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Why is hubby hiding Viagra from me??

Q.   I have been married for a very long time. About 10 years ago I discovered that my h was a porn/sex addict, he has never sought help, just thought that he could hide it better, now with the use of pocket porn, his mobile phone, he has a constant...

A.   27 January 2016: Have you any idea why he could be hiding the viagra from you? I think it is wrong just to jump to assumptions that he is playing away, like a couple . You should sit him down and find out why he cannot talk to you about personal issues. ... (read in full...)

He told me about his past to try to seem "more desirable"

Q.   I have been seeing a guy for 5 weeks. He already tells me he thinks I am the one and that he is falling in love with me. He has a female co worker who he sits next to. However after a drunken work party he came to visit me, he was drunk andsta...

A.   12 December 2014: He`s been a bit stupid, and maybe a bit of a jerk, but it`s hardly a capital offence.... (read in full...)

Friend with benefits has an ex visiting from overseas and told me not to contact him or visit him while she's here! What should I do?

Q.   I have been seeing and sleeping with a man for just over 9 months now. Just out of the blue, he told me his ex from the USA is coming over to stay with him for a month. First he said it was without warning, and then his story changed, saying it was ...

A.   4 June 2014: The ex was a girlfriend and by the look of things, is probably coming over to rekindle the fire. You, on the other hand, was an arrangement. That is the big difference. Bite the bullet, learn your lesson and walk away. ... (read in full...)

My friend seems selfish and ungrateful, or am I just too sensitive?

Q.   Why does she behave like that? Am I overreacting? So my older married friend needed a babysitter for the weekend and I love kids and was bored and needed her to do my hair so I spent the weekend with her and her family. I slept with her ...

A.   26 May 2014: Are you being too sensitive? No. You are being too insensitive than sensitive. I`m surprised she did not kick you out of her house for complaining about her children like that. It comes across to me that you got on with her husband a lot better t... (read in full...)

Online friend won't talk to me

Q.   I have been good friends with a man online for over a year now, we chat nearly everyday and take the piss out of each other. We sometimes have disagreements but always resolve them by talking. A day ago I posted something funny on Facebook and...

A.   25 May 2014: You need to look at the facts. You only seem prepared to look at what fits your dream. And that is all it is - a dream.... (read in full...)

My wife just wants to party!

Q.   My wife lately start party with her girlfriend mostly every weekend.when i tell her to stop her get upset with me and she dosen't want me to touch her in bed or even to have sex.Please help....

A.   13 December 2013: You need to keep a close eye on her. If she behaves like she wants to be single, then grant her that wish. ... (read in full...)

Why has he moved on so quick if he really loved me?

Q.   I have ended a very turbulent relationship, which went on for over three years, due to his continued determination to continue using dating sites, while at the same time swearing blind that he loves me. After being broken up, for less than two week...

A.   3 December 2013: So you ended things because he used dating sites throughout your relationship did he? Is that right? So what was you expecting from this guy? Love and honesty? Move on, because whatever is going on in his mind is not important. What is impo... (read in full...)

Should you reveal what you did in the past?

Q.   What does everyone think about revealing a shameful episode of cheating on a previous partner to a future partner? If cheating took place in a long , supposedly committed relationship, and went on for a few months then is this something that n...

A.   3 November 2013: It`s brave of you to ask for advice on here and admit being a cheat, given the hostility most cheats get when asking for advice. I wont need to tell you how this serves you right blah blah blah, because you have been very straight about what you ... (read in full...)

Would a guy ever leave a woman if he really loved her?

Q.   My ex boyfriend broke up with me and said.. "I'll always love you..You were an amazing girlfriend" What does this mean?? Would a guy ever leave a woman if he really loved her?...

A.   21 October 2013: It really depends on what his reason for walking out was?... (read in full...)

He said the message on his phone was a trap to see if I was snooping

Q.   Hi im in a relationship with an aries, I saw on his phone msgs to another woman saying he had feelings for her apparently she was in spain, I asked him about this as I was packing to leave, things got heated n he said he didnt want me to leave, we ...

A.   20 October 2013: There is nothing anyone on here can say to you, that will change the facts. What would he tell you, if you caught him red handed with another woman? He was only doing it to test whether you had genuine feelings for him or not? ... (read in full...)

Has anyone's ex come back after they've appeared to have moved on?

Q.   has anyone's ex come back after they've appeared to have moved on? kinda like "if its meant to be it will be" type thing? my ex jumped into another relationship only a couple months after he walked away from our relationship. we were very seriou...

