Is she still my friend or what?
Q. Recently I made a whole new set of friends who I met through a couple of my college friends..amongst them was one girl,lets call her "Miss.X", with who I clicked really really well..we were chummy with each other right from the day we met first.I ...
A. 23 November 2010: Just talk as normal to him, be exactly the way you always behave with him, if he asks to see the tattoo then show him if it is just a case of pullin up your top at the back to show him then go for it.
Ok so it turns out that he is interest... (read in full...)
Little bumps in the road.
Q. Things between my Fiance and myself have not been as good as they used to be, lately. It's been five years together, we have a house and a 3 year old daughter. Im having a hard time trusting him. Im not positive of infidelity, however there have ...
A. 15 November 2010: Well good for you, you handled the situation very maturely but just make sure that he doesnt think you are a push over, tell him he needs to work on building up his trust again.
I understand we all get crushes even when we are in relation... (read in full...)
I want to be happy too, but with her!
Q. my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 weeks now. I thought that NC would do both of us some good and i have maintained NC for about 8 weeks. However the other day she talked to me again and said that she has a new boyfriend for about 8 weeks ...
A. 15 November 2010: The thing is you will continue to keep getting better and better. Sometimes we say to some people in life that we will love them forever and we truely mean it at the time, but am afraid people can just easily fall out of love as well even though ... (read in full...)
Should I ring him, I don't want to seem needy?
Q. ok this is my first real mature relationship, with a guy, yes ive had relationships bfore but not like this, hes older then me by 9 yrs though i feel like hes my age, i dont notice the age difference except that he is very busy in business and work ...
A. 14 November 2010: I think that you should ring him, its in no way being needy at all, in fact it shows him that you care about him and that you are thinking about him. So ring him. Needy is when a girl rings or sms every five minutes and asks a thousand questions and ... (read in full...)
Should I just expect that we won't be together again?
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for almost 5 years. He just broke up with me after we'd been having some problems. I love a lot, and he is not capable of giving me the love that I need in return. Now we are seperating, but have talked about staying ...
A. 14 November 2010: I think you should keep an open mind about getting back together or not, there is no point holding on to hope that one day you will be together because you might only get hurt and you will just be prolonging the pain, try and accept that it is over ... (read in full...)
Am I an "intimacy-addict", or could this be the real thing?
Q. I met a man about a month ago at a party, he was a friend of a friend - and we instantly clicked. The first night we spent time alone we went out for a nice dinner, had a glass of wine and then sat down by the pier for hours talking and listenin...
A. 14 November 2010: It sounds like you have met a great guy and no it doesnt mean that your addicted to intimacy, he sounds like a great guy and you never know it could turn in to the real deal.
Try not and worry about the future just enjoy every day and get to k... (read in full...)
Can you hate and love someone at the same time?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together since May 2008. We started a long distance relationship because he was from the States and I was a Canadian working in Asia at the time. He flew about 100 times a year and he would always try to find time to ...
A. 14 November 2010: Yes it is normal to love someone but hate them sometimes aswell. If you love him and feel that you have a happy future together then work on it, but the violence needs to be sorted as you know its wrong, you both need to get help for it. I think you ... (read in full...)
What to do with his erection?
Q. Hiya, been on a few dates with a guy and we made out pretty passionately on the last date and he got hard. I don't want to do anything literally below the belt as we haven't been going out that long. Should I just ignore it, ask him about it, tell ...
A. 14 November 2010: well its normal that he is going to get an erection its just him getting turned on.
Just sit down with him and have a talk. Explain to him that you get turned on as well when you are kissing and that you do really like him but you want to wait for... (read in full...)
I just want to be secure in my life and its not happening!
Q. Hi there, I need some advice. I'm actually having a bit of a breakdown at the moment! I'm waking up at 5am with a panic feeling of fear, I have constant headaches and cry all the time. Yes I'm going to my doctors! Basically I'm 30 years...
A. 14 November 2010: Hi i understand were your coming from when you say that you want to be settled and married, but you need to try and focus on yourself for now and making yourself happy before this can happen. You need to really look at things and ask yourself what ... (read in full...)
Daughters worried baby will push her out
Q. My daughter is my only child and only grand child of my late husbands parents... Since my husband passed away 5 years ago she has become queen bee in terms of her grandparents and spends an awful lot of time with them, holidays Christmas, I've never ...
A. 14 November 2010: Am sure if they show your daughter plenty of attention now that they are not just going to ignore her when the baby arrives. Sure they will need to split there attention but they've known and loved your daughter for 11 years that love wont just go ... (read in full...)
