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My cat is acting weird!
Q. hi, my cat just suddenly turned into different behaviour. shes always following us and she never used to but then shel suddenly turn round hiss at you, growl, then start faoming and dribbling at the mouth. im worried what sort of illness it is c...
A. 2 September 2008: Cats often change their behaviour suddenly. Going from purring to hissing at you for no reason. If your cat is just becoming an adult then this is pretty normal. Dribbling isnt all that unusual either. As for the foaming, maybe your cat has eaten ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my dad I'm pregnant?
Q. i have a great feeling that im pregnant, because i have the symtoms. but i am not sure what i should do. you see im 15 turning 16 in oct. and it was my first time having sex non the less it was unprotected. i dont know how i should tell my dad. so ...
A. 2 September 2008: Well, firstly, I'd take a test to make sure. You can buy them whatever your age and cheap tests are just as good as any others. Take the test a few weeks after unprotected sex took place.
If the result is positive, its important you let someone know... (read in full...)
Should I tell people my step-dad touches me inappropriately?
Q. when i was about eight years old my step father began touching me in rude ways. i was to young to understand so i didn't tell anyone he is still doing it should i tell people and do you think they will believe me?...
A. 2 September 2008: You deserve much better than this abuse.It might be hard explaining but no would should suffer in silence. When you are ready, tell an adult you trust, or write a letter to them. xxx... (read in full...)
I have some questions about sex for the first time.
Q. hello i'm 17 teen right know and i was talking to my mother about sex cuz i was inrested and i was just wondering if it really hurts the first time? and if you can really bleed? i didnt want to belive my mom a whole lot cuz i was just thinking she ...
A. 2 September 2008: Thats great that you can talk to your mother openly about these things.
Everyones first time is different so I cant give you an exact account. It can be a little bit painful and uncomfortable the first time, some girls do bleed a little also.
Th... (read in full...)
Would my boyfriend go to jail if I had a baby?
Q. my boyfriend is 16 and im only 15. would he go to jail if i had a baby? (but i would be 16 when the baby arrives)....
A. 2 September 2008: Well, Im assuming the American age of consent is also 16, which means yes, he would be breaking the law and could possibly be charged with sex with a minor. These kind of cases hardly ever result in a custodial sentance, but there is a possibility, ... (read in full...)
I am totally dependant on him but know this is wrong...how can I move on??
Q. Hi everyone, I can't believe that I am writing about this so pubilc but here we go. I have been with my guy for 11 years. We have 3 kids together. Six yers ago he cheated on me and there was a little girl that resulted from it. I had no clue bout...
A. 26 August 2008: Wow, you must be a very understanding lady to accept these other children. It takes a strong person to cope with what you have so dont feel that you are weak in any way.
Talk to your husband frankly, let him know you are concerned over his rela... (read in full...)
How do I hook a guy up with my mom so she leaves my boyfriend alone?
Q. My mom tries to hide it but likes my boyfriend a LOT. (I don't blame her cause he is one yummy beefcake ;) ). So whenever he comes over she'll do things like make him brownies or tell him what a nice shirt he'd wearing. I've tried talking to her a...
A. 26 August 2008: Well, unless Mr Yummy Beefcake has an equally attractive dad that is currently single then you are going to have to look further a field.
She may just be being nice in an overally nice way. Was she like that with your previous boyfriends?
Its g... (read in full...)
14 and I think I could be pregant.
Q. Please take the time to hear me out..and please dont judge me. Im 14 Years old and I think i'm pregnant. My period came down July 27, 2008 And Went Back Up August 1st. My boyfriend And I had sex July 11 and 12, The first time we were unprotec...
A. 26 August 2008: I think the aunt you are talking about is just trying to make sure you are ok.
Good luck with whatever result you get, let us know how you get on!
xxx... (read in full...)
Was it stupid of me to help the girl I like to meet the boy she fancies?
Q. there's a girl in my school and i've been in love with her for 3 years but i've never had the courage to ask her out, and now she has forgotten how i feel about and recently she has been asking for my advice on a guy and i have been givin it and now ...
