I think he's been cheating, but he denies it
Q. i broke you with my boyfriend whom ive been with for 6 nonths because i felt like he was cheating on me. we had an on again off again realtionship.. he just wasnt doing rite by me i felt therefore i ended things with him while he in training inthe ...
A. 21 June 2012: Very good, I wish you all the luck.... (read in full...)
Is she still my friend or what?
Q. Recently I made a whole new set of friends who I met through a couple of my college friends..amongst them was one girl,lets call her "Miss.X", with who I clicked really really well..we were chummy with each other right from the day we met first.I ...
A. 23 November 2010: Just talk as normal to him, be exactly the way you always behave with him, if he asks to see the tattoo then show him if it is just a case of pullin up your top at the back to show him then go for it.
Ok so it turns out that he is interest... (read in full...)
She was pressured into doing something with another guy, should I end it or stay?
Q. my girlfriend was pressured in to sucking another boy's d**k, she lied to me when i asked about it but she has now told me the truth and i dont know what to do. shoud i end it or stay?...
A. 16 November 2010: You cant stay with someone in a relationship over fear that they will kill themselves, she needs help and you are not able to give her the help that she needs she needs professional phycological help. ... (read in full...)
Is she still my friend or what?
Q. Recently I made a whole new set of friends who I met through a couple of my college friends..amongst them was one girl,lets call her "Miss.X", with who I clicked really really well..we were chummy with each other right from the day we met first.I ...
A. 12 November 2010: Ok first off there is nobody out of anybodys league, but still it probably would be a bad line to cross going with a friends ex, it only leads to hurt anger and pain.
Im not sure though what her problem is i think it would be best for you to l... (read in full...)
What else can I say other than I'm frustrated?
Q. My "guy friend" says that I need to use more words when we are "playing" around. All I can say is I'm frustrated when he is teasing me. He is a very vocal person and wishes that I would be to when we are "playing". He makes me lose my mind I cant ...
A. 12 November 2010: Well just be honest with him hun, its obviously not your thing just tell him that.... (read in full...)
What else can I say other than I'm frustrated?
Q. My "guy friend" says that I need to use more words when we are "playing" around. All I can say is I'm frustrated when he is teasing me. He is a very vocal person and wishes that I would be to when we are "playing". He makes me lose my mind I cant ...
A. 11 November 2010: Ask him what he would like you to say and it will come more natural to you in time, the more comfortable you are with him the better it will be.... (read in full...)
Is this telepathy, real or a coincidence?
Q. I like him immensely though I don't think we would ever get together. Leave as to why not. I'm a lesser mortal. I know that he likes me but may be not in the way I want him to. He attends, listens and is amused to see me. May be Im a temporary point ...
A. 11 November 2010: Well maybe you are on to something i cant tell you if it is coincidence or not because i just dont no if am honest, its quite unusual to say the least, maybe its destiny and this is the man for you.... (read in full...)
Left everything for her and now I don't trust her any more
Q. Hi there, This period of my life has been extremely trying for me - I left my wife and young son, i entered into a joint venture with my existing business, i started 4 other businesses with my partner and i met a young new girlfriend whom ...
A. 11 November 2010: Ok first off you need to look back to the time you fell for your girlfriend and ask yourself what it was about her that made you want to be with her, am sure you will be able to get that spark back again, leave her past in the past dont start ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to embrace the feeling the friend gave me and does it make me gay?
Q. As Katy Perry said "I Kissed a girl and I liked it". The problem is the girl who kissed me was a friend and I responded. I was quite ashamed about it and never spoke about it to anyone until the other day, when I accidently slipped to a friend, ...
A. 11 November 2010: hi well first off just because you enjoyed this kiss does not make you gay, believe me plenty of girls kiss each other its no big deal, why are you so afraid to be called a lesbian anyway? whoever you are just be proud of it, but it sounds to me ... (read in full...)
Lost my job, I have no money and christmas is coming up!
Q. Hey guys! i really need your help. me and my boyfriend are both 18 and i lost my job and im needing to get my boyfriend something for christmas and i have no money whatsoever. i have no clue what to do. i cant think of anything. help?...
A. 11 November 2010: Ok first off dont panic, christmas is not all about presents its showing people that we love and care for them also.
Am sure your boyfriend will understand that you have lost your job and that you are tight for money, maybe you could make him some... (read in full...)
He says he cant see a future with me but is too scared to say so in front of his family!
Q. my boyfriend dont see a future with me because he does not have guts to say it in front of his family...but i want a nice future with him so tell me shud we break up or continue?? ...