A.   8 October 2013: If he comes back to you, then feel insulted. There is nothing flattering about an ex coming back, simply because their next relationship did not work out as well as they wanted it to. If it did, he would not come back to you. Move on.... (read in full...)

Any advice on regaining some sort of power in a casual relationship?

Q.   Hi, I find myself in a bad situation, the classic casual hook up turned messy. I am seeing a younger man casually (I didnt think there was a future in it because of the age difference) and now I am having the usual problems associated with ...

A.   1 October 2013: This is a typical fwb question that is worded differently, probably to dodge hearing what you dont want to hear. Giving sex freely does not earn you respect. He is the one with the power. He`s young, free, and unattached. Youre not cut out for ... (read in full...)

The guy I like went back to his ex because he misses the child. What should I do?

Q.   Please can someone help me what to do I am so much in love with a guy who loves me to but he's gone back to his ex cos he misses his son which isn't his biologically but has been there since born little one is 3 now he texts me everyday telling me ...

A.   27 September 2013: I dont think he has just gone back because he misses the child. To be honest, he probably misses the whole set up, and the centre of that set up is the woman. You have stated you fell for him quicker because you get lonely. You are making do. You ... (read in full...)

I lost the love of my life and don't know what to do!

Q.   Hey Everyone, Where do I begin? I want to try to be as honest as I can so I'm trying to be fair to both the girl I love and myself. It's been almost a year since I lost the love of my life. And yet I simply can not move on. I have tried e...

A.   24 September 2013: Instead of wallowing in self pity - move on !! She was not perfect at the time, and she wont be perfect now. You behaved bad. She probably gave you reason. It is over. End of. Have you not met anyone else since? ... (read in full...)

I've seen her on online dating sites but she won't admit it

Q.   I have been dating my girlfriend for just over 18 months. Recently I have found her 3 times on dating sites. We have argued and almost broken up over it. Even though I saw it with my own eyes, she is still denying it. Is it just a bit of a joke? or ...

A.   21 September 2013: If you have seen it with your own eyes, then why do you need her to admit it? ... (read in full...)

Has he lost interest? Why is he ignoring me?

Q.   hey, im so confussed :/ theres this guy that i've been dating, and everything was going good untill last weekend. hes a bouncer and i was on a night out and went to the club were he works and one of my friends wasn't allowed in so started shouting...

A.   19 September 2013: Because it was going good, I suspect that he changed his mind since seeing your choice of friends. Stay away from his workplace. His job is hard enough as it is.... (read in full...)

People think my guy is so great but they don't see what I see!

Q.   Has anybody ever gone through this, or at least seen it happening before? I have what I would call a normally very sweet guy. My family love him and my friends always tell me how lucky I am, and wish they could meet someone like him. They ask why we ...

A.   15 September 2013: He cannot get better than you. He has been trying for two years. I bet you can get a lot better than him though. ... (read in full...)

How can an ugly man attract a woman for dating?

Q.   Best way of attracting interest from women with my 0/10 looks? I am 45 and have never dated or had sex and have had no opportunities to do either. I have been called ugly since the age of 14. During my 'day' of clubs, bars etc the only women who t...

A.   14 September 2013: I would not go the dating site way. They are full of women who believe they are going to find something they cannot get in real life. They are looking for someone exceptional, or are total dreamers. You will end up feeling worse. Forget paying for ... (read in full...)

He's with me only because she wouldn't take him back

Q.   Hi I'd love some advice please as I'm heartbroken and confused right now. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. After a year together, he broke up with me because he said he wanted to be single and go travelling. I was devastated but t...

A.   19 August 2013: It appears that everyone is not very positive about your boyfriend. I`m not either. The very best I can say about him, is he is a user and he has used you.... (read in full...)

Will he ever stop going on dating sites? I hesitate to allow our relationship to develop further because of this.

Q.   Can someone please answer, because I think I am slowly losing my mind through this. I have been dating for three years now. He wants to take our relationship further, but I can`t. The reason I can`t is because for at least two years, I have be...

A.   5 April 2013: I think it's time you got out of the relationship. He has no respect for you. He may think he loves you, but i doubt he really does. Why dont you join a dating site and see what he has to say about that? ... (read in full...)

As the "other" woman in the affair, how to deal with his revengeful wife

Q.   I am in a weird situation and need your advice. I (happily married and want to stay in that marriage) had an affair a couple of years ago with another married man, whose wife found out. Their relationship is going down the drain and he told me ...

