I'm a virgin but my girlfriend is not. I hear that it would be wrong if she took my virginity, but I don't think it is. What is your opinion?
Q. me and my girl friend are both 14, we love echother a lot. even at this age. we have been told it's real, a few time's so we think it is....... but she is not a vergin and i am.......would it be wrong if she took my verginity? i wont do eny...
A. 28 December 2007: Maybe its not want you want to hear but i think you should wait. Virginity is a precious thing and should be kept for as long as possibe and lost with someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Wait it out, you are both still so ... (read in full...)
He's not ready to get married but that's all I want. What should I do to get him to that commitment level?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Have been living together for the last 2 years. He's not ready to get married but that's all I want. What should I do to get him to that commitment level?...
A. 28 December 2007: You can't actually get him to that committed level, if he is not ready yet, then he is simply not ready. All you can do really is drop subtle hints, but don't come on to strong and risk pushing him away. Don't make him feel like he is being backed ... (read in full...)
What are the pros and cons of having separate bedrooms when living together?
Q. hi i am wondering what are the pros and cons of having separate bedrooms when living together. any views / perspectives etc. ? thanks J...
A. 28 December 2007: I guess alot depends on the couple in question really. A couple might not want to share rooms till they are married. Or maybe a couple still live with their parents, and they have to have different rooms under that roof. Personally i think that if a ... (read in full...)
Is he using me or is he serious?
Q. Hey guys! I really need some help here. So, I've known this guy for about 4 months and we're really good friends. We hang out together alot and Recently, I had a formal dance and he was my date. a week later, we started getting really physical...
A. 28 December 2007: I suggest that you test the water first, by that i mean try flirtatious gestures. Using flirtatious techniques is a great way of finding out if someone like's us with without the embarassement of actually asking them. Eye contact is probably the ... (read in full...)
No contact for 2 months then I get a message; Merry Christmas. I love you. What does this mean?
Q. I broke up with my bf almost 2 months ago, but he wanted to remain friends...we just basically needed a break, but he slowly lost contact with me and began ignoring me...then he moved in with his new gf...its Christmas and I haven't heard from him ...
A. 26 December 2007: I think he maybe he felt bad about the way things ended between the pair of you, and ignoring you. I think he just wanted to say merry Christmas, and to tell you that you will always hold a special place in his heart at this festive time of year. ... (read in full...)
Me and the ex are still having sex but I cant tell if he still loves me.
Q. I split up with my boyfirend four months ago. We still have sex with each other even though he has a new girlfriend. I still love him and want him back. How can i tell if he still have feelings for me? what should i do?...
A. 24 December 2007: To be perfecly honest i think he is using you for the sex, he has got another partner which no doubt he sleeps with also, surely if he had feelings for you he would drop her and get back with you. He really is having his cake and eat it, as ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions as to what might be wrong with me?
Q. hey i need some help here. does any1 av any suggestions whats wrong with me? was out@ dinner with friends a few nights ago and i was fine during the starter but when the main courses came i felt really sick and had to go home. this has happened a ...
A. 24 December 2007: Its hard to say, maybe you are suffering from a bug or something, but then yousay it has happened before. To be on the safe side i would book an appointment with you local GP and get checked over, it will give you peace of mind too.
All the best... (read in full...)
He denies we're an item. What should I do?
Q. Help.My boyfriend says he loves me but i can't see it. He's denying our relationship in his work and don't want others to know that we're together....What shall i do? I love him so much....
A. 24 December 2007: He is acting like you two are not even going out, almost as if he is ashamed of you or something. I would get to the bottom of this and soon. Broach the subject with him at you nearest convenience, the longer you leave it the harder it will get. Ask ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when people say you're cute!?
Q. i'm a female and i get this a lot usually from females, "you're cute." does that mean i'm attractive and good looking? i'm just wondering and curious........
A. 23 December 2007: I guess its a term of endearment, it could be that they think you are attractive and goodlooking. It depends on how they say it to you, because refering to someone as cute could also mean that your clever, ingenious, or even cunning or shrewd.