A. 26 August 2008: No, it just shows what a nice guy you are, which I'm sure she'll remember in the future!
Theres also a possibility she was asking YUR advice because she likes YOU and wanted to see how you'd react.
See how it goes with this guy and if she becomes ... (read in full...)
Do I admit to people I like him or do I just start a rumor?
Q. A new guy has just started at work, and one of collegues at work thought it would be funny to start a rumour that there was something going on between us just as a joke. But the thing is I actually like him, but every time I talk to him I keep thi...
A. 26 August 2008: Don't start any rumours as its likely it'll get back to him where they came from.
What was his reaction to the rumour that you were a couple? Was he annoyed or didnt mind?
Ofcourse, some people make it impossible to find out how they feel and it l... (read in full...)
How to get rid of these zits on my face in matter of days?
Q. well heres my problem i have all of these zits on my face and i want to get rid of them any ways for me to get rid of them like in at least 2 ta 3 days cuz school coming up soon and i dont wanna look like this so any ideas...
A. 26 August 2008: Tea tree oil is made to speciafically not clog pores up. Ot should be available at any chemist or supermarket etc if not try online. ... (read in full...)
Advice on using tampons, please.
Q. Hi im just wondering can anyone give me advice on putting in tampons?!!! I really want to use them but im terrified of putting them in ! any tips or advice? x...
A. 26 August 2008: They can be a bit difficult to begin with but it does get easier. 1. Use small or medium ones to begin with as they are easier to use. 2.Use ones with applicators as they are much easier to use. 3.Make sure you wash your hands before and aft... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my parents' reaction when I tell them of my gay relationship!
Q. im a 16 year old gay guy and my boyfriend is 17 and we really hit it off straight away wev been together for 9 months i really love him and he told me he loves me weve talked about coming out of the closet but im nervous about it not sure if my ...
A. 26 August 2008: Sadly, the older generations still often have conservative views on sex and gay relationships.
As you and your boyfriend have been together 9 months its clear to see you are in a loving relationship as committed as any other.
If you feel ready to... (read in full...)
My online friend said he loves me but I fear his love is only platonic and that he does not understand mine!
Q. Okay, well, I met this guy over the internet who is just a year older than me. We met, chatted and had a laugh as friends. We talk on msn all the time and I love him as more than friend. Recently he told me he loved me but I fear his love is only ...
A. 26 August 2008: I've met people off the internet before and can honestly say, it is nothing like when you are chatting online. The person isnt usually how you expect them to be.It is hard to judge a charcater over msn.
If you feel strongly meet in a public plac... (read in full...)
I can't have an orgasm after I found my husband looking at porn sites! I'm also pregnant...
Q. In the past my husband has had no problem making me achieve multiple orgasms. last month I found porn sites on his computer and I am four months pregnant. I cant seem to have an orgasm since, I even had to fake it for the first time in our ...
A. 26 August 2008: You are his wife, he had made a commitment to you and you are carrying his baby.He obviously loves you dearly.
Most men look at porn at some point in their lives, its just natural curiosity, (and im sure you've looked before too!) But these girl... (read in full...)
What are some things to consider when thinking about this?
Q. I will give some background. I am a single parent and my son has just finished college. From my son attending college I have gotten to know his roommate. He is also from a single parent family. Over the four years his roommate and I have become ...
A. 26 August 2008: wEll firstly, I'd find out what your son thinks, just in case he takes it badly. ASk him, maybe in a half joking way about yourself and his friend seeing eachother and see his reaction.
If you're sure having sex wouldnt harm your relationship with... (read in full...)
He means everything to me. The bestest friend I could ever asked for, but he want to die! Please please help.
Q. I'm really upset because my best friend is. He is really depressed and wants to die. he wont tell me the reasons, but i assume its relationship problems. I love him loads in everyway possible. If he dies I dont even want to think what id do. He mea...
