How should I confess my love?
Q. I've gotten over a girl I liked. But that's because I'm now onto this other girl. Now I want to tell her I'm crushing on her, but it's a different situation this time. I met her in a camp. We've been keeping in touch, but just because we were pla...
A. 13 November 2010: Just act polite and friendly towards her as if nothing has changed. Thats the best way next time you see her say hello and ask her how she has been.... (read in full...)
I'm trying my hardest to make things okay again, but I don't know the next step.
Q. I suppose this is a longer story, but I'll try and keep things concise. I would just post the question straight up, but without proper insight on what has happened, the advice I get may not be what I'm looking for :) So here it goes: My girlfr...
A. 9 November 2010: your welcome. The break might actually make things better for the both of you, because a few months with no contact might make her realise how much she missees you and how much she wants to be with you, not being able to talk to each other will be a ... (read in full...)
Dating awkwardness
Q. hey, im going out with my boyf tomorow, just to the park. but Everytime we meet up its really awkward because i feel like im the only one making the effort to make conversation. I want to have normal convos and have a good time without the awkwardn...
A. 8 November 2010: well it should come natural at this stage and if it doesnt feel effortless and easy flowing when you both meet up then maybe he is not the guy for you.... (read in full...)
How should I confess my love?
Q. I've gotten over a girl I liked. But that's because I'm now onto this other girl. Now I want to tell her I'm crushing on her, but it's a different situation this time. I met her in a camp. We've been keeping in touch, but just because we were pla...
A. 8 November 2010: Well its hard to tell she might be busy or else she might be letting you down gently its hard to tell i think you should leave the ball in her court now, you have asked her out, so just say to her 'let me no when you are free and i will organise ... (read in full...)
I'm confused over the crush on my friends sister..
Q. Hi,i'm 30 years of age and really feel confused about a friends sister whose been flirting on and off with me.On a couple of occassions she's kissed me (not the opposite way around). Even at parties other people ask if we're together because we seem ...
A. 8 November 2010: Yeah sometimes it helps to hear someone say what you are already thinking, good luck in the future.... (read in full...)
I want to move on from her but I cant!
Q. dear cupids, my girlfriend of 7 months dumped me on monday - she claims she cant deal with it at the moment but there has been numerous of mixed feelings from her since like caring, trusting, bitchy and not interested. i would like to move...
A. 7 November 2010: Yes take the advice you are getting and give her space and accept that it is over, if you dont you are just going to keep prolonging your pain.... (read in full...)
Unfair and stubborn boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend and I love eachother a whole lot, we tell each other that all of the time. But whenever I ask him for something so simple, he won't do it! No matter what! It'll be something like so small just a question like for example I asked him if ...
A. 7 November 2010: telling someone i love you is just words its actions that prove that you are loved by someone, am afraid if he is a secretive person you cant make him change therefore you need to live with the way he is or move on.
It concerns me that you are ... (read in full...)
Can you get free text messages from spy wear?
Q. i know alot of people dont agree to this, because relationships should have trust, but im hoping to get answers anyway.. my boyfriend cheated on me once not too long ago. i have a very hard time trusting him now because he didnt come clean on his ...
A. 7 November 2010: Hunny dont go down this path please, it is invading his privacy and it is wrong. You cant control someones behaviour by spying on them.
I understand that you have trust issues and you are right to but hun you are the one that choose to forgive ... (read in full...)
How do I be confident around girls?
Q. Hi guys. I've been waiting for soo long, everyone tells me to wait, the right girl will come. That was almost three or four years ago. I'm sick and tired of this. Some advice on how to be confident around girls would be appreciated. THanks!...
A. 7 November 2010: You just have to be yourself around girls and remember we arent going to eat you up so just be friendly and get to know girls by asking them basic questions about themselves and show them that you are interested.
Never come on two strong to start... (read in full...)
I'm confused over the crush on my friends sister..
Q. Hi,i'm 30 years of age and really feel confused about a friends sister whose been flirting on and off with me.On a couple of occassions she's kissed me (not the opposite way around). Even at parties other people ask if we're together because we seem ...
A. 7 November 2010: hi well she is just out of a long term relationship therefore i dont think you want to be the rebound guy do you? I would say she is enjoying herself at the moment and flirting with all of these guys as she is wanting to show she is single and can ... (read in full...)
I told my crush I like her and she freaked out and blocked me!
Q. I am a 21 year old guy (22 soon) and I was friends with this girl who was 16. You can read all about how we met here from another relationship forum: "All righty, I am 21 year old guy who is friends with a 16 year old girl. I met her at the Harry...