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We want to get engaged, but are we old enough and is it ok to wait 10 years to marry?
Q. My g\f wants to get engaged I love her a lot. I want to get engaged to but b\c she don't want to get married until she is 26 we will have to wait 10 years to get married. I love her and she loves me. Like I said I want to get engaged but i don't ...
A. 23 December 2007: Personally i would not recommend getting married at this early age. When i think back to when i was this age i thought i was in love with every girlfriend i had. If i got married to them, i would probably have about 5 divorces under my belt now. I ... (read in full...)
He hugs me and says he loves me, do you think he really does like me?
Q. Do you think a boy likes you if he hugs you and he says he loves you? P.S I'm a 13 year old girl....
A. 23 December 2007: Well you could take the hugging as just a friendly embrace, i hug girls at work alot, and it means nothing. But in this case its the i love you that goes with it that says it all here. You would not say that unless you really did have a strong ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to me and now I don't know what to do?
Q. my boyfriend lied 2 me and i don't know what 2 do...
A. 23 December 2007: Without knowing the extent of how bib the lie was its very hard to awswer. Was it a small white lie, and was it a big lie that betrayed your trust. I think for people to help you here you need to elaborate abit more.
K... (read in full...)
We're 3 girls and boys who meeting to eat out. I like one of the girls but only met her once before. Any ideas how I can get to know her more and get a date?
Q. 3 girls, 3 boys. i like one of the girls. met only once before but talk online often. were meeting all together to eat out and maybe watch a film. any ideas how i can talk to her more, maybe get her number, date? i like her alot! thanks...
A. 23 December 2007: I think in this case it will be easier for you to talk to her as there is going to be a group of you, so ultimately you are all going to be mingling together. When you go for the meal make sure you get a seat next to her, then you can chat during ... (read in full...)
How do I get a flat stomach and get rid of the double chin?
Q. Hey I need advice and help. I want a flat stomach how do I go about getting one? I'm not that fat but my stomach is still pretty fat. And I've got a double chin but it only shows when I look down how do I get rid of it? I'm 18 years old and not ...
A. 23 December 2007: The main things that will help are generally diet and excersise. Eat heathily and maybe go to the gym and do plenty of cardio, some light weight lifting excersises and plenty of sit ups to focus on the abdominal area. For diet consume plenty of ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being insecure in my relationships??
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and have always been insecure in relationships and myself, but have only just realised. I really hate being like this, I constantly feel that my boyfriend will leave me for another girl; I suppose I feel this way because I feel I'm not ...
A. 23 December 2007: Firstly your boyfriend is with you and not these other girls, if he wanted to be with them im sure he would be, but he obviously wants to be with you. And secondly who says you are not as pretty as those other girls, i bet you are, and i bet your ... (read in full...)
Happy Xmas from DearCupid
Q. Happy Xmas everyone :-) The aunts who share their wisdom, the people who share their questions and the team of moderators who keep everything flowing onto the site! Plus the 350,000 people who visit each month Have a great Xmas! Feel free t...
A. 23 December 2007: Merry Christmas Andrew, and thanks again for creating one of the most fantastic sites ever, and hope it continues to do well for many many wonderful years to come.
Wishing all the Aunts & uncles who help people on this site a very merry Christma... (read in full...)
Is 13 - 17 too much of an age gap??
Q. Im 13 turning 14 in a month. He's 17 turning 18 in a month. Is he to old for me? He's had sex and i havent i told him that and he is absoulute cool with it. But is he to old by 4 years? x...
A. 23 December 2007: I would normally say that age is only numbers at the end of the day, that how a couple feel for one another far superseeds numbers. Generally 4 years is nothing, but in this case as you are only 13, turning 14 the age gap here is huge. When you hear ... (read in full...)
