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When is the right time to have sex?
Q. Hey.. just a random question. When is it the right time to have sex? people say its when you feel ready But is it okay to do it when you feel ready after just a day or so?? or wrong to do it when your not with someone?? i personally think people ...
A. 3 January 2009: You are apparently of legal age to decide for yourself - and therefore your views are not at all wrong (for you). There is no right or wrong for everyone. You should probably consider that your views are not to be imposed upon others, although you ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know how a spouse's debt collection, affects the other person financially?
Q. Does anyone know about how debt in collections will affect a marriage? My fiancee and I plan on getting married in about two years. But one thing I am concerned about is he owes a few thousand to collections. He has made a plan to pay it off over ...
A. 3 January 2009: If he indeed pays off his debts, and neither of you develop any additional credit issues prior to your marriage, then you should be okay. His past delinquencies, depending upon the severity, may follow for a few years, but clearing it all up will be ... (read in full...)
How do I move our relationship to second base, without going too fast?
Q. Ok me and my girlfriend want to move our relationship to second base but she wants me to be the one who moves us, what do i do to help me move us there, i never did anything passed 1st base befor, i know what second base is and everything, i just ...
A. 3 January 2009: To be a gentleman, allow your girlfriend to direct the base running. And play it safe if and when you make home plate.... (read in full...)
Are we moving way too fast here?
Q. I lost my virginity with my boyfriend and I feel terrible. We hadn't even been going out for a two months. And I'd given him head like less than 5 days after our first kiss. I told one of my closest friends and all of my friends are like virgins and ...
A. 3 January 2009: Way, way too fast young lady.... (read in full...)
Does my ex love his new girlfriend?
Q. Does my ex love his new gf if he does not leave me alone after i've told him to? I don't know what to think!!? My ex and i dated for 5 years and were engaged for 2. I called the engagement off this past march because i was so scared and want...
A. 2 January 2009: As a younger man (I'm an old man now), it was always fun to have at least two or more women for comfort. Yes, I'm admitting that I was naughty and wild at times, but was faithful when married. Anyway, your ex is simply keeping you around for extra ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get as hard as I used to?
Q. Hey..am 16 and i had "sex" 2 months ago..ive put it on quotes coz it was embarassing..we were at the beach with no clothes..anyway..i got hard but when i got inside her i started to loose the hardness ..it was soo cold that night and i had no ...
A. 2 January 2009: This type of thing comes and goes throughout your lifetime, but probably not very often. Get used to it and stop worrying. The more you think and worry about it, the more it will likely occur. It is most likely mental.... (read in full...)
I feel dirty and bad about myself just thinking about sex and oral - is this normal?
Q. I feel really dirty and bad about myself at the thought of giving a guy head or even having sex. Is this normal and what can I do to stop feeling this way?......
A. 1 January 2009: I'm in total agreement with both "Bugs" and "ohdearitserika" below, you should do only what is right for you, and do not just try to be like others. I'll submit another way to put it - Even if and when you do fall in love with a wonderful man who ... (read in full...)
How can men be so cruel?
Q. How can men be so cruel sometimes? How can they act like the love someone and then dump them a week later like they dont even matter and as if they are just something they played with and threw away? I mean aren't we all people and should be treated ...
A. 1 January 2009: Lack of integrity, in my opinion. Perhaps the reason that there is a good number of both men and women who can so easily use others, and then toss them like you described, is that they are so self-centered they have no regard for anyone but ... (read in full...)
What is the name for this kind of threesome?
Q. Me and a friend came up with an interesting thing to do while having a threesome (2 f, 1 m) but dont know if there is a name for it... It would involve the 2 girls lying on top of each other (face to face) while you go down on both of them simultan...
A. 1 January 2009: Double muffin?... (read in full...)
How can I get my beautiful, older girl?
Q. i am 16 and really like this girl who is 18. she is gorgeous, popular, and athletic. i play sports as well. we have never talked before or anything and she is a senior. any thoughts on how i can get this beautiful girl?...
A. 1 January 2009: Start talking with her (repeatedly over a reasonable period of time), then ask her out on a date.... (read in full...)
How normal is it for a girl to want sex often?
Q. I'd like to know how normal it is for a girl to want sex often. i usually want sex at the very least once a week. but i like to have it once a day or sometimes more. sometimes i feel like i am not normal because of that. so i guess my questio...
A. 1 January 2009: Your response to the suggestions by "Agony Aunts and Uncles" reveals a much different scenario than your original posting. You would likely receive much better advice if you post more accurately and honestly. ... (read in full...)
I don't know about oral sex
Q. Ok, I have been with this guy for a few months and he wants to go a bit further with oral stuff etc. the thing is I have never let a guy go down on me before and I don't know what to expect and what do you do once he has finished....
