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I'm a girly girl who loves fashion. I also love sports and music. I'm always really busy and like it that way for the most part. I am fun to be around and I'm pretty optimistic. I have been through a lot and so have my friends and family so I can help you the best I can. I tend to have guy problems, thinking with my heart instead of my head, so hopefully you cam help me.

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Why do I feel like a fool after he broke up with me?

Q.   We dated a couple of months I didn't let him hit until I was ready ta have sex with him..days went on we did the do. As the months n weeks went on we were cool. Until I found out that was four weeks pregnant. He's 22 I'm 18 I'm a senior n ...

A.   4 December 2009: I am so sorry. That is so aweful. I'm sorry that you had to go through this tough experience. I'm sure you are a stronger person for what you went through. You have feelings for him because you spent so much time and engery on him. You were intimite ... (read in full...)

Should I have him visit to see how he feels?

Q.   I dated TJ during the summer. We had a good relationship and we had a lot of fun together. I was going away to school so I decided to end things. After Almost two monthes of guys here I realized that they just want to hook up and I'm not ok with ...

A.   1 November 2009: Thanks! I don't plan on using him at all. I just want to see him to see if we still have it. If we don't then friends could work. I also don't know if he would do long distance. He says he'll visit so I hope he will soon so that we can figure out ... (read in full...)

How do I get to know him better?

Q.   I like a guy who works at the gym I go to. He has the most beautiful eyes. He oversees the gym and helps people with the equipment when asked. I don't think he is a personal trainer. He seems to be working almost everytime I go to workout, I can't ...

A.   28 December 2008: Thanks for you tips. Could I go up to him and say Hey Josh the excersixes you showed me really work...I might ask you for some more soon. Oh btw I came up with something to ask you. Is it true that you burn more calories if you do ab workouts f... (read in full...)

Should I wait for my on-again off-again love?

Q.   here's the story... this girl like me ever since elementary days. i didn't notice her then and by high school she has moved to sacramento. One summer she comes back home for vacation with her family and we somehow got introduced, i forgot how ...

A.   25 August 2008: I would say there is a possibility of something more happening again. If she isn't ready to get married and she found you online then there's a chance. She is still with him though so don't get you hopes too high and don't let this prevent you from... (read in full...)

Am I right to put my foot down about him texting these girls?

Q.   Hi, needing a few opinions on my situation. I've been with my boyfriend for not far off 4 years and its been great. Yet there has always been one thing that has worried me and makes me slightly paranoid and that is his constant texting with his girl...

A.   12 August 2008: I think you are right to be worried and annoyed by this behavior. It seems like it is more then just a friendly convorsation. If he is hiding it from you, that might mean that there is more that you don't know about. It seems like this relation... (read in full...)

I want to call him as he suggested. Any tips about prom and... him?

Q.   I'm going to my prom with my friend's brother. It was her idea to have us go together. She is going with his friend. She realized while picking out the tuxes that it might be akward. Me and my two friends and our prom dates (none of us are a coup...

A.   17 April 2008: I want to hangout with him. I have a game today and tommorow should I ask him to go? Or plan for all of us to hangout again. The whole thing is weird because he's my friend's brother. Should I talk to her about it?... (read in full...)

I like this girl a school, but I'm shy and need some help.

Q.   Hi, i kind of have 2 questions; First...there is a girl i like but don't know how to approach her, to be honest i'm quite shy so i dont know how to start a conversation with her, any form of help will be appreciated. My second is that she is in year ...

A.   15 April 2008: I think you should go for it, even if your friends don't approve. You see something in her and that's what counts. Talk to her more. May be you are both in a club or sport together and could talk about that. Take it slow and begin to flirt with her.... (read in full...)

Help me, I'm so confused!

Q.   married for 10 great years .... i started a affair/ relationship with a beutiful man i now deeply love. problem being that i still love my husband has now found out and is willing to move on but i just cant imagine not having either if ...

A.   10 December 2007: You have to ask yourself why you started the affair in the first place. You possibly were lacking something and this other man seemed to fill this gap. Since your husband found out, I sounds like both won't work. Before you and your husband... (read in full...)

Is my new best friend in love with me?

Q.   me and a guy have just became best friends, im 17 and so is he but i dont know weather he is bi or straight, he has a g.f but is he attracted to me? i like him but i dont know if he likes me back i think he does because lately he has started:...

A.   9 December 2007: You should talk to really talk to him about his sexuallity and yours when you both aren't drunk. Ask about the kissing and why he always comes to you and how its really KISSING. He may be drunk but if it happens a lot it might be on ... (read in full...)

Should I stay married or go with my first love?

Q.   I am a 22 year old married girl. i have been married for about 5 months. anyways i hate being married and a wife. i have been talking to the first guy i have loved and wanted to date the whole time i was married and before. we never stopped ...

