My gf smokes although she has asthma. Worried about her well being, so what can I do?
Q. ok.......my girl and I started going out like a week ago were both 17 and I absolutely love her. We get to hang around a bot and so on She smokes....I generally don't mind people smoking cause in my opinion if they wanna kill themselves thats th...
A. 9 December 2007: I don't think that you can actually tell her to stop because its her choice if she wants to smoke. All you can do is offer her advice, has she tried patches, maybe if she went on these it may slowly ween her off of them. Pull some literature off the ... (read in full...)
I've got a crush on my boss--really need help!
Q. Hello Am looking for advice. I have a major crush on my boss and am alienating others cos of it. I keep making a fool out of myself even though i know he is gay and even if he wasn't he wouldn;t want me. What can I do to get him out of my head? ...
A. 9 December 2007: Its never easy crushing on someone and the feelings are not reciproated. I think that you have got to just tell yourself that nothing could ever happen between the pair of you for various reasons. For starters he is your boss, and dating co-workers, ... (read in full...)
We hug, cuddle up, even hold hands - how can I get her to see me as a lover rather than a brother?
Q. Heyy, im a 13 year old boy, and i REALLY love my best friend, she knows how i feel but she says "sorry, i just dont feel the same way" she's like a sister and i know she loves me, she just isnt admiting it,we hug, cuddle up, even hold hands but ...
A. 9 December 2007: JUst keep going the way you are going, and don't start getting to serious with her and risk pushing her away. You are only 13, relax, have fun, enjoy being in each others company, cuddle up together, hold hand like you are doing. If anything is ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I am a virgin before we have sex or simply don't mention it?
Q. I have been going out with a guy recently but it is the first proper relationship I have been in. Therefore, I am still a Virgin. When the time comes, is it a good thing to tell the guy you are a Virgin before you have sex or should I just leave ...
A. 9 December 2007: Yes like the other aunts have said, i think you should tell him, i think it will make the whole moment even more special.
All the best & good luck x... (read in full...)
"I can't get over my teacher" question...
Q. Hello I'm writing to you because I have a huge crush on my teacher. I also think she has a crush on me. She's always staring at me even when i don't speak and she always drops her pencil in front of me and bends down to get it. I don't know if she ...
A. 9 December 2007: I think that this is just a crush you are having, and crushes tend to be quite shortlived. I would be inclined to let the feelings die down naturally and don't persue anything here. It would be very unprofessional of your female teacher to ... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to tell if your guy friend likes you??
Q. I need to know how to read my guy friend's signals. I have fallen head over heals for one of my guy friends. He is a super nice guy always complimenting me, always flashing me smiles, lots of quick --hold my stare eye contact, but I don't kn...
A. 9 December 2007: I think this guy is showing you all the classic signs of fancying you. For starters maintaining eye contact is one of the most flirtatious tools you can use to let someone know you like them, and smiles to go with it says it all. I use eye contact ... (read in full...)
I caught him flirting online....but hes apologised and deleted his accounts...should I forgive him??
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for about year and a half. I recently caught him flrting with girls online, he said he was sorry and did not know why he did it, he said he was really stupid because he did not gain anything from it, and he ...
A. 8 December 2007: Ok he has apologised and he has deleted all his accounts, so on this occasion i would be inclined to forgive him. But if you ever find he has started it up again then i would not forgive him a second time.
All the best x... (read in full...)
A present that suggests eternity for my boyfriend. Any suggestions?
Q. Okay well as you all know, Its almost Christmas. And i have to get my Boyfriend a preset, very soon. But i have no idea what to get him. We're both Fifteen. So we're still in highschool, so i dont have that much money. So it can't be that expensive. ...
A. 8 December 2007: With presents its not how much you spend, but the thought that goes into a gift. You say he likes poems, well you have got roughly a couple of week to compile a really romantic poem. Make it about something that means something to both of you, like ... (read in full...)
I gave my phone number to an on line acquaintance, he initially said he was 18, then admitted to be much older and asked for a date in matter of days. Should I keep this "friendship" ?
Q. Okay, so we were chatting in a chatroom and I am right now fifteen. I ended up giving out my phone number to this guy who said who was eighteen. We did have good conversations for a while and then today he admitted that he's actually 25...
A. 8 December 2007: This is the problem of chatting to people over the internet, we never actually know who we are talking to. People can dress themselves up to be anything thay want to be, for instance, an overweight 45 year old man who has seen better days, could say ... (read in full...)
To men: what makes you find a woman you've met, "sexy" ?
Q. Bottom line serious question to the men: In real life, what makes you find a woman you've met "sexy"? ...
A. 8 December 2007: I guess you are going to get a wide range of responses here as every man caters for differen't tastes. For me a woman who is smart, sophisticated, confident, polite, funny, independent, and attractive i would find sexy. But as the old saying goes, " ... (read in full...)