A. 31 December 2008: As "Uncle Phil" recommends, freshen up well before the activity, and a little splash of perfume is okay as well, but preferably not where he will be licking. While perfume is pleasant to the olfactory region, it usually tastes like hell. Spray or ... (read in full...)
How normal is it for a girl to want sex often?
Q. I'd like to know how normal it is for a girl to want sex often. i usually want sex at the very least once a week. but i like to have it once a day or sometimes more. sometimes i feel like i am not normal because of that. so i guess my questio...
A. 31 December 2008: As an older man, I can assure you that as a general rule, women are just as horny as men if not more so. Or maybe I have just been lucky enough in life to have always met the horny ones?... (read in full...)
I'm 22 still a virgin, should I go to a prostitute even though I'm afraid of the risks?
Q. What I'm about to share with you may seem to be an absurd and juvenile concern that is unworthy of your attention and time, but nevertheless, it's important for me to discuss it with those who might be in a position to empathise with me and offer ...
A. 30 December 2008: In my opinion, the probable cause is insecurity and/or lack of confidence. There is a streak of that in almost all of us. It is something that we just have to fight, and I use the word "fight" with good reason. You may have to use the same ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I just lay there during sex
Q. me and my boyfriend are together for 1year and 6months now. when we have sex i dont know how too participate with him, and he told me that the fact that i just lay there and dont do anything back makes him feel that he is having sex on his own. ...
A. 29 December 2008: Specifically, you should move your hips in rhythm with his movements. In the missionary position (him on top), your range of motion is naturally somewhat limited, but you can still thrust your vulva upward as your man penetrates inward. Do this with ... (read in full...)
Good oral sex instructions!
Q. How do i give GOOD oral sex becouse im finding its taking a good while for him to come...so im wondering is there something im doing wrong or something im not doing?! be as discriptive as you like i just need to know how to make it good for him!?...
A. 29 December 2008: First of all, a good session of fellatio does take some time when properly orchestrated, which makes it all quite enjoyable for most men. A blow job that takes a "good while" is preferable, in my opinion.
Stroke and essentially play with his expo... (read in full...)
What do the guys look for in girls!
Q. What kind of Looks does a guy look for in a girl? Blonde hair? Pretty nose? Big Mouth? Big B00bs? big booty? being thin? being tall? being stupid(not really a look but still common in many girls with boyfriends)...
A. 28 December 2008: A pleasant smile and, in my case, not too much fat because I'm a little guy. I'm an older man, but the same criteria applies to women close to my age. Most every reasonably classy woman under about age 60 looks just fine to me - but soon enough, any ... (read in full...)
Reasons why a guy would talk to a girl?
Q. what are some reason why a guy would want to talk to a girl...
A. 28 December 2008: In your culture, which I assume is Muslim, it is typically forbidden for a man to speak to or otherwise approach a girl. Mature women (above about the age of 10) are usually veiled to hide their appearance and prevent male to female interaction. Is ... (read in full...)
Love is it too complicated
Q. please help me. i dont know what to do. i have fallen head over hills for my best friend. and i just cant stop thinking about it. i think about him constantly, and i find myself wanting to txt him or just talk to him that way i feel close to him. i ...
A. 28 December 2008: This is what young girls do. They tend to easily fall so much in love with some guy at a young age (including up to around the age of 25 years in many cases), and it is of tremendous advantage to the guys. Girls are emotional and caring. They are so ... (read in full...)
What shall I do to prepare myself for him giving oral to me?
Q. I have to put a bit of story behind the question or else it won't make much sense. I'm with a guy who's older than me by four years (he's 20) and we've been together for around 6 months. i met him through a friend as he is the best friend of her ...
A. 28 December 2008: As usual, "Smiles" provides good advice and you can also research the archives on this Web site for additional information about oral sex, blow jobs, cunnilingus and more. You said that your older boyfriend is experienced, in which case you should ... (read in full...)
Why do people sleep with each other after they have split up?
Q. why do people sleep with eachother after they have split up,? Thats what me and my ex have been doing for the past 3 months, and i dont think there is any chance of getting back together as hes in a long distance relationship and has never meet her...
A. 27 December 2008: Typically, a man and woman continue to sleep together because it is easy, familiar and does not require all the courting needed to establish a new sexual relationship. In the situation you described, it may not seem to make sense that your ... (read in full...)
Helping to find it in the dark?!
Q. My wife has a rather small clitoris and lately,I have found difficulty locating it with my finger. This occasionally annoys her as we have been married 21 years and this started only about 3 months ago. We always make love in the dark.(Her idea). ...
A. 27 December 2008: It is located at the top of the crack (vulva). There are ample drawings, photographs and diagrams online. One would think that she knows where it is, and could simply direct you or let you know when you have placed your fingertips on her clitoris. ... (read in full...)