A. 11 November 2010: If he doesnt see you in his future then there is not much point staying together really is there? I think it would be better for you now to get out of this relationship and find someone that wants to be with you.... (read in full...)
Is this telepathy, real or a coincidence?
Q. I like him immensely though I don't think we would ever get together. Leave as to why not. I'm a lesser mortal. I know that he likes me but may be not in the way I want him to. He attends, listens and is amused to see me. May be Im a temporary point ...
A. 11 November 2010: To be honest with you am not really sure here, is telepathy something that you have picked up in your life before? if its not then its unlikely that it has just happened now through this guy, it could just be a coincidence a very big one, but a ... (read in full...)
What else can I say other than I'm frustrated?
Q. My "guy friend" says that I need to use more words when we are "playing" around. All I can say is I'm frustrated when he is teasing me. He is a very vocal person and wishes that I would be to when we are "playing". He makes me lose my mind I cant ...
A. 11 November 2010: Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel when he teases you, tell him your mind goes blank and that you just dont no what to say, get him to tell you somethings he would like to hear you say.... (read in full...)
Oil and condoms.....
Q. Dear agony aunt, This is another condom related question. I read that oil based lubricants such as baby oil and body lotion should not be used. However, what if at that time it totally slipped our minds that our hands had some body lotion (due to ...
A. 11 November 2010: Erm well if its dried in to your hand and has been there a while then no it should be ok, just always try and be careful though.... (read in full...)
Since we have got back together properly I'm finding it hard to even have sex!
Q. Ok heres the problem..a few months ago I got back with a boyfriend of a year that ended suddenly with no warning (he recently admitted it was coz he got scared). Sex was brilliant before we split and even when we were not together we were never ...
A. 11 November 2010: I guess the older we get the more 'dryer' our body becomes, its probably just a phase that you have reached were as your body and mind are in two different places, dont panic over it just take things as it comes. Just keep using plenty of ... (read in full...)
What should I expect when I have sex for the first time?
Q. I have been with a guy for 5yrs and he always talks about sex, we have not had sex since we started dating and we had a fight over this last week. I spoke to couple of my friends about this and they all insisted it was only okay to have sex with him ...
A. 11 November 2010: There is not a lot you can do to prepare for intercourse to be honest, just make sure that you have both disscussed it and that you are both happy to have sex and ready, also make sure that you have protection in and also lubrication.
Make ... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy and small penis paranoia
Q. i believe i have two issues that combine to ruin my life and my relationship. a relationship with someone that needs me more than I have ever been needed - she is so sweet and so beautiful - she has no one else to turn to or to be loved by but her ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hi well first off her past should be in her past and its ok to tell small white lies to partners, its to protect there feelings especially when it comes to ex partners.
She told you that you were bigger because she didnt want to offend you or h... (read in full...)
She was pressured into doing something with another guy, should I end it or stay?
Q. my girlfriend was pressured in to sucking another boy's d**k, she lied to me when i asked about it but she has now told me the truth and i dont know what to do. shoud i end it or stay?...
A. 11 November 2010: she told you she cut her wrists but did you see the cuts to prove that she is telling you the truth? if there is no cuts then she is cying out for your attention and is walking all over you, if there is cuts there, then go straight to her parents ... (read in full...)
Is she still my friend or what?
Q. Recently I made a whole new set of friends who I met through a couple of my college friends..amongst them was one girl,lets call her "Miss.X", with who I clicked really really well..we were chummy with each other right from the day we met first.I ...
A. 11 November 2010: could it be possible mr x has a crush on you and has told your friend this? it sounds like someone else has told her something and she has taking it out on you even though she knows its not your fault.... (read in full...)
I think he's been cheating, but he denies it
Q. i broke you with my boyfriend whom ive been with for 6 nonths because i felt like he was cheating on me. we had an on again off again realtionship.. he just wasnt doing rite by me i felt therefore i ended things with him while he in training inthe ...
A. 9 November 2010: hi how did things work out for the both of you? Was there anymore updates you would like advice on?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is stealing from me! Help!
Q. Hi all, here's the thing, my bf and i been together for 2 years coming up to 3. hes not working and looking for work now. In the two years i caught him stealing money from my purse and confronted him about it. he promised me not to do it and i ...
A. 9 November 2010: hi i hope you broke up with this theif, you dont steal it is wrong and it makes it worse that it was of a person he is meant to love, i hope you showed him the door and told him not to come back, it is totally unforgivable if he wanted money that ... (read in full...)
