It is so close to our wedding but we both have doubts! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was in love with a guy.We are in relationship since 2yrs now.We decided to get married.He used to do all lovely things to me.Very caring,Affectinate,Not at all aggressive and all.Everything was so smooth and going pretty well. Suddenly ...
A. 18 November 2010: Cerberus is right you need to tell your parents what has happened and tell them that you need time to get your head around this, if you are forced in to this marriage it will only make things so much worse for you, you and your partner need time ... (read in full...)
Get back with ex or go with new girl who offered support and grew attached?
Q. my ex GF and i want to get back together, or are in the process of sorting out ourselves. we both have realised our mistakes in our old relationship and are having fun dating. however there are a couple of obstacles in the way: - her p...
A. 13 November 2010: yeah i understand that it wouldnt feel so good at the moment but you are doing the right thing until you sort your head out and decide what or who you want in your life, goodluck.... (read in full...)
Is this just a rough patch because of the distance? Or do I just not love him enough?
Q. I feel so lost. Like a horrible girlfriend. Like a horrible person in general, I honestly don't know what to do that Im turning to total strangers for comfort. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and things are serious. The only problem ...
A. 12 November 2010: Thats true, i know you feel like a hypocrite but sometimes we just need to ensure that we are happy, two years apart is a very long time, and you will need a lot of strenght if you are willing to try and work on it, maybe it is best if you both took ... (read in full...)
Get back with ex or go with new girl who offered support and grew attached?
Q. my ex GF and i want to get back together, or are in the process of sorting out ourselves. we both have realised our mistakes in our old relationship and are having fun dating. however there are a couple of obstacles in the way: - her p...
A. 12 November 2010: Ok if you love your ex then let this other girl go its not fair stringing her along as she is probably falling in love with you as we speak and you are going to leave her hurt the way your ex left you hurt, be straight with your friend and tell her ... (read in full...)
Is this just a rough patch because of the distance? Or do I just not love him enough?
Q. I feel so lost. Like a horrible girlfriend. Like a horrible person in general, I honestly don't know what to do that Im turning to total strangers for comfort. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and things are serious. The only problem ...
A. 12 November 2010: Hi well sweetie only you can answer these questions am afraid nobody else can answer them for you. Is it possible that you could move closer to your boyfriend or vice versa because am a true believer that you need to spend quality time with someone ... (read in full...)
I can't switch off my feelings. What should I do?
Q. 3 years ago, i committed adultery and fall in love with a prostitute. eventually, she stop being one on her own accord, and i get friends to teach her how to do massage instead. Then we became romantically involved. Strangely, she ask about Christ ...
A. 12 November 2010: Only you can help yourself here, but have you taken a minute to think about your poor wife and how much this is hurting her? She is the victim in all of this not you. you need to make a choice here you either work on your marriage or you can leave ... (read in full...)
Get back with ex or go with new girl who offered support and grew attached?
Q. my ex GF and i want to get back together, or are in the process of sorting out ourselves. we both have realised our mistakes in our old relationship and are having fun dating. however there are a couple of obstacles in the way: - her p...
A. 12 November 2010: If you really want to get back with your ex then go for it but hiding it from her parents is not the way to go because they will find out and when they do they will just hate you even more for keeping it from them they deserve to know the truth they ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to be with me because of her past relationship! What can I do?
Q. Im in a big trouble. I met a girl on social networking site and we became good friends. We use to send each other messages and talked on the phone also many a times for long long hours. Than finally we met at a place. We were going very good, but ...
A. 12 November 2010: but am afraid it doesnt work like that though, if you have deep feelings for this woman then a friendship is very hard to maintain because your feelings will get in the way and if she meets a new man it will hurt you and you will find it very hard ... (read in full...)
Catching up with an old crush
Q. Well, the good news is that I'll be graduating within in 4 or so weeks. The bad news is that my luck with girls wasn't really good...It doesn't matter, I'm still young. Had a crush my senior year in high school. We would sit at lunch together, ...
A. 12 November 2010: Ok first off dont expect to much to come from this, because you dont want to be let down. Am sure you both have changed as people, we all do change when we go to college we become more independant and we grow in to adults.
Just ask her via face... (read in full...)