A.   9 December 2007: Wow. I would say go with your heart and divorse your husband who you never really really wanted to marry. It's too bad that they basicly pressured you into marrying him but now that you know what that feeling is of just wanting another person g... (read in full...)

Some days I'm sure she likes me...others I am not so sure.

Q.   I'm so confused! There is a girl at my school that I really like, but I don't know if she likes me in the same way. We have been friends for a while, and I find myself only wanting to talk to her the entire day.every day I walk her to her class an...

A.   9 December 2007: I have that same problem with this guy in my school. We have a lot of fun together in the classes that we have together and even talk dirty sometimes. He has a new all started before that. It started after he and my close friend broke up. I... (read in full...)

When is too soon to say "I love you" ?

Q.   when is too soon to say "i love you"???...

A.   9 December 2007: A few weeks in. Generally wait until you are ready, when you really mean it. That is something that takes time and can't be said as a substitute for likeing them. It will be worth the wait. ... (read in full...)

Sex is very sacred for my people and not be done without love or at young age. My bf broke these rules. I can't get over his sexual past.

Q.   Hi, I'm 20 years old and had my first kiss and sex when i was 18 years old.he told me he's like me. and waiting for the right time, right girl, we didnt even rush things and waited for the "moment" to come. we lasted for 2 years with that guy. b...

A.   8 November 2007: It's a big deal and somthing to consider for sure. Your past was very different from his. 13..very young, plus with your culture I can see how it means more to you and how he rebeled almost. I'm in high school and just found out that all these peop... (read in full...)

I want to tell my best friend that I love her

Q.   How do I tell my best friend(of the same sex) that I love her more than sisterly? My best friend, well, me and her are like sisters. In fact, we kind of are. I have strong romantic feelings for her, and I don't know how to tell her!!...

A.   28 December 2006: Wow. Does she know you like other girls, that you are gay or bi. If so this may help. I too have a close bond with my best friend since we spend so much time together and have gone through so much but I am straight. Before you do anything make sure ... (read in full...)

I like them both! What should I do?

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been dating for 11 months. he wrestles and i have a little crush on someone on his team. the boy i have a cruch on likes me too and i flirt around a little bit but nothing serious. i dont know what i am feeling right now ...

A.   23 December 2006: Just relax, you may think he is attractive and flirty but the one that you love and are with now is the one you should stay with, if there isnt any problems. Going for this guy would start problems, team problems and you may lose him as a friend. ... (read in full...)

We have nothing to talk about anymore!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. Every thing is going fine, but I find that there is nothing to talk about, I don’t know why what could I do about it? ...

A.   23 December 2006: You can talk about the weather, sports, music, tv show, food, celeberties, politics etc. If you both are just being quite there might be something wrong try and talk to him. You have been together for a while so you must know alot about him, I'm ... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!

Q.   It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...

A.   21 December 2006: Have fun this holiday season!!! Good Luck with the New Year and your New Year Resolutions! Thanks everyone who has helped me and mad my life a bit more sane. I hope I helped and can help you in the future.... (read in full...)

Should I dump him before Xmas... or after?

Q.   Me and My Boyfriend we have been together 2years. I do Love him, but there is the Guy I Really, Really Like(Jon*), Me and Him are Really close Mates, and One of our Mates(Sam*), turned round and told me that Jon Fancies me. Sam and I share ...

A.   21 December 2006: Well Xmas is comming soon but before the whole gift exchange you should just do it. It might make him upset, since he likes you but you need to do what feels right. If you love him this much should you dump him for a crush or two, think and plan ... (read in full...)

I found out that she is planning on breaking up with me

Q.   hey there i feel that this is pretty important i have a girlfriend and we have been going out for 1 year and two months so arguements are just going down and love levels also, well last night i was doing some snooping(which is bad on both ends) so i ...

A.   21 December 2006: Don't panic bring it up or act like you know. Spend time with her and try to change her mind. I wish you the best. When she brings it up, stay calm and talk about it. You may convince her to stay with you.... (read in full...)

My first gay gf and her parents resent me! Should I stick it out with until university when we'll be free of her parents?

Q.   i am 17 year old female, and have been with my first girlfriend for 7 months. i never saw myself as gay but fell head over heels for her. i know i can fall for guys too so i guess im bisexual. problem is although i love her, she makes me really ...

A.   20 December 2006: i wish you the best. I wish that her parents would just understand that if she is gay then she is gay and her gf is you. Try talking with her and her parents at once and explain the situation. Maybe if they see how much you like her and how happy ... (read in full...)

My ex wrote me a love letter, took me out, kissed me, and asked me out again but still wants to be alone! What's his deal??

Q.   yes me again!!! Im the one whose boyfriend dumped me two weeks ago saying he loved me and I was perfect but he needed to be on his own !!! WEll the latest is I recieved a letter from him today saying how sorry he was and listing all the wonderful ...

