How can I stop my dad from being racist towards my girlfriend?
Q. [Mod Note: Personal and location details have been removed for anonymity] I'm 27, my girlfriend's 28, and she's Polish-Mexican-American (well, Polish-American on her father's side, and Mexican-American on the mother's side), and we've been together...
A. 14 February 2013: Just because your Father is ACTING like an a$s, in this instance.... doesn't mean that you have to partake of his a$s-like behaviour. Sounds like your G/F has done her bit at disarming him... and, now, the two of you need to continue with your ... (read in full...)
Should girls make the first move?
Q. curious as about today society. How do guys feel, when the girls make first move? if yes then how a - eye flirtations maybe or wink b- flat approach you with a 'hi' if not how are let know to make a move on us? ...
A. 14 February 2013: I think a girl CAN make the first move. I am particularly attentive if she removes her top and says to me: "Are you feeling amorous? ... then looky here and HAVE AT IT, boy... (and) ....there's more, down below...."
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Should I be upset that he wants to go out for our Valentines dinner at the weekend?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for about 6 months. Now its valentines day..i know he is trying to save money for a house and i am not materialistic in the sense where i expect us to go out to dinners all the time..i even contribute towar...
A. 14 February 2013: Give him a "pass".... go on your "valentine's day" date in a couple of days and enjoy yourselves..... this media B/S that has men and women fawning all over themselves to make sure to hit the big date on the big date is so much manufactured fluff ... (read in full...)
My partner cheated on me 6 months ago and I cant get over it, will the pain ever go away?
Q. hi my partner of 20 years cheated on me with a woman he met on the internet, we live in Australia she lives in America. they used to play cards i would walk past and they would be chatting i would try and look at what they were saying but when i ...
A. 14 February 2013: WHY bother with enduring the pain of his past indiscretion(s)???? You have the luxury of erasing this pain from your life by sending him on his way..... (try it!)
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Best friends nightmare son affecting our friendship! Help!
Q. My best friend whom I love to bits has a four year old son that is a NIGHTMARE... I am pretty sure he is ADHD.. and I have commented about this before and she rejected that so fast! But he is such a nightmare to be around. When they come to my ...
A. 14 February 2013: YOU have a decision to make: IF this child makes your time with your friend untenable..... THEN you must decide to either: A. Only spend time with this friend when it can be times when her son can be elsewhere, or, B. Terminate the friendship, if ... (read in full...)
Should I leave a rose and chocolates at her door?
Q. A girl im close to being in a relationship with, talk to everyday by txt, and usually call end of the day. She has had busy schedule and is not free till next week. It has been 2 weeks since we met. I know she likes me alot, and I like her too. ...
A. 14 February 2013: You ask: ".... any other simple ones?"
Yes, let this Valentine's Day pass... without you trying to go out on a limb to impress this girl..... and get on with impressing her AFTER Valentine's Day has passed... and save your theatrics for NEXT Val... (read in full...)
I want to be more than his booty call!
Q. i met a guy 4 months ago started texting wich quickly moved on to sexting and naked pictures met him 8 days after meeting him and had sex with him 10 minutes later ive met up with him a further 2 times but always on his terms. i really really like ...
A. 14 February 2013: You have set yourself up to be mostly/exclusively a booty call....... So, the only thing you can do to change that situation is to remove yourself from it..... Sorry.
Good luck... and, please, DON'T plunge in to "booty land" so quickly, next tim... (read in full...)
Are all guys like this with their baby mamas? Or just my guy?
Q. I'm only 20 and in my first real relationship. We have been dating for 2 and a half years but he is 27 and has a kid. The thing is he always freaking calls his baby mama and what's worse anything she asks for she gets its horrible I don't know what ...
A. 14 February 2013: You ask: "Is this how boyfriends with kids all are or is mine just stuck on his baby mamas ass??"
It's kind of noble that he exhibits a bit of "fatherhood" tendencies in his behaviour.... BUT, he needs to remember that he and "baby mama" ar... (read in full...)
