I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me! What can I say to him that I havent said already?
Q. i feel like i'm unappreciated. i always organise days out with my boyfriend and i always sort out tickets and transport and times. he just says yes! but he when it comes down to paying, all he does again is say yes.. he never actually p...
A. 18 November 2010: Exactly let him get some exercise for him it will be good for him, and also you dont ask him to buy you these things therefore he shouldnt throw that back in your face. If you chose to buy him something every now and again then you shouldnt expect ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm wreaking everyone's lives!
Q. i left my wife 2 yrs ago after a long marriage that went wrong and met up with a girl i had gone out with 18 yrs earlier , she is a lovely girl but took alot of flac from my mood swings after me trying to get over the marriage. She then caught me ...
A. 18 November 2010: Wow you really are a gluten for punishment arent you, you were really lucky for your girlfriend to forgive you when she was 8 months pregnant if that was me i would have kicked you out by your backside and told you never to come near me again, the ... (read in full...)
His ex still runs a business in his house, what the heck?!?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been seeing this incredibly cute, sweet and well mannered guy for the past month. We see each other about twice a wk and he's wonderful about scheduling dates a wk ahead of time - I just love that!! He's what I want in soooo ma...
A. 18 November 2010: Hmm this sounds suspitcious, if he was over her, i really think he would have all the photos down and tell her that she needs to find somewere else for her business because he needs to get on with his life.
Sit down with him and ask him to be ho... (read in full...)
Help! Having boyfriend trouble...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and I am confused as to what is going on. I havent been in a serious relationship in a long time and I dont know what to do. My boyfriend and I dont see each other that often he lives about an ...
A. 18 November 2010: You need to be able to be strong enough to deal with a long distance relationship, even though he only lives an hour away you both have busy schedules and it means not getting to see each other all that much, i totally understand why you are feeling ... (read in full...)
Why is the breaking up bothering me now?
Q. I went to a counsellor to try to sort out some of the problems I've had in my life and I didn't find it helpful at all. I thought I did then I realised that it didn't change anything or change how I felt about myself. I feel like everything is ...
A. 18 November 2010: I guess after this lad dumped you it made old feelings return and that is why you are now slowely creeping backwards instead of forwards, ok so you feel councelling didnt work for you at all? Hmm well if this didnt work for you i really dont know ... (read in full...)
Due to recovery for surgery I haven't seen her in weeks. Will she still like me?
Q. There is a girl in my class, I really like her. It seems to me that she likes me, but I haven't been able to tell. We always hang out together and I even walk to her locker with her sometimes. I already know that she doesn't have a boyfriend right ...
A. 18 November 2010: Ok so im taking it that you cant contact her at the moment because your cell phone is not working? Ok two and a half weeks is not that long really am sure it feels like a life time to you because you are away from school. nobody can tell you if she ... (read in full...)
Is he over his ex girlfriend?
Q. I reciently found out my guy best friend and myself like each other. One day we were on his bed and he just kind of told me. I knew I liked him for a while now, so I obviously said how I felt about him. He always says he really likes me alot and I ...
A. 18 November 2010: Ok first of stop blaming his best friend, he is telling you the truth this guy is not over his ex right now, therefore that is the reason he doesnt want a relationship with you. He needs time to get over her and you probably are helping him achieve ... (read in full...)
We're more like room mates than husband and wife...
Q. My huusband and I have been married for 16 years. We've had a lot of ups and downs. September 4th was the last time we split up but we've always got back together. This time we said that was it! He moved out, got his own place, then wanted me to ...
A. 18 November 2010: hmm it sounds to me like this guy wants the best of both worlds, he left your home to be a single man and make a life for himself again and he probably found that it is not what he expected and he got lonely living on his own, therefore am guessing ... (read in full...)
Why did he not believe me when I told him I'd never had sex before???
Q. Hey, I am 29 years old and have not technically ever had sex. When I was 14 i was sexually molested and had my virginity taken away from me. I used to finger myself to get off but more so enjoy using a vibrator on my clitoris now. Whenever I am m...
