I didn't know he was still married! How can I get clarity?
Q. Over 1 year ago, I met a really great man, we got along wonderfully. A few months into our relationship, when asked about the length of time he had been divorced, he told me it wasn't final yet. I thought that within 6 months, it would most likely ...
A. 6 May 2008: Pay him a surprise visit at his house. I think you are being played. His job is to muddy the waters, you won't get clarity from this guy.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my partner of 2 years that it's over.
Q. I've been with my partner for 2 years now, but i recently found someone else that treats me better. I don't know how to tell my partner of 2 years that it's over. Can anyone help me?...
A. 6 May 2008: Be kind but firm, pick a quiet place, and tell the truth. Try to spare his feelings as much as you can but don't encourage any false hopes on his part. Don't draw it out, off like a bandaid.... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me how to get rid of this discharge?
Q. im really really worried, the day after i have been fingered there is all this white gunge in my vagina. it doesnt smell, i just really dont no what it is and hate it!!!! can some one tell me how to get rid of it#?...
A. 5 May 2008: Over the counter medicines are safe, not everyone experiences the itching or burning either. I got them frequently during my reproductive years, go get the medicine. For years you had to have a prescription for it, now it is deemed safe enough for ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me how to get rid of this discharge?
Q. im really really worried, the day after i have been fingered there is all this white gunge in my vagina. it doesnt smell, i just really dont no what it is and hate it!!!! can some one tell me how to get rid of it#?...
A. 5 May 2008: It's thrush (yeast infection). There is over the counter medicine for it, go get some.... (read in full...)
My in-laws hate me. It's all getting worse.
Q. hello all - I posted a question nearly a year ago and checking it back recently I can see that people have even commented recently so thank you http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-in-laws-hate-me-and-my-husband.html I wanted to add a comment...
A. 5 May 2008: I wouldn't waste any more time waiting for things to improve on their own. Separate and tell your husband exactly why you are doing it. It may be the wake up call he needs or he may just go running back to mummy. Either way you will be moving in the ... (read in full...)
I still love him but I'm tired of being the part time girl and especially, of him being the part time father to our daughter. How do I go about this?
Q. My daughter's dad is getting ready to head back home (out of state)some time in June 2008. He's been saying he's leaving for the past couple years however, I guess he's really leaving. I left him because of his deceitful ways, lies, etc. We h...
A. 5 May 2008: I'm confused, go about what? Sounds like some of your problems will be over in month anyway. ... (read in full...)
All guys adore me and find me the hottest, but would not approach me...are they totally crazy?!
Q. Well i am 19 years old and i am studying in this highly prestigious university in the United Kingdom. I am the most popular girl in class and my classmates think that i am a stuck up, attitude carrying show off. All this is said behind my back. ...
A. 5 May 2008: See if you can connect with the guy who posted this:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-dump-the-trouble-women-while.html
I think you would truly enjoy each other's company.
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Chastity before marriage is still demanded in our country, and I lost mine to the wrong man, what should I do?
Q. I need help. a year and half ago I met this guy. He was from another country and 25 years older than me. He was divorced with kids. He was an alcoholic.I saved his life when he relapsed.He pursed me for months. I finally gave him my heart and lost ...
A. 2 May 2008: Like I said before, most men can't even tell whether you are a virgin or not, unless you tell them.... (read in full...)
Which is hotter - blonde or brunette?
Q. A bit of a survey here... Are girls hotter as blondes? or brunettes? I would love to know your personal preferance... thnx xoxo ...
A. 1 May 2008: Yeah I wonder sometimes if his eyes even make it up to the top of a hottie's head to even check the hair color! I pack a rolling pin whenever I take the lug out in public. ... (read in full...)
I need to get over him, but he's my boss. What can I do?
Q. Help! I need some advice. Ive read all the stories about married men and am past all of it, Im past all of the hurt...and am now in the realization stage that he will never leave her, or the newborn baby he JUST had. The problem is, in previous...
A. 1 May 2008: I don't think you have any choice BUT to get another job. You'll just be miserable staying at your current job.... (read in full...)
What do I do about husbands sexy texts to a work collegue?
Q. I have been happily married for 16 years with no cheating thet i know of. My husbadns phone beeped the other day and i lokked at it ( i know bad move!). Was message from a friend of ours all good. I looked in his out box and saw a message sent to ...
