When would be the right time to ask her out?
Q. One of my friends that i'd really like to date told me that someone she knows just died. Now, i know for sure that now really isnt the best of times to ask her out and ive been trying to be there for her and support her and I'll keep doing so until ...
A. 25 November 2010: Well yes at least it hasnt affected your friendship, thats a good thing and she is being open and honest with you which is always good to. Continue to be her friend but dont wait around hoping that she will change her mind soon and you'se will be ... (read in full...)
When would be the right time to ask her out?
Q. One of my friends that i'd really like to date told me that someone she knows just died. Now, i know for sure that now really isnt the best of times to ask her out and ive been trying to be there for her and support her and I'll keep doing so until ...
A. 25 November 2010: Well yes at least it hasnt affected your friendship, thats a good thing and she is being open and honest with you which is always good to. Continue to be her friend but dont wait around hoping that she will change her mind soon and you'se will be ... (read in full...)
We had casual sex, why is he avoiding me on facebook now?
Q. If a guy avoids you on Facebook could he like you or loathe you?...He always signs out like two minutes after I sign on. Lol.. We had casual sex once. Its weird because he smiles when he sees me, but that could just be because he's nice. I was shy ...
A. 22 November 2010: it sounds to me like he wanted sex from you and he got it and he is being a coward now and avoiding you because he doesnt want anything more. Clear it up and ask him. Next time you are on facebook private mail him a message and ask him what the ... (read in full...)
We want to have sex but there's no place to do it!
Q. i am in a committed ldr relationship with my bf since 1yr and 4months.i am going to attend somebody's marriage with my parents to the place where my bf lives.the problem is that i and my bf wants to have sex but we are not finding a proper place. w...
A. 22 November 2010: Well thats really a hard question to answer, if there is nowere that you can go then maybe its a sign that you are just not ready to have sex yet with each other. You are still very young therefore you have plenty of time. If it is your first time ... (read in full...)
What if my crush is embarrassed to be seen with me?
Q. So, my crush says he likes me and everything, but I'm afraid he won't want to make it even the slightest bit public that we're going out if we do. I don't mean like announcing it in-front of everyone or his friends or anything, just hanging out and ...
A. 22 November 2010: what makes you feel that he will be embarressed to be seen with you? I think that this might be your own insecurities, or has his behaviour made you feel like he doesnt want to hang out with you or be seen with you?
If he has told you he likes yo... (read in full...)
Was I dreaming things will work out or just being insecure?
Q. I'm quite upset my boyfriend of 14 years was sending dirty pictures and chatting nasty with women on the internet. This one women he actually gave his cell phone # and he was telling her he loved her for over 3 weeks. After two weeks of fighting and ...
A. 22 November 2010: well first of he has cheated on you, maybe not physically but emotionally and he needs to understand how much he has hurt you, dont just forgive him straight away as this will send out a message to him that he can get away with doing things like ... (read in full...)
We broke up but we still like to hang out
Q. MOD NOTE: Two questions from same asker combined. Okay.. So here we go..(sorry it is sooo long!). My ex and I were dating for 6 months and broke up 7 months ago. He broke up with me. When we were dating I always went over to his house, and when I d...
A. 22 November 2010: Ok first off, if he has texted you and told you that he loves you then thats a clear sign for you to make the next move, text him and ask him would he like to meet up with you in private so you can talk, if he agrees tell him that you love him to ... (read in full...)
I believed he was single, now I am pregnant and want to tell his wife!
Q. OK here it is.. I am a 35 year old woman. I met a guy who was introduced through a great friend.. this man told me for more than a year he was divorced and that he lived alone in a house with his daughter and his dog. after a year of talking w...
A. 22 November 2010: Are you sure it is a good idea telling his wife? Because hunny at the end of the day, she aint going to be happy with you or thank you for telling her infact if he is a serial cheat she might already have an idea about this but just doesnt want to ... (read in full...)
I am having an affair with my boss and his wife knows about it!
Q. I m in love with my boss, he loves me too. He is 15 years senior to me, is married and has 2 kids. it all started from his side andhe says that he wants to marry me... we are in a relationship for 5 years now, there have been all sorts of problems ...
A. 22 November 2010: Ok so its not an option to change your job so you need to work around that, if you really feel that you have a future with this man then you need to get it sorted, he needs to make a desicion, if he wants to be with you then he needs to leave his ... (read in full...)