Will my promiscuous past put off decent men?
Q. So I am 21, slept with 25ish guys (never counted properly because I am too scared to. I just know its less than 30 more than 15) Anyway. I started talking to boys in a more than friends type of way when I was 15 and since then I have spoken to about ...
A. 14 February 2013: I recommend that you practice jutting out your chin, holding your head high, and thinking to yourself: "I'm entitled to the absolute BEST in and of the men who I meet and who express interest in me....."
IF/ and when, you engage men, you are "ent... (read in full...)
What does it mean when men act this way?
Q. My boyfriend and I had an argument. I told him I didn't really think he liked me anymore because he doesn't seem to want to get to know me. He basically said "I can't change who I am I just don't like what you're interested in." He later apologized ...
A. 13 February 2013: I "see" two items in your submittal, which items need discussion:
1. "... I told him I didn't really think he liked me anymore..." This message... wherein you TELL HIM WHAT HE IS THINKING.... will be the basis for OOODLES of problems for you,... (read in full...)
Depressed boyfriend says I deserve better?
Q. Hello, I'm Miyumi ( new here ) and got a question. I've got a boyfriend for about 6 months now and he used to be quite depressed about 3 months ago. ( He wanted to commit suicide ). He said he was a failure in his parents eyes because he didn...
A. 13 February 2013: I think the key phrase in your submittal is this one: "...he suddenly started saying I deserve better,.."
He is correct.... so, don't contradict him. Leave him on his own and get on with your OWN life, without him....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is this online relationship over?
Q. i have an unusal situation. i met a girl online. i know many people feel on-line relationships are insane. her best friend told me "your insane, get a real girl you can see face to face, she has a man." i showed this to my on-line friend and she u...
A. 13 February 2013: "Any advice?? Anyone??"
Yes. Take a break from F/B for about 6 months. Read books, pursue a hobby, learn to play a musical instrument.... Then, after those 6 months, come back on this site, open this submittal and see if it applies and/or m... (read in full...)
Is it OK to see someone you've broken up with one last time to end things on a positive note?
Q. I met a man a while ago and we started dating. It was going well and I really liked him and still do, but unfortunately, because of circumstances outside our control, we have to go our separate ways. I won't go into it because it's a long story but ...
A. 13 February 2013: It's "OK" to have that last date/day that you would like....
BUT... I would question, "... to what purpose?" The breakup has happened.... and what can ensue from that "last date" can only add to, and protract the anguish of your amiable break up... (read in full...)
Forthcoming date with my ex ... how to show him what he's been missing?
Q. Hey all!!! Some much needed help please! My bf of 2 years and I broke up just over a month ago.. but we have both continued to see each other every so often. Today we decided to start dating again and just see how it goes. I'm really happy ab...
A. 13 February 2013: I suggest that you ask him to take you for a canoe ride... and ask the canoe people for ONE paddle.... give it to him and ask him to take you for a spin around the lake.... You'll learn, from that, what he's made of.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset that my BF is going to be roommates with a girl he used to date?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have our up and down in our relationship. We have just recent got back together and this time it really feels like things are going great and it's really working. However the timing is bad. Just yesterday he told me that his...
A. 13 February 2013: You are right to consider dumping his sorry a$s.
How would you have reacted if he had come by with a gas can and said to you: "I'm not sure if this thing is empty. Let me light a match and put it in the opening so that I can see the level in... (read in full...)
I am doing something wrong and I can't figure out what it is.
Q. Hey folks, thanks for taking the time to give me some advice on helping my husband-like boyfriend. This post is long, but I feel like if you, lovely helper, are going to give me some great advice you might need some details first. My boyfriend a...
A. 13 February 2013: I think you've given us a terrific report about why having a "husband-like boyfriend" should be about the last arrangement that a girl should settle for......
Remember... that YOU have done all you can to make this "relationship" like a marriage... (read in full...)
After his friends bailed on him, b/f decided to spend Valentine's Day with me. I'm hurt that I'm his 2nd choice!
