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writes:im in my last year of school, im a guy, im 15, nearly 16i know a lot fo you will say its to early in my life to make a decisionbut i truely believe that i am bisexual.i "came out" some time last year and well... everyone hates mei have 2 good friends who truely understand mebut one takes the mick of me a lot, i know shes only jokingbut it hurts a bitand the other lives about 50 miles away and it takes 3 hours to get to herthey are both femalesit seriously gets me down.i get beaten up EVERY SINGLE DAY!basicly, i have, severe insomnia, bipolar, chronic depresion, anorexia and bulimia. i need some help coping or im going to end up dying. seriously. help?
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reader, minex +, writes (6 May 2008):
minex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you kind reader, i would like you all to know that i do already have several forms of theropy, counsellors and a physciatrist i see every monday and wednesday. im going to college soon and im hoping my life will get better from there. also to the fellow who told me to accept my sexuality; i fully accept that i am bisexual and i do not belive theres anything wrong with me. i just want to stop getting beaten up! i dont parade around with a big "BEAT ME UP IM BI" badge, i dont really tell anyone, i dont draw attention to myself
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thank you again, friends
Minex. x x x
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reader, Aly Jane  + ♥, writes (6 May 2008):
 My best friend is so similar to you, and I know how you feel. Both of us are depressed and struggle with eating disorders. It hurts when people force you to eat or tell you to open up and come out of your shell when all you want to do is be alone. My friend is hated by everyone in her grade and I'm the only one who's there. Some days I push everyone away, but I realize that in the end, my friend will be there to support me. Stay close to your friends and don't ever leave them. It's sad that emotional trama can last for years without healing and can take control over your life. If you don't do anything the problems will only become more severe. I recommend therapy because it can help. I wish you luck and hope that you won't have to suffer daily anymore because it can mess you up without you even realizing it.
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reader, :):):) +, writes (6 May 2008):
When I read your post I automatically thought of a friend of mine.
Like you she is also bipolar and has sufferend from eating disorders in the past. She also 'came out' as bisexual a couple of years ago.
She went through a very depressive time and dropped out of school. But eventually decided she needed help, she has since started taking the appropriate medication which as helped so much.
She also joined a support group which has given her more confidence. She now has a good job a boyfriend and is happy.
This can happen to you too, all that seperates you from happiness is getting help. Dont be afraid to talk to your doctor about your problems or to join a support group. Every little bit of support goes a long way.
Try making new friends if possible, maybe ones who have the same experiences as you, having great friends by your side is important.
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reader, Kimaxsi +, writes (5 May 2008):
I think anonymous has a good point joining a support group with peers that understand what you're going through. If you been diagnosed with these things, does that mean you're in therapy? Talking to your therapist about these feelings can help.As for your friend say hey those snide little remarks hurt my feelings, just be strait with her. Honesty I find is important in relationships I think we owe it to ourselves and the people we care about. I discovered I was bisexual too, and I found just accepting it and realizing its normal and not a big deal helps. Its not a big deal okay, there's nothing wrong with bisexuality or homosexuality for that matter. Until you accept you, you really can't expect that others are going to accept you. So start with that first. As for teasing it hurts, I've been there. Accepting yourself is important, realizing the people talking don't actually know you (not really) and that they are obviously insecure as well. Not letting your image of yourself be determined by what others think is important.I also have Depression and mood disorders run in my family, so I know how painful it is and how challenging. First its important to realize how Depression distorts your perceptions, its tricky to be objective but its important to understand that when you are depressed even if people are trying to get close to you and be loving and supportive you may not even see it. Depressed people are hurting so they hurt back and sometimes inadvertently push others away who would want to get close. Its tough but if you can catch yourself in the act, it'll help matters considerably. Talking to your friends and family honestly helps. I am married now, it helps that my husband knows me so well, that he can recognize when the Depression is speaking. So try and notice when you close down and shut off, its important to open up, that's why often recommend doing volunteer work or getting involved with something close to your heart, it'll help develop your compassion and open you up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): I feel for you chap! Just let me say that you are soooo young and have soo much life to experince and it will get better then this! Highschool is immature and harsh. Things that helped me when I was in situations you speak of:I am a recovering addict of 10 years, also have been coping with eating disorders since I was in HS. I went to Narcotics anonymous- and organization for addicts. I made many friends there. Most addictions or eating disorders are due to personality disorder or come along with. So you'd be surrounded by people who don't judge you and understand you. I say find a self-help group and make friends.When my addiction was very bad- I went to rehab and this helped me cope wit my real issues. If you are really uffering- maybe you need to take a month to heal in a rehab.Also- try to focus on whats important to you. If you have an interest like music, art, reading- try and look for schools such as college and concentrate on making your life better- you can turn all this around if you try and think positive! If you heal from this things you can help others! Good luck and God bless!
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