This guy hates me and I don't know why! How can I fix this?
Q. I am 14 years old and a 9th grader in High School. My first boyfriend just broke up with me and I'm crushed. One of the reasons he broke up with me is that his best friend doesn't like me. I know he hates me. He's been mean and has hated me ...
A. 16 November 2010: If his friend is not willing to meet up with you then i think that the best thing you can do here is to accept that he doesnt want to talk to you and just avoid him, dont write to him anymore and just move on and accept that he will never be a ... (read in full...)
When I finally started moving on, he's back in my life!
Q. hey every1 !!! how's it goin?!!! im a 17 year old girl who has this 1 problem in her life. for almost a year,i loved this boy who seemed intersted in me too cause he was always staring at me and he tried to reach me so many times.but none o...
A. 16 November 2010: I say go for it but you need to get over your shyness first or you are never going to get him, because you being shy probably comes across to him like you are being ignorant and dont like him, so when you see him smile and ask him how he is. Ask him ... (read in full...)
My friends are racist against my boyfriend!
Q. I am a Afican American girl and I have a Hungarian and Puerto Rican...Recently I over heard some of my "friends" talking about him...in a racist way. They said "I always knew she would go with a white guy" "That is so freaking nasty" "I couldn't ...
A. 16 November 2010: You are 100% right, some people are just so ignorant when it comes to race, at the end of the day we are all the same no matter what colour religion or gender we are. Its sad to hear that there are still people out there who are racist. Colour ... (read in full...)
Once they prove it's his child, does he have to fork over for the medical bills?
Q. My husband got another girl pregnant and im being told that once they prove it is his child, we will be expected to pay back all the medical bills. Do you know if this is true? We live in NV and she is using free clinics for medical now. ...
A. 16 November 2010: If she is using free clinics for medical expenses then no, but whatever she has paid out towards medical expenses for the child then your husband will have to pay half of these bills right up until the child is 18. He will also have to pay ... (read in full...)
Crossing the border.
Q. My long distance boyfriend recently asked me to marry him on our last visit together. Unfortunatly my family has not been very supportive of my good news as it means I'll be moving from my home in Canada to his in the Southern USA. Im very much in ...
A. 16 November 2010: Am sure in time they will understand and be happy for you, they just dont want you to leave because they will miss you thats all and they are probably going to be worried about you, but they need to let you go and be happy, ensure them that you will ... (read in full...)
I want to test the waters!
Q. Cupid.... Im a male 20 year old virgin student and kinda happy with my life and the momment.... for the last 5/6 years ive been single mostly but also been attracted to girls and guys.... (im not ugly, well i wouldnt say so, im not fat or anyth...
A. 16 November 2010: Hi it could mean that you are bisexual but that your feelings are more towards woman than men, maybe you need to get it out of your system though. Are there any groups at your college for gays and bisexuals? Maybe you could join one of these as they ... (read in full...)
Dreams, what do they mean?
Q. well our relationship is done now from over 6 monthes but i'm still love him and i dreamed of him kissing me 3 times i don"t konw what does this mean help me i'm confused monthes ago he told me he dreamed of me under a tree reading a book what ...
A. 15 November 2010: It just means that you are thinking of him, you obviously still like him and therefore he is in your head and when you go to sleep it is playing in your dreams as he is in your head.... (read in full...)
My married lover skipped town!
Q. I was involved with a married man for 3 yrs.He always said he does not want to be committed to me.I did not believe him because his actions spoke volumes.He wanted to see me all the time. He became very possessive of me and was extremely jealous of ...
A. 15 November 2010: What a mess you got yourself in to hear, am sorry but i just dont agree with cheating in a marriage, what about your poor children and your husband?
Ok so you have made a mistake now you need to try and make it right, its probably for the best tha... (read in full...)
For all the young mothers, will I be throwing away my life by having kids at a young age?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend and am madly in love with him as when i first laid eyes on him, it sure was love at first sight for both of us. I never wanted kids but am getting really broody lately - he tells me he wants me to have his baby and it ...
