I regret finishing with my guy. How do I get him back?
Q. dear cupid,my problem is i have a boyfriend i broke up with, we've been in a relationship for 2 months, then 2 days or more after i broke up with him,i missed him and i cry all night,i regrets why i broke up with him,i want him back.....
A. 20 December 2007: All you can do really is arrange to meet him, if he will, and just enphasize that it was a big mistake terminating the relationship you both had. Tell him how sorry you are and that you would like to give it another shot. Don't expect an answer ... (read in full...)
For those who do not believe in sex before marriage for religious reasons: where would you draw the line in a sexual activity?
Q. A question for strict religious people out there... I am an atheist and I just wondered where in sexual activity someone who doesn't believe in sex before marriage (for religious reasons) would draw the line? Would it be using your hands? Oral? Or ...
A. 20 December 2007: Yes i agree with Vickidude, im not a strict religious person either, and i would have said everything can be done except penetration.
All the best ... (read in full...)
Should I have no-strings sex? I'm married, this colleague is leaving work after New Year and I will have satisfied my curiosity!...
Q. Hi, I am married with two young children and I have recently met a guy through my new place of work. He is also married with 3 children and we are both after the same thing - some no-strings sex. I have only ever been with my husband and I think I ...
A. 20 December 2007: If you can live with yourself after sleeping with this other guy then go for it. But think seriously before taking this leap, you are ultimately going to be decieving your husband, and your 2 young children. And whats to say its not going to ... (read in full...)
We have been together for over a year, but we are not in love just yet. Is this unusual? Should I be worrying?
Q. hi me and my boyfriend have been together a year now and we are both 17. we are both really comfortable around eachother now and can tell eachother anything. i see him about 3 or 4 times a week. the thing is, we are not in love with eachother y...
A. 20 December 2007: It really depends on the couple in question really, some people fall in love after a week, or a month, while on the other end of the scale some people it could be over the course of several years. No i don't think that you need to worry, you enjoy ... (read in full...)
Should I ignore his signs or try to eventually cultivate a relationship? He plays in the same band as my ex.
Q. Okay I know I may be being a tad needy..but I have yet another brief question. One of my ex's friends from my previous story is showing interest in me. My ex and I dated for only a few months, and we lived together with his band. He was the drummer, ...
A. 20 December 2007: It does sound abit to complicated to me, he is winding you up with flirtatious gestures, then blows you off when it comes to the crunch. Also when he flirts with you, is his ex in close proximity?. If she is then he is trying to make her jealous. If ... (read in full...)
Is he losing interest or am I just being over sensitive?...
Q. I met a fellow through mutual friends three weeks ago. We instantly hit it off. He is going through a divorce and has two children and I myself just got out of a four-year relationship. Anyhoo, he asked me out to dinner and from that point on we ...
A. 20 December 2007: I don't think its really been long enough to say he has dismissed you, it was only last night he never called. I would give him the benefit of the doubt, he has 2 children and is going through a divorce so things can't be that easy for him at the ... (read in full...)
Am I old enough for sex at 14 or should I still be playing children's games?
Q. i am 14 and i am worrying how should a 14year old act? am i old enough for sex or should i still be playing around and having fun like a child. am i old ? or am i worrying over nothing i feel that i am too old for christmas am i ? what...
A. 20 December 2007: At 14 you don't necessarily have to be running around like a child, but i would most certainly say that you are way to young to be contemplating having sex at this early age. And of course you are not to old for Christmas, your never to old. Of ... (read in full...)
I like someone who's working on my house. Do guys like it when the woman makes the first move?
Q. This is a question for the men on the site. I like someones who's doing work on my house at the moment. Do men like it when woman make the first move...or ask for your number? He's back on tuesday and i want to do something about i...
A. 16 December 2007: I think in this day and age it does not look to out of place for a girl to make a move on a guy, as it did years ago. If you like this guy be nice to him while he is working, make him drinks, maybe some lunch and throw in some light flirting as ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for young boys to get an erection even by looking at a girl they like?
Q. hiya! this question is kind of aimed at guys who are 13-15 but anyone if free to answer. basically, is it possible for a guy to get an erection even if they are looking at a girl they like. cus my bf, sometimes when he looks up across at me he...
A. 16 December 2007: Yes its possible, at that age their hormones are racing around everywhere. I recall being that age and things like that happening to me, whether it have been looking at girls that i like, or the womans underwear section in the freemans catalogue, ... (read in full...)
Does a boy teasing you mean he fancies you?
Q. hi i was just wondering what people think about this... When boys harmlessly tease you do they really fancy you? I've heard sooo many people say this. Thanks x...
A. 16 December 2007: It could very well be that he fancies you, but the only way he can express himself is to tease you. Going back to when i was a school i used to tease this girl that i really fancied, i guess because i did not know what to say. I think that if you ... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me?
