What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 16 March 2016: I am glad to hear it, put yourself first, nobody should ever put another person down and when they do they are not a friend but someone who is jealous of what you have. You are doing the right thing moving on. Go out and meet new people, hopefully ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 15 March 2016: Again I don't think she needs to be in your life. She is not being a friend, the best thing for you to do is block her number and find new friends who are kind to you. ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 12 March 2016: No sweetie I don't think that you should reply. Be the bigger person here. She has made it clear she wants nothing to do with you, she is hoping you will take the hint. It's sad yes, but I think you need to accept she no longer wants you in her ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 22 February 2016: I bet you miss her as she was a friend, but not a very good one. I think she needs to help herself and if you contact her she will not be getting the help she needs. Off course it is up to you which path you choose. Am not sure how you would start ... (read in full...)
Seems he's been messaging her non-stop. Is my boyfriend cheating on me?
Q. Okay so I know some people may judge me for this but about two months back I snooped on my boyfriends phone. I saw he had been exchanging lots of messages with this girl he goes to university with who he is actually going to be living with next aca...
A. 2 February 2016: I can see you not wanting to give up a two year relationship, that is understandable. But it is obvious that he doesn't care about how you feel, he is willing to lose this relationship over talking to that other girl. You should never allow a ... (read in full...)
Is he rejecting me?
Q. so me and a guy have been talking for a long while. i am 19 now, we've been talking since i was sixteen. i went out once with a group of friends and he is a friend of theirs, he just showed up and we had never met before. he showed up, greeted me ...
A. 2 February 2016: You both seem to back off and then on again. Am sure he is as confused as you are. If you are left feeling like he is not making an effort then maybe this ship as sailed. Maybe he has met someone new. Or maybe he has grew tired of trying. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love two men at the same time?
Q. Is it possible to love two men at the same time. I am still in love with my first boyfriend. He has never left my heart recently came back after not seeing for nearly 20 years. The feelings came back instantly. I am in love with my child's father ...
A. 2 February 2016: It might be possible to have feelings for two people at the same time, but having a partner and then being intimate with an ex partner is the wrong thing to do. If your child's father is emotionally abusive then leave him, but you cheating on him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't know the difference between making love and just having sex
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. When I'm with my boyfriend, we usually spend a week together each visit. During that week he's want sex at least once, sometimes twice per day. He has a high sex drive and is always erect when we lay together. ...
A. 2 February 2016: When you both spend this week together do you do other fun activities? Do you go for dinner or a drink? Do you go and watch a movie or play some bowling? Being in a relationship is not always about the sexual side, its about doing fun stuff together ... (read in full...)
I met him on Tinder and am wondering what he is aiming for?
Q. Hello everyone! I need some advice. I've met a guy on Tinder (an app that has a certain reputation) a week ago. He was quite friendly, charming and caring. We talked about our hobbies, school (we're enrolled in university) and just general stu...
A. 2 February 2016: I think you should give him a chance and see how it goes. If you are not after a one night stand well then set some boundaries. Be straight with him and tell him you are not looking for a hook up. Meet him somewhere public and give him a chance, ... (read in full...)
don't know whether I'm supposed to reach out and contact her or just see if she contacts me.
Q. So I've been talking to this girl and she's kinda gone quiet the last couple days. We slept together on Wednesday night, so I know its not like I don't stand any chance with her like that lol. But we have been sleeping together for a couple months ...
A. 2 February 2016: Ask yourself where do you see this going with this woman? Do you want a relationship with her? Or is it just casual. Once you have figured that out then you can proceed.
You have already noticed that she is insecure, so maybe you should cont... (read in full...)
Search for the "one" or love the one you're with?
Q. My problem is intimacy. In the beginning of this relationship we fooled around almost everyday, now its extremely hard for me to get "turned on" for her. I have read countless articles about my supposed diminished libido, stress and the like, ...
A. 2 February 2016: Off course it means something. A relationship has a lot of different components. If you are not attracted to her then I think you see her as more off a friend. Yes this does make a difference in a relationship because there needs to be a sexual ... (read in full...)
If not a pre-nup agreement, then what are some of the ways I can show him that I love him?
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiance has substantial assets. I have very little. I would like to sign a prenuptial agreement because I think it would make him more comfortable and I want to show him I love him not his assets. He does not believe in prenuptia...
