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How do I move on from him when I'm constantly in tears?
Q. my boyfriend of 2 years and i broke up about three months ago. i have been fine, i suppose. but recently, i have not been able to stop thinking about him!! he is constantly in my thoughts! i think about him basically every minute of the day, i dr...
A. 17 August 2008: I totally know how you feel. I also came out of a two year relationship, three months ago, funnily enough.
After two years, its hard adjusting back to life without a partner. Its completely normal for you to think about him alot. But I promise you ... (read in full...)
My teacher and I got on well until he overheard my conversation with a friend! Help!
Q. i'm 16 and here is my situation. I used to have a crush on my teacher like all teenagers, and i got over him over time :) Me and my teacher used to get along really well and he always used to say hi in the corridors and always make eye contact with...
A. 18 June 2008: Well if it was your friend doing all the bitching then you have nothing to be ashamed off.
If you really feel uncomfortable with the situation, then talking would be a good way of breaking the ice.
Ask him if hes ok and tell him they were the opin... (read in full...)
Do straight men enjoy watching other men masturbate? Is that right?
Q. My boyfriend just told me that he liked to watch other men masturbate, is that right? I've caught him watching porn on TV with just a man masturbating..do straight men enjoy this?...
A. 18 June 2008: No it isnt that uncommon, its likely that he is just turned on at the reactions of these men, which reminds him of sex in general.
Remember these are just films, if he saw that in reality Im sure he wouldnt enjoy it very much!
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Concerned about first time anal sex with girlfriend!
Q. My girlfriend wants me to give her anal sex and I am hessitant to because I have heard that the bum is tighter than the vagina and I know this is going to sound a bit weird but I do not know what is inside the female bum e.g. the texture (apart from ...
A. 18 June 2008: Remember, you don't have to do this if you dont want to. Its your body too, if the thought of it makes you uneasy, steer clear.Anal sex can cause all sorts of health problems aswell (google it).
As the previous aunt suggested, explore yourself firs... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks badly of me... how do I make things right?
Q. my boyfriend and i have a good relationship till recently. theres a few things from my past that bother him. he feels as though im a slut. there were only two guys i had done things with, i never slept with anyone until him. i love him so much but ...
A. 18 June 2008: You are not a slut, you are a girl who deserves alot more respect than this. You shouldnt need to keep explaining yourself, be firm, tell him everyone has a past and if he dosent like yours then that is his problem.
Sometimes, speaking your mind... (read in full...)
Am I reacting to my past in my current relationships?
Q. I had been sexually molested a lot by an uncle from the age of 9-11 (can't really remember how old I was, but it was at least twice a month for about a period of 2-3 years. At the time when it first happened, I was very shocked and scared and didn't ...
A. 18 June 2008: It could have affected how you see men. What happened to you was awful but you should be proud that you have been able to grow up and become your own person.
The best thing to do is to see how you can stop this cycle. A man worth dating is a man ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do, haven't had my period since April!
Q. im just wondering i havent had my perroid since april i dont tnink im pregant but is it possable that my boyfriend vestectomy dindt work and i get preganat i dont know what to do if any one can help write back...
A. 18 June 2008: Its unlikely you are pregnant, as vasectomies are extremly effective, though this varies from clinic to clinic.
Take a test to be sure, they arent expensive and will tell you right away.
Another reason could be down to stress,losing weight or an un... (read in full...)
How long is too long when it comes to a break in the relationship?
Q. Me and my boyfriend bin on a brake for the past 5 month. The reason why we on a brake is because of my mood swings. I be depress a lot. And we be fighting a lot. Now I got better and changed. And he likes the new me. Wen we were together I felt like ...
A. 18 June 2008: What does it matter if he was talking to other girls, if you were on a break?
He texts and calls you, which shows he is interested in YOU.
You must also find out why exactly you were moody before, was it due to the relationship? If it was, is it wo... (read in full...)