Q. Well I need advice. I'm 13 and I'm wondering what this guy is thinking. I think he likes me because he flirts and calls me nick names. One time he called my name in class and when I looked over and smiled. I was kind of shy but I waved at him. Do ...
A. 16 December 2007: I certainly think that he likes you, and maybe would like to get to know you better. Next time he flirts with you flirt back, hold eye contact with him for as long as you can before smiling and looking away. After a couple of week of this go up to ... (read in full...)
How do I get to the next level without appearing to be 'easy'?
Q. What's the best way to let a guy know you're interested without acting like an idiot or scaring him off? I'm already scared to talk to the guy I like about the potential for more. I think he has an idea that I like him because I smile, then blu...
A. 16 December 2007: The only other way to let someone know that you like them without actually asking them is by way of flirtatious gestures. One of the strongest is probably eye contact, catch his eye and hold contact for as long as you can before smiling and looking ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to spend the night with me anymore!
Q. Hey all, i've been with my boyfriend for over 2years. He has always been allowed to stay in my bedroom with me on the weekends(and has many times). However lately he doesnt want to stay with me at all. He says it's because i only have a single bed ...
A. 16 December 2007: Its quite possible that he meant just what he said, that he can't get a good nights sleep in a single bed. Te be honest it must be quite a squeeze for you both, espessially if you want to turn over. I really don't think its anything to do with you, ... (read in full...)
How can I sing with a sore throat? Any remedies?
Q. Hi everybody. Slight change from the norm; I have a health related question. As some of you know, I'm in a rock band for my Music course in college. I have to give a performance this Thursday in front of all my fellow students and friends. It is a...
A. 16 December 2007: I don't think there is anything that is going to eradicate your sore throat instantly, throat sprays and lozenges will help you feel better in the short term. Time is the only true healer for this sort of thing, normally these things last for around ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with him any more. What should I do?
Q. my husband has not had a job in one year. he always have an attitude and he seems jealous that i have a job and i've been on my job for ten years. i really am tired of his attitude and him not working. i dont want to be with him anymore. what should ...
A. 16 December 2007: If you really don't want to be with him anymore then i feel your only option here is to be upfront and honest and tell him that you no longer want to be with him anymore. I would tell him sooner rather than later, the longer you let this go on the ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he is too big for me if we have sex. What can I do about a potential incompatibility relative to dimensions?
Q. I been with my boyfriend for a year now. We have never had sex yet because we were taking this relationship slow. Now we are in love and we are ready to express that love to each other. Iam worried about one thing. Iam afraid he will not be able to ...
A. 16 December 2007: Like anonymous says the vagina is capable of catering for large sizes, like for instance during child birth. Also before you make love do lots of foreplay first, or even rub some ointment down below to make his entry abit easier.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I confronted my partner but he denies having cheated on me. How do I find out the real truth?
Q. This is a follow up to a question posted yesterday. I confronted my partner as advised but he completely denied having an affair. He said the woman who told me is just obsessed with him and is just trying to break us up. I dont know whether to ...
A. 16 December 2007: I don't think you are ever going to know for sure unless you find some concrete evidence that he is having an affair. You mention that there have been signs of him having an affair, what are they?. I think you have got to look out for a change in ... (read in full...)
When I met up with my online date things weren't so terrific. I still like him though but he seems to have lost his interest, what should I do to make him come back?
Q. well, i met a boy over the internet, a few months ago, then we started dating, he looked really hot in his pictures and had a great personality, and he only lived a hour away in the same country. so me and my mate went to meet him. he was so ...
A. 16 December 2007: Maybe he was just shy and did not know what to say to you, just because he never said alot does not mean he did not like you. Why don't you arrange another date, go somewhere fun like to a theme park, or to the cinema or something, maybe once you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with another woman but don't want to break my wife's heart!
Q. im a married man of 22 years i recently met a woman and fell deeply in love, she is not married but has two children. i cant seem to leave my home or wife but want to be with her she is the other half of me. my children are grown hers are still ...
A. 14 December 2007: I think that if you have fallen in love with someone else then the correct thing to do here would be to tell your wife the truth. Sure she will be hurt, but its better to tell her the way it is, than ultimately lead her on. You have to make a ... (read in full...)
I'm in a long distance marriage... I get a lot of attention from most men - except my husband!
Q. I have been married for 2 years now. 4 months ago, my husband and I enter in a long distance marriage. We used to talk on the phone every day. Now we don't amymore and he almost never calls unless I do. We see each other on the weekends. He is very ...
A. 14 December 2007: I don't think this is normal for a marriage, You are a married couple, and he goes to school and lives with his mum & dad, and is enjoying spending time with his new friends. I think that maybe you should have tied the knot when you were abit more ... (read in full...)