A. 2 February 2016: If he is marrying you then I am pretty sure that he already knows you are not just with him for his money, you have offered to sign one, which probably means a lot to him already. You sound like a very genuine person but if he says he doesn't need ... (read in full...)
He said he wanted to try again and put effort into the relationship but the last 2 days things have felt funny
Q. So, I got a text and DM (direct message) from a guy last Sunday or Monday asking for another chance because we talked and dated before but we rushed into it last time. This time I told him I wanted to take it slower and I would have to build his ...
A. 2 February 2016: Look he probably ran out of things to say to you. He is still making an effort to text you, even if it is only once or twice a day. I am sure he has other things to do. Just go with the flow and don't put to much pressure on him. You asked for ... (read in full...)
I want a baby so badly that it hurts!
Q. I want a baby but i do want to get marryed first but i see babys evey where i got and i almost cry when i see them i just want a baby so bad it hurts to not have one plz help....
A. 1 February 2016: It is perfectly okay to have these feelings. It just means that you are maternal. Would it be practical to have a baby at the moment? No it wouldn't. You are not married, and you are still young.
When we see babies they are cute and adorable but ... (read in full...)
On average how many weeks should yu message someone online before suggesting meeting?
Q. I am a gay female,retrying online dating. On average how many weeks should yu message someone online before suggesting meeting? I have met people before online but the site I'm on now is different. We were matched 3.5 weeks ago and ha...
A. 1 February 2016: I would recommend setting up a skype call with her, a video chat just so you can be sure she is who she says she is. Internet dating can be very successful but it can also be full of creeps. You just never know who you are talking to when you are ... (read in full...)
Does he want it to be over?
Q. I met a foreign man living in the UK over two months ago and immediately entered into an intimate and sexual relationship and fell for him. He is 7 years my senior and at the moment he is working day till night all over the country so I never get ...
A. 1 February 2016: Am pretty sure I have already answered this question from you before. ... (read in full...)
How would you label this relationship?
Q. I've got a general question I'd love some feedback on. Friends with benefits? F*ck buddies? Dating? Friends? What are we? So I am friends with this girl and have been for some time now. That I do know. We do things together and talk about all s...
A. 1 February 2016: Am pretty sure that in time you may both end up dating. You are both honest that you are not over your previous partners, and you are both using each other as a comfort blanket. But as you said it is not a quick hook up, you both confined in each ... (read in full...)
I feel everyone will hate me if I see more of this guy. What do I need to do?
Q. I have been going out with my current boyfriend for 3 years now. We have had our ups and downs but for the last few months we have had a smooth patch. As we starting going out quite young (ish) the relationship has sometimes made me a little i...
A. 1 February 2016: Forget about this guy at work for the moment. You need to concentrate on your relationship for now. You say you love your boyfriend, but a relationship needs more than love.
If you feel that the relationship has been good for the last few mont... (read in full...)
Seems he's been messaging her non-stop. Is my boyfriend cheating on me?
Q. Okay so I know some people may judge me for this but about two months back I snooped on my boyfriends phone. I saw he had been exchanging lots of messages with this girl he goes to university with who he is actually going to be living with next aca...
A. 1 February 2016: You asked him to stop talking to her, he has agreed even though he didn't want to so he has just gotten better at hiding it from you.
I think she may have been contacting him a bit much yes for friends, and yes there are some red flag warnings aski... (read in full...)
Do I have a toxic relationship with my parents?
Q. Do I have a toxic relationship with my parents? I live in a strict Asian household (think Tiger mom). It is going to be a lengthy post so please be patient with me. -When I was younger, my parents would ignore me and give me the cold shoulder if...
A. 1 February 2016: Your parents are old fashioned in the way that they have raised you. They where strict because they felt that they had to be so that you would grow up respectfully. The put down your hard efforts because they wanted you to do better. It is difficult ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped. Is changing my identity and starting afresh an option to deal with my wish to be single and free?
Q. Ok so I think there is something really wrong with me. I have never had any desire to get married or have a family-I'm 36. For the past couple of years in been fantasizng of changing my identity and leaving my life and starting fresh.... I just...
A. 1 February 2016: Is it possible that you are suffering from depression? I think you need to talk to someone about how you are feeling. I really don't think leaving your life and starting a new one will fix this for you. You might like your own company but believe me ... (read in full...)