My friend messes me about but I really like him, even though I have a boyfriend
Q. I am mates with this guy who is a year younger than me. We have done loads of stuff together over the past year but we never went out. He stopped talking to me for a month and then started to text me again last night. He wants to get with me and is ...
A. 23 December 2007: If in your heart of hearts you like this other guy, and you feel he is being genuine then go out with him. But before you do make sure you are honest with the guy you are with now nad finish it with him.
I hope it works out for you x... (read in full...)
My bf has trust issues for years now and I don't think any proof is enough for him. Do I stay or leave him?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years thinks that i have cheated on him, which i haven't. This has been going on for years now and i don't no what to do. I don't think he will ever believe me and there is no way for me to prove it. i love him so much, but i do...
A. 23 December 2007: It hard to say why his is being like this, does his insecurities stem from a previous relationship, something from his childhood, or something that has happened in this relationship?. Anyway the bottom line here is if he carries on suspecting you ... (read in full...)
I think I love him but he is saying he still likes my friend!!
Q. I used to be seeing this lad ages ago and then we broke up but he was seeing my best friend recently but now shes seeing sumbody else. I really like him still - i actually think i love him. He's sending out messages tht he likes me but his friend h...
A. 23 December 2007: Carry on being friends with him and see how it goes, don't come on to strong and risk frightening him off. Keep it all light hearted, maybe ask him if he fancies going for a bite to eat, or maybe to the cinema or something. Keep it like this for a ... (read in full...)
We've been together 5 years. What is the average amount of times we should be having sex?
Q. i have been with my partner for 5 years how often does the average couples make love after being together that amount of time...
A. 23 December 2007: Yes as perioman say's i think it all depends on the guy.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I cheated and everytime we are apart I think about how horrible I have been to him.
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend when we first started going out 9 months ago. I told him though and he's forgiven me. Everythings perfect and i couldnt ask for anything more. But i often get upset and wonder why he's still going out with me. He assures me ...
A. 22 December 2007: I think your boyfriend is right, you need to forget about it and move on with your lives. Ok so you made a stupid mistake, but rather than brush it under the carpet and not tell him about it, you did. This was a very brave thing to do because ... (read in full...)
I cheated and everytime we are apart I think about how horrible I have been to him.
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend when we first started going out 9 months ago. I told him though and he's forgiven me. Everythings perfect and i couldnt ask for anything more. But i often get upset and wonder why he's still going out with me. He assures me ...
A. 22 December 2007: I think your boyfriend is right, you need to forget about it and move on with your lives. Ok so you made a stupid mistake, but rather than brush it under the carpet and not tell him about it, you did. This was a very brave thing to do because ... (read in full...)
I cheated and now I'm pregnant but I don't know who is the father of my baby. What should I do?
Q. My question is... I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and have never gotten pregnant despite how many times he has came in me. He is a huge pot smoker as well. I cheated on him and the new guy came in me (who is as healthy as a horse and does ...
A. 22 December 2007: To be perfectly honest it could be either one of theirs, the pot smokers, or this other guys. I guess you would lean more torwards the healthier guy as being the father, but the only thing that will make it 100% certain is if you get a test done. I ... (read in full...)
I love her but she is going out with someone else, what do I do??
Q. Okay, were both 16 and i love her and try to give her the signs but she is going out with someone else, what do i do? please help! Thanks!...
A. 22 December 2007: Ultimately you should not be chasing her if she is dating someone else. If she was your girl would you want someother guy cracking on to her and giving her signs. I feel you are going to have to observe her from afar, and maybe one day she will ... (read in full...)
The guy flirts, then ignore me, then acts shy around me, what is going on?
Q. Hi I'm a 13 year old girl. This guy has been flirting with me and hes ignored me for 5 days. what does it means? but he talked to me today and he looked kind of shy when he was speaking....
A. 22 December 2007: If he is doing alot of flirting with you and you are not reciprocating any of it then ultimately he is going to become despondant and go the other way. He thinks you are not interested so then goes from one extreme to the other which is effectively ... (read in full...)