A. 7 November 2010: your friends are right you need to move on you are an adult here and she is still in her teens and she is still growing up and finding herself, you are both at different stages of life you need to forget about her and move on sorry.... (read in full...)
Broken hearted, he's become a player, how can I get him to fall in love with me?
Q. this is the thing: i like this guy a lot. he has a broken heart and he's become a player, even his friends are worried about him because he's not like that. i have a broken heart too, but i solved it from a different approach: faith, so i'm good ...
A. 7 November 2010: Hi well its obvious he became a player because his ex hurt him and now he has lost faith in women so he is just using them for sex as he doesnt want to get attached and left hurt again, its sad how often this happens to genuine nice guys.
Well ... (read in full...)
Betrayed!
Q. My boyfriend and I had dated for a little over a year, and we were originally matched together by a mutual friend from high school. This mutual friend was an former ex of my boyfriend's. Now I knew at the beginning that my boyfriend and his former ...
A. 7 November 2010: It wasnt all of your fault no but if you trusted him that he was just friends with her then you shouldnt have tried to come in between them but its natural for us all to get jelous sometimes, it was his money so it should have been up to him how he ... (read in full...)
How can I drop this college course without serious problems?
Q. I have a college related issue and ive had good experience with aunts giving good responses, so ill ask here. I took an Art History 100 course this semester. Everything was going great up until the first of two exams in this class. All of the 10 ...
A. 7 November 2010: I think you need to get the class together and see if everyone feels the same way as you do, and if they do i think all of you should aproach the head of the college and tell him the problem if he is not going to deal with it then get on to the head ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend lied and now I don't trust him at all!
Q. I caught my boyfriend lying to me a couple of weeks ago. He lied about where he was so he could stall me from coming over so he could smoke pot with his lady friend. We sorted it out, and on his own accord he promised he would stop seeing her and ...
A. 6 November 2010: Well he has really damaged your trust her by lying to you about this girl, have you met this girl? Do you think they could be more than friends? If you think that they are just friends then maybe you shouldnt try and stop him from seeing her because ... (read in full...)
Dating awkwardness
Q. hey, im going out with my boyf tomorow, just to the park. but Everytime we meet up its really awkward because i feel like im the only one making the effort to make conversation. I want to have normal convos and have a good time without the awkwardn...
A. 6 November 2010: Ok wel it sounds like he is shy in this case and doesnt no how to make conversation, am sure with time he will be more comfortable, it takes time to get to know someone and feel comfortable around them so just keep trying to get him to talk and ask ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty, why don't I have a boyfriend when ugly fat girls have one?
Q. All of my friends continue to tell me to ask outthe guy I've liked for 6 years. They continue to say I'm pretty and the refer to me as the 'hot one.' I do believe I'm pretty, but, these over weight, ugly, and mean girls have boyfriends, yet I have n...
A. 6 November 2010: Well i actually find what you just said quite shallow so maybe that has something to do with it, you just said ugly fat girl, which is very hurtful, ok so these girls might be over weight but they might have great personalities and this is what a ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my OCD is coming back.
Q. When i was a child i used to have pretty bad OCD. Certain things had to be done a number of times e.g. switching a light switch on and off. I know i probably sound like a complete nut but if you don't have it you really can't understand what's it's ...
A. 6 November 2010: Off course you are not a nut sweetie and dont think that anyone thinks that way of you and if they do then they are ignorant and should be just ignored.
It is hard probably for you to understand what is happening it sounds like the stress has brou... (read in full...)
Am I eating off a used dish?
Q. well ive liked this sgirl for a long time,but she had a boyfreind. She just got dumped and i helped her feel better but then everyone just said i was "eating of a used dish" what should i do should i ask her out or not...
A. 6 November 2010: Well if it was just recently that she broke up with her boyfriend then i would advice against asking her out to soon as you dont want to be the rebound, as you may end up getting badly hurt, for now just show her that you are there for her and be a ... (read in full...)
Return to wife? Pursue divorce? Stay separted? What to do?
Q. Well, I'm wondering what I should do now. I am in a long-term marriage of over 25 years but for many of those years felt very lonely. My wife and I had drifted very far apart and it seemed like we had very little in common any longer except fo...
A. 6 November 2010: Hi well am going to start with this other woman, i think you need to let her go, she has made it crystal clear to you that she is involved in someone else and no matter how much this hurts you need to accept this and accept that nothing is going to ... (read in full...)
