Should I try to be friends with my ex again?
Q. Here's some background on the situation. I'm 18. All last summer, I carried on an Internet relationship with a 40-something-year-old man. At that point, I was 17, so obviously we could not do more than talk online. We met in person years earlier, so ...
A. 23 November 2010: Well you are 18 therefore you are capable of making your own desicions you are an adult. So you have two choices you can start talking to him again as a friend and break your dads heart and lose what trust your parents have in you, or else you can ... (read in full...)
Why can I not keep my broodiness at bay?
Q. Why can I not keep my broodiness at bay? I have wanted a baby ever since I got with my partner 3 years ago. We live in a 2bed house, have a car each and work hard. I can't stop thinking about having a baby, I get jealous when I see mums and...
A. 23 November 2010: Well if you both decide that you want children now then you can take the implant out of your arm just go to the doctor, but just remember to think about everything sensibly before you come to a desicion, goodluck.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he will change for me but then goes back to his bad ways!
Q. hi This is my little sister who had a problem and i really dont know how to help her (she uses my email cuz her bf has her email password and she dont want him to see the question) hi im a sixteen years old girl , im loving a guy and he is a...
A. 23 November 2010: Your very welcome, i hope you have a good future.... (read in full...)
How can I mix it up a bit?
Q. I wan to know how I should be sexy. I do the same things like always, candles, roses, etc... I wanna know how I can mix it up a little bit....
A. 23 November 2010: There is plenty of things you can do to spice up the relationship, candles and roses are good, why not try sexy underwear and massages.... (read in full...)
Do I come clean about cheating?
Q. i've been going out with this guy for 2 years now, he's a great guy sweet and carring but our relationship became dull and we lost the spark...so i began talking to other ppl behind his back... it was innocent at first but it went too far...i ...
A. 23 November 2010: I think you should tell him and get it over and done with, its better to be honest with him and tell him what you have done because you might think that you can brush it under the table and pretend that it didnt happen but it will come back to bite ... (read in full...)
Lost cause.
Q. Hi im just a teenager and all, but unlike most other teens i've never been in a relationship .. serious or not. Those little middle school relationships dont really count to me and i think since i havent been in one ever thats why its holding me ...
A. 23 November 2010: Your not a lost cause at all. Maybe you are just not ready to be in a committed relationship and that is perfectly fine, some people dont start dating until they are in there 20s so dont be worrying you still have plenty of time. There are many guys ... (read in full...)
My friend's in a LDR but she had anal sex with a stranger!
Q. hello everyone. a friend of mine has a question. she is in a long distance relationship. she didn't want to go out and have vaginal sex with a stranger so instead she had anal sex with a condom. it didn't mean anything so she is wondering if she ...
A. 23 November 2010: She cheated on her partner, long distance or not vaginal or anal its all the same, she had sex with a complete stranger when she knew she was in a relationship, so tell her to not be a coward to own up to her boyfriend about the mistake that she ... (read in full...)
I have to do everything for her!
Q. i am 28 years old and i am married. i love my fiance but i have to do everything for her. I cook, clean, do all the laundry, pay bills, do all the house work and maintain the cars that we have. when i dont do something for her she starts getting ...
A. 23 November 2010: Hmm this is a tricky one to say the least, it sounds to me like you have married a very lazy woman. Im not sure what would be the best way to go around this. I think you just need to be honest with her, sit her down and tell her you dont mind doing ... (read in full...)
I want to make a sex tape!
Q. Would my boyfriend think its weird if i bring up us having sex an video tapeing it for us to watch some time? Also is it weird to watch your self have sex or will he think its weird watching it? Thanks....
A. 23 November 2010: Everybody is different and everybody has there own opinions so just ask him, the worst he can say is no. There are plenty of couples who tape themselves so that they can watch it together at a later stage, however in saying that there is also plenty ... (read in full...)
My married long distance friend is ignoring me!
Q. Hello Aunts, I need your advice. I have been on and off long distance friends with a now married man for 10 years. We first met in an internet dating chatroom when he split as a bf from his now sife of 5 years. At that time we discussed aspects ...
A. 23 November 2010: Im guessing that his wife found out about it and therefore he has promised her to cut contact with you and that is what he has done, he probably realises that he needs to work on things with his wife and therefore he doesnt want to talk to you ... (read in full...)
Why won't he apologize for cheating?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. Eight months into our relationship he cheated on me and I forgave him. Shortly after that we moved in together and everything was good until 4 months ago.I found out he cheated again. He will not talk ...
A. 23 November 2010: Well you are still together and you forgave him once and now he has done it again and you still havent left him therefore he probably feels that there is no need to apologise as you are still there. To me it says that he doesnt care about you in the ... (read in full...)