Q. My boyfriend made plans for valentines with his friends, and forgot to tell me. I found out, and asked him to re-schedule. He said he is busy with friends the whole week. I got upset. He said we could do it next week. Then he called, saying h...
A. 13 February 2013: YOU'VE BEEN HIS "G/F" FOR FIVE YEARS???? .... AND HE PLANNED ON SPENDING VALENTINE'S DAY WITH HIS "FRIENDS" RATHER THAN YOU???????
I don't think that your question about being his "second choice" really makes any sense, at all.... The FAR GREA... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says a break will benefit both of us but I don't agree!
Q. I didn't think I would have to come here to find some insight, but I am just losing my mind and need some info/opinions from strangers because usually thats advice that is non-biased and you can take on. Well make a long story short...heres th...
A. 13 February 2013: I'm sure you realize that it makes no difference if you agree.... SHE is taking that 3-month sabbatical, period...
I suggest that you honor her request.... let the three months elapse.... and, then, be in-touch with her to learn how things h... (read in full...)
How can one tell the children about divorce when your spouse is too emotional to be rational?
Q. For many years now I have been unhappy in my marriage. My wife and I have been together for twenty years. After our children were born my wife became very emotional, and she tends to react to situations by shouting, swearing and crying. She's bee...
A. 12 February 2013: You ask: " But how are you supposed to talk sensibly about divorce when your partner is so emotional and is not open to reason?"
YOU AREN'T (supposed to). Take your kids aside and explain to them that you and "Mommy" aren't seeing eye-to-e... (read in full...)
Gf says she'd date her ex if we broke up. How would you react if a partner said this? Unsettled? Insecure?
Q. If you were having general conversation, and your boyfriend or girlfriend admitted that they'd consider dating some of their ex's again, hypothetically, if you two broke up, would that alarm you or bother you? My gf admitted that if we broke up...
A. 12 February 2013: If'n a girl said to me that she would "go back with" her ex- if she and I had a break-up..... I would say:
"Sugar-lips, I guess you're telling me that I am your second-choice, fallback boy ... and that you really aren't done with that old boyf... (read in full...)
Woman I met on a lesbian dating site is actually bisexual and married! How could she be so deceitful, and should I confront her?
Q. I'm a lesbian and a few months back I joined a lesbian dating site. Shortly thereafter a member contacted me and expressed an interest in me. I was impressed with how she presented herself, what she conversated about. I have since taken a fond ...
A. 12 February 2013: You ask: "...Why are some people so unethical, deceitful, manipulative, inconsiderate, callous, selfish and fake?"
Heck... for us guys, that's second nature. I detect that you are surprised to find the same thing (those guy-like attribut... (read in full...)
I wouldn't send my love interest an intimate photo so he broke up. Should we stay friends, as he is suggesting?
Q. I met a man on facebook about 5 months ago. We have never met in real life. But we are very close to each other. We have shared everything about our past--his ex's and my ex. I told him about my ex, who blackmails me with pics that he had taken of ...
A. 12 February 2013: You ask: "...Should I remain friends with him? Does he deserve my friendship?"
The answers are "no," and "no." Any other input from me - or anyone else - is superfluous......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to be turned on by a girl because she did porn or sleeps with men for money?
Q. hi, i was talking to a friend of mine and he was saying how he was interested in this girl, and said that she once performed in a few adult videos and still does some escort work. Its a little beyond my stuff I'm used to so i was pretty surprised...
A. 12 February 2013: OP: I'll throw in the towel on whether or not it's your's or mine or anybody else's business.....
HOWEVER, consider that you've asked about the HEALTH of this "relationship".... and "health" is a broad-spectrum word.... so it's really difficul... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to be turned on by a girl because she did porn or sleeps with men for money?
Q. hi, i was talking to a friend of mine and he was saying how he was interested in this girl, and said that she once performed in a few adult videos and still does some escort work. Its a little beyond my stuff I'm used to so i was pretty surprised...