A. 15 November 2010: hi well am not a young mum but i have a lot of friends who had children very young. Have you both been in this relationship for long? First of 19 is quite young to have children you should be out enjoying yourself. If you really feel the need to ... (read in full...)
Should I contact her to see how she's getting on?
Q. I was going out with my girlfriend for over 3 years. We started dating in college, and at the start I loved everything about our relationship: she was pretty, we got on very well together, never fought, we got on well with each others friends and we ...
A. 15 November 2010: well really it all depends on do you want to get back with her? If you do then contact her and ask her if she would like to keep in touch and take things slowely and get to know each other again but you need to be honest with her and tell her the ... (read in full...)
I can't get no, satisfaction. But I try!
Q. I'm 18 years old and bisexual. The problem is that whenever I'm with one gender, I end up missing the other like mad. For example, if I'm with a man, I miss women, and vice versa. I'm dating a beautiful woman who I care a lot about, and we have ...
A. 15 November 2010: Ok you need to sort your head out here and ask yourself what sort of attention are you looking for from a male? If it is sexual then i suggest that you finish things and try and sort your head out and figure out what you want.
Ask yourself... (read in full...)
Am I meant for relationships?
Q. My question is am i compatible with relationships. Every time i get into a relationship i end up feeling really tied down and don't want to go on with in the first week or two. It's kind of repetitive, i'll actually like someone then i just want to ...
A. 15 November 2010: hi well your behaviour is quite normal for a 16 year old, most guys your age dont want to be in a relationship, so you know what just enjoy yourself and enjoy your freedom, there is plenty of time ahead of you for dating, people rush in to ... (read in full...)
I don't like myself.
Q. I think I need help but don't know where to go or who is the best person to talk to? I know I have self esteem problems and I cant seem to be able to get to the point where I like myself and I know I am not a horrible person and I should like ...
A. 15 November 2010: Hi ok first of am sure the reason men dont stick with you because you are ugly the reason here is you have no self confidence or belief and you worry to much, and darling if you were a model you would still chase men away with this sort of behavior, ... (read in full...)
What do I do to remedy being bored and moody with my girlfriend?
Q. We are a really cute couple. We've been dating for a few months, but we've liked each other for a really long time. Background: I'm 20, she's 18. Anyway, it seems like when we hang out, we can never find anything to talk about. We kiss a lot, and ...
A. 15 November 2010: I think that you both just need to do other things besides walking around and talking am sure there are plenty of activites for you both to do, go to the movies, go for dinner, go swimming, go bowling theres plenty of fun activities out there, it ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend disappeared on me & is now in a new relationship
Q. I was in a long distance relationship with a guy who I fell head over heels in love with. He lived an hour and half train journey from where I live. This lasted a full year and I spent a lot of time visiting him , and he would also come to visit me ...
A. 15 November 2010: wow you are well rid of him, that is such a horrible thing to do to anyone, he is a coward and he didnt even care about hurting you.
im so sorry that you have had to go through this and am sure this new information ahs just set you back. You need... (read in full...)
Sex starved marriage
Q. I am lost, i have been married for 12 years and together with my wife for 14. I have 2 great kids 2 and 8 who i love to death. My issue is for about the last 4 years my marriage is missing the love and affection i need. My day to day is good go to ...
A. 15 November 2010: Ok first of you are not selfish we all need love and affection to keep a relationship going so dont worry. Ok so it is common that after children some women just lose ther libido and they just cant get turned on enough to want to have sex, also she ... (read in full...)
Should I have to convert to a faith that I don't even believe in?
Q. Well my boyfriend is Catholic and I am Baptist and we have been only dating for 1 month but we already have stong feelings for eachother...Soo last night we were talking about stuff ya know the usaual then he asked me what religion I was...and then ...
A. 15 November 2010: No you shouldnt have to do this for anyone, i know plenty of people that are married with different religions you can get married at a registry office. But darling its to soon for you to be worrying about things like this, its only been a month and ... (read in full...)