A. 1 May 2008: Hang in there, Buddy. I know you are feeling the entire gamut of emotions right now. Just try to get through one day at a time. Keep us posted.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to have a hard time adjusting to married life?
Q. My new husband (under two weeks) is having trouble adjusting to the fact that we are married. I am trying my best to be gentle and understanding, patient and kind, but sometimes he can become a bit abusive. He always apologises, and I do believe ...
A. 29 April 2008: But you haven't even been married two weeks yet! This is very bizarre and your marriage sounds very very shaky. Do you think he may need to get checked out mentally?... (read in full...)
We differ in our attitude to fidelity. What can I do here?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for 8 years now. She has 2 boys 10 and 12 years old that only really know me as their dad. We have had some rough times in the past, partly because she suffers from SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and partly ...
A. 29 April 2008: I wish you the best on your fresh start. You will do just fine. I hope she will allow you to visit the boys on occasion. Please let us know how you are doing. You might want to check out some of the postings, I'm sure you can be of great help to ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to have a hard time adjusting to married life?
Q. My new husband (under two weeks) is having trouble adjusting to the fact that we are married. I am trying my best to be gentle and understanding, patient and kind, but sometimes he can become a bit abusive. He always apologises, and I do believe ...
A. 29 April 2008: Are you sure he was talking in his sleep? Are you sure it was you he said he hated? This doen't sound normal for a guy who has been married less than 2 weeks. What was he like before you got married? Did he seem happy about marrying you? You guys ... (read in full...)
Why do people think first night sex is cheap and the girl lacks self respect?
Q. Ok guys why do ppl think it is cheap and the girl lacks self respect if they have sex on the first night? I mean after going out on a date and lots of talking? What is the difference between waiting for the second date as some ppl think it is more ...
A. 29 April 2008: That's "Why are YOU asking this question over and over?... (read in full...)
Why do people think first night sex is cheap and the girl lacks self respect?
Q. Ok guys why do ppl think it is cheap and the girl lacks self respect if they have sex on the first night? I mean after going out on a date and lots of talking? What is the difference between waiting for the second date as some ppl think it is more ...
A. 29 April 2008: Why are asking this question over and over again? It's getting rather tiresome seeing it pop up all over this site.... (read in full...)
Which is hotter - blonde or brunette?
Q. A bit of a survey here... Are girls hotter as blondes? or brunettes? I would love to know your personal preferance... thnx xoxo ...
A. 29 April 2008: Asked my husband and he said, and I quote, "Blonde is better if she has big boobs and brunette is better if she has big boobs." Sigh...he's soooo deep.... (read in full...)
Sex chatting on the internet to chat to men, is this cheating my husband?
Q. help me..i have a good husband, my problem is i have a high sex drive and i have turned to sex chatting on the internet to chat to men. Is this cheating, what is wrong with me,i feel guilty afterwards, i just so frustrated. Anytime i want sex with...
A. 29 April 2008: You feel guilty because you feel what you are doing is wrong therefore it IS wrong. Buy yourself a vibrator for those in-between times with your husband. And cut out that internet nonsense.... (read in full...)
Chastity before marriage is still demanded in our country, and I lost mine to the wrong man, what should I do?
Q. I need help. a year and half ago I met this guy. He was from another country and 25 years older than me. He was divorced with kids. He was an alcoholic.I saved his life when he relapsed.He pursed me for months. I finally gave him my heart and lost ...
A. 29 April 2008: Well you can't get your virginity back once it's gone. What you can do is find a man who treasures you so highly that it won't matter to him whether you are a virgin or not. Anyway most guys can't even tell whether they are with a virgin or not. You ... (read in full...)
I'm the perfect guy for her, but she thinks she doesn't deserve me!
Q. hey to all.. Im a bit down. Yesterday i asked a question on how to ak a girl out to be my girlfriend.. Well thanks for all the advice i got from my family.. Thats now you guys!!!! Uhm i did ask her out, although i didnt the answer thati wanted but ...
A. 29 April 2008: I think you just haven't met the right girl yet, sweetheart. Don't change into one of those run-of-the-mill jerks. This last girl was exactly right doesn't deserve you but I guarantee there's one out there that does. You will stumble upon each other ... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 29 April 2008: Once again, if she refuses to sort this out with you or with a counselor, I think you have to separate. I just don't see this going anywhere. ... (read in full...)
