He's so hot and cold with me! What does this mean?
Q. so there's this guy I've liked for a while now. we were such good friends until he started being a jerk. he knew I liked him but probably thinks I don't anymore because of how he hurt my feelings. I forgave him and he was nice to me again. I think ...
A. 21 November 2010: Hmm its hard to tell it really is. He might just have had a lot on his mind and never really noticed that he wasnt showing you attention. If you want to end all of this and find out once and for all, then talk to him, tell him how you feel about his ... (read in full...)
I don't really love him, but my kids want us together!
Q. I don't know if this marriage is worth saving. I've been married for ten years. We have three children (8, 4, and 1). My husband and I haven't had sex in two years because he is impotent. I still give him hand jobs and oral sex, but I have never ...
A. 18 November 2010: Best of luck in the future, i hope he sticks by your rules for both you and the childrens sake, i do believe you are a good mother so i dont believe you will let your husband beat your children but just keep your gaurd up anyway because if he can ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for these hard times to wear off?
Q. So for the past year or so, i got the chance to meet a very special guy from our small school that we both went to. He's three years older than I. We began as friends and nurtured that friendship as we talked more and more, realizing the unique and ...
A. 17 November 2010: Only you can make this choice sweetie, you pretty much broke up with him because you didnt want to have sex with him which is fair enough if that is your beliefs but you should have spoke to him about it, told him your beliefs and gave him a chance ... (read in full...)
WHy would he make me think he doesn't want to be friends?
Q. I really like this guy, who used to be my great friend, but now I would just count us as okay friends.. Like, he use to smile at me like everyday in our 6th hour, and he'd always look at me too. In the halls he'd wave and smile/say hi. But now in 6...
A. 17 November 2010: I think your mum is right here you should listen to her, am guessing that he did like you but he has a girlfriend now and i dont think she found out he likes you but am just guessing he is trying to focus on his girlfriend and stop himself from ... (read in full...)
Why does he pretend not to know these women?
Q. When out with my boyfriend (of 7 years) sometimes women come up to talk to him. It has happened probably about 8 times in the past 2-3 years where a woman comes up and is all "Oh hi [his name]! Nice to see you here! How are you?" and very friendly ...
A. 17 November 2010: He could be doing it to avoid confrontation with you, would you say that you are a jelous person? be honest with yourself. he probably just lies about it to you so he doesnt need to answer a thousand and one questions from you, and if he feels that ... (read in full...)
He is still technically married, he lives with his 'wife' and we work with her too! Is it just his papers preventing us from being together officially?
Q. Im 21 and Joe is 28. we've been dating for like a year and a half, hes a cook at a restaurant,im a waitress.he's mexican. i dont know exactly when he came to america, but he is still technically married. heres the nasty part: we work with his ...
A. 17 November 2010: hi ok well am afraid you need to sit down and talk to him about this, if he is in the country illegally then he wont be able to get a divorcee without being sent back to mexico. So thats probably the dilemma that he is in at the moment therefore he ... (read in full...)
Our relationship has reached the point where nothing is happening and its a bit boring, I want to take it to the next level but he doesn't see the point!
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 1/2 years and have been living together for 2 1/2. We get on like a house on fire we are a good team we make each other laugh basically we just get on with it. I want to get married one day but he thinks whats the ...
A. 17 November 2010: Ok it sounds to me like when you said to your boyfriend that you wanted to take things to another level he got scared of commitment, its completely normal for a guy in his twenties to act like this, he probably just ran as it made him question ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to not make up with him and to let him and his mum get on with it?
Q. I have a partner of 7yrs with 2 children,we broke up recently and he moved out and went back home to live with his mum, he is 41.He eventually came back and decided he wanted to make up, he then tells me he has decided to go on night shift and ...
A. 17 November 2010: No its not wrong of you to feel like this, you just feel like you want to give up and nobody can really blame you for feeling like that, but take five minutes out and ask yourself do you love this man? Are you in love with him? and do you want to ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to think a guy is very attractive yet not be sexually attracted to him?
Q. I've been seeing my girfriend for a little over a year. (I'm 46 and she's 34) The sex was great at first, and she couldn't keep her hands off me. But, she's gradually lost interest over the past 3-4 months, and does't want to do much of anything ...
A. 17 November 2010: Hi well i would say from what you have mentioned that she is sexually attracted to you, but it sounds to me like she is feeling a little insecure now the more the relationship is getting serious. She let her self go with you on the first few months ... (read in full...)