Did he act like a jerk to make me break up?
Q. (moderated, there was no punctuation etc.) hi, i'm in a relation with a sweet man he's 27 years old i'm 24 years. any how we've knowing each other almost 6 month ,i feel safe and secure with him all the time except that the last period of time or ...
A. 9 November 2010: hi were you both able to overcome your relationship problems? Or did you'se break up? If you need anymore help give an update and i will try my best to guide you.... (read in full...)
Love lost?
Q. I am 19 with a 8 month old girl and I'm 7 months pregnant. My boyfriend is 39, we met summer of 08 but I am no longer sexually actracted to him now that we live together. What does that mean?...
A. 9 November 2010: hi has anything inproved for you now that your second child was born?... (read in full...)
We're going to be living far apart -- should I try to keep it as an LDR?
Q. Hello, I am currently in a relationship with a guy I really care about (we've been together about 5 months). In a couple of months I am moving to a new city very far away and I am concerned about trying to work out a long distance relation...
A. 9 November 2010: Hi i no your post is dated back in June, if you want to give an update i will be happy to help, did you both stay together or did you both need to seperate?... (read in full...)
I can't reconcile "being in love" with "making love"
Q. all of my sexual partners where people who weren't in love with me and i wasn't in love with them .. all of the people who loved me and i loved them haven't had a sexual relationship with me .. so now , i can't mix "love" and "making lov...
A. 9 November 2010: hi i no that your post is dated back in June but id like to offer you some help anyway, it seems that you slept with men for the sake of sex and didnt connect it with love and now you are struggling maybe you would benefit from going to see a sex ... (read in full...)
My friend is calling my lover what should I do?
Q. My query is that i have a lady who has twins with me,before i got her she had had 2 men before and she had 1 child baby boy.after some time, she started telling my friend all the weaknesses we had,but i suspected that she has had sex with him ...
A. 9 November 2010: hi i noticed that your post is dated back in june, if you would like to give an update i can help with any queries.... (read in full...)
Relationship help
Q. Hi I had a private mail... Subject: relationship help...., from on 11 June 2010 (4 days ago ) Hunny if you read this I could not answer as you had not put a name' I would like to help...Hopefully you will read this and we can go from there wit...
A. 9 November 2010: If you need any help on any matter there are plenty of others on here that would be more than happy to help you with any problems.... (read in full...)
I want my ex back... I want him to love me again...
Q. I've been in a relationship for 6 years, we were engaged for 3 years. Couple months ago I found out my bf is seeing someone from his past. His childhood friend. When I asked him about it he told me he didn't say anything cause I can't handle the ...
A. 9 November 2010: hi i just noticed that you posted this back in july and you never got any replies. I guess there is not much information i can tell you now at this late stage, if you would like to give an update i will be happy to help with any queries.... (read in full...)
We've broken up but I still care and she does too I think?
Q. I have a crush on this girl almost 1 yr this july but she already had a bf so distance myself to her but one of my friend told me that looks like she is interested to me but i still don't talk to her but Nov 2009 they broke up for some complicated ...
A. 9 November 2010: hi hun i think she is back with her ex for a reason, i dont think she still loves you i think she got back with her ex because she still loved him, i just noticed that you wrote this in july so am sure a lot has changed since then and i hope that ... (read in full...)
Was something ever there?
Q. we both come from Indian-Pakistani cultures where guys party and then find a "good girl". I look like the party type bc I have those friends and have training in makeup. Yet the truth is, while in college I lived at home, am quite a nerd and...
A. 9 November 2010: Hi hun i think he though more of his reputation than he did of you, i think to him you were his little guilty secret. He wanted to show you that he liked you and showed you the real him but he backed away. It seems that he is popular and he pretends ... (read in full...)
I use him for a mental image during masturbation
Q. How can I stop masterbating to the images/thoughts of my ex? We broke up for a reason. But somehow I can't seem to stop thinking about him. I need to totally get over him. Please help!...
A. 9 November 2010: Hi well you probably use him as your mental image because he is the last sexual partner you had am guessing, im not really sure how you can stop using his image, maybe try think of someone famous who you like the look of, or watch porn.... (read in full...)
Is there a reason a man would start to dress up , when he really had not before?
Q. This may seem like a silly question.so here it is : I have known this guy for three years we dated before , it ended because of schedule conflicts , basically we never had time to see each other our lives were very hetic, fast forward and we now ...