Why can I not keep my broodiness at bay?
Q. Why can I not keep my broodiness at bay? I have wanted a baby ever since I got with my partner 3 years ago. We live in a 2bed house, have a car each and work hard. I can't stop thinking about having a baby, I get jealous when I see mums and...
A. 23 November 2010: Ok just remember that you are still very young and that babies are really hard work, as am sure you know. I think it would be best to leave it another few years until you are a bit older, have you spoke to your partner about how he feels? And does ... (read in full...)
How can I repair our relationship?
Q. Dear All, I have been with my girl friend for 10 months now, I love her a lot, I have'nt had a lot of relationships before her, She visited ethiopia in July to attend her freinds wedding and met up with her ex - boy freind, before she left ...
A. 23 November 2010: Well you done the right thing by admitting to her that you looked through her phone, however this is going to have a negative impact on her because right now she will be feeling that you dont trust her and what is the point in being in a ... (read in full...)
So much hurt but so much to do ?
Q. i had a bf he was my first love but off and on for three years my first in every thing but he hurt me flirting talking to gitls just when i had the strength to end it i forgave him again and then i found again he still talked to another girl ...
A. 23 November 2010: To take him off your mind then i guess you just need to focus on your school work and on your family. Go out with your friends as often as you can and let them be a shoulder to you if you need to get it out of your system, the trick is to avoid all ... (read in full...)
How do I stay strong for my family and friends?
Q. I went to the Doctor on Friday to find out about a lump on my back. The doctor told me that i was to have surgery to take it out. He said it could be one of three things, 1. Cancer 2. Tumor 3. Cyst. We are hoping for a Cyst but im scared. I try ...
A. 23 November 2010: Hunny you need to try and stop worrying so much about your family, i know its hard on them but its even harder on you sweetie you need to take time out and think about yourself and look after yourself, your family and friends are there to support ... (read in full...)
Dating mistakes!
Q. I Made a huge mistake im only 14 but i had this sweet guy treated me like i was a princess and i thought i found young love ive never been like that with a guy before and i made a mistake i broke up with him for my ex but i didnt realize how much i ...
A. 23 November 2010: Ok well first of we all make mistakes in life, and im sorry but you need to pay the price now for it. He has another girlfriend so you just need to accept that and move on. Dont try and come in between them as you will only push him away further. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he will change for me but then goes back to his bad ways!
Q. hi This is my little sister who had a problem and i really dont know how to help her (she uses my email cuz her bf has her email password and she dont want him to see the question) hi im a sixteen years old girl , im loving a guy and he is a...
A. 23 November 2010: Yes it is possible that he will change, some people in there teenage years tend to think that they can do all these things as it is part of growing up, you sound mature and you dont want to see him drinking or taking drugs i would be exactly the ... (read in full...)
Female masturbation advice.
Q. Hello all I just wanted some tips, I am a 16 year old girl and have become quite sexually frustrated and I want to start masterbating. any tips?...
A. 22 November 2010: Every woman is different and there bodies respond to different things therefore just take your time and get to explore your own body touch different areas and you will find out what you like and what you dont. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to ask to be exclusive?
Q. I have been dating someone for over 2 months now and things are relatively well. He asked for us to get tested for stds because he wants to go off condoms. Is it ok for me to ask for us to be dating exclusively?? I do not not know if he's dating ...
A. 22 November 2010: Yes it is perfectly ok for you to ask this, if he is wanting to get sti tests and come of condoms then you have a right to ask him to be exclusive with you. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
Will these feelings ever go away?
Q. Hello all, When I was 17 (he was 18)I met a boy and we dated for 3 years. We were each others "firsts." Then, we ended up breaking up for about 8 months. This was the most miserable, depressing time of my life but I eventually started to move ...
A. 22 November 2010: Well first of yes sex is intimate and it is meant to be shared with two people in love, but a lot of people out there have one night stands for many reasons and i dont think its right for anybody to judge someone.
He was single when he had thes... (read in full...)
I'm not supposed to like him but I do...
Q. ok so i sorta have a crush on my moms bf son.hah ik bad. i like him so so much he is a sweet caring sensitive guy we are both teenagers. he always stares at me, i catch him so much and he would smile sometimes or laugh. he walks close to me and when ...
A. 22 November 2010: The only way for you to know if he likes you is to ask him, thats the only way you are going to know, so next time you are with him pluck up the courage and just ask him how he feels about you? And if you want to you can tell him that you like him. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he will change for me but then goes back to his bad ways!
Q. hi This is my little sister who had a problem and i really dont know how to help her (she uses my email cuz her bf has her email password and she dont want him to see the question) hi im a sixteen years old girl , im loving a guy and he is a...