Why don't boy ( like teenage boys) like girls with gingerish hair ...
Q. Why don't boy ( like teenage boys) like girls with gingerish hair ... im not ginger ( i have brown hair ) but my mate is and i feel bad for her.. i fink i colours lovly and so is she. please help. ...
A. 8 December 2007: I don't think its fair to say that all boys don't like ginger hair, and we all cater for different looks and tastes. Some guys go for blondes, some for brunettes, and some feel atttracted to red heads. Don't feel bad for her, im sure she has got ... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends husband...and now I am pregant with his child!!
Q. I slept with my friend’s husband and I got pregnant and she thinks it is another man baby. I have and want to tell her because, I have to go for child support and the paper is going to get served. Should I just let her find out through him? And it ...
A. 7 December 2007: Wow, what a predicament you are in, no matter what you do here people are going to get hurt. Forgive me for adopting a pessimistic approach to this, but at the end of the day you friend is probably never going to talk to you again, and probably ... (read in full...)
Do oral or anal or sex provoke pregnancies?
Q. I'm in a relationship and I was wondering can you get pregnant by putting the boys penis in your mouth? and could you get pregnant if the boy puts his penis in your ass?...
A. 7 December 2007: It is absolutely imposible to become pregnant by oral or anal sex. Im suprised that they have not teached you in sex education at school that you could only become pregnant by vaginal intercourse. At the moment i would refrain from things like this ... (read in full...)
Anything meant by this?
Q. a woman i have seen a few times who works in a cafe, that has glanced at me not a lot before.........started glancing at me today, a lot! thing is she hasnt spoken to me or looked at me like that before......she sort of looked at me and then walk...
A. 6 December 2007: I cetainly think that eye contact is one of the most powerful forms of flirtation you can use to let someone know that you like them, and smiling and eye contact is a sure sign she likes you. I think you should approach her, don't expect her to come ... (read in full...)
I made him choose between me and the dog and he picked the dog.
Q. My husband and i recently separated, mainly because i gave him an ultimatum, me or the dog. He did choose the dogs. I miss him desperately and would consider going back, but he says that no one is more or less important to him than his dogs. I sai...
A. 6 December 2007: Im sorry but if he has chosen the dogs over you then you are better off out of it to be honest. I think your husband is a very selfish man, how could anyone ever choose animals over their own wife. I certainly don't think you are the one with the ... (read in full...)
I feel like he is too old for me. Please advise.
Q. I am going out with this man right after my divorce. He is 18 years older than me. I feel wanted and loved which make me feel really good. Two months on I start to feel he is too old for me. He's got false teeth, dozes off on the sofa during the ...
A. 6 December 2007: Age gaps invariably only ever become a problem in one of the people in question have got issues with it. If a couple are both fine with an age gap then there is no reason atal why it should not work out. At the end of the day age is only a number, ... (read in full...)
Should I let him know how I feel or will this ruin our friendship?
Q. I have been friends with a guy for approximately 15 years, when we first met we did have a little thing going but he broke it off because he didn't want to get between me and the guy I was seeing. It ended we remained quite good friends, through ...
A. 6 December 2007: Instead of letting him know how you feel straight away, maybe test the water first. try some flirtatious gestures when you are next talking, like hold eye contact with him for as long as you can. Try touching his hand, and find reasons to touch him, ... (read in full...)
How long do guys normally last
Q. Once you get past all foreplay etc, once intercourse has started- how long is the avg time before a guy ejaculates??...
A. 6 December 2007: How long is a piece of string?. Its a tough one to answer as every guy is different, some guys may ejaculate after 2 minutes, or some after 20 minutes, depending on how horney they feel i guess. Second time around, if they feel like having another ... (read in full...)
Helppp what do I do ?
Q. I'm 16 and this boy is 17. Theres this boy and we started of being best friends . Then we got close and hugged a lot and saw each other loads . Real sweet, then a couple of days ago , we had sex and afterwards he said he'd call me but i didn't get a ...
A. 6 December 2007: I really do hate to say it, and i know its not what you want to hear, but i feel he has used you for the sex. He was all lovey dovey with you, and after he got what he wanted he has not wanted to know you atal. Personally i think he is the one being ... (read in full...)
Am I short for this age? Any resources to grow thinner and taller?
Q. im 5"4 and im 13. I cant help but feel i am small for my age and cant find a reliable source on google to clarify that im not. I cant help but feel veryone else towers over me. i get really frustrated about it cus im almost in danger of becomi...
A. 6 December 2007: I don't think that 5'4 is short, considering your age. What you have got to remember is you have got approximately another 6 or seven years of growing left to do yet. Those ones that tower over you now will probably hault in a year or so, and you ... (read in full...)