Why do I come so quickly?
Q. i'm a 16 old male and i was wonder y do i cum so fast i cam only go to a max of 5min...
A. 14 December 2007: You don't mention whether you ejaculate to quick having sex, or just generally, so i am going to assume you mean when masturbabting. When you feel you are going to ejaculate pause for a while and grip the top of your penis with your thumb and ... (read in full...)
Could my french teacher fancy me?
Q. I'm 15 and I have a crush on my french teacher. A friend of mine told her and she went red in the face. Now she knows everytime I look at her she quickly looks in the opposite direction but she stares at me constantly when I don't look at her. Do ...
A. 13 December 2007: I think it would be very unproffesional and very wrong for your french teacher to have and sort of feelings for you. When we really fancy someone alot and are crushing on them bigtime, sometimes we misinterprit their actions for something more. The ... (read in full...)
Concerned about the way I look. Would a girl poke fun at these potential physical imperfections?
Q. dear cupid i am 16 years of age and i get very paranoid about the way i look n the concerns are as follows: i would like to know, do girls get turned of by boys that have man boobs when they have sex? i ask this because i keep on getting scared...
A. 13 December 2007: If a girl truly loves you then it would not matter if you had man boobs or not. She would love you for you, and who you are. And if any girl did make fun of you then she is simply not worth being with in the first place.
And five inches is abou... (read in full...)
I want to do something special, just to show him my love. Suggestions?
Q. hey everyone, i am wanting to do something nice for my boyfriend just because i love him. he has been working out of town and i just wanted to show him that i love him. any ideas or suggestions? thanks...
A. 13 December 2007: Why not book a table at your favourite resturant, a romantic one with dim lighting, candle light, and soft back ground music, and some nice wine. Or you could suprise him and cook him one of his favourite meals, and set the table really nice.
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My best friend (16) is pregnant with my Maths teacher's baby... What should I do?
Q. omg! iv just found out that my best friend is pregnant with my maths teachers baby. this has come as a complete shock to me because i had no idea theyd even slept together! shes really worried cos her parents will just freak out n shes also really ...
A. 13 December 2007: I think you should tell your friend to tell her parents, then let them give her the appropriate advice. I know she is 16, but at the end of the day the teacher will be in an awful lot of trouble for sleeping with a student. The eventual outcome of ... (read in full...)
I miss my gf. She left after I told her I cheated on her with my friend's wife!
Q. I cheated on both my girl and my friend with his wife. so guilty i cooled things with my girl and she moved out, cant stop thinking bout my mates wife but miss my girl. so confused tried to keep both happy now have lost touch with friends wife ...
A. 13 December 2007: It all depends how you feel really, if you feel you can live the rest of your life knowing that you decieved your friend with his wife, and decieved your girlfriend then so be it. Not that i would have done this, but if i had my conscience would be ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of manboobs?
Q. dear readers how can i get rid of my man boobs, as i have tried everything from weight lifting, toning and press-ups but nothing seems to happen. Is their any other way to get rid of them as i can not afford to go to surgery as i am not rich...
A. 12 December 2007: I think weight lifting will work, like one of the other posts mentioned diet and excersise, and up your intake of protein too. I train during the week and i take a protein shake three times a day. Really focus your workouts on the pectorial area at ... (read in full...)
Is my penis too small??
Q. I am a thirteen year old boy and was wondering if my penis is to small. It's only 5inches when fully erect and 3inches when small. Is it to small?...
A. 12 December 2007: I don't think that sound to bad for you age, don't forget that you have still got 5 or 6 years of growing to do yet. Even if it stayed as it was this would not be classed as small anyway, but im sure it will grow some more yet.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed after first time sex?
Q. hey there people in dear cupid land... me and my boyfriend have been together 6 months yesterday :) and we decided to have sex ( he's 18 and im 17) it was a fantastic end to the eveining but... is it normal to bleed a little bit after sex im ...
A. 12 December 2007: Yes its perfectly normal to bleed after you first time, this is caused by the breaking of the hymen. Its nothing to worry about, and after a few more times of love making it will be more comfortable.
All the best x... (read in full...)
I was up... then I wasn't. Did I wait too long to stick it in? What happened?
Q. me and my gurl tried having sex again we were in the bed kissing touching and everything all that gud stuff and while doing so my penis was hard as a rock but when it came down to doing the do i couldnt get on hard to save my life y is that? did i ...
A. 12 December 2007: You were enjoying the foreplay alot, all that kissing and touching, but i think you thought to much when it came to actually having penetration, which is why you ultimately went soft. relax and let things happen slowly and naturally, and don't put ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about girls and it is affecting my concentration!