A. 22 November 2010: Im afraid there is nothing you can do to help him, as you have tried and he hasnt listened, am afraid he just needs to realise himself that he is doing wrong and stop it, nobody can make him stop but himself. Sorry.... (read in full...)
I don't want him to know I like him but I want a kiss!
Q. Okay, so this guy i like is from Arazonia. He comes up to visit his brother that lives with me, he's a year older than me, and well, i think he's cute. He's coming up next month for two weeks. I want something good to happpen between us like a kiss ...
A. 22 November 2010: No am afraid not, you cant kiss him without him knowing that you like him, is there some reason that you dont want him to know? most people are flattered to hear that someone likes them, therefore why would you not want him to know?
I guess ju... (read in full...)
He makes my hormones race. Do I like him?
Q. I know this guy. I met him at a summer camp thing...We became friends. Two people at the camp hinted that we looked like a couple/should go out. After the camp finished...We kept contact. Via text. One day I was getting exam results and he texted m...
A. 22 November 2010: well you dont need to be attracted to someone straight away to like them, attractiveness can grow in time. So if you do want to get with him then go for it, you have nothing to lose, however a little hint dont call yourself ugly in front of him or ... (read in full...)
Why would he go "floppyish"?
Q. Hey, So i recently started dating a guy call him Jay, we really get along and love spending time together but we have tryed to have sex twice and his erection goes floppyish when we are about to have sex but when we are kissing and i play aorun...
A. 22 November 2010: It sounds to me like it is anxiety stopping him, am sure he is attracted to you so dont worry about this, he is getting hard when you mess around therefore that means that everything is ok and he can get an erection, if it just comes to before sex ... (read in full...)
Why did he come by my job?
Q. Ok, Long story short, Fell into a casual relationship without any intentions of it being casual. I really liked this guy, he didn't want the same things = I felt like crap about it. That was 2 months ago. I've seen him a few times since and ...
A. 22 November 2010: Well he might just have been passing the shop on the way to somewere and called in for a few things as if he is self centred then it probably didnt even cross his mind about how you would feel.
He has hurt you and you know this now you need to ... (read in full...)
How do I make the first move smooth....I feel awkward...
Q. I found this website really helpful, so here it goes: Im 18 years old in college, and all of my relationships i been in are usually the girl making the first move. I been told im really cute and sexy a couple times, but i have low self esteem and ...
A. 22 November 2010: well if am honest, most guys dont pick up on girls giving them signs so you are not the only one hear, a lot of girls are shy as well therefore they could like you but dont want to make it obvious. You need to work on your self confidence a bit do ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but wants to be with his single friends too...how do I support him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, but lately he has been struggling with being in a relationship. Almost all of his close friends are single and I know he's getting crap from them. We're having a less contact and I'm ...
A. 22 November 2010: Well there is no real way that you can support him, you are both young and it is completely normal for each of you to be going out seperatley with your friends, it breaks things up and you are still independant.
Make him see that his friends ... (read in full...)
Emotional drained, confused, fustrated, and angry at myself ...so is this love?
Q. I have like this women for a number of years and I dont know if its love I feel for her or self-disillusionment(basically seeing something thats not really there) I think I love this women but I shouldnt I not going into details, but I have liked or ...
A. 22 November 2010: She is using you completely and you are letting her time and time again, but the thing is you know this deep down you know you are causing yourself to be miserable and you know there is no hope that she loves you, yet you still keep trying and ... (read in full...)
Am I being taken for a fool, or am I paranoid like she says?
Q. i need help i feel im at a loss over the occuring months i have been posting frequently on here and today im going to give the fullest picture i can. my (ex)partener and I have been together for 18months and we have a 10 month old child togeth...
A. 22 November 2010: My guess is she does love you as the father of her child but i dont think she is in love with you as a partner or a lover, it sounds to me like she stayed with you because she was pregnant and didnt want to do it alone, you were her back up and as ... (read in full...)
I love her but she keeps going in and out of my life!
Q. hi every 1 ... i neeeeedd heeeelp in late 2005 (5) years ago i received a love note from the hottest girl in my school, i was 13 she apparently had a crush on me and wanted me as her boyfriend of course i accepted, (AND THATS WHEN I HAD MY FIRST LO...
A. 22 November 2010: You need to get her out of your life, i know you love her but she is not good for you, she left you for your best friend and i know she was only young but now she cheated on her boyfriend with you and now she is ignoring you again, to me it sounds ... (read in full...)
Its been six months, why can't I forget about my much older teacher?
Q. I fell for one of my teachers last year. I was 18 and he was a 52 year old man who had never been married and had no children (I know that he lives with a woman, but he doesn't marry her because he doesn't believe in marriage). I had no "father ...