I was so close to me and my ex getting back together and I feel like I ruined it.
Q. I need help, I was so close to me and my ex getting back together and I feel like I ruined it. I went over and accused him of so much more than the situation really was. I told him I hated him from the bottom of my heart, that i would have sex with ...
A. 15 November 2010: Ok well its good that you are going to get help with your issues that is the first step good for you. Ok as for your ex you have wrote to him now and you have apologised for your behavior, the first part of your piece to him wont make sence to ... (read in full...)
He's married, but I want him! What should I do?
Q. hi, am a 37 yeas old woman never been married am in a relationship with a married man 4 years ago. we are both really in love. he has a 5 year old boy and has been married for 10 years but he doesn't love her. he says there is nothing keeping him ...
A. 15 November 2010: Off course there is something missing, he is not yours and if am honest sweetie your just someone he goes to for sex and a bit of fun on the side, if he hasnt left his wife at this stage he never will, its silly to stay with someone you dont love ... (read in full...)
I like this guy in my office...how can I get him to notice me?
Q. hi i never have any luck with men and i really like this guy in my office. we say hello when we pass each other in the hallway but thats about it...we sit at opposite ends of the office, how can i get him to notice me and get chatting??...
A. 15 November 2010: Take it in small steps, go from saying hello to asking him how his day is and so on. Smile at him everytime you see him.
If he doesnt seem to take the hint then just pluck up your courage and ask him would he like to go out for coffee sometime... (read in full...)
Little bumps in the road.
Q. Things between my Fiance and myself have not been as good as they used to be, lately. It's been five years together, we have a house and a 3 year old daughter. Im having a hard time trusting him. Im not positive of infidelity, however there have ...
A. 15 November 2010: Well good for you, you handled the situation very maturely but just make sure that he doesnt think you are a push over, tell him he needs to work on building up his trust again.
I understand we all get crushes even when we are in relation... (read in full...)
This guy hates me and I don't know why! How can I fix this?
Q. I am 14 years old and a 9th grader in High School. My first boyfriend just broke up with me and I'm crushed. One of the reasons he broke up with me is that his best friend doesn't like me. I know he hates me. He's been mean and has hated me ...
A. 15 November 2010: Hi you need to sit down with your ex and ask him why his best friend dislikes you so much, he might be able to tell you more, explain to him that you have never done anything wrong and you dont deserve to be treated like this. 14 year old boys are ... (read in full...)
After 4 years of dating he avoids me! I need help to get over him!
Q. I had a boy friend with whom i had steady relationship for 4yrs.After that when our college was over(after 4yrs) he stopped talking 2 me and started avoiding me..whatever i ask him he is just taking it too easy which i couldn't tolerate finally ...
A. 15 November 2010: He needs to tell you why he is avoiding you something must have happened after 4 years for him just to start ignoring you, he is being a coward by avoiding you and not telling you.
Tell him that you need closure to be able to move on from him... (read in full...)
We have different libidos how can I change that?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months now. My question is in regards to our sex life. I feel like I want sex too much, several times a day but I'm content with just once before bed. Thing is, I never feel like he wants it. He never touches ...
A. 15 November 2010: I think you just need to be completely honest with him, tell him that you feel like you do all the chasing and it makes you think that sometimes he doesnt want to have sex with you he is just doing it because you want it. Be honest with him its the ... (read in full...)
Why is she signing "with love" to another guy?
Q. okay so I told my gf about a problem befor and how this guy always comment her on facebook as she is my wifey, So I askd her about it and told her just to get rid of him on her facebook. But recently she added him back and I read a comment saying...
A. 15 November 2010: If it is really bothering you that much then sit her down and ask her again what is the story with him, if she has said to you before that she doesnt know who this guy is then yes i'l give it to you it is a bit dodgy that she would be writing to a ... (read in full...)
Do men enjoy having sex for the first time?
Q. this question is mostly for men but women are welcome. Do men enjoy the first time they have sex unlike woman? or do they have some pain just like woman's pain when her hymen is being broken? i also want to know whether men like girls who are not ...
