I'm going through a really trying time and feel alone in all of this! Advice, kind words, pointers would be helpful!
Q. hey all I am an art student and I was in college- completed my diploma but dint get accepted for my bachelors. So I have an off year and I'm re doing my portfolio and working part time. It's not the happiest time of my life. I was really taken aba...
A. 14 January 2016: Allow the situation living with your parents push you to focus harder on your studies. Yes it is hard living as an adult under the same roof as your parents, it can make us feel like we have failed and that we are still getting treated as a child. ... (read in full...)
I wish he would grow up
Q. Hi I'm in a relationship which up until recently was going really well my boyfriend is 29 but will not grow up he acts like a kid lately. I've been feeling very neglected by him as he makes no time for me at all we live together but I feel like we l...
A. 14 January 2016: Put your foot down, you need to work together as a couple especially if you both have a child together. You need to tell him that his behavior is upsetting you, ask him does he want to be part of this family or does he want to leave. Remember that ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of having a relationship with my mother-in-law!
Q. Dated my husband for 6 years before he proposed to me and now we've been married for 5 years. I got very bad experience with my MIL and my husband younger sister (she's my age) they interfered big time in our relationship to a point I absolutely ...
A. 14 January 2016: I think you should give her a chance, it may be uncomfortable at first, but she should be involved in your husbands life and your children are her grandchildren. But be clear with her what you will and wont tolerate and just take it small steps at a ... (read in full...)
I took care of her and she made me happy. Now she's terminally ill and I don't know what to do
Q. I am a 25 year old guy. When I was young my parents weren't very supportive of me. They questioned every decision I took and every action I did. They were abusive. Nevertheless I was thankful of them for being there for me, for at least paying my ...
A. 14 January 2016: This is such a heartbreaking story, you where both so very alone in the world and yet you both found happiness in each other. That should be celebrated.
It is a cruel world, and it seems so unfair that she needs to go, but you really need to acce... (read in full...)
Is he treating me right?
Q. So I have a question. But the whole story first. My boyfriend and I arranged an evening to spend together before he leaves for college. That same day (of the evening) he cancelled because he rather wanted to go out with his friends. With that he ...
A. 13 January 2016: Sounds to me like he is at the stage off life where he does not want to commit to a girlfriend. He wants to spend time with his friends. No it is not fair that he cancels your plans, he obviously would prefer to hang with his friends. He is simply ... (read in full...)
Can't make head nor tail of this on/off friendship
Q. I had a strong crush on an old colleague of mine. She and I use to be so close when I first started working at my old job. We use to laugh, flirt, chat and she would stare at me and smile all the time. She came to me one day and asked me for my ...
A. 13 January 2016: Sounds to me like she likes to cause drama. It seems that she wanted attention from you, so she done what she could to get it, but then flirted with others around to make you feel jealous. Sounds to me like she is feeding her ego. You are better off ... (read in full...)
Parents coming between us
Q. My parents disapprove of my boyfriend because he is of a different race. They keep nagging me about going out with him and today, my mom said that she's disappointed in me for choosing this guy. I'm 21 this year. Not only that, they also think th...
A. 13 January 2016: It is your life and your choice, they might not be to happy about your choices but it is still you who makes the call.
It sounds strange to me that your parents are off a different race and yet they disagree with you being with someone with a diff... (read in full...)
How do I win through her shyness?
Q. I'm a sophomore in college, and I share many classes with a girl I find attractive. I'm not into dating someone immediately, I prefer to have a friendship with them first, but the girl I like is very quiet. Whenever we have free time and other ...
A. 13 January 2016: Sounds like she lacks a lot of confidence, and finds it easier just to be in her own company. It can be hard to crack someone who is this quiet.
Start slowly, try get to know her, ask her what she likes to do, her hobbies and interests. Maybe ask ... (read in full...)
My first date from hell! What shall I do next?
Q. MY FIRST DATE FROM HELL So I was chatting to a lady for a few weeks. I met up with her 30 miles away from where I live and we went for a meal. Everything was grate and we got on really well and had a laugh, we went to her local for a drink afte...
A. 13 January 2016: It was only a first date, its up to you how you proceed from here, you can just say you are not interested or you can give her another chance, the choice is yours.... (read in full...)
Should I be lead by my dream life?
Q. I have had most of my dreams not all come to pass. Over 10 years ago, I had a dream that I had an operation on my breasts and I wasn't happy. About 4 years ago, I discovered a painful lump in my left breast and both my breast have been hurting ever ...
A. 13 January 2016: I guess this is something you have to answer yourself, everybody has different beliefs and different views on the world.
If you feel that these dreams are some sort of sign well then chase them and see where they take you. However you should stil... (read in full...)