A. 18 November 2010: Just because your vagina gets wet does not make it look like you are not a virgin, ok first off its normal to get wet and there is nothing you can do to stop this and you shouldnt want to stop this because as i said it is normal.
Im sure he had j... (read in full...)
Is my ex playing games???
Q. Hi, is my ex playing games? We broke up, 2 weeks later she's staying and sleeping in another girl's bed. She has been staying at a girl's place for 4 days now, she's told me they've done nothing. She's been sleeping in the same bed as her ...
A. 18 November 2010: Dont move in with an ex, it is the worst thing that you can do believe me, it will kill you if you move in hoping to get back together with her and you are stuck in a room and her next door sleeping with another girl just dont do it.
Ok so she m... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me! What can I say to him that I havent said already?
Q. i feel like i'm unappreciated. i always organise days out with my boyfriend and i always sort out tickets and transport and times. he just says yes! but he when it comes down to paying, all he does again is say yes.. he never actually p...
A. 18 November 2010: Actions speak louder than words so from now on show him that he cant just keep walking all over you, because sweetie that is exactly what he is doing, and you are still buying him the stuff therefore he aint going to stop walking all over you until ... (read in full...)
He chose his girlfriend over me, should I have tried harder to make him want me or did I do the right thing by walking away?
Q. So this is on my mind and has happened a while ago I just wanna make sure I'm doing the right thing. I met a really great guy he is everything I ever want in one. There are some problems around this and that is we are both in relationships, mine is ...
A. 18 November 2010: Hi honestly you done the right thing here, i dont know why so many people in this world cheat at the moment, its wrong wrong wrong, do people have no self respect left anymore, or care that they are breaking someones heart and probably leave them ... (read in full...)
I thought I wanted to move on from my ex but now I'm not so sure?
Q. Im seein this guy and have been for only a couple of months and hes already said he loves me because i am the first girl to treat him with respect. I have told him i am not in love with him and hes noticed ive been feeling down so i ended up ...
A. 18 November 2010: Just keep strong and as for the guy you just finished with try and limit contact with him because he will need time to get over you so try and ignore his calls or texts as much as you can. You dont need to tell your parents about wanting to get back ... (read in full...)
It is so close to our wedding but we both have doubts! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was in love with a guy.We are in relationship since 2yrs now.We decided to get married.He used to do all lovely things to me.Very caring,Affectinate,Not at all aggressive and all.Everything was so smooth and going pretty well. Suddenly ...
A. 18 November 2010: Cerberus is right you need to tell your parents what has happened and tell them that you need time to get your head around this, if you are forced in to this marriage it will only make things so much worse for you, you and your partner need time ... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex know I want him to feature more in our daughter's life?
Q. I had a love child with a married man and she is now 2 years old. It was a mistake but shes here to stay and is a lovely kid. He has never met her but we live quite close and she will go to the same school as his 4 year old. He has seen us in town ...
A. 18 November 2010: I guess he is pretending that she doesnt exsist therefore he wont get attached to her, if he spend some time with her then am guessing he would feel something but at the moment he is scared of his wife finding out therefore he is just wishing that ... (read in full...)
We're back together and he's dating other women too!
Q. My boyfriend is dating other women. We've been together (on and off) for 6 years now. He told me that he's involved with others a few months after our relationship started and I always thought that when we'll get to know each other he'll stop. He ...
A. 18 November 2010: Yes you have invested to much, but you need to give up now because you have let him think it is ok to be with other women so he is never going to change for you now never, he will never respect you and he will leave you when the one girl comes along ... (read in full...)
How do I end my marriage without the emotional blackmail?
Q. I have been married for nearly 2 years and have just busted my hubby for cheating. My husband is awaiting a transplant (kidney) and has numerous other medical conditions so we have had a pretty tough time including dealing with infertillity and his ...
A. 18 November 2010: Dont let him treat you like that, he is threatning this just so you wont leave but it is not fair on you, you need to look after yourself here not him.
Tell him that he has hurt you that he has throwing away your trust and that you need to seper... (read in full...)
Lost without my lover but I can't leave my partner.