My neighbour's husband suggested me to have sex with his wife. My wife may be suspicious. Do I tell her or stay away?
Q. Hi over the past few month my neighbour has been giving me the come on with thing she dones. eg flashing and making sagestive conversation. last weekend i was helping her husband with a job in the garden. she was there and flashed her boobs severa...
A. 22 December 2007: I think its a pretty stange request to say the least, gosh i must have pretty boring neighbours because mine are not like that. I am a single guy so i would probably take him up on the offer, if she was fit of course. But i feel for you its going to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my partner I no longer want us to be together? And will I regret it if I end it?
Q. How do I tell my partner that I no longer want us to be together? And will I regret it if I end things? My partner and I had been seeing each other for just over 4 years when we split up in February. He then kept texting me and desperately want...
A. 22 December 2007: I think ultimately he still really likes you, and when we really like someone we try to hold on to them with everything we've got, even if deep down we know its not working. Unfortunately you have got to be cruel to be kind and just finish it, ... (read in full...)
I can't see why my parents won't accept my boyfriend only because he used to go out with my sister. She has gone away to have their child with another man anyway, so what's the problem?
Q. I'm 15 and am currently dating an 18yr old boy. But my family wont accept him because he is going to be the father of my sisters baby. I started sleeping with him when she was with him but then she caught us and dumped him. She's also moved away to ...
A. 22 December 2007: Apart from being underage to be having sex in the first place, you have betrayed your sister by sleeping with her guy. I can see why your parents won't accept him, truth be told i don't think there is many parents that would. Ultimately you are ... (read in full...)
She said she'd like to go out with me but I'm not her type. What should I do?
Q. I've like this girl for about a year now and she just recently told me that I was "super nice, cute, and a really good guy" and that she would go out with me but I'm not her type. She says that she usually dates guys who give her butterflies and I ...
A. 22 December 2007: I think you should still go out with her, she gave you alot of positives, and only one negative comment. I would focus on the positive things she said, that alone is basically saying she fancies you. Go out with her, see where the road takes you and ... (read in full...)
My (and her) biggest problem - lack of sex. She is already in a relationship but we plan to act upon the mutual sexual attraction. Should we do this?
Q. I need help. I know what I plan to do is wrong, but it doesn't make me wanna stop. I met a girl, across the net on a game, long story short, both her and her partner share the account, he has become a good friend to me too. Although a ...
A. 22 December 2007: I think if she like's you and you like her then get her to travel the few hundred miles and meet up. However i feel that before she comes over it would be be best if she terminated her current relationship. Then if things work out for the pair of ... (read in full...)
Cant get over him....he doesn't even know how much I want him
Q. hi, i have a crush on this guy that i have known since i was 8. We were in the same school for 10 years until it finished. Now im working and hes finishing off in college. We would say hi/bye when we saw each other. The thing is that now im 18, and ...
A. 22 December 2007: I think as you have known him for so long you should be quite comfortable around him, well more comfortable than someone you have only know for a week say. I do know how you feel, im quite confident around woman but when there is someone i really ... (read in full...)
A Christmas present adequate for a recently started relationship?
Q. So I have been with my bo for about a month now and he is quite the sweetheart. I really want to do something special for him as a Christmas present, but I don't want it to be something too serious, but I also don't want it to be lame or cheesy ...
A. 22 December 2007: What about something to do with his karate, mabe a martial arts DVD. Maybe a nice bottle of aftershave, or a top in the fashion that he likes. What music does he like, a CD of his favoute songs might be good. Its not about how big the present is or ... (read in full...)
I am miserable, help.
Q. Hoping that one of the wonderful agony aunts can give me a hand here. I had a short relationship with a guy last spring.We went out for dinner and he came on really strong in the restaurant no less. I resisted to a point and then we went to a ...
A. 22 December 2007: Think of it this way, you had a lucky escape here. Invariably there is never a happy ending when seeing or having an affair with a married guy. Ultimately they will never leave their wives, so if it did carry on he would only be seeing you when he ... (read in full...)