What's a good way to talk to her and what should I say to her?
Q. So tomorrow I'm going to try to talk to the girl of my dreams... the only problem is I don't know what to say. Also she kinda dosn't like me because I put alot of pressure on her eariler in the year and she really didn't like that. However I havn't...
A. 18 June 2008: Well you havent said what type of pressure so its difficult to say.
Firstly let her know you are sorry for whatever it is you did or said. Then tell her how you feel about her and ask if theres any chance you could go out sometime.
Good luck
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My friend says she will tell everybody that I slept with a bunch of guys at school when I was on drugs!!
Q. My life feels limitless... more things flung at me from all directions.. i think it shte dope... my friend told me to try it now i cant stop help me please i hae tried to quit but my friend says she will tell everybody that i slept with a bucnh of ...
A. 18 June 2008: Theres a common perception that dope is 'okay' but it can cause schziophrenia amongst other mental illnesses.Anyone who will 'hate' you for stopping smoking is narrow minded and senseless. They arent worth hanging around with. Your friend is ... (read in full...)
What could this "bloating" in my lower left abdomen means?
Q. dear cupid i seem to have a problem, my lower right abdomen seems to have less fat and be in then my left lower abdomen, which looks kinda bloated. i would like to know what causes this? also its not hernia please help ...
A. 18 June 2008: Ionce had the same feeling, also in my left side and it was really painful. I asked my sister (who is a nurse) and she told me pain in your left side is almost entirely due to constipation.
Make sure you consume plenty of fibre to help your dige... (read in full...)
I was stood up in my first date... how should I handle this?
Q. Hi, Guys. I generally don't bother myself with boys but yesterday this boy aked me to the cinema and I said i'd go. So, missing my ballet lesson and a rounders tournement, showed up no more than 3 minutes late. He didn't turn up. I don't know wha...
A. 18 June 2008: Well you've found out just how unreliable he can be. He might have a genuine reason for not going. Its better to get it out in the open and ask him why he didnt turn up. If he doesnt have a real reason then dont bother with him, he isn't worth it.
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How do I help my shy love feel comfortable with me (we met online)?
Q. Dear Cupid, I met my boyfriend online, WE LOVE EACH OTHER SO MuCH it was love at first talk, and we are going to meet each other finally, this friday. He said that he thinks he's going to be shy when we met. How do i help him to feel comfortable...
A. 18 June 2008: Its always a bit strange meeting someone for the first time. But once you have initiated conversation, the ice will break and you should both feel ok.
If he is a naturally shy person, why not suggest going to the cinema, the pressure will be take... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bicker over our wedding plans?
Q. My fiance and I are getting married in september and were both stressing and bickering over plans and money,is this normal?...please help x...
A. 18 June 2008: Yes its totally normal. Its more worrying if you didnt! Weddings can be extremely stressful.
As long as you both love each other and know the most importance thing is being together. Arrangements are just an accessory, so dont let them come betw... (read in full...)
Any romantic proposal tips please?
Q. Hello, this is DocDell, I am planning to ask my girl to marry me, and well, I just kind of need suggestions, Ideas, of how I should do it, or where I should do it, anything is appretiated....
A. 18 June 2008: I think this is something that you need to decide. You know her best. Could you take her to where you first met to pop the question? Or a nice weekend away would be lovely. Maybe somewhere shes mentioned she'd like to visit one day. I once heard of ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong even though I didn't know he had a girlfriend?
Q. I want peoples opinion on this please. A guy went down on me after we kissed. After this had happened I found out he had a girl friend. I had no clue before the act occured. I hold my hands up to acting "slutty" but other than being slutty, am...
A. 18 June 2008: No way should you feel bad. You didnt know he had a girlfriend. Its his fault completely. Dont worry about it. Just think of it as a learning curve, you now know to get to know someone a little better before you become intimate.
xxx... (read in full...)