We love each other one minute but are mean to each other the next minute!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs. i love him so much, but i dont know what to do. 4 months into our relationship he left me to get back with his ex, it literally broke my heart. he realised he made a mistake and we got back together. ...
A. 22 November 2010: You need to help yourself here nobody on here can help you, he does not love you, if we love someone we do not treat them like that, weed or alcohol is no excuse, if he loved you he would get clean of the weed and get help with his binge drinking, ... (read in full...)
Help me... I really don't understand this guy
Q. im sorry if this is long i just really need help and my friends just do not understand. Me and my crush got together over the summer. He Walked down my house and asked me to be his girl friend. I told him that it probably wouldnt work because ...
A. 21 November 2010: You need to talk to him, if his friends are racist then he may very well be trying to keep you as a secret from them so he doesnt get the stick for it, mind you that is wrong he should stand up for what is right and allow these people to see that ... (read in full...)
Caught him staring but he didn't look away! What does this mean?
Q. Been infatuated with this one guy in the year above me. WE used to have a little 'thing' going on( for like 2 years and a half) but he ended all this last season.Ever since , I have been trying to move on and focus on school and stuff but he keep...
A. 21 November 2010: Do nothing, if he wants to come to you then let him, staring at someone doesnt mean that he likes you or wants to get back with you so dont get your hopes up, wait for him to make a move, or if you want to make a move then go up to him and ask to ... (read in full...)
He's so hot and cold with me! What does this mean?
Q. so there's this guy I've liked for a while now. we were such good friends until he started being a jerk. he knew I liked him but probably thinks I don't anymore because of how he hurt my feelings. I forgave him and he was nice to me again. I think ...
A. 21 November 2010: Hmm its hard to tell it really is. He might just have had a lot on his mind and never really noticed that he wasnt showing you attention. If you want to end all of this and find out once and for all, then talk to him, tell him how you feel about his ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend always so snappy with me?
Q. I have a good friend who had a baby about 6 months ago. shes very protective over her but have also noticed shes very snappy with me. i know shes had a lot of sleepless nights and am understanding about this but it seems lately anything i say makes ...
A. 21 November 2010: Try and not take it personally am sure she is just stressed out with being a new mum and isnt meaning any harm. She may also be suffering from post natal depression.
dont be confrontational with her but sit her down and tell her you feel she has ... (read in full...)
How do I move on when he keeps pulling me back in?
Q. I'm having trouble moving on after a past relationship that has lasted over ten years. About eight years ago this man had cheated on me, it was like this rollercoaster ride ever since. I was so in love with him and made every effort to work on ...
A. 21 November 2010: You need to avoid all contact because you are never going to get the security of this man, he is walking all over you and you are letting him so he is never going to take you seriously, delete all of his contact details tell him you need to clear ... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to have a one night stand and maybe get it out of my system but I really don't want to hurt my boyfriend... Help!
Q. Hi I've been in a gay relationship now for four and a half years. Not long after getting with my boyfriend I found out he was chatting to other lads on the internet and swapping naked pictures. When I found out and confronted him about it he said...
A. 21 November 2010: you should do neither, dont have a one night stand because if you love your boyfriend like you say you do then you just wouldnt even be thinking about it its selfish, just because you want to feel wanted think about your boyfriend not yourself. And ... (read in full...)
Friends, lovers then friends again... but what are we now?
Q. I dated/lived with my ex-boyfriend for about 7 months. (we broke-up 5 months ago.) At the end or our realationship I became very insecure and was convienced that he wasnt into me anymore. This eventually broke us up. At first when we broke up we did ...
A. 21 November 2010: Ok well am guessing you regretted asking him that question in the past. You sound like you are really happy right now and it sounds like he is treating you well and if you are confident that you are the only woman in his life then why dont you just ... (read in full...)
What more can I do...
Q. My girlfriend and I decided not to have sex till we're married, its hard though, but we're coping. We do do other things like fingering, muffing, licking and sucking her boobs. But i want to know what more can i do to pleasure her without having ...
A. 21 November 2010: your pretty much doing everything that you can at the moment, if you are not wanting to have sex then am pretty sure you wont want to use a dildo with her? why not try a vibrator on her clitoris.... (read in full...)
How can I contact him?