Q. So confused who or if im in love I had an affair with a girl 14 years yonger than me yet we think the same and act the same. we have been on and of for over 2 years. We both love cuddles and sex is great we are so hooked up. I have tried en...
A. 18 November 2010: Well am afraid you just need to make a desicion here which one you want to be with. you can have both, its not fair on your partner or your lover you are going to hurt one of them no matter what but stop cheating on your partner until you make up ... (read in full...)
He tells me I'm running from a relationship yet we have been dating for the past month and a half!
Q. I am more of the type of person to go from one guy to another and just have fun. Recently though I met this guy and he is really sweet and everything but I just am not used to steady relationships. He tells me I am running from a damn relationship ...
A. 18 November 2010: Well you say you spend your time making out with him, do you do other things as a couple like go to the movies, go on dates, take romanantic walks hand in hand, these are probably the things he wants, talk to him about it be honest, tell him you are ... (read in full...)
He dumped me but is trying to talk to me under a false screen name?
Q. ok my ex boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago im deeply inlove with this guy and hes acted like it didnt bother him 2 weeks after the break up i star gettin private calls back to back nonstop (i know its him) so one day on aim i get a im ...
A. 18 November 2010: He is checking up on you, it doesnt mean that he wants you back he is just checking probably to make sure that you arent with any other guys because even when a guy breaks up with a girl and moves on he still likes to think that he was her last ... (read in full...)
After being caught, how often do married men go back to their affair?
Q. how often do men go back to the woman they have had an affair with? After 17 years of marriage my husband had an affair with a colleague. He is a director of a company and it would be difficult to just leave, so still sees her at work. He swears to ...
A. 18 November 2010: Well no wonder you are paranoid he has done it before so what is stopping him do it again? Especially since it sounds like you forgave him for this. I understand that he cant just leave his job but he needs to reassure you as much as he can. Am ... (read in full...)
He inquired about me, does that mean he's interested?
Q. There is a guy in my class who I think is really, really cute. I have thought this from day 1 (When the year started). Now, I don't have the best self esteem so I didn't even bother talking to him or anything as I didn't think I had a chance in ...
A. 18 November 2010: Ok well he was curious for sure but thats a good thing anyway not a bad thing, so you need to try and build up some self asteem because it sounds like he might be a little shy also when he didnt come direct to you and ask you, so next time you see ... (read in full...)
He keeps my belongings and owes me money but says he still loves me?
Q. Im just curious as to what others think about this type of behaviour from men, and if my own conclusions are wrong. When I broke up with my boyfriend he told me he loved me and always will, that he will leave the door to his heart open for me and ...
A. 18 November 2010: Ok i actually think that he does love you but you left him therefore he is trying to use anything he can to see you, first of he told you twice to come around for your things it may have resulted in argument the both times but he is holding your ... (read in full...)
I thought I wanted to move on from my ex but now I'm not so sure?
Q. Im seein this guy and have been for only a couple of months and hes already said he loves me because i am the first girl to treat him with respect. I have told him i am not in love with him and hes noticed ive been feeling down so i ended up ...
A. 18 November 2010: Ok first of lets deal with the ex shall we, ok so he still wears your ring but girls think different to what guys think and it doesnt mean that he still likes you in fact he probably just likes the ring. To him its a ring it doesnt mean that ... (read in full...)
Maybe I'll love him some day?
Q. Forgetting an ex is never easy, especially for me, especially if you have to see your ex every day at school because you're in the same class. I'm 16 and I have to spend with my ex two other years, and I feel I can't actually move on from him. But a ...
A. 18 November 2010: Ok well if you dont like this boy then no dont start dating him as you are not going to magically start likeing him, however if you dont know him that well and you are willing to get to know him as a person then give him a chance. Go out with him ... (read in full...)
Love and duty.
Q. Hello, I'm in need of a lot of advice. I believe my situation is largely my own fault, but the biggest point is that I need to figure out what to do. I'd grown up religious and then in young adulthood grown out of it, was living for each day, wh...