How should I confess my love?
Q. I've gotten over a girl I liked. But that's because I'm now onto this other girl. Now I want to tell her I'm crushing on her, but it's a different situation this time. I met her in a camp. We've been keeping in touch, but just because we were pla...
A. 13 November 2010: Just act polite and friendly towards her as if nothing has changed. Thats the best way next time you see her say hello and ask her how she has been.... (read in full...)
After such a strong connection, he tells me he just wants to be friends
Q. Sorry if this is long I just really need help. I already posted a question similar but it hasnt helped. Me and this guy had a thing. Im 15 and hes 18. One day we clicked and he asked for my number. We were flirting and everything. I have liked him ...
A. 13 November 2010: Darling you need to put some space in between the both of you. I have a feeling he felt that he couldnt commit to you because of your age, he is 18 and even though you both connected you are in two very different stages of your life. I know that ... (read in full...)
It's difficult for me to shove my pelvic area in his face!
Q. So, embarassing sex question...my boyfriend is somewhat into femdom and his favorite practice of that is facesitting. The problem is that I'm not really comfortable with my body so it's difficult for me to just shove my pelvic area into his face! ...
A. 13 November 2010: Ok well first of if you are not comfortable with this then you need to tell him, i understand that he really likes this but a lot of girls dont, if you really arent happy doing it then explain that to him, if he loves you he will understand.
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Do guys usually open up after sex?
Q. Do guys usually open up after sex? What makes them want to talk about their personal stuff and feelings?...
A. 13 November 2010: Well some guys can feel really close to someone after sex if they are in a serious relationship, and they might just feel a bit emotional and vunerable and they might open up to there girlfriend, this is a good thing though it just shows that they ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time understanding.
Q. Hi all, I'm in desperate need of advice. I am an asian girl, 5 8, skinny and fit. I have been told I am pretty, sexy, hot many times by many of my friends, heard that guys have said this about my through word of mouth. I even tried online dat...
A. 13 November 2010: Hi well maybe guys your college might just be shy. Ok so you have self asteem issues but i hope deep down you know that you are pretty, try and regain your confidence, because when someone is confident it shows and men like this. Is there any guy in ... (read in full...)
I want to be happy too, but with her!
Q. my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 weeks now. I thought that NC would do both of us some good and i have maintained NC for about 8 weeks. However the other day she talked to me again and said that she has a new boyfriend for about 8 weeks ...
A. 13 November 2010: I think it would be best to just not contact her in the future, let her contact you, she is the one that broke up with you so this tells me that she has met someone else and doesnt want you in her life anymore, if she wanted you she wouldnt have ... (read in full...)
How do I play it off?
Q. this guy (my brothers friend) is sending me mixed signals all the time he is way to flirty with me and i kinda fell for it, he knows he could get any girl and is so full of himself. I thought he liked me cause he knows i like him and yet he still ...
A. 13 November 2010: Dont be embarresed me all know one guy who is a right charmer and you obviously picked up on it. To be honest this is his personality and he probably doesnt even see that he has done anything wrong he probably is just a natural flirt and does it ... (read in full...)
I want to be happy too, but with her!
Q. my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 weeks now. I thought that NC would do both of us some good and i have maintained NC for about 8 weeks. However the other day she talked to me again and said that she has a new boyfriend for about 8 weeks ...
A. 13 November 2010: I think you need to accept that things are over, try having no contact again but accept that it is over and you need to move on, get out with your friends get it all out of your system and dont contact her, just remember you broke up for a reason ... (read in full...)
How to regain his trust?
Q. I have been with my fiance now for almost 4 years and we are on the edge of breaking up. I recently lied to him about stupid crap. I lost my job and didn't tell him until about 2 days later. I know it was wrong and I should have told him but I was ...
A. 13 November 2010: Ok you lied about some things but it sounds to me like you only done this because you were scared that he was going to blow a fuse, he shouldnt get angry if you lose your job he should be there for you and comfort you, it sounds to me like you are ... (read in full...)
If my checkout lane is a mile long, he'll stay in my line!
Q. So theres this guy, of course how else would i start a question lol, that is shy around me and only around me at work. I try to make convo but he always looks down and around when talking to me. I think its cute lol. But the only time he talks to me ...
A. 13 November 2010: Ok so its obvious he does like you but he is probably just shy and doesnt know what to say, why dont you kick start this off, next time he is in smile and ask him is he from the area? Kickstart the conversation and hopefully he will get more ... (read in full...)