This female friend of his is sticking her nose in where its not wanted! What can we do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. When we met for the first time, he was with a friend who was a girl, and she had made a comment to him that "he was going to marry me someday". Anyway, as much as that was a cute comment, I ...
A. 17 November 2010: Ok well it sounds to me like you trust your boyfriend not to go near this girl or over step the friend mark so thats good because that would be the biggest problem.
It sounds to me like this girl might just feel that you have taken her friend a... (read in full...)
What do I have to do for my girlfriend to forgive me?!
Q. It was my girlfriends birthday a little over a week ago and I had some stuff come up that got in the way of getting her a gift. I told her about it and at first she was fine with it, then a few days later she brought it up and i felt terrible...
A. 17 November 2010: Ok so it can hurt a girl when there boyfriend doesnt buy them a gift, but its not like you completely forgot it was her birthday and you did explain you had other stuff to deal with so she is atually taking this whole gift thing a bit to far.
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I want him back! What can I do?
Q. Hey guys:) so I like this boy..Cody. We r ALWAYS off and on. Long story short: we dated when I was in 8th grade. He was in 9th. I was not over my ex one bit so I dumped him. it was your Typical middle school relationship. Then we tried again that ...
A. 17 November 2010: Ok well he probably isnt showing that he cares because you left him for another guy so he is going to act like any man would at his age and pretend that he doesnt care.
There is nothing really here that you can do to make him want you back, bu... (read in full...)
He's so hot and cold with me! What does this mean?
Q. so there's this guy I've liked for a while now. we were such good friends until he started being a jerk. he knew I liked him but probably thinks I don't anymore because of how he hurt my feelings. I forgave him and he was nice to me again. I think ...
A. 16 November 2010: If am honest i think he has known for a long time that you might have a little crush on him, and am sure that he is flattered but it sounds to me like he is not interested in you and he was always being friendly to you because he didnt want to hurt ... (read in full...)
I tell my husband these unnecessary lies!
Q. I have been with my husband for 14 years, 3 of those married. The problem is that I have a huge problem with telling lies about stupid things that don't need to be lied about. Every time I begin to redeem myself, I lie about something stupid, like ...
A. 16 November 2010: It sounds to me like you are a compulsive liar, meaning that you just cant help lying at times and it comes out of your mouth without you even realising. There are some people out there that have really bad cases of this, it is actually a condition ... (read in full...)
I had a sexual dream about my friend!
Q. I recently became closer to a guy who I have known for a while, We are just friends though, but last night I had a dream I was making out with him, and in the dream I liked it. Everytime I think about it I get all embarrassed and start to feel ...
A. 16 November 2010: Hey its just your hormones darling, you are going through puberty and this is the time were we become aware of boys and sexual matters so on so forth, dont take this to be something embarressing and it certainly doesnt mean that you like him that ... (read in full...)
Did I lose feelings for her during our separation?
Q. Me and my girl were separated for two months. We talked everyday and texted each other. The thing is, over the two months I did not miss her at all. Even though we talked everyday every time I saw a text from her or see her calling me I would cringe ...
A. 16 November 2010: Hi well am afraid that it is possible that we can fall out of love with someone in a relationship, it is sad when it happens and you cant help how you feel, but you are still in your twenties and you are still finding yourself as a person, and as ... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend is going to dump her, he may ask me out next!
Q. Hey Guys! Okay so my friend has been going out with this guy for a little more than 4moths. Me and my friend aren't really that close we have 1 class together. We talk but where not that close so yesterday there was a sub for my social studies class ...
A. 16 November 2010: you want me to be honest? I think that no matter how close of a friend she is you shouldnt do it, hunny it will hurt her and i know that it isnt fair on you either but you dont want everyone in your class to turn on you and think of you as the girl ... (read in full...)
I've never been with anyone else, but I'm curious!
Q. ok me and my husband we been togeather since senior year in highschool and we are now 22 yrs old with 2 kids. i was his first girlfriend and he was my first boyfriend we never dated anyone else and now i have thoughts of what it would be like with ...
A. 16 November 2010: Ok so you are 22 you are married and you have two children, wow you settled down pretty young didnt you? Ok well yeah this is pretty normal when people settle down young and have children and have only ever had one partner they will start find ... (read in full...)
Help!!! He wants to be with me but doesn't want to put a label on it. What does this mean?