He's chatting on porn sites and I feel deceived
Q. I am in a very happy marriage (or so I thought) until I discovered my husband was secretly contacting other women on porn sites. He told me it was pure fantasy and meant nothing and that he would stop as I had got so upset. He does not see this...
A. 13 January 2016: Off course it meant something, if it didn't well then he never would have done it. He was getting some sort of thrill from contacting these women, would he have went further? Who knows.
Off course this is going to hurt. He has broke your trus... (read in full...)
Am I an idiot to keep responding to him?
Q. Met a guy from a dating site 2 years ago. Met him on and off throughout and we just meet for sex. last time i saw him was about two months ago. I would of liked him to of wanted more then sex but i know he doesn't. The sex is alright but i know he ...
A. 13 January 2016: From the way he is talking yes he is only using you for sex, that much is clear. So if this is not what you want then get him out of your life, at the minute he doesn't respect you as a potential girlfriend he sees you as someone who he can have sex ... (read in full...)
Any advice to stop this vicious cycle? Am I right to believe he did lie?
Q. Hey guys.. It's a long one so bear with me please. I am in a long distance and for reasons things can't change for sometime. We need to be in different cities. We end up meeting 4-6 times a year and talk everyday. In the end of 2014 I did a mi...
A. 13 January 2016: Sometimes if you let someone go and they come back then you know they want to work on the relationship, and if they don't well then he was never right for you. I think you just need to let him breathe a bit, it will be healthy for you both. ... (read in full...)
Struggling to cope with my mother's behaviour. What can I do?
Q. So I'm just struggling on dealing with my moms put downs. My mother is a single mother, and she doesn't work because she's disabled and can't work because of her hand. Therefore she's always taking medications and is always moody. I think not having ...
A. 12 January 2016: Maybe she just simply does not know how to love you. Forgive her and make a life for yourself. You will find someone who will love you and will be the center of there life. Its difficult that your mother can not show you love, but I think in order ... (read in full...)
Sex is good but he's gone cold
Q. I met a guy at uni a few months ago and i guess we sort of became fuck buddies having mostly drunken sex. It hasn't been constant but before Christmas it was happening regularly and it turned into a more friends with benefits as we spent more time ...
A. 12 January 2016: Sounds to me like he has lost interest and is now moving on. That's what happens in these kind of relationships, and I just hope now you can move forward without feeling hurt. ... (read in full...)
Why would a married man keep in touch with his mistress while on vacation with his wife?
Q. Why does a married man who is on vacation with his wife keep in constant touch with his mistress while he is away? And tells her he misses her and can't wait to be with her again?...
A. 12 January 2016: No I think he is keeping the mistress sweet. He choose to take his wife on vacation. He can have a happy life with his wife and then when he is home he can start having sex with the mistress again, keeping her sweet. I feel sorry for the wife here, ... (read in full...)
Married 11 years. How do I deal with this doubtful feeling I am sensing from his actions?
Q. My husband and I took a pic of our internet password because we are always being asked what it is from our guest and we don't feel like going up stairs to the box each time. Anyway, I was on his phone looking for that pic and I found a pic of his p...
A. 12 January 2016: When you have been out of town in the past has your husband ever sent you pictures like these? Or is it completely out of character for him to do something like this?
As you said he is your husband and you know when he is lying. Therefore talk to h... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't like how I taste. How do I fix this?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend a fair while now, however when we first got together he had just gotten out of what had not only been a 3 year long relationship, but also his first relationship ever. I on the other hand have been with a couple of g...
A. 12 January 2016: If he is not comfortable doing this well then you have to respect his wishes.
The way he compares you to his ex is very unfair and immature off him. No two women are the same and they should never be compared.
If it helps before you are both int... (read in full...)
Scared to let older man try something new
Q. I'm 18,and have been going out with an older,family friend..[a friend of my Dad's] for about four months now.I'm seeing him discreetly,they have no idea about him.He's 49.The sex is like..incredible!Older men really are better in bed!I love ...
A. 12 January 2016: If you say no and you lose him, well then that means he is using you for sex. You are 18 and therefore you are an adult, however this man is a friend of your dads and he has broken the trust off that friendship. When you say you are going out with ... (read in full...)
Why would he say I'm cheating?
Q. my boyfriend is convinced that I'm cheating on him he says he can feel it when we're having sex. I have been faithful to him...what causes him to say this and what makes me wet down there? ...
A. 12 January 2016: Your boyfriend is insecure, there could be a few reasons for this, maybe he has had a past partner cheat on him and now he finds it difficult to trust you? Or it could very well be that he is cheating on you, this often makes someone paranoid when ... (read in full...)
Will he ever commit or am I risking a heartbreak?
