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writes:How old do you think is old enough for teens to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends at home? I know if they really want to be alone chances are they’ll find a way even if parents don’t allow them but what are your views on allowing your kids to be alone with their boyfriends/girlfriends in their bedrooms? I have a 17-year-old Step daughter, 15-year-old son and 13-year-old daughter and all 3 of them want me to allow their boyfriends/girlfriend to stay over. I always tell them all 100% no because I just don't like the idea. I'd feel like I was giving them permission to be sexually active.What's everyone else's views on this? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 May 2008):
 That is a recipe for disaster if you allow them to be alone in the bedroom.
If you are in a hurry to have grandchildren , then it is OK.
Sex and emotions are powerful forces even adults cannot handle, let alone teens.
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reader, davie  +, writes (7 May 2008):
My parents felt it depended on how responsible/mature I was. I think 18 is old enough as I don't know about the UK but in Australia you're considered an adult at 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): well i would look at it like this, if the cant come home to a safe environemt, where will they be goin. yh ok the legal age is 16 but loosin ur virginity at home illegally has to be better than in the back of a car or the bathroom of a house party or in a public toilet illegally.
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reader, softballplaya  +, writes (7 May 2008):
 my parents let me have my bf over and im 14. But then again it all depends on the persons background (I.E are they trustworthy?)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Boys having there boy friends over and girls having their girl friends over is oaky. Boy and girls need to be watched and seperated when bed time comes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Obviously I think in part depends on the maturity level of your teens, though having 3 makes it tricky b/c one might be very mature and the other two might not be. I have to say I'm on the less conservative side. If you raised your child well with good values, and have spoken to them honestly about sex and the use of protection risk of STDs, pregnancy and so forth then you've done the biggest thing which is provided them the information they need to make an informed decision. Part of allowing your child to become independent is trusting them to do what's right for them (which may not always be right for you lol). If you haven't had the talk with them you need to even if you choose not let their boyfriends/girlfriends stay over. I think its terrifying being a parent, I have a 6 month old so I am not where you are yet. But I've made a promise to myself to be open and honest and help my daughter grow up to be as strong and independent as possible and that means trusting her and allowing her freedom, this may all change when she's a teenager though lol I think its better that your kids can be open with you and trust you then to feel they need to lie and sneak around b/c then if they do make a mistake they won't want to tell you and that's no good is it? Are you asking for coming over and hanging out at the house alone? Or spending the night together? Cause being alone together they'll do no matter what and to me I think I'd say yes, spending the night though errrr I don't think I am that open lol Though if they were dating someone really sweet and they were very trustworthy I probably would.
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reader, :):):) +, writes (6 May 2008):
I guess it depends on how mature they actually are. If you feel they will be responsible and use protection etc then theres not much to worry about.
Having said, the age in the UK to legally have sex is 16 so maybe its best to wait till they reach this age.
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (6 May 2008):
Your right they shouldn't be alone at all....if ur home I say they can be in the room but the door can't be locked! Or closed all the way. Cause teens are doing so much now a days. But if they wanna have sex they will find a way! So make sure wit the 17 year old you ask if she needs birthcontrol or know about stds!!! Cause the all think the can tell by the way they look. Cause you may think she's not having sex but if she gets pregnat you will wish you told her about it and where she can get it. But tell her and the other kids to use condoms! Cause they are passing everthing even though they are young
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