A. 18 November 2010: You poor girl this is an awful situation for you to be in and no you are not selfish and never think that you are, you just want what any person wants, a marriage a home a family that are happy and healthy and in general a happy future, you deserve ... (read in full...)
I was trying to give him $ and he held my hand for a bit, I believe this is flirting?
Q. Hello. Ok doke, here goes. Quick question. How do you know if someone is flirting? There is a man I know, that I see very often when I am working. I see him about three times a day, twice a week. I have known him for three years. At firs...
A. 18 November 2010: Well everyone has there own thoughts about what flirting is if am honest. But a lot of people are just friendly in this way so it doesnt mean that he is flirting with you, it could be just his personality he likes good old banter and he feels ... (read in full...)
Can fibroids on my uterus affect future pregnancies?
Q. just left the doctors office and I found out that I have fibroids on my uterus. My question how can this affect future pregnancies? Im twentynine and want morw kids later...
A. 18 November 2010: Hi well fibroids can lessen your chances of getting pregnant but it doesnt mean that you wont get pregnant again. Some time fibroids can change the shape of your uterus and this can make it harder to get pregnant but your doctor will be able to tell ... (read in full...)
I know about one child out of wedlock but my husband may have another??
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 2 years. When we got married i knew he had a son. When he finally started getting his visitaion he was all excited and i was too because he finally gets to be part of his sons life. he goes down the park one ...
A. 18 November 2010: Ok it does sounds really suspisious that he doesnt want you around when he is spending time with his ex and her son, ok i see why she would want to be there because she is a single mum and she probably doesnt want to leave her son there on his own ... (read in full...)
How can I get my professor to know I'm still interested in him?
Q. I posted a while ago about a situation involving a professor who was interested in me last fall but I think I inadvertently gave him the idea that I wasn't interested. I am in his class again and at first he was treating me badly. He seems to be a ...
A. 17 November 2010: It sounds to me like he is a serial flirt, when he gets her interested in him he will probably give up and move on to another student because at the end of the day he knows he cant do anymore than flirt with a student no matter what age they are ... (read in full...)
How do I get the courage to ask her out?
Q. Hey. I'm sure you get this one a lot. But I can't find any good answers on the internet. Theres a girl called (randomly thinks of name) Ellie. I've had a crush on her for a while now. I can talk to her, and she's great, not like other girls givi...
A. 17 November 2010: Ok first off its never to soon to ask some one to go and watch a movie with you, so next time you are talking to her casually ask her what kind of films is she in to, get talking on that and then ask her is there anything currently in the cinema ... (read in full...)
How can I know if he loves me?
Q. For quite some time I have failed to find someone to love. Being 27 and gay in a country where homosexuality is regarded as a deadly sin, I could hardly find a way to find someone to fall in love with. Eventually, 5 months earlier, I did. He is 17, ...
A. 17 November 2010: Ok you need to remember that he is only 17, he is not even an adult yet, and yes he might be mature for his age and thats great but he is still growing and still finding who he is in life, at 17 he is probably confused and isnt sure if he is gay or ... (read in full...)
Can the guilt of lying actually get worse with time?
Q. Can the guilt of lying actually get worse with time? I'm trying to convince a friend that lying to his partner about something he knows (or he strongly believes) would make her reconsider wanting to be with him, will only get more difficult for him ...
A. 17 November 2010: Yes i agree, if he thinks that he is with the women that he will be with for the rest of his life then he needs to come clean to her as it will just niggle at him for the rest of his life and he will never be able to escape it, your advice to him is ... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex know I want him to feature more in our daughter's life?
Q. I had a love child with a married man and she is now 2 years old. It was a mistake but shes here to stay and is a lovely kid. He has never met her but we live quite close and she will go to the same school as his 4 year old. He has seen us in town ...
A. 17 November 2010: It sounds to me like he is being a coward and would like to pretend that his little girl doesnt even exsist. Am guessing that his wife doesnt know anything about this child therefore he is brushing it under the carpet like it never happened to ... (read in full...)
After ending a two year relationship she's with another guy in less than a week!