I've lied about having orgasm
Q. hi. i know this is of my own making but ive lied to every boyfriend ive ever had (2) about orgasming. i make noises and they thik im having a great time. i do this really because it makes the experience more sexy for me, but i know its totally ...
A. 27 December 2008: Contrary to the implications by "pvtguy" I think that you are an entirely normal heterosexual girl who has yet to meet a dude who knows much of anything about pleasing a woman.... (read in full...)
We broke up but still sleep together does that ruin our changes for the future?
Q. Me and my sons father has been broken up for 2 years now. And before that we were together for 3 years. We split up because we just had a baby, and honestly I had too much going on in my life to focus on a relationship. But I still love him and I'm ...
A. 27 December 2008: Continuing to sleep together actually increases the probability of getting back together, I would normally think, but based on your posting he may be messing around with one or another. There are likely other signals that you are not disclosing ... (read in full...)
I like the man in the relationship to take control. How do I get him to kiss ME?
Q. I've been going out with a guy that I really like for three months. This is extremely pathetic, but he still hasn't kissed me yet... well, just a quick peck on the cheek... I'm worried. People have told me to make the first move. That will probably ...
A. 26 December 2008: This is interesting. In three months this guy has not even initiated a kiss? Since I always kiss on the first date, and maybe more, I'm at a loss for words about this guy. My best guess is that at some point when you are alone and in a comfortable ... (read in full...)
I'd like to do oral sex but my g/f has bad smell
Q. i've been with my partner a while now, we are very close and have a great relationship. however i have been wanting to perform oral sex on her for a long time but have always been put off from the smell. i understand it's natural and i would prob...
A. 26 December 2008: The previous, anonymous female reader offers superb advice.... (read in full...)
No responce from ex after I sent him Christmas greeting...
Q. My b/f and I broke up about 2 months ago, we had no contact for almost 7 weeks. Our breakup wasn't overly negative. The past week, I've debating whether or not to send him a Christmas greeting. Anyway, I finally decided to do it. So on Christmas ...
A. 26 December 2008: He may consider your messages kind of a weakness on your part, meaning that you he thinks you may regret the breakup. But he wishes to show strength and ignore you. Either he is playing games, or really has not received the messages - or he may ... (read in full...)
Penis size opinions - help
Q. Hello to everyone. I am about to have sex with my girlfriend and I am really concerned about the size of my penis.It's about 4-4,5 inches in length and about 4,5 inches in girth when erect. I am quite fat for my age (21), about 246 pounds (for BMI...
A. 25 December 2008: All that I have read about this indicates that weight reduction would allow more penetration, because some of the excess weight usually pads the area just above the crotch. More importantly, in order to satisfy a woman, learn about oral sex ... (read in full...)
I'd like to do oral sex but my g/f has bad smell
Q. i've been with my partner a while now, we are very close and have a great relationship. however i have been wanting to perform oral sex on her for a long time but have always been put off from the smell. i understand it's natural and i would prob...
A. 25 December 2008: One more comment about this from DoubleM: A douche is not a good thing as "MommyOfOne" noted. It upsets the natural balance of a woman's vagina by removing some of the beneficial bacteria, and thereby creates other problems. Some folks thought that ... (read in full...)
Oral sex on a girl?
Q. how do you perform oral sex on a girl?...
A. 24 December 2008: There are some rather good suggestions in the archives of this Web site. Simply enter such words as "oral sex" and "cunnilingus" in the search field above. ... (read in full...)
I'd like to do oral sex but my g/f has bad smell
Q. i've been with my partner a while now, we are very close and have a great relationship. however i have been wanting to perform oral sex on her for a long time but have always been put off from the smell. i understand it's natural and i would prob...
A. 24 December 2008: Sometimes it does not take long for a woman's vagina to gain a fairly strong stench. She may have bathed before a date, for instance, but after just a couple of hours sitting through a movie, or particularly dancing and drinking, she will probably ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 still a virgin, should I go to a prostitute even though I'm afraid of the risks?
Q. What I'm about to share with you may seem to be an absurd and juvenile concern that is unworthy of your attention and time, but nevertheless, it's important for me to discuss it with those who might be in a position to empathise with me and offer ...
A. 24 December 2008: Of course NOT a loser. We live in a much trashier world than when I was young, although I came up with the "hippie generation" of the 1960s. and we were reportedly rather groundbreaking. Well if you go back yet another generation, most folks were ... (read in full...)
Do I need to see a shrink?
Q. Two problems really; one is rather embarrassing and shamefull, and I am sure that people will think I am a freak after reading the other one..... Problem 1: I am aged 29, and still a virgin. You heard that correctly! I have never had any girlfrie...