Q. Having just had a fabulous holiday in a smashing Hotel owned by a chain in the UK-I found myself very attracted to a younger man-much younger. He seemed interested although it was apparant he was going out with one of his work colleagues. He w...
A. 21 November 2010: Hi there, well if he was in a relationship then i think for most men it is ok to look but not to touch, you say you are quite glam so he may have been eying you up for this reason, dont go out there and declare your feelings for him as it might just ... (read in full...)
How do I know when to stop drinking?
Q. I went out with some co-workers last night and got way too drunk. I am really starting to realize that for some reason A) when I drink too much I become aggressive, not in a mean way. For example when i drink I have the courage to do anything hit on ...
A. 21 November 2010: Ok first off it is completely normal to feel awful the next day, when we drink to much it makes us feel the next day that we totally embarresed ourselves and we feel so much worse than what it was. The withdrawls of drink can cause us to be down on ... (read in full...)
Long Distance help please
Q. I am currently in a long distance relationship. My girlfriend and I dated for over a year in college then moved pretty far away upon graduating (~8 hour flight). We decided to try the whole long distance thing since we really love each other, and ...
A. 21 November 2010: Well its normal for you to worry yes, you are so far away off course you are going to be anoyed and a bit paranoid it is completely normal behaviour, however am guessing she is being brutally honest with you as am guessing it was her that told you ... (read in full...)
Neighbour's constant coughing is driving me nuts!!!
Q. My neighbour converted one of the bedrooms in his house into a bathroom. Unfortunately, it happens to be the one the other side of my bedroom wall and for months now he has been coughing incessantly but tends to go into the bathroom to do it. This ...
A. 21 November 2010: Well im afraid there is not a lot you can do about this, at the end of the day if you chose to life on a house that is joined to another then you are going to expect to hear these kinds of noises there is not a lot you can do here, especially if ear ... (read in full...)
He said I still have a place in his heart... but he's getting married!!!
Q. hey dear cupid friends .. this is my story.. well i dated a guy in my past and we broke up.. we have not been talking for many months now but today i texted him and told him what the problem was, he said i was his precious treasure but i just ...
A. 21 November 2010: Talk to him, tell him you still love him, ask him if he is getting married and make sure that is what he wants. Look back and ask yourself why the both of you broke up, there must have been a reason and just remember that the reason wont have just ... (read in full...)
When would be the right time to ask her out?
Q. One of my friends that i'd really like to date told me that someone she knows just died. Now, i know for sure that now really isnt the best of times to ask her out and ive been trying to be there for her and support her and I'll keep doing so until ...
A. 21 November 2010: Well everybody handles things in different ways, just keep doing what you are doing being there for her and being supportive. But you will be able to tell when she seems happier and in a better place and when you see that she seems happier, like ... (read in full...)
Long Distance - Not Allowed - Relationship
Q. So I had a very serious relationship last year and it ended in July 16, 2010. After my ex and I broke up we didn't talk for awhile, and he got a new girlfriend and everything and he started talking to me again and he still had strong feelings for ...
A. 21 November 2010: Ok first off how long is it until he turns 18? I think you should respect his wishes her and dont get your parents involved, i know they are only trying there best for you, but it will only make matters worse if this is not what your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
This guy doesn't like me for no reason... it's confusing me!
Q. hey guys just a little probem i have that is niggling in my head for a while now. ill try and kee this short and to the point. i am i mysecon year of uni and i live in a house share and my flat met with the upstairs flat a few months ago and i me...
A. 21 November 2010: Hi well if am honest with you i dont think he dislikes you at all, i think its just male ego, going back to the night he tried to kiss you and you avoided it, in his head this was rejection and he probably thought aw she doesnt like me and to a man ... (read in full...)
Are my reasons for wanting to end this whole thing and never enter into a relationship with him again reasonable?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of four months around one month ago. We had been friends for three years before finally deciding to go out, so we decided to go back to being friends. It turned out that we ended up being "friends with benefits". ...
A. 21 November 2010: Ok well to me he sounds like he is i little immature and he just doesnt know what he wants, at 20 he is still quite young and he is very hot and cold with you. from your description yes it does sound like he is using you at times, and at other times ... (read in full...)
Has he lost interest, moved on, what??
Q. I'm currently in a long distance relationship and we've been apart for the past month but have lived together for four months proceeding him leaving and were a couple. He's gone to the other side of the country for four months so that he can renew ...