It is so close to our wedding but we both have doubts! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was in love with a guy.We are in relationship since 2yrs now.We decided to get married.He used to do all lovely things to me.Very caring,Affectinate,Not at all aggressive and all.Everything was so smooth and going pretty well. Suddenly ...
A. 12 November 2010: Call off the wedding, dont hurt yourself even more by getting married to this man, he doesnt love you, he broke your trust, he cheated on you with another women, how could you forgive that? While you were gettting prepared to marry him he was off ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he is too nice!
Q. I'm having trouble with this new guy i'm going to meet up with. I got this number off a networking site and we've been texting each other for a few weeks. We are now planning to meet up soon but the thing he is a nice guy. I know that any girl wou...
A. 12 November 2010: Ok well just remember that this new guy might be nice but he is not your ex and he is probably not going to treat you the exact same way your ex treated you even though he is a nice guy doesnt mean that his niceness will irritate you like with your ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to be with me because of her past relationship! What can I do?
Q. Im in a big trouble. I met a girl on social networking site and we became good friends. We use to send each other messages and talked on the phone also many a times for long long hours. Than finally we met at a place. We were going very good, but ...
A. 12 November 2010: If she doesnt contact you then you need to accept that it is over and she doesnt want to talk to you, therefore you need to put her in your past and get on with your life, this is not easy for anyone to do, but if you contact her you will probably ... (read in full...)
Is he my rebound?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 19 months (about a month ago) and since then I've met another boy who is really nice and we're now in a relationship together. I still speak to my ex on friendly terms and am arranging to go see him. I was ...
A. 12 November 2010: Yes its a good thing that your not sad but you need to be over someone before you get in to a new relationship because this will just end in someone getting hurt if your not over your ex.... (read in full...)
My professor held my hand?
Q. I'm sorry in advance if this is too long! I'm a 19 year old university student.This semester,I decided to do a project on a specific class,and so I went to the professor's office to discuss the subject of my project with him,as all students have to ...
A. 12 November 2010: he's very good that all i am going to say, he is twisting things so that you question was it your fault, he has you exactly were he wants you and he thinks if he can convince you it was your fault he acted like this then you will be to scared to go ... (read in full...)
Too fat to be loved!
Q. I met my boyfriend(ex) over a year ago... we got along very well spent almost every day together talked for hours and hours and never seemed to care about anyone but ourselves. about 7 months into he he suddenly started to pull away and i felt ...
A. 12 November 2010: Ok for now i think you need to concentrate on you and your baby at the moment, taking him out of the picture set up home for you and your baby it will give you something to focus on, it would probably be better talking to him also and asking him ... (read in full...)
What else can I say other than I'm frustrated?
Q. My "guy friend" says that I need to use more words when we are "playing" around. All I can say is I'm frustrated when he is teasing me. He is a very vocal person and wishes that I would be to when we are "playing". He makes me lose my mind I cant ...
A. 12 November 2010: Well just be honest with him hun, its obviously not your thing just tell him that.... (read in full...)
I wrote her a 3 page letter on how I felt, she never replied!
Q. We broke up on 9/28/10, just before our 4 month anniversary....i have to see her everyday at school. I see her in the hallways, and every 2 days I have one class with her, which is band. About 2 weeks ago she sent me a text saying she still...
A. 11 November 2010: Well being a lesbian is quite hard for a young girl to accept as am sure you know this you had to deal with it but maybe this girl is struggling and she is not sure if she is attracted to girls or boys, i know this is unfair on you because you are ... (read in full...)
Shall I take any further steps to win him over?
Q. hi..so here i am..one of the most active, outgoing, attractive (according to many), intelligent gals in my college...involved in robotics projects, alumni affairs, dance clubs etc in the campus..rubbing shoulders and working at par with guys. ...
A. 11 November 2010: hi its funny how you have all these guys fall at your feet but the one that you want is not ready for a relationship. Well if am honest with you i think it would be better if you gave this guy some space, he stated he is not ready for a commitment ... (read in full...)
Is he my rebound?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 19 months (about a month ago) and since then I've met another boy who is really nice and we're now in a relationship together. I still speak to my ex on friendly terms and am arranging to go see him. I was ...