Bad relationship, violence included - I'm left feeling unwanted and with no self-confidence. I want to feel happy with myself!
Q. I am 17 next month, and will be single for a year, I was in a relationship for 2 years in which i was badly treated that included violence from my ex partner. I still think about this alot and feel that my self confidence has gone down alot because ...
A. 11 June 2008: You're ex partner was abusive and wanted to knock your confidence. It may take some time to readjust and gain self confidence again.
Being single for a year is a great idea, jumping straight into another relationship usually causes problems.
The b... (read in full...)
I've been having problems with sex and masturbation!
Q. Hello, Ive been having a few problems with sex and masturbation all my life. When having sex with my long term boyfriend i never seem to have any sexual response at all except for getting wet, If i told him this id completely kill him as he suf...
A. 11 June 2008: This is such a common problem. Most women dont orgasm through penetration alone. And clitoral stimulation can often become 'too intense.'
Try new positions, going on top will give you more control and you can see wht you like and what you don'... (read in full...)
Question for people who have broken up and then gotten back together with their significant others...
Q. Question for those that have broken up and gotten back together with their significant others: How long after the breakup did either you or your partner try to get back together with you? Or even if you didnt get back together, but either one o...
A. 11 June 2008: I got back with my partner after six months. We originally split up because he was scared of settling down and then he realised he wanted more with me.
We've split up once again but thats due to me moving away. If I wasnt then we'd still be toge... (read in full...)
Children too soon or too late?
Q. My husband and I have only been married since March, and already he wants to have children, it is all he talks about. I realize that since there is such a huge age difference between us (he's 34, I'm 42), the biological clock is ticking and I need ...
A. 11 June 2008: Did you know the average age to have your first baby is now in your thirties?
I think you've chosen the perfect time, you are financially secure and have had experienced life for yourself. Things many parents dont get the chance to have.
As lo... (read in full...)
Where can a teenage girl who likes porn get it for free?
Q. i know that im gonna get alot of smart answers to this.. But im a 16 year old girl, and i'd like to try masturbating to porn.. are there any good free sites? apart from redtube?...
A. 11 June 2008: lol who would have thought so many aunts would know that many sites!
Oh and unless you want someone else knowing what you've been viewing, I'd delete your computer history.
Also make sure the sites are legal and ok or else you'll stumble across s... (read in full...)
How do I get back the physical spark with my boyfriend???
Q. I go out with a boy.hes 15 nd im 14 and i love him alot but i feel that im getting bored with our relationship physically..not because we dont have sex but because i feel we see each other too much and have sex too much but every time i mention a ...
A. 11 June 2008: No matter who you are going out with, you're still going to find others attractive. Its human nature. As long as you dont act on it its ok.
Why not have a break from boyfriends altogether? If you're boyfriend is pressuring you to stay in this rela... (read in full...)
My friend is coughing up blood. What should I do?
Q. ok this isnt relationship wise.....but my friend is coughing up blood and REFUSES to go to hospital. i have tried everything and been told it can be quite serious. what should i do ?...
A. 11 June 2008: Coughing up blood can be for a number of reasons, some which are very serious. You are righ to be concerned.
Either tell her parents (she will forgive you eventually!) or use the old emotional blackmail technique, (i usually wouldnt recomment this... (read in full...)
I need ideas for hand-made gifts for an ill friend!
Q. my friend is very ill. i want to make her something meaningful as a get well present or something. i'v already made her a hand made card in the past. and a tape. what other ideas could u giv me? any hand made gift ideas would be much appreci...
A. 11 June 2008: A scrapbook of pictures of the both of you would be really nice, maybe include show tickets and things of that sort.
Or for something personal make a necklace or bracelet.
You can also buy teddy bears and record a message to be put inside them whi... (read in full...)
How can I keep up my courage and not get emotional when arguing?