I hear what he's saying but I'm not listening.
Q. lately ive not been my sweet loving self. i find my boyfriend really irritating and annoying..i just think hes boring and when we on the phone half of the time am not even listening to what hes saying.. i dont miss him and i cant even say i lo...
A. 13 November 2010: I agree with caringguy at the end of the day if he anoys you and you cant be bothered picking up his phone calls or listening to him then its obvious you dont really love him anymore. It happens sometimes people just fall out of love we have no ... (read in full...)
Misunderstood his email, now he's mad.
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months - really like him but he is playing it really cool. So i am playing it cool too. All was fine, then today he sent the following email "my phone just went blank c**t switch it on" I took the c word...
A. 13 November 2010: It actually sounds to me like he is playing mind games with you why would he use this typo other than to get a reaction out of you, i think anyone who read that message would have thought the same as you and i think that he knows that, he needs to ... (read in full...)
Does it hurt the second time around?
Q. I lost my virginity last year, and I am now scared to have sex again because it has been so long, and apparently it hurts again. Does it?...
A. 13 November 2010: Hi it doesnt mean it will hurt again, your virginity has been broken now so it sure wont hurt as much as the first time but it still might be a bit uncomfortable for a few times as your body is adjusting to it. After having sex a couple of times it ... (read in full...)
I feel like he's digging into my stomach!
Q. During sex is it normal for the guys penis to feel like its digging in ur stomach n make it a little bit uncomfortable?...
A. 13 November 2010: Is his penis quite large? jmc930 is right just try changing positions to see which one is best for you, maybe you try going on top so you can control how deep he is thrusting in to you.... (read in full...)
Is his size normal for his age?
Q. Me and my bofriend have been together for 2 years now and about a year ago he told me that his penis was three inches not hard and six incehs hard he is 16 is this normal?...
A. 13 November 2010: 6inches is the average when the penis is erect so he or you have nothing to worry about on that matter.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else's boyfriend jump after sex and are ready to engage in the next activity?
Q. Does anyone else get upset when your boyfriend/girlfriend after a mind blowing love making session jumps (without any kind of cuddling or talk) to wanting to do something else. Like having friends come over or going to a bar with friends?...
A. 13 November 2010: Yes that can be hurtful because sometimes its good to have a cuddle in bed, it makes us girls feel a bit used and neglected at times, which upsets us. just have a word with him because he might not realise that it hurts you, explain to him that you ... (read in full...)
Will she come to her senses before walking down the aisle?
Q. Ok, I have a best friend whom I am very concern about. She is in a possessive relationship. She is 19 and her bf is 22. She has been with him for about 5 years already. She told me she has gone through a lot in this relationship. This is what h...
A. 13 November 2010: Its hard to tell, some people are really good at trapping people by getting to know there weak points and using it against them so that they stay with them, he probably knows that buying her gifts and doing nice things will then make up for treating ... (read in full...)
It went from dating to FWBs!
Q. Ok so this guy I was dating broke up with me a couple weeks ago. I was crushed because I did like him although I never thought of him as a marriage material. Our personalities were clashing and I think he just got fed up, which is why he chose to ...
A. 13 November 2010: No it doesnt work out hun, because sex is really intimate and its never going to be just sex, maybe for him it will be but you will eventually want that closeness and it wont happen you will just feel used and it will upset you. It also sends out a ... (read in full...)
Am I on his mind?
Q. I constantly think about my boy all the time . I'm not sure if he EVER thinks about me . he's adorable , funny , sweet , and everything I've ever wanted . Isaw him "hugging" hus best friend (a guy) and I've been worried about it . how can I tell if ...
A. 13 November 2010: I dont think that you should be worried about him hugging a guy, am sure you hug your female friends? it doesnt mean anything am sure he is thinking about you, he is going out with you so he obviously likes you.... (read in full...)
Lost: Sex drive.
Q. I have been dating my b/f for the last year and a half now. I love him so much and can tell that we will always be together. We are perfect in every way together. There's one problem though. It's a little embarrassing to say but it's to do with our ...
A. 13 November 2010: Well he needs to get you in to the mood most girls need to be aroused through foreplay. kissing and touching each other for a while before intercourse, most women cant go straight to intercourse they need to be touched and kissed for a while before ... (read in full...)
All I do is kiss her neck and she's ready to go!