A.   20 December 2006: The man is so confused. If he is really saying that about you, than why wouldn't to see you and have you as his gf. I would move on, at least until he can think strat. If guys want you they show it and say it not just one or the other. Good Luck.... (read in full...)

I know he got me a hideous present for Christmas!

Q.   I know what my husband got me for Christmas (he left it on his dresser) and it is hideous earring that I wouldn't be caught dead in. Should I hint to him that I hate gold jewelry, or hearts with hopes that he will return it for another gift, or ...

A.   20 December 2006: Don't pretend to like it, then you will be forced to wear it sometime so he knows you like it. Wait until you get it as a gift, then say nicely how you feel and that you rather have something else. Then go and pick out what you want. Say thanks, ... (read in full...)

He likes to tease me and sneak up behind me---it's all you think he likes me?

Q.   I have this 18 or 19-year-old fellow employee, who likes to playfully tease me, sneak up behind me and say: "Boo!", and try to do child-like things to get my attention. I am wondering if he really likes me or has a crush one me, it is kind of hard ...

A.   13 December 2006: A guy I go to school with does that to me. He calls me cute names and gets my painting for me. He even called another girl my name. But he has a gf, Idk what he is up to. He may like you but it does seem childish so I would read more into it. Try ... (read in full...)

I have the chance to kiss the guy I love for the first time as part of a kissing competition he is having with his mate!

Q.   I'm expecting answers such as 'get as far away from him as possible' etc. to this question.. but I beg you to not say this. For the past 18 months i've been in love with this guy, who doesn't really know how he feels about me and changes his ...

A.   11 December 2006: Well you know him best. If you like him this much go for it. You could be an exceptin but you never know. Bad habits are hard to break. If you are in live with him and want to stay in love with him then you need to be the exception or move on. Good ... (read in full...)

Friends with benefits?

Q.   What do you say when a guy says that he only wants to be friends? Yet wants to have sex? I feel like a whore!...

A.   11 December 2006: Morals are huge things that get in the way for things like friends with benifits which isn't a bad thing. It could be fun but if there isn't feelings involved then it is like nothing. If he doesn't want you for you and is just being friend for the ... (read in full...)

We had sex, but never spoke about it, I want to be more than friends but how do I tell him!?

Q.   He was a senior when I was a freshman in highschool. We were acquaintances but never friends until the summer before my freshman year. We began to hang out a lot talking for hours late at night. One night we had sex and never talked about it again ...

A.   8 December 2006: Wow. Were you a virgin when you had sex with him?? If so you might have more of an attachment to him then if it wasn't your first time. This is like 4 years later if you are both in college now right? If he isn't going out with anyone sure ask him ... (read in full...)

I want to go all the way, but no girl has ever wanted to. Any pointers?

Q.   Hey, I'm an 18 yr. old male. I'm a virgin, and I hang out with the kind of crowd where you don't find many. I'm a college football player, and a talented musician, so most of my friends are pretty popular. I've wanted to go all the way for some ...

A.   8 December 2006: The peer pressure on those teams can be so tough. Don't go out for a one night stand. Virginity is a special thing. Once it is gone it's gone. It sounds so cliche but it is so true. Find someone special and see where it goes. You seem like a great, ... (read in full...)

It's torture not telling my coworker my feelings for her, but we need to stay professional at the office!

Q.   Can anyone offer any advice on what to do when you find the girl that is the " ONE " you have been searching for all you life, but the problem is you work in the same office as them. i am 31 and she is 21, and the age gap is not a problem here. I...

A.   8 December 2006: I think you two have waited long enough and it appears that you feel the same about eachother. I would ask her out sometime, you have liked her for 5 months. As long as you two can keep it professional in the office then it should go fine. Have fun ... (read in full...)

My best friend is hanging out w/ another girl but not inviting me. I'm feeling left out.

Q.   i have one friend well i have others but one best friend and we do everything together anytime i go out with someone else she will come or if she does i will come, its lyk we just come together we're very close but recently she has been going out ...

A.   8 December 2006: Well something might be up. Maybe they just never thought of it. I would ask you best friend. If everything is fine then mention it w/o making a big deal and invite them both out sometime. Good Luck.... (read in full...)

My friend is falling in love w/ a good guy friend. I told her to go for it! What do you think?

Q.   Hiya, Ive got this friend who's falling in love with this guy, but she thinks shes got alot of competition b/c many girls like him and he likes someone else, theyre REALLY REALLY good friends and i told her to go for it and ask him out and if he re...

A.   7 December 2006: I think she sghould go for it and its good that you told her. This summer I went through the same thing when I went for a guy who had a bunch of girls going for him too. It just takes that one girl to speak up and tell him that she means more to her ... (read in full...)