Q. ello, ok so i got some bad things going on and they are really annoying me. I broke up with all my mates the ones i hang around with and they are saying alot of bad things and crap basiclally not gonna go in detail take too long. But tomorrow they ...
A. 11 June 2008: Theres always alot of realtionship questions on here but I think its the ones involving friends that can be worse.
Mainly because they know you so well and know what to say to anger you or upset you.
You could avoid the situation all together... (read in full...)
He is younger thus I was reluctant about dating him, suddenly he stopped talking to me, how do I get him interested again?
Q. A boy who is a few years younger than me gave me his number at a lacrosse game. We started texting and he asked me right away if i would go out with him. I told him that the age difference was pretty extreme (4 years) but i also said that i would ...
A. 11 June 2008: The may seem like a nice guy but he is much too young for a relationship. Hence the avoidance, boys this age dont know what they want and its unlikley he would have thought this through in as much depth as you.
In the future, try to seek boys a bit ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my pubic area smooth when shaving?
Q. I have a question about shaving. I shave evrey where including down there and I am allergic to every womans razor out there, but I did find a mans razor that only makes my under arms and my pubic area break out a little but my arms and legs are ...
A. 11 June 2008: Use plenty of shaving gel and shave in the opposite direction of the hair growth (similar to the legs) and only do a little bit with each stroke.
Shaving down there often causes problems for people so dont worry, its usually due to ingrowing hair... (read in full...)
Do you think an Anime Convention would be a good place to meet girls with similar interests?
Q. I have somewhat of a strange question but hopefully someone can answer. In a few weeks I will be attending an Anime Convention for 2 days, does anyone know if this would be a good place to find a girl due to similar interests in anime? I've foun...
A. 11 June 2008: Yeah, I think it would be a good place to meet someone with a shared interests. So long as you understand that there is more to the person than just shared hobbies. Though, obviously it makes a great ice breaker.
Good luck
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Pain during intercourse...what can I do?
Q. why do i have lower pain during intercourse? its so painful i have to ask him to stop sometimes. it really sucks and i feel so bad for him what can i do?...
A. 9 June 2008: If the pain is internal, like stomach ache, then you should see a doctor as it could be due to a number of things, maybe even an STD.
If the actual pain is penetration itself, this is very common. Take it slow and make sure you are fully rela... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my friend's sister..should I tell him so I stand a better chance?
Q. i have a crush on a girl who's brother i happen to be friends with. i'm kind of afraid to talk to her although i pretty much know she knows about my crush on her, her friends are really snoopy. so should i tell her brother that i like her and if i...
A. 9 June 2008: If you're friend is a nice understanding guy he may just put a good word in for you.
If you are sure you like this girl, I think its better to tell him beforehand or else he'll be upset that you didnt say.
Good luck
xxx... (read in full...)
Embarrassing skin rash that won't stop itching! Help
Q. Can somebody help me? For the past two weeks or so now, I have felt this horrible itching downstairs. As a result, this has developed into some sort of skin rash. This isn't the sort of thing I want to seek help about from a doctor, so does ...
A. 9 June 2008: Well if you're sexually active.The itching could be caused by public lice, not very nice but it can be sorted out easily.
Other than that, it could be an allergic reaction/ irriatation to a new soap, showver gel or bubble bath?
An anti-inf... (read in full...)
What do 23 yr old guys want? Just sex or a relationship?
Q. At 23 years old do guys just want sex or are they ready for a relationship?...
A. 9 June 2008: It totally depends on the guy. There are alot of immature men that age who will just want sex but then again there are lots of guys who will be looking for a relationship.
Its hard to say, you just have to get to know them well first before anyt... (read in full...)
Is it bad to keep painting and repainting your nails?!?
Q. Hey everyone I don't know if any of you will know the answer to this question but every question I have asked so far has been answered so maybe I'll get lucky and someone will know this one I like to paint my nails alot and I like to change ...