She says she can forgive me but I need to earn her trust. How can I win her back totally?
Q. I have been with my current girlfriend for 10 months and when we were together for 4 months i stupidly kissed another girl at a party i also met up with her once but did not sleep with her,last night i confessed to her last night and our ...
A. 6 December 2007: I just think it is going to take time, i think you will win her back fully, but you are going to have to be patient. Ultimately you have betrayed her trust, so now she has got to learn to trust you again, which as i said takes time. You say you love ... (read in full...)
I have a major fear of rejection and become nervous when he is around. Ideas?
Q. I really like this guy he isn't someone i go for but then again the people i go for turn out to be pricks, and he is the complete oppposite. i just feel really nervous around him like i have i like you on my forehead. i would love it for us to be ...
A. 6 December 2007: Its only natural to fear rejection when you really like someone, everyone has been there at some point in their lives. I think the best thing you can do is rather than rush up to him and ask him out, and fearing a rejection, do your homework first. ... (read in full...)
Do you think we have a chance of getting back together?
Q. hiya i broke up with my boyfriend in august this year as i wanted to think about our future but he is worried about commitment, we tried to remain friends but in the end i decided to stop seeing each other for a while so we could sort ourselve...
A. 6 December 2007: I don't think he is doing this just to get your attention, from what you have said i think he does have feelings for you. However i feel he is not ready to start back in a relationship at this point, wich does not mean he does not want to in the ... (read in full...)
Will my girlfriend using a "strap-on" on me cause any long-term problems?
Q. After it came up in conversation six months ago my girlfriend and I bought a strap-on dildo, to spice things up. I had tried it before and wasn't worried about using one. She hadn't used one before and was very excited. After the first few times ...
A. 6 December 2007: I don't think it will cause any future physical complications to be honest, but as Peoriaman say's make sure its sterialised before usage, and if you feel pain during, then take notice of what your body is telling you.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
He asked me to coffee. That was a month ago and I never heard from him and we never went out!
Q. hi i've known this guy for about 4 years now. His family knows my family and mine know his but we're not very close.i've always had a crush on him but always played hard to get and stayed aloof because he either just got out of a relationship or had ...
A. 6 December 2007: I don't think he was playing with you to be honest. I think this guy does like you, but i feel maybe he thinks you are not that keen on him. That night when you saw him at that party and diden't say hi to him has probably not helped much. He has ... (read in full...)
I say "no" when asked out cos I don't know how to snog!
Q. hey im 14 years old girl lot of lads keep askin me out n i keep sayin no just because i dont know how to snog..... im realy need a help with this........
A. 6 December 2007: I would not worry about it, the boys that are asking you out probably don't know how to snog either. If you like someone that asks you out, say yes next time. Go out have a laugh and don't worry about the snogging thing. If a situation arises where ... (read in full...)
Do I have a problem with sex?
Q. My Penis is too small. I have had only 1 partner and when see saw my penis she said "is That It" a week later she left me because my penis is to small. I worried that i cant please a women.....
A. 5 December 2007: I feel you have let this one bad experience affect your confidence with other woman. This girl was out of order saying this, and she was probably completely inexperienced and diden't know what she was talking about anyway. Don't let what she said ... (read in full...)
How long should I be with my gf before we sleep together?
Q. i'm kinda a fish outta water when it comes to relationships, being that iv only had one, ever! which im still in, im jus wondering how long should i be with my gf before we sleep together?...
A. 5 December 2007: Thats a tough one to answer because ultimately it varies from couple to couple. Some people may go out on a first date and decide to have sex straight away, while others leave it till they are both ready. I think it would probably be best to steer ... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair, but neither of us will leave our partners, now he's flirting with other girls in the office, what should I do?
Q. I have been married for almost 13 yers now and a year and a half ago I fell for this man who happens to be my boss- we have had sex a couple of times and he says he loves me. But he is also married and I don't know what his intentions are. Howver, ...
A. 5 December 2007: If he says he wants to end it, then go along with it, for i can't see the affair ever materialising into anything anyway. Invariably married guys never leave their wives, and was probably enjoying having you on the side too. Now he is flirting with ... (read in full...)
Why do men look at she male porn?
Q. Why do men look at she male porn? Does it mean they are bi?...
A. 5 December 2007: I can't say i have ever viewd this to be honest, its not really something i would find that stimulating to be honest. But im sure that there are men that do, i don't think it makes them bi beause ultimately the models are still woman with breasts ... (read in full...)
He said it wasn't working and I want to talk but he won't...any suggestions??
Q. Help. My new boyfriend txt me last nite and said it won't work and that we should be mates. We've not had sex so in a way im glad i did not get that close but i really want to talk to him about things. The thing is he wont talk and txt me back beca...