My fiancé almost never wants to have sex, is there a way we can compromise?
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for three years and i am sure we really love eachother however there has been a reoccurring issue in our relationship for about a year now...he almost never wants have sex. we have been living together for about ...
A. 1 February 2016: Stress can do a lot on someones sex drive, and mix it with opiates and well that's a recipe for disaster.
I think he feels ashamed that he has erection problems, hence why he blamed you for it. It is a tricky conversation to have with a man, beca... (read in full...)
He wants sex almost every night! Is this normal?
Q. How often do couples have sex? I have been with my partner for just under 2 years and feel he always wants sex. I have a 3 year old from a previous relationship. So some nights I am just too tired and want to just sleep. Then he sulks if I say no or ...
A. 1 February 2016: It is very unfair of him to manipulate you. When you say no he should respect that and not pester you. You need to talk to him about this and tell him how much it is making you dread going to bed. Tell him that sooner or later this could be a deal ... (read in full...)
What did my partner mean, by saying he misses me making an effort?
Q. So I've been with my partner for 6 years, the first half of which he was in the military and we had a LDR. After he finished his service and moved back to our home city, we both decided to find better paying jobs and get a house together. We've no...
A. 1 February 2016: No honey it doesn't sound like he is not attracted to you anymore. I think what has happened is you have both got to the stage where you have both falling in to a routine. He misses how it used to be, when he was missing you lots and then he would ... (read in full...)
I find sexual chat with men stimulating but enjoy kissing women. Help!
Q. Dear Cupid, My question is related to sexuality, and I almost feel as though I have the answers myself but I just need someone to bounce them off. From an early age I have had a pretty high sex drive. My tastes in pornography have mostly been ...
A. 1 February 2016: It is okay to experiment. You say yourself that something doesn't quite seem the same as being with a girl. So my guess is yes your preference is still with girls. That doesn't mean that you cannot be attracted to certain aspects of men. Why do you ... (read in full...)
Did my friend stop all contact with me because it will never go further than friendship?
Q. dear cupids, i am a survivor of an abusive relation ship, 8 month after the break up i met some one, we had so much fun, but due to religious issues we did not stay together as friends and we agreed on staying friends, 1 month after the agreem...
A. 1 February 2016: You say that your ex was abusive and you are comparing him to your ex because he kissed you on the forehead? Really?
Okay I get that it is against your religion, and yes he did do wrong when he kissed you, but still I would not go as far as call... (read in full...)
Why do guys kiss and cuddle and then tell me they just want to be friends?
Q. Why why why.... Okay guys why would you tell a girl you like her. Cuddle with her. Kiss her or even try kissing her. Then tell her that you dont want to be more then friends this has happened to me in more then one account and im getting quite sick ...
A. 1 February 2016: Well you had doubts at one point and you overcame them, so maybe now he has doubts the same as you did. There could be a number of reasons why he done it, when you told him that maybe it wasn't a good idea maybe that got him thinking that you where ... (read in full...)
I've found love but is it too soon?
Q. Hello everyone. I am going through a pretty complicated situation right now and I am in desperate need of advice. In April of last year, I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 and a half years. I knew about a year before the break up that I was done,...
A. 1 February 2016: Off course that is possible, stress does a lot to our bodies and our minds. If you are stressed at the moment, well then that could also be making you second guess your relationship. Try and do a date night every week. Forget work, bills, finding a ... (read in full...)
I can't move past the bad experiences I had in my former job
Q. I'm having trouble dealing and moving past previous bad experiences at work and other things. I've been to the doctors and they have implied (not officially diagnosed anything) that I have anxiety. Although I don't worry per se more beat myself up ...
A. 1 February 2016: Glad you are seeking help. Best of luck.... (read in full...)
I need my boyfriend's support but he is distant and uncommunicative
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and we were dating for two months prior to this. Initially I was really happy with how our relationship was, we were really close friends before hand so it just kind of seemed to flow. But in the past month ...
A. 29 January 2016: Anxiety and Panic attacks are awful to deal with, I have lived through them, but as much as we need support in these times, it is important that you help yourself, be independent and be strong. You shouldn't rely on him to much.
However after sayi... (read in full...)