A. 22 November 2010: Ok what you need to do is to get out more with friends and meet new people. Its ok to think about him now and again but you have no other experiences with men or love therefore you are obsessing over this man, you need to get out and meet new men ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he will change for me but then goes back to his bad ways!
Q. hi This is my little sister who had a problem and i really dont know how to help her (she uses my email cuz her bf has her email password and she dont want him to see the question) hi im a sixteen years old girl , im loving a guy and he is a...
A. 22 November 2010: Ok well first of, if he lives in another country and you have only saw each other twice in five years then were do you feel this relationship is going? You need to spend quality time with someone to know if you love them or not, you need plenty of ... (read in full...)
What should I do about attracting flirting co-worker?
Q. humanMy very attractive coworker has been flirting with my hardcore for about a week. He has a very joking personality, but he's callin me hot n beautiful n paying so much attention to me. I think he is a dream! I do not however want to find out he ...
A. 22 November 2010: Well it does sound to me like he likes you, however he might be a major flirt its hard to tell without knowing him what his personality is like, watch him closely with other females at the work place and look at his behaviour with them and see if he ... (read in full...)
Can we be friends still if he doesn't return my feelings?
Q. Ok I have a slight problem. Ok so I like this guy he is so sweet and everything I like in a guy. We are in middle school and have abfew classes together. We sorta knew each other in 6th grade but we never really talked. We are both in 7th grade. Ok ...
A. 22 November 2010: hi well first off all the signs are there that he does like you, however some guys at this age dont want to admit that they like someone they want to try and act manly and pretend that they dont care about girls that they are more interested in guy ... (read in full...)
I check out other girls but love my girlfriend. How do I keep myself in check?
Q. hello everyone i have a question about well these teenage hormones no i have a girlfriend of 1 year and 4 months now since i'm a young man with alot of hornyness which i think is quite common but my sometimes it overwhelms me and i "check out" other ...
A. 22 November 2010: Ok this doesnt make you a bad person, remember you are doing nothing wrong, as the saying goes you can look but you cant touch. What you are doing is completely normal and you shouldnt feel guilty, men who are married and are happy with families ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated, I don't think I love him anymore, what do I do?
Q. I am not in love with my husband anymore..what should I do?? I got married very young, early 20s due to finding out I was pregnant. Our marriage started off very rocky with a lot for us to overcome...I was still in college and he had never lived ...
A. 22 November 2010: If you dont love him then no dont take him back. It wouldnt be fair on you and it wouldnt be fair on the children to be living in a unhappy enviorment. Explain to him that you just want to make a life of your own now but also make sure that he gets ... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant, will all of our hopes and dream be ruined?
Q. I'm 15, my boyfriend is 18; I'm sure you know what's coming. I think I'm pregnant. I know, I'm stupid and an ungrateful child who is going to break her parents' heart; I tell myself that everyday. So before you scold me and the like, please con...
A. 22 November 2010: Ok it was not more your fault than his, it takes two to tangle and he is the adult in this relationship therefore he should have known to use protection. So he failed you.
Ok first off you need to get to your doctor and have a test done to confi... (read in full...)
Why did my near perfect man fail me?
Q. i have been married for 14 years...the last 2 hell on earth...we had marriage problems 3 years ago i tried to talk to my husband but he ingored me , hoping the problem would go away..it got worse..i felt a stranger in my own home, he seemed to be ...
A. 22 November 2010: No you are not pathetic, and dont ever think that you are. It should of been awake up call for him when you tried to kill yourself but instead he treated you like dirt and starting getting violent, to me that shows he doesnt love you as much as he ... (read in full...)
Should we stay together in an LDR that has no end in sight?
Q. I'm in a 5 year relationship. I'm 33 he's 28. It's also been LDR for the last 2 years. I'm in grad school he has his own business. We get a long really great when we're together (about every 6 weeks) and really love each other. There are no plans to ...
A. 22 November 2010: Ok first of no it doesnt matter what age he is, age is only a number and you are both adults. you say you have two years left in your course, well if you truely love each other and you think you could both wait out those two years then go for it. ... (read in full...)
We had casual sex, why is he avoiding me on facebook now?
Q. If a guy avoids you on Facebook could he like you or loathe you?...He always signs out like two minutes after I sign on. Lol.. We had casual sex once. Its weird because he smiles when he sees me, but that could just be because he's nice. I was shy ...
A. 22 November 2010: it sounds to me like he wanted sex from you and he got it and he is being a coward now and avoiding you because he doesnt want anything more. Clear it up and ask him. Next time you are on facebook private mail him a message and ask him what the ... (read in full...)
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