A. 9 June 2008: It'll make them brittle and easier to break but nothing major. Try using a nail strenghthener inbetween paining them. I think sally hanson does one.
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I've great friends and am an honour student... but I'm also onely and in need of a relationship...
Q. I think I have a great life.I've got a loving family, great friends,and I'm an honors student.Even with all this love around me,I still feel lonely.I want a boy- friend,but no one will go out with me.I've only had 1 boyfriend and that was in the ...
A. 7 June 2008: You have so many great things in your life! A boyfriend could change them, right now celebrate what you have, go out and spend more time with your friends, make new ones and be happy. You have another 70 years to find a boyfriend, but you're only in ... (read in full...)
Attracted to the girl who looks like a guy! I really want to get to know her
Q. theres this chic that i really adore. like she's amazing. i have never talked to her before but she just seems to be so cool. i thought she was a guy before and i was like " hes cute" but then i found out shes really a dyke. i want to talk to her so ...
A. 7 June 2008: People are just people, you can be attracted to a girl and be straight.
Talk to her, get to know her and see if she lives up to your expectations. You dont know unless you try!
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What's the probability that my husband has had sex with this waitress??
Q. hi, My husband went to the Cabaret. The waitress that served him there got in touch with him thru mail saying that it'll be nice to know him and his friends and that he should contact her and they'll have a great time. I want to know if she has...
A. 7 June 2008: If they've only recently met when he was with friends, then its unlikely he has done anything with her. I think if they had been intimate, she would have been a little more discreet with her letters.
If you're concerned, talk to your husband or sugg... (read in full...)
Asked him how he feels, but he won't reply...will it be bad news??
Q. I told this guy that I've been knowing for 8 years and talking to for 3 That I'm in love with him for the first time and I told him that I wanted to know how he felt about me honestly and he said he'll call me so we can talk about it but he hasn't ...
A. 7 June 2008: How long has it been since he said he'd call?
If its still less than a week, dont worry there is still plenty of time for him to call yet.
He may just be thinking it over, it is a big thing to tell someone you are in love with them.
If he dos... (read in full...)
Is masturbation good to help you last longer?
Q. Is masturbation good to help you last longer? If so what kinda technique while masturbating would help me last longer which my girlfriend?...
A. 7 June 2008: It could be. (trying to think of 'nicer' words to use here lol) When you feel are about to come, stop yourself. With practice, this should help you 'train' yourself to have more self-control and hopefully last longer in the bedroom.
Good luck
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Over a year without a girl and I'm starting to lose hope!! Help!
Q. It's been over a whole damn year now since I was last in a loving and physical relationship. I've gone through an array of emotions in the last twelve months, but now I'm sick and tired of not getting any female attention (Strictly speaking I do get ...
A. 7 June 2008: Well firstly, its good that you've been single after a relationship for quite a while. Jumping from one relationship into another is always a bad idea.
If you have managed to keep a girl for two years you must have been doing something right, so d... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to him--and he doesn't care. How do I get back at him?
Q. I lost my virginity to this guy, that I knew from school. he already graduated and I was still at the school, however we hooked up again off the internet and I told him I wanted him to be my first, but we were talking about having sex and few weeks ...
A. 7 June 2008: This happens to us all at some point. Nice guy, things seem good, then suddenly Mr.Wonderful is showing his true colours.
At least you have found out what type of man he is early before things became more serious.
Treat this all as a learning... (read in full...)
He hates my whole past...so why does he say he loves me?
Q. My boyfriend dislikes my past... actually hates it. He just hates every aspect of it, he hates every guy I kissed, every guy I liked, every guy who liked me... he even dislikes some of my classmates just because we were good friends and used to hug. ...
A. 7 June 2008: You've done nothing to be ashamed of, everyone has a past and yours dosent seem like a bad one.
He should be able to accept this as your past, not your present.
You must be firm and tell him whats done is done and if he isnt happy then you must rec... (read in full...)
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