I walked in on my wife while she was performing oral sex. Should I end the marriage?
Q. Me and my wife have been married for 12 years now.I never expected this from her.One day when I got home from work I walked in on her giving head to another man.He immediately ran out of the apartment,didn't even have time to get dressed.In our ...
A. 29 January 2016: You will never get that image out of your head. This wasn't some mistake she made in the heat of the moment, she joined a website in order to cheat on you, she sought out someone who wanted this with someone else who was married. Did she think about ... (read in full...)
I need to focus on finding myself but don't know where to stop
Q. Hello Everyone I need advice on getting my health and energy back on track. I have a very stressful job but it's gotten to the point where I am blaming my lack of energy, and poor eating, failed relationship and not going to gym on my work ...
A. 29 January 2016: Look Im not sure what you are wanting help with here, you seem like a smart guy to me, you know what you want, so therefore go and get it. Speak to a nutritionist. Sign up to a gym. Cut back on work, work to live, don't live to work. Go see a ... (read in full...)
My sister is closer to our sister in law than me and it hurts!
Q. What would you do you sister in law and you sister were better friends than with you, sometimes family hurt you the most..? none of you see each other often, maybe 1-2 times a year as you live in different places, they have more in common as they ...
A. 29 January 2016: I think you might be reading a bit to much in to this. Off course it can hurt yes, but am pretty sure that she did not mean to hurt you. She may not have wrote up on facebook how happy she was to see you but that doesn't mean that she wasn't none ... (read in full...)
I've found love but is it too soon?
Q. Hello everyone. I am going through a pretty complicated situation right now and I am in desperate need of advice. In April of last year, I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 and a half years. I knew about a year before the break up that I was done,...
A. 29 January 2016: If you love him then you should stay with him. At the end of the day your hearts not going to lie. Are you over your ex now? It sounds to me like you had plenty of time to get over your ex, once you had a one night stand with him, you knew there was ... (read in full...)
Help me beat my fear of violent sex
Q. I have a problem that's seriously interfering with my sex life. When I was 11, I learned about how sex worked by looking up naughty videos. These videos and games were hentai, and often portrayed sex as bloody and painful and that the woman di...
A. 29 January 2016: Its a blockage in your head, your body is telling you what it wants but your head is making you feel scared and you are tightening up. Symptoms can be similar to those who have been raped or sexually abused. I know that this is not the case for you ... (read in full...)
I lied to my boyfriend about my past to get his sympathy. Should I come clean?
Q. 3 years ago I was in a relationship with a guy it was a really difficult for me as the guy took me very casually and I took the relationship very seriously. initially I thought that I could change his habits and mend his ways but things got worse ...
A. 28 January 2016: Don't feel guilty about it, its in the past, so leave it there build a happy future. ... (read in full...)
He's moving too fast and its turning me off. Do I just end things?
Q. Hi all, a bit of advice is required here please. I met a guy on an online dating app and we've been speaking for about a week. He told me I'm the first person he's been speaking to since his 11 year relationship broke down so I appreciate he is new ...
A. 28 January 2016: Sounds to me like he wants a hook up, probably uses the same line to all the girls he gets talking to on that app, give them a sob story and hope they meet up with him, sending you a picture of him in his underwear proves he is a sleaze. ... (read in full...)
My husband won't stop badgering me about having a threesome
Q. My husband of 18 years has been pressuring me to have a threesome with another man. I am not comfortable with this but he keeps insisting that he wants to share me with either a friend of his or one of my choice. I am 60 and not real comfortable ...
A. 28 January 2016: Keep to your word, tell him you will leave if he keeps pestering you about it. Tell him it is unfair off him to ask you to do something you are uncomfortable with. ... (read in full...)
Why does an extra marital affair last 3 years and still going strong?
Q. What are the reasons an extra marital affair lasts going on 3 years?? Do most of them not end sooner? And realistically how much longer can it continue? Why does a married man stay this long with another woman? Surely it isn't a lapse in j...
A. 28 January 2016: The reasons it lasts longer than three years? Easy sex outside of the marriage, he is probably confident enough that you wont tell his wife at this stage. Has he feelings for you? No he likes having sex with you and telling you what you want to hear ... (read in full...)
I'm not ready to have a baby but he is!