Q. so i have been seeing this guy for a few months and we are planning on moving in together (his idea). but last night we were talking and the labelling subject came up and he said He doesn't like labelling relationships. basically it is what it is ...
A. 16 November 2010: tennisstar88 is right here, he might not be a player at all, by the sounds of it he isnt so dont worry but not labelling it can mean that it will be quite tricky because it means that he does not like commitment and that is not good for any female ... (read in full...)
How can I help him get through our breakup?
Q. me and my ex were together for a year and 8 months. I really cared for him but was slowly starting to realize that I didn't care for him as a solemate type. Then, I was with a guy who i was very infactuated with before me and my ex started dating ...
A. 16 November 2010: Hi you need to stay away from him, ignore him if he contacts you and stay well away from him. You need to be cruel to be kind and am afraid that the only way he is going to get over you is if you both have no contact. I no you will probably find ... (read in full...)
I'm only asking for a happy medium!
Q. Have you ever been in love for the first time, and it is with your very first girlfriend too, and you love her so much that you would never let any harm come to her, but she never seems to appreciate anything you do for her and that is tearing you ...
A. 16 November 2010: You posted up your story earlier as well and i answered it but this one goes in to more detail than the other one, and you are leaving out in this one that she gets pains when she tries to have sex.
Ok forgettin the first story and looking ... (read in full...)
He likes to be around his guy friends all the time, I'm wondering if he's gay?
Q. why is it my boyfriend likes to be around his guy friends all the time im beginning to wonder if he gay.When i ask him lets go somewhere together or walk together he saids he dont feel like it but if one of his guy friends ask him to go he jumps up ...
A. 16 November 2010: I dont think he actually wants to be in this relationship if am honest, a clear sign of this is when he is not taking you out locally, i dont think he is gay but he could be using going out with his friends as an excuse to meet other woman.
You c... (read in full...)
Why do guys just stop talking to you?
Q. So, I met this guy about two weeks ago and we had so much in common. We had both just gotten out of a long relationship with similar issues and I opened up to him really fast although I usually take a long time to do so. We were talking everyday for ...
A. 16 November 2010: Ok well you barely know this guy just remember that, i think that maybe you opened up to him two much to fast, and guys and girls deal with break ups in different ways, you probably just got a bit to much for him and he needs space to get over what ... (read in full...)
Do red-headed men dig dark skinned women?
Q. i like this red-headed guy but i don't know if he would like me because i am dark complected.so my question is do red headed guys like dark complected girls?...
A. 16 November 2010: Am sorry but this is a question that is to broad for anyone to answer, at the end of the day hair colour or skin colour shouldnt matter, thats like asking me would i go near a dark complection guy because i have red hair and the answer would be well ... (read in full...)
I actually prefer masturbating than having sex with my girlfriend!
Q. I actually prefer masturbating than having sex with my girlfriend. Why? Because she's never in the mood, and when she is she always gets tired fast, breathless and pain in her stomach. (She's not overweight and my penis is only 7" long and 6" girt...
A. 16 November 2010: Ok it should not only be you that is wanting to have sex in a relationship but also your girlfriend, she should also be wanting sex, you are a young couple and the physical side of the relationship is meant to be the best part at your age.
Ok so... (read in full...)
It's like he has the best of both worlds!
Q. I've recently become involved with a man who never seems to get really hard when we're making love. It does limit the positions we can try and he steers me towards the easier ones. It doesn't have any effect on his climax, and sometimes he is very ...
A. 16 November 2010: Hmm 35 is quite young to be having erection problems, mind you it can happen to a guy at any stage of his life, the thing about not lasting so long is that he has poor stamina so you should edge him on to get fit, maybe both of you could take up ... (read in full...)
If he says he doesn't care, then why is he reading my blogs?
Q. Hello, I got out of a relationship 4 months ago. Basically, I was dumped, and lets say my ex and I have been through a lot. We used to be attached like twins, and we went through a few arguments that escalated. He broke up with me because he thought ...
A. 16 November 2010: Hi ok well it sounds like this guy just wanted someone to lash out and put the blame on and he chose you. I guess you just need to ignore the fact that he is blaming you and be the mature one here, he is probably reading your blog to make sure you ... (read in full...)
I quit my job to move near him!
Q. Quit my job today. I didn't turn up for work in the morning but I did e-mail my supervisor to say I was not coming back. Obviously it was a shock for him as he thought things were going ok. However, I was unhappy and the job was stressing me out. ...