Q. After breaking up with me last Thursday, she's already posting pictures online of her with another guy. How do I get over this? This past week has been tough on me, but I've been able to move on fairly well through the support of my friends and f...
A. 17 November 2010: This is always the worst set back on when you are moving on, even if it was after a month or more you would still feel hurt from seeing this.
Am sorry but you just need to accept this, dont go on to her forum or social networking sites online, ... (read in full...)
Am I involved in some kind of affair?
Q. I think I may be involved in an online affair. He is 40, I am 18. We have been talking for over a year now on the internet. Our conversations were strictly about things other than sex in the beginning, but now they are mainly about sex. When we ...
A. 17 November 2010: Yes you are, you need to stop contacting this man, he is married and he is using you for his own sexual fantasies, stop this now before you end up getting caught up in something nasty all together, what if his wife were to findd those pictures and ... (read in full...)
Stay friends with my ex or let her go?
Q. I honestly have very little options, I can stay friends with my ex or just let her go. I care for my ex to the worlds end. I know that and I have always had that feeling for her even before we dated and I was actually interested in other girls. I am ...
A. 17 November 2010: Some people have no friends at all, it sounds like she has a few and all we need in life is a few friends if am honest, the people who claim to have 50 close friends actually arent all that close to them.
You need to think about yourself and your... (read in full...)
He says he didnt cheat, it was just flirting!
Q. I'm a single mom, I'm 23 and I've been dating this guy that I've known (not intimately) for 2 years. We've been dating for a month. He said that he loved me first and he's told my daughter that he loves her. I believe that he's truly genuine and ...
A. 17 November 2010: Ok well its quite hard to say if he cheated or not, but he was drunk and he obviously felt guilty about something he might only have been flirting but he was feel guilty about something anyway thats for sure. You need to talk to him when he is sober ... (read in full...)
Is this normal?
Q. I was just wondering if its normal to have to spread your labia before intercourse? Sometimes if I am not very moist I will have to seperate my labia for my boyfriend and I to have intercourse. I would appreciate any answers. Thankyou!...
A. 17 November 2010: This is probably just because you are not wet enough make sure you both have plenty of foreplay and maybe even use lubrication. Dont worry though all female bodies are different and there is nothing wrong with you.... (read in full...)
I'm unemployed and lonely. Please help!
Q. I seriously hate my life at the moment. I am currently taking a gap year from university due to the fact my parents refused to fund it as I apparently don't deserve it and I had very little savings at the time. I started working full time from ...
A. 17 November 2010: The way the economy is at the moment there are so many young people that just cant afford to go to college and are living of job seekers because there is no work, believe me you are far from the only one that is in this situation to say the least. ... (read in full...)
Should I just throw my feelings out the window?
Q. errr, first time using this, but i thought i might as well try ;//-//; Alright, so just to clear this up, yes I am bisexual. So, there's this one girl that I like alot, and I've liked her for almost a year now. I've already told her I liked he...
A. 17 November 2010: Ok well if you have been friends with this girl for quite a long time then am guessing that you are both quite close, is this girl bisexual as well? If she is then go for it tell her, you have nothing to lose. On the other hand if she is not ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for these hard times to wear off?
Q. So for the past year or so, i got the chance to meet a very special guy from our small school that we both went to. He's three years older than I. We began as friends and nurtured that friendship as we talked more and more, realizing the unique and ...
A. 17 November 2010: Only you can make this choice sweetie, you pretty much broke up with him because you didnt want to have sex with him which is fair enough if that is your beliefs but you should have spoke to him about it, told him your beliefs and gave him a chance ... (read in full...)
It is so close to our wedding but we both have doubts! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was in love with a guy.We are in relationship since 2yrs now.We decided to get married.He used to do all lovely things to me.Very caring,Affectinate,Not at all aggressive and all.Everything was so smooth and going pretty well. Suddenly ...
A. 12 November 2010: Call off the wedding, dont hurt yourself even more by getting married to this man, he doesnt love you, he broke your trust, he cheated on you with another women, how could you forgive that? While you were gettting prepared to marry him he was off ... (read in full...)
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