I need space and he won't give it to me!
Q. Ok, I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now. We first met each other in high school, about 11yrs ago and got reacquainted on FB a few months ago. Everything was going well in the beginning, but lately, everything he does just seem to ...
A. 6 November 2010: I agree with you here, it is totally disrespectful off him to grope you in public and you shouldnt need to put up with this, ok so you have tried talking to him and its obviously not working so next time he does it walk away from him and if he tries ... (read in full...)
Never broken up before! How do I do it?
Q. hey. i have a problem. i have been seeing this super nice guy but in all honesty i'm just not that into him. i thought that if i continued seeing him the spark would develop. but obviously it didnt and now im stuck. he is really into me and tries so ...
A. 6 November 2010: hi i think it will help if you are just honest with him and tell him how you feel there is no point in lying in this situation just tell him that you really like him as a friend but that you just dont have the feelings that you should have for him ... (read in full...)
Help, Is my marriage over befor it starts?
Q. Dear Hope, I am 28 years old. I have been with my now husband for 2 months, we have been dating for 5 years prior to getting married. We have had issues in the past, I have gotten bored in the past and end up searching for attention from o...
A. 6 November 2010: You are addicted to the feeling of things being new and exciting and you are more than likely going to end up crossing the line and cheating if you dont get help soon, its part of your personality and you need to change it now before it wrecks your ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with a stranger!
Q. Hey My name ammie and am 22 years old Well ,,I don’t know where should I start ,, Or how can I Describe my situation Am single since 4 months ago things are going pretty smoothly for me And I find it a great time for me to get to know mysel...
A. 6 November 2010: hi well at least you no that it is highly unlikely that anything will happen between the both of you because he doesnt no you and you live so far away, now just take a moment to think how you fell for this image? Because darling all you have falling ... (read in full...)
I haven't got any friends and I don't know why
Q. I dont know what to think...one of my old friends(not a friend no more) had a party and i wasn't invited which made everyone else curious about it. So one of my friends asked one of the girls that was my friend why she hated me know and she said ...
A. 6 November 2010: Well you need to get down to what it is that they dislike about you, maybe you are just being paranoid about them but as for this girl that didnt invite you to the party and said she dislikes you, well you need to get her alone and ask her what you ... (read in full...)
I've lost my best friend and I don't know why
Q. ive lost my so called bestfriend. we have known each other for about 4 years and out of the no where she stopped talking to me. I just dont no why and im not/ dont want to ask her. however i feel bad and i want her back as my bestfriend. i see her...
A. 6 November 2010: Hmm it sounds like she might have went in a bad mood for you not going out with her or maybe its a jelousy thing maybe her sister wanted to go and check on you and she got jelous to the fact that they should be out enjoying themselves, am afraid the ... (read in full...)
I want to see the doctor again!
Q. Hi, i need help i get attracted towards a doctor who did my check up once i dont no his name but i no where he works i am interested with him a lot he is still in my eyes he was very kind and nice i wish to meet him again what should i do to ...
A. 6 November 2010: Well it is possible to have this attraction to him due to him helping you with your health and also he needs to be kind and professional therefore it has probably put this whole fantasy in your head about him. I think you need to try and stop ... (read in full...)
What does a women get out of strap on sex?
Q. Me and my neighbor have been best friends sine we were in kindergarden and now we are freshmen in college and sharing a dorm room. I always felt weird feelings toward her and always got upset when she looked at other girls. She is out of the closet ...
A. 6 November 2010: Hi well she is a lesbian so therefore you obviously turn her on. For her using a strap on to pleasure you will turn her on by looking at you and watching you moan in pleasure, if you play with her nipples or she gets stimulated at the clitoris then ... (read in full...)
She was my everything
Q. What does it take to get over a 3 and a half year long relationship? She was my everything and she found it so easy to just take every shred of respect and caring for her and throw it away. i was willing to do anything for her.. And she just met...
A. 6 November 2010: Well you need to cut all contact with her delete her number and ask her not to contact you for the time being as you need space, delete her email and any online profiles that she may have, the only way you are going to get better is if you remove ... (read in full...)
I think my female student has a lesbian crush on me
Q. I think one of my female students has a crush on me, I am a lesbian and she may have heard that somewhere I’m not sure. I need to tell her that I don’t have feelings for her. I’m not sure whether I should of if I should just wait for it to pass. ...