A. 26 August 2008: Well, you maybe dont realise but you being there for him is already helping him.
Make sure he knows that you care about him and support him as you have been doing. For some people its hard to talk about their emotions so let him know he can talk... (read in full...)
Do I still need to take the morning after pill? I need an answer asap, please.
Q. I am 16 and i had unprotected sex last night, but i came on my period today. Do i still need to take the morning after pill? Please answer ASAP. Thanks a lot....
A. 26 August 2008: Yes, you can get pregnant at any time of your cycle. The morning after pill can be taken up to 72 hours but the sooner the better.
I can see you are from the UK so make sure you visit a chemist, such as the one in Boots, which will be free to you.... (read in full...)
What can I do about my romantic life? Why have I been unlucky until now?
Q. Hi cupid Thanks for this opportunity, i had a relationship wid a guy a 1 yrs ago,he was never commited n never willing to take a step ahead bt i blindly met him once we did nt ve sex bt he touch me all over and after few days he told me he was gett...
A. 26 August 2008: Its only human nature to enjoy the feel of a mans hands on your body but if you are serious about waiting until you are married then dont give in to pressure.
You are still young don't worry Mr. Right is out there. Dont give up yet!... (read in full...)
Is it difficult to shave or hair-remove down there? I've always thought it would be near impossible.
Q. Hi, I think most guys like girls to have no hair down there, is it difficult to shave or hair remove down there? I've always thought it would be near impossible. I am a guy btw, I'm not even sure if i like it, but I might....
A. 26 August 2008: Well im my experience most men are not shaven down there, not that Im an expert!
Shaving isnt a good idea as it can lead to ingrowing hairs and requires alot of maintenence. Waxing may be a better idea, if you are willing to take the pain! Hair remo... (read in full...)
My family and friends still hate him...but we are seeing each other again...how can I break it to them???
Q. Hi, I used to go out with this guy, who i really liked but he broke up with me a few weeks after me losing my virginity to him. I was angry at the time but got over it quite quickly!.....But my parents, family and close friends did not and still sp...
A. 26 August 2008: Your friends and family are only concerned for you and want you to be happy so don't get angry if they disaprove. Instead let them know gently and maybe invite him around for dinner once the news has sunk it a bit. After a while, once you have ... (read in full...)
Does she want sex or are my signals mixed?
Q. I have gone as far as dry humping with my girlfriend, having my hand down her bra and deep kissing her but i dont want to freak her out by mentioning sex. I was wondering if she maybe wanted to have sex though as the last time we were alone together ...
A. 26 August 2008: Well I think you can clearly say she is interested in you sexually. If you have been together for a while and you feel ready then and think she feels the same then let her know, she may just be waiting for you to say something. If you are in a ... (read in full...)
My son's girlfriend is a cheat... how do I get my son to finally dump her?
Q. My son has a girlfriend who keeps cheating on him. How do I get him to wake up and smell the coffee, and move onto a woman who will be as loyal as he is? This is the third time she has cheated in their short 3 month romance. ...
A. 26 August 2008: I can imagine this must be difficult for you. But theres not much you can do, apart from be there to support him. Try not to voice you're opinion too much as he might feel 'driven' to her, but let him know that you're there.
Hopefully he will grow... (read in full...)
What is Englands Policy or law on teenaged immigrants?
Q. An american teenager somehow finds a way to get all the way across the pacific ocean to england and lives there for about three weeks before being caught. Figuratively, what would happen to him or her once caught? Does England have a policy or law ...
A. 26 August 2008: Thats a strange question! I wont ask why you want to know.
I'd imagine he/she would be sent back imediatly without any charge as three weeks isnt a long time.
Unless ofcourse they were wanted in their respective country, then maybe charges would be... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend overcome hating taking his top off?
Q. well. my boyfriend is paranoid about his top-half. he's told me i'm the only girl (outside his family) to have seen him topless, because he hates it so much. he's had girlfriends before, but always left his top on. i want to go swimming with h...