A. 5 December 2007: I personally think that texting someone, saying that it is not working, and that you should be friends is a cowardly way of letting someone down. If he was a good guy he would have arranged to meet you somewhere and told you to your face. Im sorry ... (read in full...)
I met somebody else after the break up with my ex but now he returned to tell me he has changed. I don't know what to do.
Q. i was in arelationship with my ex for 2 months he lied to me four times so i broke up with him to sort myself out however doing this i found myself attracted to another bloke and we have meet up and gone out. he told me he has fallen in love with me ...
A. 5 December 2007: I think you should stick with the partner that you are with now, it sounds like you have got something good going on there. He has fallen in love with you, and your feelings are getting stronger for him. Sometimes in breakups somepeople can't bear ... (read in full...)
Would this be a safe way to meet?
Q. If you cannot get someone's number for some reason, is it ok to arrange to meet up for coffee the next day and then exchange numbers there? Or is that something nobody does?...
A. 5 December 2007: You don't say where you initially met this girl, whether it was in a bar, in a club, or over the internet. However i don't really see any harm in meeting up for a coffee the next day. I assume that you have her Email address, because i was wondering ... (read in full...)
I'm male, 28 and losing my sex drive!
Q. hi im 28 years old men i loosing my sex drive more and more i dont know why even that i love my wife not sure what to do ...
A. 5 December 2007: There are many factors that can contibute to a loss of sex drive, stress being the main one. If you have got things playing on you mind, like money worries, something going on at work, losing your job ect can all affect sex drive. If you are really ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't enjoy sex... could this cause problems when we're married?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for three years, and we've started having sex just this year. I was his first, and he's mine. We intend on getting married in 2-3 years... however, he recently told me that he does not enjoy sex. he says he gets phy...
A. 5 December 2007: Im not saying its the case here, but if you are not sexualy compatiable then yes is could cause problems in a marriage. You don't mention if you perform foreplay before you make love, or just go straight in to sex. Performing foreplay techniques is ... (read in full...)
My folks think I'm gay!
Q. Alright so I'm looking for advice as to what to do here. My folks think I am gay, I'm not sure why, but it's gotten pretty irritating. They haven't come right out and said it, but I can tell they think it. I came home a couple weeks ago ...
A. 5 December 2007: Im sure your parents don't think you are gay, if they do then they surely won't when you bring home a girlfriend. Also you could tell them it was a girl that gave you that hickey and not a guy. Also don't you have pictures of girls on your wall. ... (read in full...)
Could my husband be bisexual or gay?
Q. I'm questioning my husband as being gay/bisexual. We have three kids, have been married almost 10 years and have known each other for 20 yrs. Here are my thoughts: opened computer to find "(user name) is currently logged in" - this was a male ...
A. 5 December 2007: I don't think that him being logged on to this website is enough to say he is gay or not, maybe he is just curious maybe. Has his behaviour changed, have you noticed that he looks at guys when you are out?. Have any patterns changed like ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with my best friend...shall I just forget it or take a shot at it??
Q. So heres the story.... about 3 years ago at college I found my best friend, and he is the best friend I could ever ask for. We both make each other laugh, on the same wavelength, we're practically married (heh). So I'm a gay guy, and I came out to h...
A. 5 December 2007: It does sound like the pair of you have got a connection, a spark going on there. I know that you say you are gay, but do you think he is?. Or could he just be going through a phaze in his life, or just be curious. I don't think you should just let ... (read in full...)
It's just got too boring and I don't know if I want to be with him anymore. Anybody been in a similar situation??
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years now but i think we have just grown apart i am beginning to question if i want to be with him any more. I like to go out to clubs etc and have fun but all he wants to do is stay at home and do nothi...
A. 4 December 2007: I think if you really feel like you want out of this relationship then you have got to tell him sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it the harder it will get, you are already questioning whether you want this relationship anymore, so my ... (read in full...)
I want to make love more frequently, not only on the "established" days... How should I tell him?
Q. I am going out with is man 18 years older than me. We only sleep together on Wednesday nights and at weekends. I want to make love to him not just on the fixed day but I've never talked to him about it. Because he says our frequent lovemaking has ...
A. 4 December 2007: I think you have got to choose a good time, like when you are both relaxed and enjoying a glass of wine or something, then broach the subject this way. tell him you think alot of him and would like your love making a more frequent thing, and not ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him he is selfish in bed but not put him right off.
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for a year now, he's had quite a few sexual partners and no other relationships and I've just had one other very serious relationship. The thing is that he has never made me orgasm, and doesn't even seem bot...
A. 4 December 2007: I think the key here is communication, if he is being selfish in the bedroom depaertment, which by the sound of it he is you should tell him. Its not fair that he gets his satifaction, then leaves you unsatisfied. Choose a good time and broach the ... (read in full...)
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