A. 9 November 2010: hi well maybe he just fancied a change and went shopping, also he could be trying to impress you as he is noticed you dress up therefore he might be trying to make an effort for you.... (read in full...)
We have been married for 14 years but now she needs some space, I am lost without her!
Q. I am lost without her, My wife and i have been married 14 years and we have 3 beautiful daughters. 2 of which were hers from a previous marriage. When we were married the girls were 3 and 4. We married and have spent many great years together. ...
A. 9 November 2010: I think you need to give her some more space, i understand your behaviour there is nothing worse when one of your children are hurt and there is nothing you can do about it, it happens often that we take our anger out on the ones closes to us, but ... (read in full...)
She was pressured into doing something with another guy, should I end it or stay?
Q. my girlfriend was pressured in to sucking another boy's d**k, she lied to me when i asked about it but she has now told me the truth and i dont know what to do. shoud i end it or stay?...
A. 9 November 2010: I'm sorry but no matter how much pressure you are put under you still have your free will and your own mind to say no and not give someone oral sex, she has highly disrespected you here and also doesnt really care much about her reputation either, ... (read in full...)
Going to visit my holiday crush, what if I get there and realise I am not into him?
Q. I met a guy while I was abroad and he was the guy that all the girls wanted - girls were literally crowded around him - everyone goes about how he looks so much like Jesse Metcalfe. Now Jesse Metcalfe isn't my "type" at all even though I recognise ...
A. 9 November 2010: Well you say that you have already spent some time alone together, so at least it is safe to say that you both got on well to a certain degree.
I think that you are aware that he is not your usual type and this is worrying you more than it shoul... (read in full...)
How can I get him out of my mind?
Q. ive said something on here like twice but i have to say something again. im like in love with this boy and i cant have him. i keep wishing him and his gf broke up! i feel like an obsessed freak! how can i get him out of my mind...
A. 9 November 2010: First off you need to accept that he is in a relationship and there is nothing you can do about it am afraid. Concentrate on spending time with your friends away from him and dont do anything that is related to him like look up his social networking ... (read in full...)
Christmas present for my boyfriend?
Q. I know it's still kind of early but, I'm really looking forward to Christmas and I have money now and I know if I don't start buying now, then I'm going to go broke. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, and I want to get him something ...
A. 9 November 2010: Well maybe get him tickets to go and see his favorite football or basketball team, that way you could go with him and share the experience with him, or maybe even a wrestling match.... (read in full...)
My online love now calls me her brother!!
Q. My Relationship has drowned so badly.. I'm heart-broken.. Well..I loved a girl online in a social networking site for two months..I'm 19 and she is 3 years younger than me.We showed up each other and we liked each other too.But all of a sudden ...
A. 9 November 2010: Am afraid you are just going to have to put this down to experience and move on, dont talk to her block her from your social networking site and move on, you will get over this trust me, if you think you can handle just being friends with her then ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me out of blue.
Q. Hi My bf broke up with me yesterday said he does not want to get attached to me and like to start dating other girls. i am feeling very depressed, couldnt concentrate on anything. I called him twice and he swiched off his phone. please someone h...
A. 9 November 2010: Hi darling, i am sure you are still in shock and denial at the moment because you werent expecting it. Dont blame yourself it sounds like he just doesnt want to settle down at the moment he wants to play the field this is not your fault but am ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to feel like this, or am I overreacting?
Q. First of all, english is not my first language, so sorry for any mistakes I could make. I started grad school in September of last year. Almost one year ago, one of my classmates and I started to spend a lot of time together outside school. ...
A. 9 November 2010: Hi well first of can i say your english is really good. Well off course it is ok for you to feel like this, i understand that he told you and made you aware that he was unsure of dating you, but at the same time, he tried to kiss you not long ago, ... (read in full...)
He is struggling to keep an erection and now we havent had sex for 2 months, my confidence is at an all time low!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months now, sex was fine at first however he started having trouble keeping an erection during sex after 3 months. However, foreplay is not a problem. I confronted him about the erection problem...
A. 9 November 2010: hi ok i no that you are feeling down at the moment because you feel he might not be attracted to you anymore and doesnt want you, its totally normal to feel rejected when things like this happened, but have you stopped and asked him how he feels? ... (read in full...)
Is it a real possibility that someone has set up a fake facebook account under my name and is messaging my ex? I'm sure there must be a reason why she hasn't called!
Q. hello all my LDR ex gf broke up with me a year ago. i havent heard a squeak from her since then and wish to get closure at least once in life. i am getting crazy thoughts regarding why havent she contacted as we were so close once upon a time.i k...