A. 26 August 2008: Theres no quick fix really. Just like women, men have their insecurities, even when they are gorgeous to us.
Just make sure he knows how great you think he looks and hopefully in time he will start to believe you.
xxx... (read in full...)
How to get rid of these zits on my face in matter of days?
Q. well heres my problem i have all of these zits on my face and i want to get rid of them any ways for me to get rid of them like in at least 2 ta 3 days cuz school coming up soon and i dont wanna look like this so any ideas...
A. 26 August 2008: Exfoliate, drink lots of water, tea tree oil, 'quinoderm' are all good quick ways. Toothpaste bizzarly is also meant to be good, just put a little bit on before you go to bed.... (read in full...)
14 and I think I could be pregant.
Q. Please take the time to hear me out..and please dont judge me. Im 14 Years old and I think i'm pregnant. My period came down July 27, 2008 And Went Back Up August 1st. My boyfriend And I had sex July 11 and 12, The first time we were unprotec...
A. 26 August 2008: I wont critisise you as everybody makes mistakes and you now know how worrying it can be.
There is a possibility you could be pregnant, though it is a bit early to be showing symptoms. It could just be that you are 'looking' for symptoms as you are ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my best friend, and I miss him, but I won't be the first to call.
Q. Two weeks and one day ago I "broke up" with my best guy friend.We had been friends with benefits in the past,but he lost his virginity to some girl he doesnt even know or care about and i've secretly loved him.I have given him my heart and always ...
A. 23 August 2008: I know you dont want to but I think you should really call him!
You obviously have a special relationship and you're just wasting more time being apart. He probably thinks you dont care.
Call him and tell him how you feel! Its never nice being th... (read in full...)
Can I have a relationship with my father's step brother?
Q. hi i know my question is stupid but i can't tell anyone. can i have a relationship with my father's step brother? he's not from our family he's just the son of my grandmother's new husband. we're so attracted to eachother but i don't know.. is he...
A. 23 August 2008: I imagine it would be difficult for your family readjusting to the idea but as long as you are two consenting adults then you are not breaking any laws.
Ofcourse if he has always acted as 'uncle' since you were a child then I would readdress the ... (read in full...)
Any stories about losing your virginity??
Q. I'm nearly 17 and haven't had sex yet. I'm not too bothered as I'm waiting for the right person to come along as a lot of people tell me that it's the right thing to do. However, I do get extremely horny and masturbate and watch porn quite a lot, is ...
A. 23 August 2008: Its completely normal to get turned on by either sex masturbating as you are essentially turned on by their reaction.
You have done the right thing waiting, most people lose their virginity and regret it. Including me, half way up a hill isnt exac... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but acts like he doesn't! Could he like me?
Q. ok so i have a really complicated problem... i really really like this guy and i think he likes me too but he has a girlfriend so he cant but he acts like he does so i dont know if he likes me or not :( he might just see me as a mate so i cant t...
A. 23 August 2008: Well if he has a girlfriend I'd steer clear of asking for a while as it could cause alot of trouble.
Wait until he is single again and ask him how he feels. In the meantime enjoy being his friend!
x ... (read in full...)
I never told my boyfriend about the guy pinning me down making me do sexual things! I feel like I'm dying inside because of it.
Q. My heart is breaking into a million pieces, and its all my fault. i have been with my bf for over 4 yrs, and jus over a month ago i made the biggest mistake of my life. i cant eat, i cant sleep, i jus feel like dying. i work with the same company my ...
A. 23 August 2008: Don't feel guilty. You are the victim here. This man clearly thinks he has a hold of you.
If you told your boyfriend about the kissing and he understood, I'm sure he will about everything else. If he is a loving boyfriend he will support you. If i... (read in full...)
What is a vagina suppose to look like?
Q. I just turned 18, and I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months. Recently we have began to get really touchy and and intimate, but I haven't had sex im still a vigin and so is he. I've never seen his "penis" and he's never seen my "vagina" nor has he ...