A. 20 November 2010: Ok you need to call him and ask him what is wrong, just be blunt and tell him you have noticed him getting distant with you and ask him has he met someone else. ... (read in full...)
Am I over my feelings for him or not, if not what do I do??
Q. So, there's this guy that I've liked for two years. He's an amazing guy, makes me smile whenever i see him, there's only one problem, he's my brothers best friend. Also one of my good friends brother. He's 3 and a half years older than me, I dn't ...
A. 20 November 2010: Ok it sounds to me like you are getting over him but that there probably will always be those little pangs of jelousy, probably not even to do with him but more that you want the closeness and affection of a boyfriend.
Try and stay away from him... (read in full...)
How do I help my parents understand me??
Q. I need advice on how to deal with my parents.You see,I am an african american and so are my parents.my mom is 41 and my dad is 53,so theyre old-fashioned people.I am very much into rock music(hardcore,punk rock,christcore..etc)the emo/scene/gothic ...
A. 20 November 2010: Ok it sounds to me like your parents just want the best for you, but its not fair of them to tell you to stop being friends with a white guy, especially if they dont know him. At the end of the day skin colour should not matter this day in age, we ... (read in full...)
Please interpret his words??
Q. Dear Cupid, I just want to ask about my boss.He told me I am special and He like me..I am still thinking about those words what He said.What is the real feeling of a guy if He said that words to a girl? ...
A. 20 November 2010: I think he is pretty much telling you that he likes you. Do you like him back? If you do then take it as a compliment and tell him you like him also, if you dont then thank him for his kind words and leave it at that.... (read in full...)
Is this an appropriate subject for her to discuss with my husband??
Q. I want to do a poll... Is it appropiate that a female friend of my husbands told him about her getting a boob job? Also if there are any other topics you think are taboo to mention to an opposite sex friend when both parties are attached please s...
A. 20 November 2010: Im sure she didnt mean any harm in telling him this, most guys dont find fake boobs attractive they prefer the real deal, am pretty sure she probably just mentioned it to him as a friend. ... (read in full...)
Relationship has broken down over trust issues, any suggestions??
Q. Well I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend, it just turned 1 year and 9 months. The problem with out relationship is that he doesn't trust me. I don't know why though. But what really is bothering me that he doesn't trust me with my bestfriend. I ...
A. 20 November 2010: First of you dont need to earn your trust back because you have done nothing wrong, and its not fair on your friend that you are not talking to him anymore, you need to explain this to your boyfriend, tell him you love him and its only him you want ... (read in full...)
Why is he so distant at times??
Q. This guy that i have known for a couple years but i never really talked to him until recently i got a job where he also works. Ever since then we talk all t he time at work and then we'll also text each other. Then i asked him if he was busy one ...
A. 20 November 2010: Well if he started a chat with you then its obvious that he does like you, maybe as a friend or maybe more, its hard to tell but he does like you as a person anyway which is a good start, you have already asked him out though and he prob did have ... (read in full...)
Need some tips on how to talk to girls, please??
Q. How do I go about talking to girls? I'm not a very social person. Quite introverted, so how would I go about perhaps even making friends with a girl. Maybe even asking one on a date or anything? I'm quite an awkward kid, and there's a few gi...
A. 20 November 2010: First off you need to work on liking yourself, do things you are good at, this will raise your confidence and make you feel good. Learn to hold your head up high, tell yourself nobody is going to be interested if i keep staring at the floor, girls ... (read in full...)
Why does he want to know??
Q. Very long story short. I remanined in contact with an ex FWB so to speak. I was kind of torn with the idea of staying in touch just a friends because i thought it might be a bit awkward. Anyway, i'm single and he has a girlfriend now. He's been w...
A. 20 November 2010: He is probably just curious to see if you have moved on yet, alot of guys tend to do this even if they are in a relationship, i think he is just being nosey and i wouldnt worry if i were you that he is trying to be controlling.
However him brin... (read in full...)
Am I begin paranoid about "Georgia?"
Q. Hello, just wanting to know if i'm being paranoid OR if my feelings and thoughts could actually be true. K so. I'm three months pregnant with our second child, our first child is eight months old. We've been engaged for four months and toget...