Q. I have been "seeing" a man for almost 8 months. It started as an office flirtation as both of us were going through a divorce. I don't think either of us expected it to go anywhere. We started going to dinners and movies and he introduced me to his ...
A. 12 January 2016: You need the commitment in order for you to be happy, completely understandable. Does he know how much this means to you? You need to be honest with him, tell him you understand he is going through a tough time at the moment, but also explain to him ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend intend to send this email to another woman?
Q. I have a very big problem and it's been eating away at me for the past few hours but it's been ongoing. I know the fine people of DC will be able to provide me with the best possible advice and that is why I am here reaching out to you. My boyfri...
A. 11 January 2016: If you are always this needy and clingy I suggest that you seek help, this is not healthy for you or for him. He should be enjoying his vacation with his family, spending quality time with them, he shouldn't be worrying about you unless off course ... (read in full...)
Now I know should I meet him?
Q. Hi, I met this guy online. We been talking 5 months. He lives 2000 miles away. He wanted to come visit me however I have roommate so we mutually decided I go visit him. I was under the impression we were dating monogamously. Come to find out, he's...
A. 11 January 2016: Did you both agree that you where in a monogamous relationship or did you just assume this to be? I'm sorry that you have lost money here, but you have never met this guy, so am not quite sure what you where expecting. Two people need to spend time ... (read in full...)
Are my dreams trustworthy?
Q. I am a 39 yr old married man. Few years ago I was abroad for 3 years with my wife for a work assignment where I met this single woman of my nationality who was working in the same organization as me and 10 years my junior. We became good friends, ...
A. 11 January 2016: These dreams are being created by you and your mind, they are not a sign off your future or that you should be with this lady. I can see you built a great friendship with this lady but I am left wondering would this be the reason your relationship ... (read in full...)
Was he put off because I wasn't 100%, or am I overthinking?
Q. Some advice would be much appreciated please. I went on a date yesterday afternoon with a guy my friends have been trying to set me up with for a while. On Friday just past, I started to feel ill (sore throat, achy, headache etc) and despite my best ...
A. 11 January 2016: Its only been a day so maybe leave it for a couple of days and see if he contacts you, maybe he doesn't want to seem to keen. If he does contact you well then you can say you have been ill and keep it at that, don't apologize for being ill you done ... (read in full...)
He wants to wait until he finishes medical school before getting married, although he suggested having a baby now! I'm in a dilemma! I need advice!
Q. hey everyone......my boyfriend and i have been together for more than a year now. six months into dating we started making plans about getting married and having children right after getting married. but suddenly my boyfriend stopped talking about ...
A. 11 January 2016: If you are not wanting to have a baby outside off marriage then tell him this. I can understand that weddings can be expensive and stressful, but you could both have a simple gathering as well and make it cheap. Its about how much you love one ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend spends all his time with his friends and my daughter and I are never his priority
Q. Hi my problem is I've been with my boyfriend for 3 year we live together and have a gorgeous 1 yr old baby girl the problem is since we got together we don't spend any time together I've asked him so many times to spend more time with us but he just ...
A. 11 January 2016: I wouldn't put up with this behavior, he needs to grow up and see where his priorities lie. Show him the door, tell him you cannot do this anymore. Tell him the relationship is over until he realizes that you and his daughter should come first. You ... (read in full...)
Will he ever commit or am I risking a heartbreak?
Q. I have been "seeing" a man for almost 8 months. It started as an office flirtation as both of us were going through a divorce. I don't think either of us expected it to go anywhere. We started going to dinners and movies and he introduced me to his ...
A. 11 January 2016: Was he sober when he kept telling you he loves you? At the end of the day, they are only words, he needs to back it up with actions as well or else they are meaningless.
Although he has been honest with you and told you he cannot commit to you unti... (read in full...)
Moved in but should I move out?
Q. my bf of 3 yrs (on and off) and i just moved in together and he is a weird one. we do not sleep in the same room let alone the same bed. he hates my dog. we do not communicate and sex has become boring and almost non existent. he ignores me for ...
A. 11 January 2016: I agree, I think you should move out and move on with your life. This is not a healthy relationship. Its almost like you are living with a stranger. ... (read in full...)
I can't see a way out of this hole ...
Q. I'm a friendless, 25 year old male that has never been in a relationship before. In "paper" it'd seem like I'm a good catch, I have a master's degree, a fulfilling and well-paying career and an awesome apartment downtown. The biggest issues that I ...
A. 11 January 2016: You say you have no friends but have you really tried? You mention co-workers? Why not ask them to hang out, go on a night out, get to know them outside of work. Ta-da! I think you are feeling negative and this is showing in your attitude, you need ... (read in full...)