A.   4 March 2013: It is all about one thing this, and that is you escaping unscathed. How would you feel in her situation? What would you do in her situation? It is looking like the best thing you can do is own up to your husband. That is the only way you will take ... (read in full...)

If I'm not good enough for my girlfriend then why didn't she just let us stay broken up?

Q.   I found out my girl of 2 years was talking sexual to guys from dating sites. It caused us to break up and she begged me to go back to her. She admitted it was stupid and said it was not for sexual reasons, but teasing and flirting with them just for ...

A.   1 March 2013: Her phone is switched off either because she is embarrassed or to give her time to get some back up for her lie. She will not want to lose you unless someone she believes is better comes along. I think it would be far better for you long term if her ... (read in full...)

I'm supposed to be getting married in May. My fiance has been again been caught talking sexual on dating sites!

Q.   I am supposed to be getting married in June. The honeymoon is even booked. After the wedding she would have been moving into my house. We have been together for over 5 years. It has been an off and on relationship for the last 3 years. Mainly d...

A.   21 February 2013: She has got away with it for so long, that if you end it with her permanently, it will probably be a shock to her. She may even think that YOURE the unreasonable one. It does not seem like she has any sense of reason. She is angry because you have ... (read in full...)

She has started going on dating sites, in front of me. She tells me there is better than me out there. What should I do?

Q.   I have lived with my girlfriend for 5 years. We have both decided against getting married and have no children (she doesnt want any). Everything has been steady and we have always got on. Over the past 6 months she has got into a twice weekly g...

A.   6 February 2013: She thinks she can do better, yet she has to scrape the barrel by going on a dating site. You Would be better granted her friends wish and leaving her. A good dose of real life will be the best thing for her.... (read in full...)

Gf sending dirty texts to another man

Q.   Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...

A.   23 January 2013: If it`s advice you want then ok. You have been far too nice and soft with her. Nice and soft is not her style. She likes shit and unreliable. Something to keep her on her toes, with a hint of risk (risk of letting her down). Leave her and get ... (read in full...)

Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight?

Q.   Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight? I joined on line dating. Not to date, not to cheat, but because I was bored because he would rather be out football training, than be home with me. He doesnt ...

A.   18 January 2013: You have gone way off topic here. You joined a dating site and got caught. You cannot even take responsibility for it. Instead you choose to insult him even further by blaming his football. You got exactly what you deserved. Sorry, but it`s true.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend is going on online dating sites. Do I have a right to be upset about this?

Q.   I am having had a bad time again with my boyfriend. We have been back together after we broke up because of his online dating sites. Over the course of a year, we had argument after argument over his lies and refusal to accept that I had the right ...

A.   9 January 2013: Do you mean that he had been lying about being on a specific dating site, and then after breaking up he goes and meets someone off it? If so, then in your situation I would dump him. He has shown you he isnt trustworthy anyway. You dont trust him. ... (read in full...)

I told him some guys wanted my number and he hasn't returned my texts!

Q.   Hi I met this guy on line about 4 weeks ago,I felt a attraction to him and he expressed he was attracted and interested in me and wanted to talk more and we have been flirting like mad via text more than phone. when the txts or conversa...

A.   8 January 2013: Do you really think you will have an "amazing" relationship? You should be seeing red flags not fretting. What does it matter what his reasons are. What should be addressed at this moment is why you have got attached to someone you dont know anyone ... (read in full...)

We meet up, have sex and then he doesn't call! Whats it all about?

Q.   I am in a dilemma here. I met a guy in September at a party, both drunk. We kissed and talked. I bumped into him at a bar 2 weeks later and we just went straight home and jumped into bed. 3 weeks later we meet again at a party and home again. We ...

A.   27 December 2012: You kissed him drunk in a bar. Two weeks later you bump into him and straight to bed, and then same again the next time. He might not see you as girlfriend potential because of that. You could call him and find out his mindset on this. Don`t be ... (read in full...)

We meet up, have sex and then he doesn't call! Whats it all about?

Q.   I am in a dilemma here. I met a guy in September at a party, both drunk. We kissed and talked. I bumped into him at a bar 2 weeks later and we just went straight home and jumped into bed. 3 weeks later we meet again at a party and home again. We ...

A.   27 December 2012: If he is smitten, thinks you are fun etc etc, like his sister says, then why has he not called? He sounds like someone that`s in it because sex is on offer. That`s all. I hope I am wrong.... (read in full...)

I want a relationship with trust and honesty!

Q.   I have caught my boyfriend on dating sites 5 times this year. He has promised to stop doing it from now on. He said that all the other times too. I find all i do lately is look for evidence of him doing it again. Just like i have done in the past ...