Q. When I kiss my girlfriend's neck she becomes quite aroused. I know it's probably a dumb question because mostly likely it's her nerves responding but, why do women get turned on by that?...
A. 13 November 2010: you answered your own question there. Its a part of a womans body that if you kiss it sends shivers down her spine and gets her in the mood because of the nerve endings. the back of the ear is the best part, and it can also work on men aswell.... (read in full...)
Get back with ex or go with new girl who offered support and grew attached?
Q. my ex GF and i want to get back together, or are in the process of sorting out ourselves. we both have realised our mistakes in our old relationship and are having fun dating. however there are a couple of obstacles in the way: - her p...
A. 13 November 2010: yeah i understand that it wouldnt feel so good at the moment but you are doing the right thing until you sort your head out and decide what or who you want in your life, goodluck.... (read in full...)
Would anyone please describe experience with dating Danish men?
Q. I am currently liking a Dane. I just want to know if it is a given that you are together just because you are all sweet and stuff. How is it in Denmark? Is it true that they don't talk about it but you're already exclusive with each other over ...
A. 13 November 2010: everybody is different just because he is from denmark doesnt mean that he follows these rules, ask him how he feels. just be open and honest with him and he will answer your questions.... (read in full...)
Little bumps in the road.
Q. Things between my Fiance and myself have not been as good as they used to be, lately. It's been five years together, we have a house and a 3 year old daughter. Im having a hard time trusting him. Im not positive of infidelity, however there have ...
A. 13 November 2010: yes you do have a right to worry and be angry, ok so he might not have the intentions of meeting these girls but he is still lying to you and probably flirting with them online, i think you need to tell him what you found and that you are finding it ... (read in full...)
Relationship addict!
Q. Hi, How do I get over control issues and trust issues in relationships? I seem to fall from one relationship into the next and they get progressively more and more unhealthy. My currently relationship has been going on for about 2 years and w...
A. 12 November 2010: Ok i think you need to concider going to therapy, they are there to help you and your issues. Also your boyfriend is just making things worse by lying to you and not introducing you to his friends, this is just going to make you feel even more ... (read in full...)
FWBs vs. Relationship
Q. I met this guy online about 2 or 3 months ago and we went on our first date a few days back. Had a great time and find myself attracted to him but I'm sensing that the feeling is not mutual. I want to start building a relationship that leads to...
A. 12 November 2010: Hi well first of if you have a gut feeling that he is only after sex then dont give it to him to soon, because he will only look at you then as a sex buddy, you need to hold back and if he asks you tell him you want to get to know him better before ... (read in full...)
I heard girls in the back ground!
Q. Okay to start things off Im 17 years old, and i've been dating my boyfriend, 20, for 9 months now. He moved away in July to about 1 hour away. Its been hard not to see him whenever i want too, but we settled on seeing each other on the weekends. One ...
A. 12 November 2010: Well sweetie first of you need to be able to trust him or else there is no point in being with him, distance does make it harder to trust someone i understand that, but he might be telling the truth about work, and am sure there is girls he works ... (read in full...)
Why does my brother's friend act weird towards me?
Q. My brother asked his friend and colleague to do a favor for me. I need a letter of recommendation. So, my brother told me that his friend said he was happy to write a letter for me. My brother and his friend are in the US. I met his friend 12 years ...
A. 12 November 2010: Ok well if you see him again in person thank him again and tell him that you are very grateful to him and just take it from there. If he comes across as annoyed just ask him straight out whats wrong.... (read in full...)
Is this just a rough patch because of the distance? Or do I just not love him enough?
Q. I feel so lost. Like a horrible girlfriend. Like a horrible person in general, I honestly don't know what to do that Im turning to total strangers for comfort. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and things are serious. The only problem ...
A. 12 November 2010: Thats true, i know you feel like a hypocrite but sometimes we just need to ensure that we are happy, two years apart is a very long time, and you will need a lot of strenght if you are willing to try and work on it, maybe it is best if you both took ... (read in full...)
Is she still my friend or what?
Q. Recently I made a whole new set of friends who I met through a couple of my college friends..amongst them was one girl,lets call her "Miss.X", with who I clicked really really well..we were chummy with each other right from the day we met first.I ...
A. 12 November 2010: Ok first off there is nobody out of anybodys league, but still it probably would be a bad line to cross going with a friends ex, it only leads to hurt anger and pain.
Im not sure though what her problem is i think it would be best for you to l... (read in full...)
Get back with ex or go with new girl who offered support and grew attached?