A. 20 November 2010: Hi ok yea well your right i would say he lied to you because he didnt want tu hurt you, coming off smoking and a new job can add a lot of stress to someone, and quittin smoking can cause awful mood swings. It sounds to me like he has just developed ... (read in full...)
Confused over this entire thing??
Q. hello i need some advice on what to do my girlfriend left me three months a go she kept texting me telling me she loved me and wanted to work things out any way the whole time she was saying this i found out looking on fb she was in a relation...
A. 20 November 2010: hmm i think the best thing you can do here is talk to your ex and be honest with her, ask her why she is saying one thing to you and another thing to other people, tell her that she needs to make up her mind about what she really wants because its ... (read in full...)
I don't really love him, but my kids want us together!
Q. I don't know if this marriage is worth saving. I've been married for ten years. We have three children (8, 4, and 1). My husband and I haven't had sex in two years because he is impotent. I still give him hand jobs and oral sex, but I have never ...
A. 18 November 2010: Best of luck in the future, i hope he sticks by your rules for both you and the childrens sake, i do believe you are a good mother so i dont believe you will let your husband beat your children but just keep your gaurd up anyway because if he can ... (read in full...)
Single mother making me earn trust again
Q. How much time should it take for my ex to trust me again? We were together 11 months and 2 months ago we had a disagreement and we stop talking, even told her not to visit me ( lives 800 miles away ) I didnt really reach out to her until I visited ...
A. 18 November 2010: Wow her daughter is calling you daddy? That is messed up a child needs a father figure in her life that is going to be there steady for her, who is going to provide for her and also love her and be there for her. She should not be calling you daddy. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me! What can I say to him that I havent said already?
Q. i feel like i'm unappreciated. i always organise days out with my boyfriend and i always sort out tickets and transport and times. he just says yes! but he when it comes down to paying, all he does again is say yes.. he never actually p...
A. 18 November 2010: Exactly let him get some exercise for him it will be good for him, and also you dont ask him to buy you these things therefore he shouldnt throw that back in your face. If you chose to buy him something every now and again then you shouldnt expect ... (read in full...)
What should I do to build my confidence?
Q. When I was young (16 and upwards) people started teasing me for being 'thick', family members as well. They would roll their eyes and look at each other if I said anything or didnt understand something maybe. I even got a reputation for being ...
A. 18 November 2010: Its hard when so many people put a person down, it damages that person, and people just dont realise how cruel there comments really are its so sad.
But what you need to remember is that you have proved each and every one of those people wrong yo... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm wreaking everyone's lives!
Q. i left my wife 2 yrs ago after a long marriage that went wrong and met up with a girl i had gone out with 18 yrs earlier , she is a lovely girl but took alot of flac from my mood swings after me trying to get over the marriage. She then caught me ...
A. 18 November 2010: Wow you really are a gluten for punishment arent you, you were really lucky for your girlfriend to forgive you when she was 8 months pregnant if that was me i would have kicked you out by your backside and told you never to come near me again, the ... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me! What can I say to him that I havent said already?
Q. i feel like i'm unappreciated. i always organise days out with my boyfriend and i always sort out tickets and transport and times. he just says yes! but he when it comes down to paying, all he does again is say yes.. he never actually p...
A. 18 November 2010: Actions speak louder than words so from now on show him that he cant just keep walking all over you, because sweetie that is exactly what he is doing, and you are still buying him the stuff therefore he aint going to stop walking all over you until ... (read in full...)
He's so hot and cold with me! What does this mean?
Q. so there's this guy I've liked for a while now. we were such good friends until he started being a jerk. he knew I liked him but probably thinks I don't anymore because of how he hurt my feelings. I forgave him and he was nice to me again. I think ...
A. 16 November 2010: If am honest i think he has known for a long time that you might have a little crush on him, and am sure that he is flattered but it sounds to me like he is not interested in you and he was always being friendly to you because he didnt want to hurt ... (read in full...)
I don't really love him, but my kids want us together!
Q. I don't know if this marriage is worth saving. I've been married for ten years. We have three children (8, 4, and 1). My husband and I haven't had sex in two years because he is impotent. I still give him hand jobs and oral sex, but I have never ...
A. 16 November 2010: no you leave and you take the children with you, are you really going to let an 8 year old decide for you? at the end of the day the children will not want to leave no but they will be a lot happier when they are put in a happy enviornment, so get ... (read in full...)
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