My Mother's dream is disturbing. What does it all mean?
Q. I haven't talked to my crush for like 2 and 1/2 months.Well today my mom tells me that she had a nightmare.She told me that in her dream that my crush came to my house and that he wanted to talk to me but I wouldn't let him that I just kept on ...
A. 22 December 2007: Its quite possibe that your mum did dream about your crush, if she has been thinking about him alot lately, images and weird scenarios of him will come out in her subconscious thoughts. Not saying that your mum has a thing for him, maybe she has ... (read in full...)
I have massive regrets for breaking up with my bf...I miss him! Advise?
Q. Dear cupid,my problem is i broke up with my boyfriend last friday,then after 2 days and more i have regrets i just realize that i love him, cried all night and missed him so much,i want him back,please help me... [Added from the same user] Dear c...
A. 22 December 2007: You don't mention your reasons for splitting with him, however i feel your only option here is get back in contact and tell him it was a mistake breaking up with him. Tell him you have thought about him every day and that it was the biggest mistake ... (read in full...)
I wrote him a note telling him how I feel, and now he's ignoring me! What does this mean?
Q. I really badly fancy this boy in my year but ever since i wrote him a note saying how i feel about him he's ignored me!! What does it mean?? Does it mean something like he feels the same way but doesnt want to show it or way not ineressted in me...
A. 20 December 2007: Its hard to tell, it could be one of two things, it could be that he read your note and does not feel the same way, and is embarrased. Or he could really like you and is the shy type and does not know what to say. I feel on this one you are going to ... (read in full...)
16, My parents aren't speaking to eachother because of me. Can I get a place of my own?
Q. dear cupid im currently having problems with my parents as they are not speaking to each other because of me. this started today when they made me go college and i didnt want to, so i ended up shouting and screaming at them and saying stuff i d...
A. 20 December 2007: I would say that at this point you are not going to be able to get a place of your own. I was 23 when i decided to flee the nest and got my first flat. But by this age i had been in my place of work since i was 19 where i am still to this day, im 29 ... (read in full...)
Should I tell this girl I like her even though she still likes her ex?
Q. i think the feelings i am having for one of my friends are more than just a crush cause i cant stop thinkin bout her and i cant even sleep at night... we are almost 15 and i will next c her at christmas or before that...............
A. 20 December 2007: Instead of rushing in and asking her out, make a friend out of her, be nice to her, and be there for her if she needs you. Make your feelings for her know by way of flirtatious gestures, such as eye contact, light touches ect, make it so she wants ... (read in full...)
How should I be acting at my age of 28? Am I too old for night clubbing?
Q. This is a continuation of my previous question.... OK, so how do I deal with those immature 20 year old students who call me derogatory names, like 'perv' or 'pervert'? I am offended by these insults- I am no 'perv'!! I may be older than the fell...
A. 20 December 2007: 28 is no age atal, people still go clubbing well into their 30's 40's and even 50', so enjoy it, having fun and enjoying life its what its all about.
All the best x... (read in full...)
I regret finishing with my guy. How do I get him back?
Q. dear cupid,my problem is i have a boyfriend i broke up with, we've been in a relationship for 2 months, then 2 days or more after i broke up with him,i missed him and i cry all night,i regrets why i broke up with him,i want him back.....
A. 20 December 2007: All you can do really is arrange to meet him, if he will, and just enphasize that it was a big mistake terminating the relationship you both had. Tell him how sorry you are and that you would like to give it another shot. Don't expect an answer ... (read in full...)
We've been together 5 years. What is the average amount of times we should be having sex?
Q. i have been with my partner for 5 years how often does the average couples make love after being together that amount of time...
A. 21 October 2007: I guess there is no set limit to the amount of times a couple make love after 5 years, it would differ from couple to couple. Some couples might make love every night, while some just once a week. I really boils down to what you are both comfortable ... (read in full...)
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