A. 23 August 2008: I bet most girls will worry about this at some time. But the truth is no vagina is exactly like another. Like anything, they come in different shapes and sizes.
In porn movies they tend to be 'zoomed in' and at an angle that you wouldnt be able... (read in full...)
Why smoke?
Q. ok i dont know if dis is a article or not but its a poem i made here goes : why smoke its not a joke you know you could croak its not like sugar and spice its like making sure you have lice it makes you stink whats next you gonna drink...
A. 21 August 2008: well done sweetie x... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend likely to spread rumors that I gave him chlamydia?
Q. before you read this please don't judge me as i know i have made a mistake and am trying to fix it. i slept with a guy and he found out that right before that i slept with someone else. he is now saying i gave him chlamydia! i know he has slep...
A. 21 August 2008: Well firstly, the doctor wouldnt be able to tell him when he got it exactly and I'm pretty sure it'd take longer than a week to develop and it usually takes a couple of weeks to get test results back. So he is clearly clueless about the entire ... (read in full...)
My dad's texting makes me uncomfortable. Is he cheating?
Q. hey im in a situation were im not comfortable and i dont no what to do! my dad has become very protective of his phone. he will always text at night and when im in another room he will text to this anonymous person or persons. and when he does...
A. 21 August 2008: Your not being silly. I imagine most people would feel uncomfortable in your situation.
As tempting as it may be, I wouldnt look through his phone.
I really think you should ask him about this. Maybe in a subtle 'joking' sort of way, for instance... (read in full...)
I made a huge mistake going back to my ex. Now it's over, I don't know how to handle it.
Q. I made a huge mistake of going back to my ex, falling in love with him again and getting dumped by him again. It all started 3 years ago when he dumped me for someone else. It was heartbreaking and it took 18 months until I was fully over it. Then ...
A. 17 August 2008: Everyone makes mistakes, especially where relationships are concerned. If you hadn't met again you'd only be wondering what might have happened.
Its still early days and I promise you now is the worst time, but you got over him before and you can ... (read in full...)
Small bump + big baby = CONFUSED!
Q. heya :) well I'm 28 weeks pregnant with my first baby - a lovely little boy! :D Although everything has gone ok so far my bump is pretty small for the stage I'm at =S...alot of people have commented on how small it is in fact, some saying i will pro...
A. 17 August 2008: When you are young, your muscles are tighter and the baby is often 'hidden' behind. Hence, the majority of 'unexpected' babies are born to young mothers. It sounds bizarre but it is true, google it.
... (read in full...)
Any tips that can help me pass my driving test?
Q. Hey everybody... Okay, I understand that this is a website for relationship troubles [hence 'dearcupid'.com] but this is the ony place i could think of coming for help with a problem that isn't anything to do with a relationship. I have just book...
A. 17 August 2008: Dont think about it as if its the most important thing in the world. If you fail you can do it again, as many times as you want to. And you will learn from your expereinces.
Try to think upon it as a time you 'might pass but it dosent matter if not ... (read in full...)
She has been in an abusive relationship and says is not ready for the next, is it wrong to maintain hopes?
Q. Hi, i'll try and make this as brief as possible. I'm 21 and have never been in a real relationship. Last year i found out a friend from work liked me, which was a real suprise becus i have always liked her, but thought she was out of my league to ...
A. 17 August 2008: This girl has obviously had a bad time and needs alot of time to heal. Jumping straight into another relationship wouldnt be healthy for either of you.
She knows how you feel and seemes to feel the same, she will let you know when shes ready. In t... (read in full...)
How do I move on from him when I'm constantly in tears?
Q. my boyfriend of 2 years and i broke up about three months ago. i have been fine, i suppose. but recently, i have not been able to stop thinking about him!! he is constantly in my thoughts! i think about him basically every minute of the day, i dr...
A. 17 August 2008: I totally know how you feel. I also came out of a two year relationship, three months ago, funnily enough.
After two years, its hard adjusting back to life without a partner. Its completely normal for you to think about him alot. But I promise you ... (read in full...)
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