A. 9 November 2010: Hi so you saw a profile with your name on it, ok so you think someone is using your name but this could also just be coincidence and this person just shares the same name as you, i think you might just be paranoid she may not have contacted you as ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend said she was pregnant but she lied
Q. My gf is giving me hrt attack, she said she is pregnant just bcos the condom broke when we were havin sex. But after 3 weeks i found out she was lieyin. What should i do? Is it a sign that she wants to break up? And should i leave her ...
A. 9 November 2010: I agree with chigirl on this one, its not funny to joke about something as serious as that, i understand her maybe that she wanted to test you but after a minute or two she should have told you, you are right not to talk to her, this might teach her ... (read in full...)
Why is he suddenly acting shy and depressed?
Q. He's one of the most confident guys I know and he's really popular; he has absolutely no problem striking off a conversation with anyone. We went on a trip together and I think he likes me because I always catch him staring at me and his friend ...
A. 9 November 2010: I think if am honest he has realised that he has developed feelings for you and he may be confident but he is not confident enough to confess this to you and it is making him shy around you, as for the depression part am not entirely sure maybe he ... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he said about going out again?
Q. I don't understand this guy's behavior at all. It's so contradictory. One minute I think he's into me, and the next minute....not so much. I had a date with him last week which went pretty well IMO. It was a typical first date. Short and sweet....
A. 9 November 2010: No if am honest i think he will go out with you again, dont rush in to quickly in thinking that he is just being polite and he is not interested because you are digging a worm in to your brain that will keep wriggling around asking what if and is he ... (read in full...)
How do I get a girl that used to possibly like me to like me again?
Q. How to get a girl that used to possibly like me to like me again? Hey everyone about 4 years ago i was really close with this girl and she told me she liked me and i really liked her as well. I dont know why it didnt work out but a few mon...
A. 9 November 2010: Hi well this girl has her barrier up against you at the moment, she really liked you all those years ago, and probably waited around for you to make your move, but instead you got a girlfriend and it probably really really hurt her, and she has ... (read in full...)
How can I make my move when she could be gone the next day?
Q. First off, sorry I'm long winded again. From an earlier question, this is the same girl I have known, and has saved my life, yet is so "swamped" and puts her work first before anything. If you wish to look through my first question I ever ...
A. 9 November 2010: Hi if am 100% honest with you, which i am going to be weather you like it or not i dont think you should ask her out, it sounds to me like she is not interested in you, and also the distance wouldnt work. She has a busy life therefore i doubt she ... (read in full...)
I married without my father knowing, what should I do?
Q. hi i am 25 years old..i got married last year and my husband as well as his family is really nice.i am all happy n good..i went against my dad and married and he doesnt know yet..he dindt want me to marry him coz he isnt of the same proffession as i ...
A. 9 November 2010: Well first off i understand why you felt the need to lie to your dad, but you are going to have to come clean to him, i no that you are scared off hurting him but darling the longer you keep this from him the more it is going to hurt him that you ... (read in full...)
I married without my father knowing, what should I do?
Q. hi i am 25 years old..i got married last year and my husband as well as his family is really nice.i am all happy n good..i went against my dad and married and he doesnt know yet..he dindt want me to marry him coz he isnt of the same proffession as i ...
A. 9 November 2010: Well first off i understand why you felt the need to lie to your dad, but you are going to have to come clean to him, i no that you are scared off hurting him but darling the longer you keep this from him the more it is going to hurt him that you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend said she was pregnant but she lied
Q. My gf is giving me hrt attack, she said she is pregnant just bcos the condom broke when we were havin sex. But after 3 weeks i found out she was lieyin. What should i do? Is it a sign that she wants to break up? And should i leave her ...
A. 9 November 2010: Hi maybe she thought that she was pregnant, when the condom breaks it is natural that a girl is going to get scared that she is pregnant, how did you find out she was lying? Maybe she was just scared.
Erm no this does not mean that she wants to... (read in full...)
Is she still my friend or what?
Q. Recently I made a whole new set of friends who I met through a couple of my college friends..amongst them was one girl,lets call her "Miss.X", with who I clicked really really well..we were chummy with each other right from the day we met first.I ...
A. 7 November 2010: Ok well maybe when you said to her to try and forget him for her own good she thought that you were interested in him and now she is jelous and probably doesnt want to be friends with you in case you do get with him and it will cause her a lot of ... (read in full...)
| *unt honesty's friends
These are mutual friends, so *unt honesty has
added them and they have added *unt honesty!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