Difference between a fuck buddy and a friend with benefits and what do you think of the whole thing?
Q. My friends and I were talking and she said she had "a friend with benefits". I said "So you have a fuck buddy?" And she said, they were different things? Cant someone explain the difference to me between a fuck buddy and a friend with benefits ...
A. 29 April 2008: Purely semantics.... (read in full...)
Will I go bad if I don't have sex?
Q. I'm worried. If I don't have sex soon, will it make me bad at it? They say that practice makes perfect, but I haven't "practiced" for a long time now. I don't want to disappoint any partner I have in the future. I didn't disappoint my girlfriend ...
A. 29 April 2008: Listen it's like riding a bike, once you know how you never forget. Next time you might even be able to ride AND let go of the handle bars! You know the "look ma, no hands!" Relax and don't sweat the small stuff, dude.... (read in full...)
Can you just stop loving someone?
Q. Is it possible to just stop loving someone??? can trust be regained for keeping a secret for a long time if the secret was not your fault??? ...
A. 29 April 2008: More information will get you better responses.... (read in full...)
Help! I lost my erection!
Q. I have recently started seeing a girl, this is the first girl i have been dating for several months now. She is extremely nice and sexually stunning. After seeing her a few times we decided to make the next step to the bedroom. Unfortunately ha...
A. 29 April 2008: I think this is like the "don't think about an elephant" kind of thing. The more you worry about losing your erection the faster you droop. Perhaps one of the ed medications would bolster your concerns and get you over this hump (sorry about the ... (read in full...)
He is unappreciative and seems to call only when he needs me - why do I feel I can be so easily swayed by him?
Q. Ughhh ok I am so frustrated... it honestly is an emotional roller coaster with this guy.. I talked about him earlier and I honestly thought it would be over with him- what with him not calling and all- so last night I get a call from him saying he's ...
A. 29 April 2008: People are used because they allow themselves to be used. If you don't like the way he treats you, then don't allow it. You control your own destiny, take charge. ... (read in full...)
In love with my married teacher, and I'm going to tell him, will it work?
Q. I'm 17 years old and I'm completely in love with my super-awesome chorus teacher who's 32 and married. I was planning on telling him the very last day I'd see him (I'm graduating soon), but I'm not anticipating any kind of reply or ...
A. 29 April 2008: I've got a question for you, are you going to listen to the aunts this time? You haven't listened to them any of the other times you posted this question. This sure has been a long school year........ (read in full...)
Is it ok to put a golf ball in your girlfriend's vagina? Just throwing that out there....
Q. is it ok to put a golf ball in you girlfriends vagina and the have sex with it still in there and when your done swollow it?...
A. 28 April 2008: Great minds think alike my dear.... (read in full...)
Would great sex make guys want a relationship?
Q. Ok guys if you have had mind blowing sex with a girl on a one night stand are you more likely to want to have a relationship with her? ...
A. 28 April 2008: Actually this poster has three threads going at the moment.... (read in full...)
I come to this site and read everyone's problems... and I start to think pessimistically about my own situations!
Q. Seriously, I love my gf and in my own little mental world I believe that she is faithful to me, and would love me unconditionally. I believe that we are soul mates and that her and I will forever live a happy life together. I believe that our ...
A. 28 April 2008: Well said Irish! To the poster: If you visit the doctor's office and see all the sick people does that make your throat sore? Enjoy your love life with your wonderful girlfriend, Buddy! ... (read in full...)
Why do guys dump a girl after a one night stand? Bad sex, lack of respect...?
Q. Come on guys. Why do guys really dump a girl after a one night stand? Was it because the sex was bad, average? Or because you didn't respect her? If it was amazing and mind blowing and made you cum would you come back for more? Now be ...
A. 28 April 2008: I'm with Dusky, you are certainly long enough in the tooth to know the answers to your questions. ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband get turned on unless he touches himself? He doesn't respond normally to sex!
Q. After the initial honeymoon first six months of sex, my husband of 2 years has never been hungry for sex or had a high sex drive. It has bothered me hugely as I love sex and believed he did at first. As time has progressed, it has got fewer and ...