Q. my ex GF and i want to get back together, or are in the process of sorting out ourselves. we both have realised our mistakes in our old relationship and are having fun dating. however there are a couple of obstacles in the way: - her p...
A. 12 November 2010: Ok if you love your ex then let this other girl go its not fair stringing her along as she is probably falling in love with you as we speak and you are going to leave her hurt the way your ex left you hurt, be straight with your friend and tell her ... (read in full...)
Relationship advice for gay 14 year olds.
Q. Hello, I am a gay 14 year old boy who has NO idea how to get a boyfriend. I recently moved and I know no one at all. I know it sounds a little inconsistent, but I really want a boyfriend. Are online relationships a bad idea? Thanks for you advice....
A. 12 November 2010: At your age you would really need to be cautious of online dating because there are a lot of sicko's out there that can go online pretending there a teenage boy when they are a 60 year old man, so if you do decide to take up something like this then ... (read in full...)
Found out husband talks to co-worker about us, now I don't trust him!
Q. so i recently found out my husband of 8yrs but weve been together 15 talks about our problems 2 a female coworker complaining about things and me. he didn't tell me about her i had 2 play detective,he says she is attracting they are just friends ...
A. 12 November 2010: Well first off what exactly did he do wrong here? He never cheated on you did he? He found in this girl a friend someone he could open up to and talk to about his problems. Just like us girls when we have man troubles we turn to our friends, ... (read in full...)
Is this just a rough patch because of the distance? Or do I just not love him enough?
Q. I feel so lost. Like a horrible girlfriend. Like a horrible person in general, I honestly don't know what to do that Im turning to total strangers for comfort. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and things are serious. The only problem ...
A. 12 November 2010: Hi well sweetie only you can answer these questions am afraid nobody else can answer them for you. Is it possible that you could move closer to your boyfriend or vice versa because am a true believer that you need to spend quality time with someone ... (read in full...)
Get back with ex or go with new girl who offered support and grew attached?
Q. my ex GF and i want to get back together, or are in the process of sorting out ourselves. we both have realised our mistakes in our old relationship and are having fun dating. however there are a couple of obstacles in the way: - her p...
A. 12 November 2010: If you really want to get back with your ex then go for it but hiding it from her parents is not the way to go because they will find out and when they do they will just hate you even more for keeping it from them they deserve to know the truth they ... (read in full...)
Is she still my friend or what?
Q. Recently I made a whole new set of friends who I met through a couple of my college friends..amongst them was one girl,lets call her "Miss.X", with who I clicked really really well..we were chummy with each other right from the day we met first.I ...
A. 11 November 2010: could it be possible mr x has a crush on you and has told your friend this? it sounds like someone else has told her something and she has taking it out on you even though she knows its not your fault.... (read in full...)
How should I confess my love?
Q. I've gotten over a girl I liked. But that's because I'm now onto this other girl. Now I want to tell her I'm crushing on her, but it's a different situation this time. I met her in a camp. We've been keeping in touch, but just because we were pla...
A. 8 November 2010: Well its hard to tell she might be busy or else she might be letting you down gently its hard to tell i think you should leave the ball in her court now, you have asked her out, so just say to her 'let me no when you are free and i will organise ... (read in full...)
Is she still my friend or what?
Q. Recently I made a whole new set of friends who I met through a couple of my college friends..amongst them was one girl,lets call her "Miss.X", with who I clicked really really well..we were chummy with each other right from the day we met first.I ...
A. 7 November 2010: Ok well maybe when you said to her to try and forget him for her own good she thought that you were interested in him and now she is jelous and probably doesnt want to be friends with you in case you do get with him and it will cause her a lot of ... (read in full...)
How should I confess my love?
Q. I've gotten over a girl I liked. But that's because I'm now onto this other girl. Now I want to tell her I'm crushing on her, but it's a different situation this time. I met her in a camp. We've been keeping in touch, but just because we were pla...
A. 6 November 2010: Anything will be ok, if you feel to shy to ask her face to face then yes give her a ring on the phone or a text.... (read in full...)
How should I confess my love?
Q. I've gotten over a girl I liked. But that's because I'm now onto this other girl. Now I want to tell her I'm crushing on her, but it's a different situation this time. I met her in a camp. We've been keeping in touch, but just because we were pla...
A. 5 November 2010: Yeah through IM should be ok, but dont be to intense and dont go telling her you love her as this will probably scare the girl off especially as you dont no each other all that well yet. Just message her and tell her that you really like her as a ... (read in full...)
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