Q. I'm 15 and I can't stop thinking about girls help me please because I can't concentrate on my work......
A. 12 December 2007: There is nothing to worry about here its perfectly normal to be thinking about girls. I remember being your age thinking about girls so much that i just couden't seem to concentrate on anything. Its just all part of the growing up process, as you ... (read in full...)
I don't think he trusts me anymore after he broke off our LDR.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year and as things may seem great to others. I'm not happy. We only chat on a chat site cos he lives about 2000 km away but he comes to visit me every holiday. He is really sweet but when we apart...
A. 12 December 2007: If in your heart of hearts you are not happy then i think maybe you should consider terminating this relationship. If you are unhappy what is the point of continuing, as you say when you are apart all you do is fight, he is terribly jealous and ... (read in full...)
Should I try to work this out and trust him or not??
Q. Well heres the deal, me and my long distance bf are on a break, was his idea. He says he still loves me and i still love him but on his profile on bebo he is talkin to all these girls and askin for msn addys and meetin up with an old ex and ignorin ...
A. 12 December 2007: I agree with baby duck, you need to forget about this guy and move on. You are still so young with your whole life ahead of you. As for this guy he is chatting to loads of girls on bebo, meeting up with old flames, and to top it all he is ignoring ... (read in full...)
New feature: Keyword + phrases links
Q. Hi There are over 40,000 questions here on dearcupid and some absolute gems in amongst them. Problem is it has been hard to make associations between similar questions in order to get the most out of the site. So, I've introduced a new feat...
A. 12 December 2007: I think its a magnificent idea, just another addition to an already fantastic site.
Cheers... (read in full...)
Do you think he likes me?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl and I'm still in public school. Some of my friends think this guy likes me. I'm not gonna say his name. On the first day of school he winked at me. One time in gym class I was just standing in the middle of the gym and he ...
A. 11 December 2007: He sounds a little odd to be honest, i would be somewhat weary of him if i was you. On the face of it it sound like he does like you, what with the sayings and the flirtatious gestues. but then he goes and breaks you pencils and says just kidding ... (read in full...)
Can a penis be too big to fit in?
Q. is there a possibility that the penis doesnt fit in a girl's vagina because its too big??...
A. 11 December 2007: I don't think it can be to big to fit in, the vagina is is quite capable of catering for large sizes, a good example is when a woman gives birth to a baby. If its tight at first use some lube, or some foreplay to loosen her up.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
Is it really ok to put my hands down my pants and not worry about germs??
Q. Okay. When i masturbate, and try new things, my penis area - testicles and bum - usually touch things around the house, like a carpet or wall or chair. i keep thinkng i need to clean these areas up and remove bacteria. but none of my friends do. not ...
A. 11 December 2007: I agree with Fairy Lu, if you are touching yourself around these areas its best to wash your hand before you go touching anything else. If anything it is just good hygiene practice.
All the best... (read in full...)
I cannot phone or message him - what can I do to get him back?
Q. We dated at the end of 2006 and then again in June 2007. But we broke up because I didn't greet him when he saw me at the mall. He smsed me and told me to "Get Lost". I still love him and would do anything to be with him again. But when I see him I ...
A. 10 December 2007: Some time's with the things we really want there is some element of risk taking involved. If you want him back you have got to overcome this fear of rejection and make that initial ice breaker, whether it be the text, or call, letter, email ect. If ... (read in full...)
Is this the way most women act?
Q. Hi , i've been with my girlfriend for 8 and a half months now, and i really love her, i really do. She says she loves me but its hard to truly believe that because of the way she acts towards me, and she has gone on a break twice because she's said ...
A. 10 December 2007: I think the pair of you need to find a good moment and sit down and discuss where this relationship is really heading, and where you stand at the moment. This is not the way most woman act, unless she is going through some major stress in her life, ... (read in full...)
What to do over my drunken text messaging?
Q. I'm getting divorced, and felt low at the weekend. I drank too much at home alone so texted a guy that I fancy, and asked him to come over for a drink.... I didn't hear back, and am now very embarrassed about it. What should I do now? I bu...
A. 10 December 2007: Personally i would not worry too much about it, if it was just text messeging he probably would not have know you were drunk, unless you had a bout of serious bad spelling. Don't text message again, instead next time you see him try to be as normal ... (read in full...)
My gf smokes although she has asthma. Worried about her well being, so what can I do?
Q. ok.......my girl and I started going out like a week ago were both 17 and I absolutely love her. We get to hang around a bot and so on She smokes....I generally don't mind people smoking cause in my opinion if they wanna kill themselves thats th...
A. 9 December 2007: I don't think that you can actually tell her to stop because its her choice if she wants to smoke. All you can do is offer her advice, has she tried patches, maybe if she went on these it may slowly ween her off of them. Pull some literature off the ... (read in full...)
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