A. 28 April 2008: Okay if he isn't gay, the fact that he can get hard as a rock under his own steam but not by you is certainly very strange. That would tend to rule out medical reasons like ED. Tish may be right about his not feeling comfortable about having sex ... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard to go back to being just friends when you have had sex?
Q. I can not work out this one night stand I had. Well I met this guy on a social networking site. But, it is just a site if you want to go out for the night you post your plans up and see if anyone wants to join you. Lots of ppl use it for dating. A...
A. 28 April 2008: I think he's just after sex, forget about him for real this time and don't respond to any his messages. If he was interested in anything else he wouldn't wait so long in between conversations with you.... (read in full...)
She is 15 and pregnant and says I'm the father!
Q. Im 21 and met this girl things were going fab. We had sex and i thought i fell in love. Then she tells me she is pregnant and im the father and also she is 15!!!!! She told me that she was 18 i still had a problem when she said 18 but i dealt with ...
A. 28 April 2008: Once the baby is born you'll need to have a paternity test done to verify whether it's your baby, it can be done in vitro but that's pretty pricey. Get that done before you get legally involved with child support. Is there a chance you are not the ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband get turned on unless he touches himself? He doesn't respond normally to sex!
Q. After the initial honeymoon first six months of sex, my husband of 2 years has never been hungry for sex or had a high sex drive. It has bothered me hugely as I love sex and believed he did at first. As time has progressed, it has got fewer and ...
A. 28 April 2008: Is it possible that he is gay? Kind of sounds like it to me.... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 28 April 2008: Wow over a year? Buddy, you are wasting precious time. Try to get her to sit down for a chat one more time. If she refuses you have no choice but to pack your bags and move out and onto a brighter future. This is no way to live. Good luck and keep ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to put a golf ball in your girlfriend's vagina? Just throwing that out there....
Q. is it ok to put a golf ball in you girlfriends vagina and the have sex with it still in there and when your done swollow it?...
A. 28 April 2008: It does bring a whole other meaning to "FOREplay though doesn't it?!!!!... (read in full...)
How do I dump the trouble women while keeping one or two lookers on the side for sex and still stay with me girlfriend?
Q. My love-life has been pretty hectic lately and I need some advice. I've been in a relationship with this truly wonderful, sweet girl for the past seven years. We get along great, do all sorts of fun things together and really care about each other. ...
A. 28 April 2008: I have just one request, now that it is thunderstorm and hurricane season in North Carolina, please don't move here or ever stand near me. And stay away from my pals over there in jolly old England, too.... (read in full...)
What do I do about husbands sexy texts to a work collegue?
Q. I have been happily married for 16 years with no cheating thet i know of. My husbadns phone beeped the other day and i lokked at it ( i know bad move!). Was message from a friend of ours all good. I looked in his out box and saw a message sent to ...
A. 28 April 2008: I agree with the others, this has to be addressed immediately. You need to sit down with him and get to the bottom of it. If he won't talk about it then you really will have a tough time sorting this out. You do have a right to know. Pay very close ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to put a golf ball in your girlfriend's vagina? Just throwing that out there....
Q. is it ok to put a golf ball in you girlfriends vagina and the have sex with it still in there and when your done swollow it?...
A. 28 April 2008: Start with a ping pong ball, THEN your golf ball, then you can slowly work up to a basketball. Sounds like just oodles of fun.... (read in full...)
So many women would pay to see me naked, so how can I change her "errors" about premarital sex?
Q. I am hoping that some of the aunts on this site can help me with my problem. I am an extremely handsome, smart and funny 28 year old male. I have an excellent job and earn a very substantial sum of money indeed. I have two Ferraris and live in a ...
A. 28 April 2008: I tried living in a fantasy world once, but it just gave me the munchies.... (read in full...)
We differ in our attitude to fidelity. What can I do here?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for 8 years now. She has 2 boys 10 and 12 years old that only really know me as their dad. We have had some rough times in the past, partly because she suffers from SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and partly ...
A. 25 April 2008: She sure has an excuse for everything doesn't she?! Even blames you over and over again for her own decisions and actions. I agree with your friend, you need to get away from the psycho and maybe you will actually be doing her a favor. It may force ... (read in full...)
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