A. 11 February 2013: Because I was baffled by it the first time... I re-read your submittal two more times..... After each time, I came to the very same questions: What difference does it make? .... and What business is it of your's????
What am I missing?... (read in full...)
If we get together it will be a LDR, she is worried about our age gap and she already has a FWB....should I leave now before I invest any feelings into someone I have no chance with?
Q. Hey! I am 27 year old male with college degree and stable job. I am financially stable and have established lifestyle. I met a 20 year old girl on facebook and have been talking on the phone and through text. She is from Texas and I am from ...
A. 11 February 2013: You write: "What should I do stick with it till we meet in person? or should I leave now before I invest feelings into someone I have no chance with?"
Leave now. It would be silly to try to make some form of a relationship with a young (and imm... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think I have more feelings for my girlfriends daughter than for my girlfriend!
Q. I am a 26 yr old man currently dating a 43 yr old that has a 18 yr old daughter and 2 younger boys I am finding a hard time not becoming attracted to her now she is of age me and her mom have been together for a few years now what should I do I am ...
A. 11 February 2013: I believe your submittal is a tribute to how men seem to "think" with some sort of brain-like organ that is connected to - or resides in - their penis......
Do you really think that either, or both of these women will want anything to do with you... (read in full...)
How can I be more patient waiting for him to propose? Why is he taking so long to take the next step?
Q. I have been with my SO for 4 years. I am in my mid 20s and am fully ready to start a family. My SO is almost 30 and says he wants he same thing. I genuinely believe him, but he's been saying this for the past three years, and I cannot help but ...
A. 11 February 2013: I a little surprised that you don't see this for just what it is....
HE has all he wants... and does NOT intend to propose to you and take on marriage.. since he has all the "pleasure" trappings of marriage (You and he ARE intimate, are you not?... (read in full...)
Online dating -- I'm an idiot...
Q. I met a man online, I haven't dated for a while by choice...but we seemed to have a lot in common. I spoke to him via the site for a while and then we moved on to phone and text and we texted back and forth all day everyday. We agreed to meet and ...
A. 11 February 2013: SVC has given you a CLEAR description of the MINIMUM contacts and contexts necessary to take/make a second date with a guy...
From your re-submittal, I believe you are trying to justify why you were too intimate with this guy too soon... BUT all ... (read in full...)
He's married. We're strongly attracted. I even told his wife nothing was 'going on'. I want to have sex with him, should I?
Q. Hi...this is my first time seeking advice through the internet. I'm almost 20 years old. I applied for a job at a restaurant and I got the job and the general manager is 37. During the interview we made deeply eye contact and then once he...
A. 11 February 2013: You write: "..should I have sex with him? I want to but I know it just going to make things wose (worse)."
You betcha it's going to "make things worse".....
Is THAT who you want to be, in life???? Some cad's "bit on the side"???? ..... ... (read in full...)
Why does this man adhere to what his Mommy says, always? Why is my mother in law so resistant to allowing her son to grow up?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I am love with this guy that I have known for many years. We have a daughter together. I broke the relationship off and moved to another state. We talk to one another on the phone from time to time and every time I hear his voice it mak...
A. 11 February 2013: "Momma's boys" are just about the worst kind of partner that a woman could select.....
Sure, she'll pretend that she likes you... but.. in reality, YOU are her competition for her LITTLE BOY... and, as long as "Sonny" is her little boy, YOU DON'... (read in full...)
I have a BF. Yet I'm seriously questioning my sexuality. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, So here is my problem. I am in a happy, loving, stable relationship of 2.5 years with the man of my dreams. I really, truly can't picture myself not being with him. He feels the same, but... something isn't quite adding up. Ever...
A. 11 February 2013: You write: "I really don't want to be gay....."
Why not? What's wrong with that?????... (read in full...)
Mother's strong opinions make her tough to be around
Q. My mum is far too opinionated and it's getting very stressful to deal with. For example, my female friend has just ended a relationship with her boyfriend to go out with a girl. My mum thinks this is a phase and someone needs to sit her down and ...