A. 16 November 2010: Ok this sounds like the desicion wasnt thought through and it was just snap im not going back, try not to feel bad though, it was stressing you out and you werent happy. Am glad you are not moping about, but if you are in a LDR then are you applying ... (read in full...)
I don't really love him, but my kids want us together!
Q. I don't know if this marriage is worth saving. I've been married for ten years. We have three children (8, 4, and 1). My husband and I haven't had sex in two years because he is impotent. I still give him hand jobs and oral sex, but I have never ...
A. 16 November 2010: no you leave and you take the children with you, are you really going to let an 8 year old decide for you? at the end of the day the children will not want to leave no but they will be a lot happier when they are put in a happy enviornment, so get ... (read in full...)
What to do when the lover gets married to another???
Q. Two years back I fell in love with a girl (though I was married to another). She too was madly in love with me despite knowing my status. We felt we were born only for each other. Due to my circumstances we were not able to get married. We took a ...
A. 16 November 2010: You should start thinking about your poor wife and start concentrate on making it up to her for cheatin on her, wine and dine her, make her feel loved and concentrate on working hard on getting your marriage back on track you are not the victim here ... (read in full...)
Heeeelp! Is my boyfriend cheating?
Q. I need advice on what to do... I've been with my boy 3.5 years now, he was my first love, first everything. I am 21. A few months into our relationship he got drunk at a party and spooned a girl he used to be intimate with...he promised nothing...
A. 16 November 2010: Hi darling it sounds to me like this guy just cant be trusted if am honest with you, you have forgiven him twice in the past for his mistakes and am sorry to say this but this just makes him think he can walk all over you. Dont put up with it ... (read in full...)
Help!!! He wants to be with me but doesn't want to put a label on it. What does this mean?
Q. so i have been seeing this guy for a few months and we are planning on moving in together (his idea). but last night we were talking and the labelling subject came up and he said He doesn't like labelling relationships. basically it is what it is ...
A. 16 November 2010: He doesnt want you to be his girlfriend, sounds to me like he is not wanting any sort of commitments and if someone asks him has he a girlfriend he has the right to say no because thats not what you are to him.
You need to sit down and ask him ... (read in full...)
How hard is it to get over your first love?
Q. How hard is it to get over your first and true love of 3.5 years. We are heading down the road to a breakup and i keep getting scared that i will never love the same again. I then keep thinking of all the good memories which is so painful. How long ...
A. 16 November 2010: Its always hard to get over your first love, and it takes different people different times, but believe me you will love again, and it will just be as good if not better than your first love. I remember it took mea good year to get over my first ... (read in full...)
How can I make her my very close friend?
Q. I joined an academy this Summer... Recently I started liking a girl, who is one year younger than me. Gradually I started thinking about her all the time. I tried many times to talk to her, but I couldn't get a nice chance. Sadly, the summer session ...
A. 16 November 2010: You cant make some one be your friend you just need to try.. Add her on facebook and ask her how she is take things slow and talk to her as a friend, ask her what she is doing and get to know her, if she doesnt reply then am afraid that she is not ... (read in full...)
How long does a sperm live???
Q. hey all, my question is... how much time does a sperm live in dry atmosphere/outside human body?....... for ex: if i touched my bfs penis by hand, and after 30 mins i had to pee is there a possibility that sperm lived for 30 mins outside the body...
A. 16 November 2010: Sperm can last for a few hours outside of the human body, if the semen is still wet then more than likely there will be still live sperm in it.
It got on your hand though, which is naturally warm with bodily heat therefore after half an hour the... (read in full...)
She was pressured into doing something with another guy, should I end it or stay?
Q. my girlfriend was pressured in to sucking another boy's d**k, she lied to me when i asked about it but she has now told me the truth and i dont know what to do. shoud i end it or stay?...
A. 16 November 2010: You cant stay with someone in a relationship over fear that they will kill themselves, she needs help and you are not able to give her the help that she needs she needs professional phycological help. ... (read in full...)
How can I make things go back to the way they where when we first dated?
Q. I'm dating a girl who has a bad history, she did tell me everything about her past she also told me that she has changed and that she wants to be with me forever but i'm struggling to trust her and i end up hurting myself and her too. Whenever she's ...
A. 16 November 2010: Well you need to sort out your self before committing in to this relationship again, just because she had a bad history doesnt mean you cant trust her. Her past is her business and you should never have let it come in between you both, she now knows ... (read in full...)
