may a little awkward at times but it shouldnt cause any real problems.
Unless your workplace has strong ethical codes of conduct and ... (read in full...)
I've always gone for "bad boys" so should I give this "nice guy" a chance?
Q. I'm a single woman in my fifties. I would really like to have a partner, and have had various relationships over the last few years. The problem is that the guys I usually go for are the ones who have a spark of danger about them. And I have got ...
A. 5 May 2008: Alot of women are attracted to 'bad boys' as they bring a sense of excitement and are unpredictable. But as someone once told me 'bad boys are great for flings nothing more.'
Once that dangerous spark has fizzled out your left with nothing.
If yp... (read in full...)
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