Q. So I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years now. There is a large age gap, and he is at a place where he is ready to settle down and have kids. I on the other hand am open to the idea of marriage, but not having kids any time in ...
A. 28 January 2016: He is emotionally torturing you. He doesn't sound like a supportive boyfriend to me, he sounds like its his way or no way and doesn't stop to think about how you feel.
You cannot keep going where he is being aggressive and persistent. I think he f... (read in full...)
I'm worried about spending time with my boyfriend's son. He has behavioral problems
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We moved in together a few months ago, relocated to a new city and all. We're both 27. He has an 8 year old son. I met him when he was a little younger, and we had a good relationship from the start. He se...
A. 28 January 2016: I feel for you because even though you talk sense, you tell this to his parents and all they are going to hear is that you are criticizing them and you will be the enemy.
You have spoke to your boyfriend about your worries, now you need to tell... (read in full...)
I can't move past the bad experiences I had in my former job
Q. I'm having trouble dealing and moving past previous bad experiences at work and other things. I've been to the doctors and they have implied (not officially diagnosed anything) that I have anxiety. Although I don't worry per se more beat myself up ...
A. 28 January 2016: They have dented your confidence and made you feel like you are worthless and no good at being a carer. They where not nice women and its a shame that you where at the firing end.
It takes time to get over people treating you bad. Sometimes you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 years came inside me for the first time after sex. Why did he do this?
Q. My boyfriend came inside me after having sex. He always pulls out and this is the first time in 2 years he has ever done this. So I am wondering if I need to be concerned by the change in behaviour. Why do this after all this time when he has neve...
A. 28 January 2016: I hate to prove him wrong but you can actually get pregnant on your period, it is less likely but it is still possible, so it might be a good idea to get the morning after pill if you don't want to become pregnant. You can get it up to 72hrs after ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 28 January 2016: I understand that it can be hard to be blunt, especially to a friend, but you need to try, for your own sake. You need to stand up for yourself in life. ... (read in full...)
Why is hubby hiding Viagra from me??
Q. I have been married for a very long time. About 10 years ago I discovered that my h was a porn/sex addict, he has never sought help, just thought that he could hide it better, now with the use of pocket porn, his mobile phone, he has a constant...
A. 28 January 2016: That is cause for alarm bells, it sounds like he could be having an affair am afraid.... (read in full...)
Is this the end of the line?
Q. I met a man over two months ago and immediately entered into an intimate relationship and fell for him. He is 7 years my senior and at the moment he is working day till night all over the country so I never get to see him. Our last date was 2 we...
A. 28 January 2016: Breaking contact is the best thing that you can do, as you say yourself there was no joy from this, he has just made you ill. ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 27 January 2016: Well done for being there for her and for supporting her. But something has got to give. You cannot allow her to lash out at you all the time and for her to think it is okay. She is negative about her life, although she tries to put you down further ... (read in full...)
Why do guys kiss and cuddle and then tell me they just want to be friends?
Q. Why why why.... Okay guys why would you tell a girl you like her. Cuddle with her. Kiss her or even try kissing her. Then tell her that you dont want to be more then friends this has happened to me in more then one account and im getting quite sick ...
A. 27 January 2016: Sometimes guys just want a fling, so they will tell you anything so that they can get close to you. Have these guys ever suggested more than just kissing and cuddling? You will find there are a lot of people out there who are young and just want to ... (read in full...)
Is this the end of the line?
Q. I met a man over two months ago and immediately entered into an intimate relationship and fell for him. He is 7 years my senior and at the moment he is working day till night all over the country so I never get to see him. Our last date was 2 we...
A. 26 January 2016: You say you immediately entered in to an intimate relationship with him, to me this sounds like he may only be after sex with you. He blocks you because he doesn't want you contacting him, more than likely he is with another woman and doesn't want ... (read in full...)
Why is hubby hiding Viagra from me??
Q. I have been married for a very long time. About 10 years ago I discovered that my h was a porn/sex addict, he has never sought help, just thought that he could hide it better, now with the use of pocket porn, his mobile phone, he has a constant...
A. 26 January 2016: From your post it seems that you have accepted his sex addiction. Its a shame it was not nipped in the bud and has been allowed to go on this long. It is terrible unfair on you to be in a marriage where there is no passion or love between the ... (read in full...)
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