We keep breaking up and getting back together all because of his flirting with other girls!
Q. my boyfriend and i have broken up and gotten together 2 times and i really do love him! We broke up the first time because he just use to flirt too much to an extent that he didnt even notice himself! 2nd time was because i went overseas for about 3 ...
A. 16 November 2010: Well some people are just naturally flirty and they dont even realise they are doing it. Its normal for a guy to chat to females on facebook, he is entitled to have female friends as much as male friends and am afraid that if you want to get back ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about taking the physical side of our relationship slowly? Or should it just be left unsaid?
Q. so im 21, this is my first "relationship" (although we're not exclusive)-- been going out with this guy for a bit over a month (6 dates).. i am a virgin waiting for love, but i havent discussed my history with him yet... i want to take the physical ...
A. 16 November 2010: Its best being honest with him, am sure he has picked up on your signs but he is a man and he will keep trying his luck, so the next time he tries something like this tell him you need to talk to him, tell him you are enjoying getting to know him ... (read in full...)
Feeling down & empty after our wedding, is this normal?
Q. Is it normal to feel a little sad and unsure about one's marriage after only a few months of marriage? I was with my husband for 5 years before I married him. We had the normal ups and downs during the courship period, but I was certain that he ...
A. 16 November 2010: Hi your right you put so much time and effort in to a marriage and its exciting and then things tend to go back to normal and you might start feeling a bit low because its all over and done with now that your actually married. The first year of ... (read in full...)
Regretting marrying my wife as she isnt the woman I thought she was
Q. This is my situation... I am married and have a newborn child (4 months) but I can't stand the fact that my wife was what some might consider a "slut". She slept with 16 guys, slept with a married man regardless of her knowing that was his ...
A. 16 November 2010: Wow slow down a minute. Hey everyone has a past and some regret there past and others dont. Ok so she slept with quite a few guys growing up this doesnt make her a slut or doesnt mean that she doesnt need to be treated with respect. Sounds like you ... (read in full...)
He's done nothing wrong, yet I don't trust him. Help!
Q. Hi Everyone, So, I've been with my partner for over two years now and am still not able to completely trust him. We have a great relationship and love each other very much, and he's never done anything to make me suspect infidelity on his part. We...
A. 16 November 2010: You need to get help soon for your trust issues before you drive yourself insane with worry and believe me some day you will snap at him and regret it. You need to get yourself to a therapist and talk to them about how you are feeling they will look ... (read in full...)
This guy hates me and I don't know why! How can I fix this?
Q. I am 14 years old and a 9th grader in High School. My first boyfriend just broke up with me and I'm crushed. One of the reasons he broke up with me is that his best friend doesn't like me. I know he hates me. He's been mean and has hated me ...
A. 16 November 2010: If his friend is not willing to meet up with you then i think that the best thing you can do here is to accept that he doesnt want to talk to you and just avoid him, dont write to him anymore and just move on and accept that he will never be a ... (read in full...)
This guy hates me and I don't know why! How can I fix this?
Q. I am 14 years old and a 9th grader in High School. My first boyfriend just broke up with me and I'm crushed. One of the reasons he broke up with me is that his best friend doesn't like me. I know he hates me. He's been mean and has hated me ...
A. 15 November 2010: Hi you need to sit down with your ex and ask him why his best friend dislikes you so much, he might be able to tell you more, explain to him that you have never done anything wrong and you dont deserve to be treated like this. 14 year old boys are ... (read in full...)
She was pressured into doing something with another guy, should I end it or stay?
Q. my girlfriend was pressured in to sucking another boy's d**k, she lied to me when i asked about it but she has now told me the truth and i dont know what to do. shoud i end it or stay?...
A. 11 November 2010: she told you she cut her wrists but did you see the cuts to prove that she is telling you the truth? if there is no cuts then she is cying out for your attention and is walking all over you, if there is cuts there, then go straight to her parents ... (read in full...)
She was pressured into doing something with another guy, should I end it or stay?
Q. my girlfriend was pressured in to sucking another boy's d**k, she lied to me when i asked about it but she has now told me the truth and i dont know what to do. shoud i end it or stay?...
A. 9 November 2010: I'm sorry but no matter how much pressure you are put under you still have your free will and your own mind to say no and not give someone oral sex, she has highly disrespected you here and also doesnt really care much about her reputation either, ... (read in full...)
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