A. 11 November 2010: Everybody deals with a break up differently there is no specific time frame were you need to be over someone, but you need to make sure that you dont have any feelings for your ex anymore, because as you said you dont want to hurt this new fella, it ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is sexting other women!
Q. I've been in a 2 year relationship. We broke up last June because he had been sexting a Married Woman. Yes, I checked his phone (1st time) and I found the texts. I broke up with him. He claimed that he had done Nothing wrong because it was only ...
A. 11 November 2010: No dont forgive him. He doesnt see that he is doing anything wrong therefore he is going to keep doing it. Off course it is wrong what he is doing, it IS cheating maybe not physically but he is still sending out messages to other women that he wants ... (read in full...)
There's no label on this relationship.
Q. For the past few months, I've been sort of seeing this guy. To be brief, I feel that there some chemistry between us; we have been hanging out together alone and with friends, we've slept together and recently spent the night together. It feels as ...
A. 11 November 2010: Well first off you didnt cheat so dont feel bad or blame yourself, you are not officially a couple just remember that.
Ok so it sounds like its just a lack of communication between the both of you'se, it sounds to me like neither of you dont kno... (read in full...)
My professor held my hand?
Q. I'm sorry in advance if this is too long! I'm a 19 year old university student.This semester,I decided to do a project on a specific class,and so I went to the professor's office to discuss the subject of my project with him,as all students have to ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hi to be honest he sounds very sleezy and definetely not like a professor. His job is to teach students and act towards them in a professional manner, while here he is trying to seduce you with words, he is trying to use his wisdom to get his wicked ... (read in full...)
Too fat to be loved!
Q. I met my boyfriend(ex) over a year ago... we got along very well spent almost every day together talked for hours and hours and never seemed to care about anyone but ourselves. about 7 months into he he suddenly started to pull away and i felt ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hi well its hard to tell because am sorry but he needs to start acting like a man, growing up and taking responsibility for his actions.
First off no man should ever use a girls weight as an excuse not to leave her, a size 2? Are you being se... (read in full...)
What else can I say other than I'm frustrated?
Q. My "guy friend" says that I need to use more words when we are "playing" around. All I can say is I'm frustrated when he is teasing me. He is a very vocal person and wishes that I would be to when we are "playing". He makes me lose my mind I cant ...
A. 11 November 2010: Ask him what he would like you to say and it will come more natural to you in time, the more comfortable you are with him the better it will be.... (read in full...)
My friend who I still love has come out of his relationship and still loves me, but now I am the one in a relationship! Help!
Q. Heey, Last year i fell head over heels in love with my best friend and i told him, he told me he felt the same way but he was in a relationship. I was heartbroken and have always had a thing for him ever since. I recently go into a relationship and ...
A. 11 November 2010: Well hun its your choice, your best friend had a choice when you told him you had feelings for him and he chose to stay with his girlfriend so its obvious it was her he wanted to be with not you, now that they are over he is telling you he still ... (read in full...)
Barking up the wrong tree?
Q. HI! A fellow townsman and I connected strongly on the basis of some mutual political views and doing committee work etc. We spend a lot of time together doing such things. I know there is a strong personal interest on both our parts, and we give ...
A. 11 November 2010: hi well first off just because he is not married does not mean that he is fair game he is in a commited relationship and therefore he shouldnt cheat on his current partner so it would be very wrong if you were both intimitate together, i hope you ... (read in full...)
Do you think that this will scare her off?
Q. Ok i'm not too sure how to explain but i've got myself into a bit of a quandry. I am bisexual, not out yet, and have recently met the most fantastic girl online. Literally there is hardly a minute when we're awake that we're not nattering away about ...
A. 11 November 2010: no it shouldnt scare her off in fact it should make her realise that sex to you is something special and you dont just sleep around with people, good for you, this is something to be proud about its not something to frown about. You havent told her ... (read in full...)
Is our relationship evolving over time? Or...is the distance pulling us apart?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about a year and half. We are the best of friends and believe that what we have is true love..I have never known a feeling like this. But this fall we both went off to college and now live 3 hours apart. ...
A. 11 November 2010: It sounds to me like your boyfriend is fed up with trying to make you happy and he is slowely giving up, what exactly is it that is making you sad? These issues need to be sorted not the fact that your boyfriend is not making an effort to make you ... (read in full...)