A. 6 November 2010: Hi well if you are her teacher i am guessing that she is a teenager? I might be wrong but if she is then i think it is best in your part to ignore her closeness to you, if she leans against you pull away and if she needs help then give it to her ... (read in full...)
How should I confess my love?
Q. I've gotten over a girl I liked. But that's because I'm now onto this other girl. Now I want to tell her I'm crushing on her, but it's a different situation this time. I met her in a camp. We've been keeping in touch, but just because we were pla...
A. 6 November 2010: Anything will be ok, if you feel to shy to ask her face to face then yes give her a ring on the phone or a text.... (read in full...)
I'm a 16 year old virgin and freaking out!
Q. Hey everyone. So this is a bit of an embaressing question, but hopefully you can give me some advice. I've just turned 16 and im still a virgin, but I'm really worried about having sex for the first time. I'm seeing this really lovely guy at the ...
A. 5 November 2010: Hi we all get really stressed out about our first time it is natural to feel nervous, but with all these questions you have you need to ask yourself the main question and that is are you ready to have sex?
I think you should start of with get... (read in full...)
I'm trying my hardest to make things okay again, but I don't know the next step.
Q. I suppose this is a longer story, but I'll try and keep things concise. I would just post the question straight up, but without proper insight on what has happened, the advice I get may not be what I'm looking for :) So here it goes: My girlfr...
A. 5 November 2010: Hi this is a really tricky situation and it is safe to say that this other guy is the reason why she is questioning her feelings, long distance relationships are really hard to keep up, it takes a lot of work from both people and it can sometimes ... (read in full...)
I want to move on from her but I cant!
Q. dear cupids, my girlfriend of 7 months dumped me on monday - she claims she cant deal with it at the moment but there has been numerous of mixed feelings from her since like caring, trusting, bitchy and not interested. i would like to move...
A. 5 November 2010: Nobody wants to move on when they are the one that has been dumped but am afraid you are just going to have to do it because its the only way to move forward, you need to cut contact and move on.... (read in full...)
Her ex and my trust issues are ruining our relationship!
Q. I am in a relationship and I have posted other questions but things are getting worse. Basically this is the deal: We are engaged...not sure bout that now. We have been living together for 3yrs. She has a 8yr old daughter. I have 3 kids-17,15,9. ...
A. 5 November 2010: Well i guess you are just going to have to find it within you to trust her, apologise to her for going through her emails and assure her that you wont do it again, and stick to your promise. dont invade her privacy you need to respect this. If she ... (read in full...)
How should I confess my love?
Q. I've gotten over a girl I liked. But that's because I'm now onto this other girl. Now I want to tell her I'm crushing on her, but it's a different situation this time. I met her in a camp. We've been keeping in touch, but just because we were pla...
A. 5 November 2010: Yeah through IM should be ok, but dont be to intense and dont go telling her you love her as this will probably scare the girl off especially as you dont no each other all that well yet. Just message her and tell her that you really like her as a ... (read in full...)
I want to move on from her but I cant!
Q. dear cupids, my girlfriend of 7 months dumped me on monday - she claims she cant deal with it at the moment but there has been numerous of mixed feelings from her since like caring, trusting, bitchy and not interested. i would like to move...
A. 5 November 2010: Am afriad you are just going to have to put this relationship down to experience as you grow and get over it, there will probably be many more failed relationships in your life and it doesnt get easier but you learn how to deal with them.
First... (read in full...)
My fiance has sexual dreams about other women - is this normal?
Q. my fiance has continuous sexual dreams of other women while he's sleeping and he wakes calling out their names. is this in any way normal?...
A. 5 November 2010: Hi yes it is normal for partners to have dreams about other women, these are just fictional women and you dont have anything to worry about this is nothing to do with you or how you look, if you need more reassurance talk to your fiance about this.... (read in full...)
We hooked up and he's told all of our friends about it!
Q. I started seeing this guy. When we got to the point where we hooked up, it was fun. So afterward, that's when things got complicated. It seems like thats all he wants from me now. I mean, he does make an attempt to be normal, but then he starts ...
A. 5 November 2010: Just hold your head up high if they are your friends they wont judge you and just remember you have done nothing wrong here or anything to be ashamed of. He shouldnt have told your friends though sex is a private matter between two people and it ... (read in full...)
Does anyone wait till marriage to have sex?
Q. I know that in our culture, sex is made into a large part of life, from what we see in movies, to what hear in music, there's no getting past it! so my question is, does anyone wait until marriage anymore? I firmlybelieve that waiting is the best ...