A.   27 December 2012: You are in an abusive relationship. He believes he can do what he wants because at the very worst, it will only be a bit of an argument and then it`s back to where he left off again. No one in the right mind would allow them self to have to compete ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to be addicted to masturbation? It's becoming distracting.

Q.   Is it possible to be addicted to masturbation? Can't stop fantasising and it's stressing me out. It's not like I want a boyfriend or want a sexual partner. I rather not be sexually active and get tangled in at all that at the moment.It's real...

A.   24 December 2012: It sounds perfectly normal to me.... (read in full...)

Was he over the top to break up over this after 2 years together? Was he looking for an excuse?

Q.   My boyfriend and I broke up in April of this year. He had found out I was on dating sites again. I did not want to meet anyone, because I was in love with him. I used to go on dating sites to tease the guys on them and had no intention of meet...

A.   24 December 2012: He caught you on dating sites "again"...So how many times did he catch you in all? Was it the first time he had made an issue of it? For the sake of "teasing men" you put your relationship at risk? I am finding this hard to believe. You was playing ... (read in full...)

She treats me like dirt? What can I do?

Q.   To everyone else we are perfect for each other. Photos of us together are all over her facebook. She`s forever announcing to the world how much in love she is, and she tells me that all the time. There`s also another side to this. Her secret d...

A.   24 December 2012: She may believe she loves you. That is only because she wants the security of a steady relationship. Her other life is HER life and not yours. You are not supposed to know about that one. Her disrespect for you is here to stay. You know what you ... (read in full...)

Why is he still lying? Yet begging to resume our relationship? Will he change or continue to go on dating sites if we get back together?

Q.   I dumped my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago for going on dating sites and sex texting with girls. He could not even explain who these girls were, so I assumed they were from dating sites. He is still lying and says he never went on those dating s...

A.   20 December 2012: Will he change? Yes he will change dating sites if the old one gets boring or a new one comes out.... (read in full...)

Her parents are staying with us over Christmas, but I've found she is having sexual conversations with strangers on the internet! Should I confront her now, or wait until her parents have gone? I'm really disgusted and thinking about leaving...

Q.   My girlfriends parents are due from overseas to visit and stay over christmas. It will be the third time I have met them and we get on great. I have now discovered my girlfriend is having relationships and sexual conversations with strangers over ...

A.   19 December 2012: Have you bought and paid for her christmas present yet? If you havent, then save yourself the time and money and dump her now. She probably wont tell her parents the truth and you will look like the bad guy no matter what time of year it is. That`s ... (read in full...)

If he really loves me and wants to marry me, then why does he keep joining dating sites?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. The last 2 have gotten rather bumpy because he keeps talking to girls on dating sites. He has asked me to marry him but because he lies to me about his dating sites it makes me too afraid to marry ...

A.   18 December 2012: What is the point in any of it? He`s a liar, a cheat and he`s got no respect for you. You will never ever trust him. You would be mad to. He cheats under the false security of a dating site. A shit cowardly way of attempting to cheat, if there ever ... (read in full...)

He dumped after he was the one texting another girl

Q.   My ex boyfriend (just) dumped me on Monday. The story is that over a week ago I found texts on his phone to a 17 year old girl he works with (he's 30) saying things like I would prefer to be on a date with you, I can't wait to see you again and that ...

A.   18 December 2012: Either he knows he`s been caught so he thought he may as well dump you before you dump him, or he`s found someone else he considers better. Hopefully, it will all go wrong for him and you can tell him to eff off when he decides he wants you back. ... (read in full...)

Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models?

Q.   Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models? I feel like I'm helpless, my ex made me feel like this. We were on about glamour modelling, he said something like do you think you could be one, ...

A.   18 December 2012: I feel small when I see porn films too. In fact very small compared to the size of those well hung guys lol. Ok, I`m lying, because basically I dont give a shit. I am also an ordinary person and quite at ease with that. Was it your ex`s comment or ... (read in full...)

She wont give up the dating sites and chat rooms, what can I do? I don't want to leave our son....

Q.   I have been living with my common law for 6 years and we have a 5 year old boy. For the last 18 months we have constantly argued over her use of dating and adult related chat room type websites. Just as always, I think we are getting back on the ...

A.   17 December 2012: Make no mistake, she is taking the piss out of you. Why? Because you let her. All due respect to blond30s but she is on sites that are geared to one thing only. If this was innocent she would not be getting aggressive, defensive or agitated. She ... (read in full...)

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