Could my girlfriend be gay?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 years. We don't live together, but we see each other virtually every day, but now usually only for an hour or two due to her working a lot. I am 29 and she is 33. For the first 18 months of our relationsh...
A. 11 November 2010: Be honest with her, yes it probably will lead to an argument and her giving out to you because you went through her stuff but am afraid you were in the wrong so now you need to face the music. It is just going to eat you up inside if you dont get to ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to be with me because of her past relationship! What can I do?
Q. Im in a big trouble. I met a girl on social networking site and we became good friends. We use to send each other messages and talked on the phone also many a times for long long hours. Than finally we met at a place. We were going very good, but ...
A. 11 November 2010: Your better not contacting her give her some space, i think she might not want anything to serious at the moment and you came on a little two strong so she is ignoring you now, maybe she is scared off getting hurt again, give her more space dont ... (read in full...)
She's taking forever to choose between us!
Q. Okay this is a long story but i wont go into so much detail as i could be here all day. been in a long distance relationship for abt 4yrs, anyway my gf was supposed to come over in Mid Feb this year as i had just spent 9 weeks with her in malaysia ...
A. 11 November 2010: Erm my only advice would be to not to expect to much when you go over there, it sounds to me like she doesnt know which one of you guys she wants and it is unfair on both of you, im pretty sure its the distance in your relationship that has brought ... (read in full...)
Confused!! After all the mixed signals, he now says we should be just friends
Q. hi well here is my problem ive known this guy or years we met at 9 years old and went out with eachother for a few years, then when i was 13 i moved away. when i was 27 i bumped into him again we are both married with children we were friends and...
A. 11 November 2010: Stay away from this man, he is confused and he is going to drag you down a dangerous path if you keep this up. You let him kiss you even though you are married and so is he, it says to me that you both dont respect your husband and wife very much. ... (read in full...)
Is this telepathy, real or a coincidence?
Q. I like him immensely though I don't think we would ever get together. Leave as to why not. I'm a lesser mortal. I know that he likes me but may be not in the way I want him to. He attends, listens and is amused to see me. May be Im a temporary point ...
A. 11 November 2010: Well maybe you are on to something i cant tell you if it is coincidence or not because i just dont no if am honest, its quite unusual to say the least, maybe its destiny and this is the man for you.... (read in full...)
There is no way I can love anyone else, is there any way to get him back?
Q. we were friends for 2 years and then this love sick thing came between us. I obviously was amazing. And then we eventually kissed. But then we broke up. after a month or so we broke up. And he left without giving me a reason for why he is leaving. ...
A. 11 November 2010: I agree here, three years is a very long time but you need to accept things before you can move on, you need to accept that this guy does not love you and does not want to be with you, you need to deal with that and be strong, tell yourself that you ... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to get over his office crush with a needy co-worker?
Q. I have been married for 26 years, two years ago my husband took a job in another town, so now we are in a long distance marriage. Every thing was going as best it can in this situation, until a year ago a new single female co-worker arrived, who is ...
A. 11 November 2010: well it would be hard for him to get over this crush when he has to see her everyday, can he not get work that is close to the family home? If i were you i would have him back home and finding work before this crush becomes something more, but i ... (read in full...)
Is it really just a friendship? Or am I emotionally cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years. We live together, we love each other, and like every relationship we have our problems but I can see myself marrying him someday. Last week I met a guy that has a lot of the same interest...
A. 11 November 2010: hi well no it is not wrong if it is just a friendship you are doing nothing wrong right? but you are already slipping down a dangerous path by lying to your boyfriend about the extent of this friendship in case he gets jelous, this is probably why ... (read in full...)
Ovulation and how it works
Q. im kind of confused...can someone tell me when ovulation occurs and how it works???...
A. 11 November 2010: I will tell you some basics about ovulation, for you to understand it. It is the release of a single, mature egg from a follicle that developed in the ovary and it usually occurs regularly, around 14th day of a 28-day menstrual cycle. Once the egg ... (read in full...)
Was it too hot and that's why he didn't cum?
Q. I was having sex for about an hour with my boyfriend last night, in loads of different positions but he just didn't come! At least I don't think he did. He usually moans and he didn't, we just sort of stopped (because I was knackered!). I googled ...