A. 15 November 2010: Hi it really depends on the man, there is nothing that a man has to break in order to lose his virginity like a women so therefore technically it wont hurt unless he does something wrong. On a mans first time, he might enter at the wrong angle and ... (read in full...)
How long do you wait for someone you love?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly three years.. It has been a rocky relationship, but everything has finally smoothed out over the last 5-6 months and had been going great.. Well a little over a week ago she told me that she...
A. 15 November 2010: Hi if you want my honest opinion thsi girl actually sounds quite genuine to me. You said she is going to a councellor well most councellors would recommend that if someone needs self help that they should make space in there current relationship and ... (read in full...)
What did having a threesome do to your relationship?
Q. Hi there. I am really interested to know if there is anyone on this site who has tried threesomes. I am not talking about trying for the first time or thinking about it - but am interested in hearing from people who can look back on the experience ...
A. 15 November 2010: Personally if you are in a relationship then i think threesomes are wrong and that they lead to trouble. Ok i know everyone has there own opinion and even though there might be a couple who are both up to trying it, i could almost bet by the end of ... (read in full...)
Why is she signing "with love" to another guy?
Q. okay so I told my gf about a problem befor and how this guy always comment her on facebook as she is my wifey, So I askd her about it and told her just to get rid of him on her facebook. But recently she added him back and I read a comment saying...
A. 15 November 2010: so what exactly has she done to you then? am sorry but she is allowed to have male friends and i think you took it a step far by asking her to delete him from her facebook, this is childish, if you want to be in a mature and serious relationship ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to set up a porn site for my boyfriend?
Q. Hi everyone! I need a little help please. My boyfriend of 3 years is currently overseas on business, his been there for about 4 months now. We chat whenever we really can, both of us are business people and spend a lot of time on our businesses. We ...
A. 15 November 2010: Well the thing with setting up a website for your boyfriend is that if someone types porn in to google or any other search engine your website will come up and you will be sharing everything with many others out there and this will result in your ... (read in full...)
How do women define maturity?
Q. Why do women put so much importance on a guy's hobbies and possessions to decide if he is "mature" or not? To me, maturity should have nothing to do with anything as superficial as collecting action figures, reading comics, not owning a car for ...
A. 15 November 2010: Am sorry but you are very quick here to judge what women want in a man, ok so its obvious you have met women who want these things in a guy but that doesnt mean that we all want that and you shouldnt be so quick to judge on that either.
Every... (read in full...)
How can I help him be a man to satisfy me?
Q. i'm not satisfied at all when my boyfried make love to me.i've told him my problem but it still the same.The problem is he gets tied easly.we only take 3 to 4 minutes thats all.what worries me is that i dont wanna live him because i love him so ...
A. 15 November 2010: You said he gets tired to soon? Well then why dont you get on top and do some of the work let him lie back and you get on top of him, also besides intercourse there is plenty of ways to get a woman satisfied, make sure that the both of you enjoy ... (read in full...)
After 5 years and 2 kids, I kissed another man and I think there is something there
Q. iam 24 yrs old and my partner of 5 yrs is 45, we have two children together, however a week ago, i went to a party and kissed another guy, not a random a friend, ive never cheated before and although at the time it was amazing, i felt sooo guilty ...
A. 15 November 2010: Well first of well done on your honesty to your partner that must have taken a lot of courage to do so good on you.
Ok so you need to ask yourself what is lacking in your current relationship that would make you want to think about another ... (read in full...)
I want to be happy too, but with her!
Q. my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 weeks now. I thought that NC would do both of us some good and i have maintained NC for about 8 weeks. However the other day she talked to me again and said that she has a new boyfriend for about 8 weeks ...
A. 15 November 2010: The thing is you will continue to keep getting better and better. Sometimes we say to some people in life that we will love them forever and we truely mean it at the time, but am afraid people can just easily fall out of love as well even though ... (read in full...)
Guy friend troubles?