The guy I like likes me but won't break up with his GF for me!

Q.   Okay, so there is this guy that I dated about this time last year, lets call him Eric. He is really really sweet, but I broke up with him to be with my ex, and we will call him Joe. And after me and Joe broke up, I didnt really want to go back to ...

A.   6 December 2006: OMG. This must be hard for you to like this man who seems to like you back by the interest flirting but doesn't persue. I would ask him, in a talk about what is going on. Then depending on that if he wont leave her then but keeps it up try and find ... (read in full...)

Dating a guy for a month and I can't get anything affectionate from him...except a hug! What can I do?

Q.   I am 32 and dating a guy for a month - he is 31 - we have been out to movies and he met my parents but he won't do anything more than hug me...and i have to ask for it...and when he does hug me its quick...other than that whenever we come into ...

A.   3 December 2006: You have already met his parents but he hasn't kissed you?He is moves slow. He may have been sheltered as a child or something could have occured that makes him almost afriad of physical contact. If you like him enough ask him. Maybe he doesn't ... (read in full...)

Can anyone tell me how to keep a conversation going? Tips appreciated!

Q.   hi can anyone tell me how to keep a conversation going? in school i have a free period and go to a spare class where a girl i like goes. we are good friends and get on well but i never know what to say to her. i will ask her a few questions and...

A.   3 December 2006: Well start talking about a band, a show, a place you went this weekend or a sport you like. She will see that you want to talk more and chime in. Good luck.... (read in full...)

There is nothing wrong with him, other than I am a little bored

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now (we're both 20). For the past three months, we have spent literally 24/7 together. We have all classes together, are together even when not in class, sleep together every night, I don't even SHOWER ...

A.   28 November 2006:  Well you love him a lot otherwise you wouldn't spend every waking momment and not with him. But you are now feeling the effects of that. You do need to have and spend time with other friends besides your lover. You should stay with him, styart ... (read in full...)

I think my student fancies me

Q.   I am a high school teacher who's happily married and has a 2 year old son. I was doing some work after school when one of my Year 11 students came in. I'll admit for someone who is 16 she is attractive, but, I don't fancy her. The problem is that ...

A.   28 November 2006: In some cultures a kiss on the cheak is a greeting but when it comes to school it is not. A kiss on the cheak really get in the middle of that student teacher policy. She does like you, but she shouldn't. I would act like it never happened when she ... (read in full...)

My brother's best friend likes me but doesn't want to date b/c it'd be awkward for him!

Q.   I have liked a particular boy for sometime and he finally admitted to liking me. However he won't go out with me because I am his best friends sister. He says he would have to juggle my brother and me and thinks it might be awkward. What do I do to ...

A.   27 November 2006: Wow tough I have heard that before. Awkward for the guy. If your best friend dated your brother would that be weird? It is the same situation. You can try and convince him, without being pushy that your brother wants both of you to be happy and if ... (read in full...)

My ex is dating a coworker when she said she doesn't want me to date anyone from work!

Q.   I and my ex mutually decided to split after 18 months in march, but we were still intimate up until the end of august. it was still like we were together we called each other more than 4 times a day every day and met up went out all the time she was ...

A.   27 November 2006: Wow. I don't know why you spilt. Since you split in March bur were still intamite until August she might have realized something. You stayed close calliong and hanging out, but you wern't going out. Maybe she likes something in the guy that you ... (read in full...)

I met this sweet guy while I was on holiday and we still talk everyday, I don't know what to do!!

Q.   I went abroad this summer in Germany and hooked up with the sweetest boy. I thought I could let it go as a fling but it's been five months and we're still talking everyday (NYC to Stuttgart) and I've fallen for him but don't know what he thinks of ...

A.   26 November 2006: If he hasn't made a comment about you can say what if we met up? or just go have fun and maybe meet someone else. You may talk to him everyday then that is great, but he lives across the Atlantic and wouldn't beable to see you often at all. Real... (read in full...)

My friend is 13 and she's dating a 19 year this okay?

Q.   is it ok for my 13 year old friend to date a 19 year old?...

A.   26 November 2006: No. He might be hot but it is not only illigal but he is much more mature than her. He can drive which can be convienient but bad things can happen. Tell her. It won't be easy but it is the right thing to do. She might get mad because she thinks he ... (read in full...)

She's gay so am I awkward around her because of her sexuality?

Q.   My partner left me back in august and i put an advert in my local classifieds for a female friend to go shopping with etc. Paulines reply came a week and a half later and we hit it off straight away. The thing is she told me in the first week that ...

A.   26 November 2006: It must have been hard to have your partner leave you for a woman. But it is good that she came out and didn't hide it forever. When she was hiding it she wasn't herslf and it must have been hard for her to act real while being fake. I don't think ... (read in full...)

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