A. 11 November 2010: Stamina is usually what keeps a guy going, dont worry it is nothing to do with you believe me, this is not a problem try not and worry about it, there is plenty of things a guy can do to prolong coming so that they last extra long for there ... (read in full...)
Why would you choose to date a guy who is in the army?
Q. Firstly, i would just like to say i have a lot of admiration for army wives so please don't take any direspect from this question. I know you don't choose who you fall in love with but why would you choose to date a guy who is in the army? Let al...
A. 11 November 2010: Its your choice if you want to stay away from him or not, everybody is different and handles things differently, but you need to look deep in to your soul and ask yourself have you feelings for this man and can you just abandon him because something ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation harmful to me?
Q. I masturbate almost every day. Afterwards i hate myself and promise myself that i'll neva do it again but i always find myself doing it. Is it normal to masturbate everyday, is there a way of stopping it, does it course any damage to my body? ...
A. 11 November 2010: you shouldnt hate yourself afterwards, this is a completely natural thing and believe me once you are in a relationship with someone it will dye down and you wont feel the need to masterbate so much its just because your sexually frustrated, its ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to be with me because of her past relationship! What can I do?
Q. Im in a big trouble. I met a girl on social networking site and we became good friends. We use to send each other messages and talked on the phone also many a times for long long hours. Than finally we met at a place. We were going very good, but ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hi i think you might have rushed in to things a bit to quickly for her, i mean 24 days is not a long time to be declaring our love to someone and to propose to them, i think you moved to fast for her and she freaked out a little bit and that is why ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to be with me because of her past relationship! What can I do?
Q. Im in a big trouble. I met a girl on social networking site and we became good friends. We use to send each other messages and talked on the phone also many a times for long long hours. Than finally we met at a place. We were going very good, but ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hi i think you might have rushed in to things a bit to quickly for her, i mean 24 days is not a long time to be declaring our love to someone and to propose to them, i think you moved to fast for her and she freaked out a little bit and that is why ... (read in full...)
Just friendly or wants more?
Q. Hi everyone. I posted this question earlier but there is a little more info since then. Original A girl at my work has been there for almost 3 years. I've been there around 5, so I've known of her since she started. I think she is really beau...
A. 11 November 2010: Hi well yes it sounds to me like she might have a little crush on you, why else would she make the effort if she didnt. If i were you i would ask her out the next time you see her and get to know each other more, goodluck.... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he cant forget about how horrible I turned into in the past, but do you think time could heal?
Q. Hi - im very confused and heartbroken. Basically my fiance dumped me again few weeks ago becasue he said he stopped loving me long ago. The story basically is we were going out for 3 yrs and in that time i started taking the contraceptive in...
A. 11 November 2010: well hunny your on the right path talking to a councellor, nobody should ever feel ashamed to talk to some one about there mental health, its so common these days to go in to a depression more people need to seek help before it is to late.
For n... (read in full...)
Left everything for her and now I don't trust her any more
Q. Hi there, This period of my life has been extremely trying for me - I left my wife and young son, i entered into a joint venture with my existing business, i started 4 other businesses with my partner and i met a young new girlfriend whom ...
A. 11 November 2010: Ok first off you need to look back to the time you fell for your girlfriend and ask yourself what it was about her that made you want to be with her, am sure you will be able to get that spark back again, leave her past in the past dont start ... (read in full...)
Is this telepathy, real or a coincidence?
Q. I like him immensely though I don't think we would ever get together. Leave as to why not. I'm a lesser mortal. I know that he likes me but may be not in the way I want him to. He attends, listens and is amused to see me. May be Im a temporary point ...
A. 11 November 2010: To be honest with you am not really sure here, is telepathy something that you have picked up in your life before? if its not then its unlikely that it has just happened now through this guy, it could just be a coincidence a very big one, but a ... (read in full...)
What else can I say other than I'm frustrated?
Q. My "guy friend" says that I need to use more words when we are "playing" around. All I can say is I'm frustrated when he is teasing me. He is a very vocal person and wishes that I would be to when we are "playing". He makes me lose my mind I cant ...
A. 11 November 2010: Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel when he teases you, tell him your mind goes blank and that you just dont no what to say, get him to tell you somethings he would like to hear you say.... (read in full...)
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