A. 11 February 2013: You're spending 'way too much time worrying about what your MOTHER thinks about "things".... Don't you have other "things" to worry about????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Online dating -- I'm an idiot...
Q. I met a man online, I haven't dated for a while by choice...but we seemed to have a lot in common. I spoke to him via the site for a while and then we moved on to phone and text and we texted back and forth all day everyday. We agreed to meet and ...
A. 11 February 2013: WE guys can act pretty stupid, once we've gotten a girl to put out for us.... wouldn't you say????????
Good luck in the future........ (read in full...)
Why did ex mean when he said our relationship was bittersweet?
Q. what did my ex mean when he said this to me.. "what happened with us is bittersweet when you think about it" What does he mean it's bittersweet? I've been thinking about it and still don't know how it applies to our relationship and our brea...
A. 11 February 2013: Here's help with this bit of "guy-speak".....
He was trying to tell you that there were a few good things about what happened between the two of you... and a few not-so-good things...... (That's the difference between "bitter" chocolate and "swe... (read in full...)
Do you think it's my place to tell a woman whom I do know that her husband is cheating on her?
Q. Recently, I've developed an unusual hobby of seeing how many married men in the area I live are cheating on their wives. I have always been a really great snoop and considered being a private investigator at one point. There is a site I found which ...
A. 11 February 2013: Well.... aren't you just one of Jesus's chosen few???
What do you hope to accomplish by sticking your nose in to other peoples' business????. ... business in which you have NO standing????
I suppose that, if you want to get in the HOV lane ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend of 7 years hasn't given me a promise ring yet
Q. Hello all! Let's see if I can sum this up and make it short and sweet and to the point. I am 22 and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for 7 years. I am ready to take the relationship to the next step. Unfortuntely, because of financial ...
A. 11 February 2013: i think you've waited long enough. Chalk this up to an event that won't happen.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What do men like to hear from their women during sex?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm just looking for a few personal opinions on what men would like most from their women during sex, i.e. what do you like to hear, what do you want her to do, etc. Any tips are appreciated! Thank you!...
A. 11 February 2013: I like it if a woman screams out: "OH, DAN.... you are 'way better than I ever expected that Harvey Kietel would be....."
Try that, and see if it works...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I assert myself and get respect from my female boss without coming off as rude
Q. Oh how to go about this. I would describe myself as a pleasant, polite person. I avoid confrontation with people and only speak my mind to those whom I know would understand the point I am trying to make, such as friends. I am rarely rude to anyone, ...
A. 11 February 2013: You need to be very careful in selecting the battles that you will fight, in the business environment. I didn't "see" such a battle in your submittal......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I just noticed my exgirlfriend got very thin and I think she looks amazing...is it because she broke up with me?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend just over a month ago and I saw her last night and she's always been a skinny girl, nice weight and her figure in all the time i've known her was just perfect. But last night I saw her out and i noticed she look...
A. 11 February 2013: She's probably so despondent that you dumped her, that she's trying to starve herself to death.... Nice going...... (read in full...)
Are there men who voluntarily don't look at pornography?
Q. Is there any women here whose boyfriend/husband doesn't look at porn? If they don't do you know for sure? Where did you find them? Did you have to tell them to stop? Are there any men here who don't use it in a relationship? If they d...
A. 11 February 2013: Yes.... there is some boyfriend/husband who doesn't watch porn.....
There is ALSO a giant monster who lives in Loch Ness, in Scotland........ (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to him, but now it seems he's ready to move on. Do you think he is breaking up with me?
Q. My boyfriend and dated for two and half months. I loved him and thought he loved me and I lost my virginity to him the second month and three weeks later he sends me a message saying he hasn't been feeling hisself lately and that he is overwhelmed ...
A. 11 February 2013: What he REALLY means is: "I got you to put out.... so, now I'm done with you..."
Yes.... he IS breaking up with you. You will be wise to avoid such guys in the future.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
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