A. 5 November 2010: Well everybody has there own opinion and there own beliefs nobody is right or wrong in what they think if you ask me, good for you if you are willing to wait and am sure that there is many other people along with you that are wanting to wait until ... (read in full...)
I do love him and don't want to leave, but I cant put up with this anymore
Q. I have been with my common law boyfriend for 2.5 yrs, we have a 15 mos old daughter who I stay at home with while he works. I feel lately he has been talking down to me and criticizing me for everything I do. It's like his way is the only way....
A. 5 November 2010: You need to show him that his behaviour is effecting you really badly, he just brushes it of everytime you try and talk to him, i think maybe you should both go to couples therapy, if he refuses tell him that you are going to leave and move to your ... (read in full...)
He wont tell his ex I exist but its ok for her to be spending my money....
Q. Im in a relationship of 3 years. My b/f is great in many ways but there is this one big problem. He wont tell his ex that I exist and I dont know what to do anymore. He has two children by this woman, money is very tight at the moment and I know ...
A. 5 November 2010: I think you need to stand up for yourself here, and not give your money to him for his children, at the end of the day its his responsiblity not yours and he is taking advantage of your good nature. I would question why you are kept a secret this ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am doomed forever because I am a divorcee, which means in my culture I will never marry again
Q. I love my bf to bits even though he said he is not going to marry me at all. I am an divorcee and elder to him by 3 years. I know that he uses me sometimes. I have tried so hard to leave him, but i couldnt do so. My first marriage was a b...
A. 5 November 2010: Ok well not everyone gets married and marriage is not for everyone, you have been married and it hasnt worked out, so why do you worry about getting married again? Its only a piece of paper at the end of the day, my advice would be to just live ... (read in full...)
Is this flirting? And if it is, how should I respond?
Q. Hi i am 14yrs old i am NOT new to dating, just new to flirting. saying last time i had many BFs and i wasn't very confident ..now i am but am still kinda shy well theres a boy at school who likes me, he is 15yrs old and is my B.F.F's brother....
A. 5 November 2010: Hi well it might be flirting yes or maybe he is just trying to get your attention to get to no you more, why dont you just try talking to him the next time you see him, just general chit chat ask him how he is ect. You will soon be able to tell if ... (read in full...)
Her ex and my trust issues are ruining our relationship!
Q. I am in a relationship and I have posted other questions but things are getting worse. Basically this is the deal: We are engaged...not sure bout that now. We have been living together for 3yrs. She has a 8yr old daughter. I have 3 kids-17,15,9. ...
A. 5 November 2010: Ok first off i hope you have realised that it was wrong to reply to her email whoever it was it was still wrong of you to pretend to be her, it seems like you are blaming her for her ex contacting her, just remember it is him that is contacting her ... (read in full...)
Do I cut it off completely or hang around as a friend and hide my feelings for her?
Q. I meet this girl at work. She was much younger 23 to my 42. We really hit it off. Unfortunately she was married to an abusive husband and needless to say things where complicated to a point where I finally walked from the drama. She has since ...
A. 5 November 2010: Yes that is a healthy start to go out with other friends and take your mind of her, you never no who you might meet on a night out, so keep your options open.... (read in full...)
What am I going to do? I've been in madly madly love with him for five years!!!?
Q. I'm in my twenties and I've been friends with him for over twelve years- and we are closer than close... we do sleepovers, hang out with our friends, travel together and we even lived together briefly for over six months when I didn't have a place. ...
A. 5 November 2010: Good luck and keep us updated on how you get on your doing the best thing :-)... (read in full...)
What am I going to do? I've been in madly madly love with him for five years!!!?
Q. I'm in my twenties and I've been friends with him for over twelve years- and we are closer than close... we do sleepovers, hang out with our friends, travel together and we even lived together briefly for over six months when I didn't have a place. ...
A. 4 November 2010: Ah yeah its one of those tricky situations where you just dont no what to do, but you have pretty much answered your question at the end of it, but you just dont want to do it. I think he would be flattered that you like him so i dont see why it ... (read in full...)
Do I cut it off completely or hang around as a friend and hide my feelings for her?
Q. I meet this girl at work. She was much younger 23 to my 42. We really hit it off. Unfortunately she was married to an abusive husband and needless to say things where complicated to a point where I finally walked from the drama. She has since ...
A. 3 November 2010: Hi well to be honest i think it wouldnt be fair on you to wait around as you are only going to get more and more hurt its obvious that this woman needs to clear her head at the moment and to do that she shouldnt get in to a serious relationship, ... (read in full...)
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