Q. Hey, I'm 18. I met this guy in my university lectures two weeks ago. I've started to like him a lot as a friend, and maybe as a crush. And I know he likes me back too. I didn't reveal to anyone that I liked him whatsoever. However, my ...
A. 14 November 2010: This was a hell of a lot of stuff to happen in such a short space of two weeks. If you like him and you think your friend is trying to get there first then you need to get your thinking cap on and find a way to win him over, get to know his likes ... (read in full...)
Parents can't stand my girlfriend!
Q. my parents don't like my girlfriend. so how can i make them like her...
A. 14 November 2010: Ok well first off give a bit of background, why do they not like her? What are there reasons and is there anything that can be done to resolve these issues?... (read in full...)
Should I let her go to deal with my own demons?
Q. i been i a relationship for close to 5 years and see to go nowhere it a long distance relationship but i vist every weekend. few month she said that she wanted to leave. ive bought her a home for her and her 3 kids to live paid all the bill and she ...
A. 14 November 2010: I already answered this query. ... (read in full...)
Love behind bars!
Q. Hello, I have a question is it bad to date someone who has been to prison in the past for fighting or any reason ,but now is a new person?...
A. 14 November 2010: No its not bad at all, everybody deserves a second chance and a happy future, am sure he has learned from his mistakes and its good to see someone turn there life around.... (read in full...)
I bought her a house and proposed, she's still not happy!
Q. i been i a relationship with my girlfriend for close to 6 years. and no matter what i do she does not seem to be happy. i bought a house for her and her kids to live in. ive asked her to marry me. but she is still un happy. she doe not help me with ...
A. 14 November 2010: hi yes i think you should just walk away. It sounds to me like she is just using you for money and security.
But however if you really want to work on this relationship then she needs to sort her life out, maybe her past relationship has caused h... (read in full...)
I can't stop this flirting!
Q. my problem is that i can't stop flirting with my colleagues, sometimes i get good response and sometimes bad. i keep falling in flirting thing, even though i'm not interested in sexual relation, i don't want and i didn't ask for any kind of rela...
A. 14 November 2010: Hi well am guessing that it is just your personality. Lots of married men and women flirt but they dont mean any harm and they have no intention on cheating its just who they are. Im afraid there is not a lot you can do except try and stopping the ... (read in full...)
Should I ring him, I don't want to seem needy?
Q. ok this is my first real mature relationship, with a guy, yes ive had relationships bfore but not like this, hes older then me by 9 yrs though i feel like hes my age, i dont notice the age difference except that he is very busy in business and work ...
A. 14 November 2010: I think that you should ring him, its in no way being needy at all, in fact it shows him that you care about him and that you are thinking about him. So ring him. Needy is when a girl rings or sms every five minutes and asks a thousand questions and ... (read in full...)
I want to be happy too, but with her!
Q. my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 weeks now. I thought that NC would do both of us some good and i have maintained NC for about 8 weeks. However the other day she talked to me again and said that she has a new boyfriend for about 8 weeks ...
A. 13 November 2010: I think it would be best to just not contact her in the future, let her contact you, she is the one that broke up with you so this tells me that she has met someone else and doesnt want you in her life anymore, if she wanted you she wouldnt have ... (read in full...)
I want to be happy too, but with her!
Q. my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 weeks now. I thought that NC would do both of us some good and i have maintained NC for about 8 weeks. However the other day she talked to me again and said that she has a new boyfriend for about 8 weeks ...
A. 13 November 2010: I think you need to accept that things are over, try having no contact again but accept that it is over and you need to move on, get out with your friends get it all out of your system and dont contact her, just remember you broke up for a reason ... (read in full...)
Little bumps in the road.
Q. Things between my Fiance and myself have not been as good as they used to be, lately. It's been five years together, we have a house and a 3 year old daughter. Im having a hard time trusting him. Im not positive of infidelity, however there have ...
A. 13 November 2010: yes you do have a right to worry and be angry, ok so he might not have the intentions of meeting these girls but he is still lying to you and probably flirting with them online, i think you need to tell him what you found and that you are finding it ... (read in full...)
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