A. 23 December 2008: It is okay to be virginal at 29, but it's about time to jump into the pool. Study up on dating techniques and meeting women - I'll bet there are plenty of tips online. But mainly, wherever you are among women, show confidence, talk with them and ... (read in full...)
Why do older men think they have a chance with younger girls?
Q. ok i'm a 22 year old woman and i have a question about old men, like 40+. basically why do they try and flirt with us younger girls, why on earth would we be interested in someone who is old enough to be our fathers?! seriously, i hate it when i a...
A. 22 December 2008: Life is short, and you will soon enough be classified an "older woman." Why do some "old" women flirt with much younger men as if they have a chance? Because they do, and they are called cougars. A famous example is Cher, who has consistently been ... (read in full...)
Going insane with narcissism?
Q. Back in highschool I was in an on again off again relationship with a girl who I thought was perfect for me (minus a few social ideological issues) and because of my greater interest in that relationship I eventually was dumped for another guy... ...
A. 22 December 2008: As a mature individual and citizen of the United States of America, you are entitled to be the person you want to be - but it does sound like you are destined for a rather lonely life. There is nothing wrong with having a reasonable amount of pride ... (read in full...)
How hard should I try to pursue this? She's younger and I'm still legally married.
Q. My situation is quite complicated and the question is at the end. The primary problem is I am head over heels for a young woman at work. I am 17 years her elder. I am a professional Firefighter and Paramedic and she is about to complete her ...
A. 22 December 2008: You really know the answer to this. Let all things settle down. If it is ever meant to be, it will eventually happen, but at this point you would be throwing gasoline on a fire - and you know it.... (read in full...)
Do men just view women as sex on legs?
Q. Question for the guys, well i live on a main road and cant even cross the road with out being told to show my tits or being tooted at. Im 18 and i get 30 to 50 year olds doing it not just young guys and it makes me sick. I feel like all guys think ...
A. 22 December 2008: You are correct that perhaps a slight majority of men - particularly when younger and among peers - are crude, rude and disrespectful of reasonably attractive females. It's basically a sort of mob mentality spurred-on largely by a childish need to ... (read in full...)
Sleeping with an ex what does it mean?
Q. When u still sleep with an ex does it mean that there are still feelings between the 2 of them, even tho u split a month and a half ago? Thats what me and my ex are doing, and a lot of people we know down the club we go to, say that you both wou...
A. 22 December 2008: It depends, to a large degree, on why the breakup occurred. If serious enough that no reconciliation or future is possible, then it is wise to work at ending a lingering sexual dependence. It is rather common and understandable, I think, that ... (read in full...)
What can we do to save our marriage?
Q. I really need some opinion on this case. My husband is impotent with me at the last fews years. He has no desire, and finally when we try to have sex he stays soft. But not because he is MEDICALLY SICK... He had all the medical check ups, he is no...
A. 21 December 2008: First of all, has he been taking prescription medications? Particularly for hypertension? Although I would not want to jump to any conclusions, I must also wonder whether you have seen any evidence that your husband watches pornography, or if you ... (read in full...)
I need sex tips!
Q. hi im 35 and have started a relationship and the sex is good but im not very experiaced and my partner keeps asking me to go on top off him during sex but i dont know what to do in that position ive never been on top b4 during sex and im embarrased ...
A. 21 December 2008: Getting on top, often called woman-on-top or cowgirl style, is really not difficult at all. Although I'm a man, I've been a partner in this position an unknown number of times in the last 45 years or so. In fact, it was always a favorite for myself ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 still a virgin, should I go to a prostitute even though I'm afraid of the risks?
Q. What I'm about to share with you may seem to be an absurd and juvenile concern that is unworthy of your attention and time, but nevertheless, it's important for me to discuss it with those who might be in a position to empathise with me and offer ...
A. 20 December 2008: Your situation continues to intrigue me, and I wish to help. First of all, for you to consider yourself outdated in your age group is absurd. You even suggested that lack of sexual activity in the near future could result in "suffering from various ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 still a virgin, should I go to a prostitute even though I'm afraid of the risks?
Q. What I'm about to share with you may seem to be an absurd and juvenile concern that is unworthy of your attention and time, but nevertheless, it's important for me to discuss it with those who might be in a position to empathise with me and offer ...
A. 20 December 2008: Please allow me to add a bit to my previous very brief suggestion. Your decision is obviously yours to make. You are in Australia, I'm in Texas. There is no way that I can know your surroundings, including the availability of women where you live. ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 still a virgin, should I go to a prostitute even though I'm afraid of the risks?
Q. What I'm about to share with you may seem to be an absurd and juvenile concern that is unworthy of your attention and time, but nevertheless, it's important for me to discuss it with those who might be in a position to empathise with me and offer ...
A. 20 December 2008: No.... (read in full...)
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