Any advice to stop this vicious cycle? Am I right to believe he did lie?
Q. Hey guys.. It's a long one so bear with me please. I am in a long distance and for reasons things can't change for sometime. We need to be in different cities. We end up meeting 4-6 times a year and talk everyday. In the end of 2014 I did a mi...
A. 11 January 2016: He is allowed to have female friends, this is why trust is important in a relationship. What you are doing is wrong, and almost border line controlling behavior, people need space in a relationship and friends, if you keep suffocating him like this ... (read in full...)
Should I risk it all admitting my love?
Q. Last year,this guy came into my life, and i don't know how to tell him i love him. If I tell him how i feel it might wreck the friendship. If i don't then i will suffer my feelings. What should i do? Please help me....
A. 11 January 2016: You should tell him. Its a risk you need to take. He is not a friend to you, you want him to be more so take that risk. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Sleeping together didn't go very well ...
Q. Dear Cupid I am dating a person for past one month and we slept together yesterday. He is really not my type, but he was really sweet and I wanted to give this a try. Only when I slept with him realized, he might have erectile dysfunction ...
A. 11 January 2016: I'm pretty sure that he doesn't have a problem, my guess is that he was probably nervous with it being the first time you where both intimate in this way. As long as you encourage him that it is perfectly normal then he shouldn't remain to ... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts about me dating my boss?
Q. Hey There is a guy who wants to give a job. He has a tech business that is booming and has a lot of Franchises. He likes me a lot and we have only known each other for 2 months. I like talking to him and sharing jokes but am not in love and more...
A. 11 January 2016: It can cause a lot of issues in a relationship if they are your boss at work. It could be hard for you to take orders from him at work, and be equals outside of work. I can honestly say it wouldn't be the best start to a relationship, however it ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to figure out if this is a relationship I should stay in
Q. I have dated my boyfriend for about 8 months and both are 28. Our relationship had a very rocky and interesting beginning. We knew each other before from work so we both treaded carefully. I felt we never went through a honeymoon phase and was sl...
A. 11 January 2016: Only you can answer if this relationship is good enough for you or not. You say he texted other girls at the beginning, which I guess is common enough when there are no true feelings between you both yet. But you need to be sure you are getting all ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is horrible with communication and plans
Q. I love my boyfriend, we have been together for 9 months and get along great, but sometimes I feel that he doesn’t respect my time and is flaky. Or maybe I’m just too inflexible and put too much weight on his idea of “plans”. This happens all the ...
A. 11 January 2016: I think you are more in to this relationship than he is. You say he loves you, but if he truly loved you then he would put you first, he would not keep you waiting and he would stick to his plans, if something came up he would let you know straight ... (read in full...)
We are worried about how our families will react to our age difference!
Q. A year ago while watching a Dr Phil episode about a "sugar daddy" website I checked it out mainly out of curiosity but actually ended up meeting someone. It started out as just hanging out when he was in town on business but it later turned i...
A. 8 January 2016: You need to go around this a mature way. Yes it will be frustrating for you both, but if your families disapprove you need to try and see where they are coming from. Tell them you know why they would be worried, but also be honest with them about ... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on my professor who I've heard sleeps with students
Q. I am a second year student at a university and am 18 years old. I took a class last year with a professor and I think he might like me, I just don't know if he wants me. He tells me I look nice, and compliments me a lot. He also hugs me and tells me ...
A. 8 January 2016: You already have got lots of great advice, please listen to it. When you are older you will see how wrong this really is. Yes am sure at the minute you are flattered at the attention he is showing you, that's because he knows exactly what a girl ... (read in full...)
Do I let a work collegeague know that her fiance is cheating on her?
Q. I've come across something quite disturbing and need some advice please. Last weekend I was on a hen party spa weekend with my friends. We went to this beautiful hotel which also had a spa and was a 2 hour drive from our town. Whilst we were ...
A. 8 January 2016: I think you should tell her, I know you don't want to be the bad guy but I think you need to tell her face to face, if it was me I would want to know. ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and want to spice things up with my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend and I want to spice up our relationship, we have made out and kissed but nothing else. Any ideas what to do? ...
A. 8 January 2016: It depends what you mean by spice up? Do you mean sexually?
If you do well then you are still very young to be thinking about that, I would stick with the making out for now until you are both older. ... (read in full...)
Does a cheater cheat on everybody they are with and are they always cheating with multiple partners at once?
Q. Everybody always says cheaters are cheaters and will cheat on everybody they are with. Like it's gospel. So if you are with a man who has cheated on a partner in the past, it seems to be guaranteed he will do the same to you. Is this right? A...
A. 8 January 2016: It can be hard to trust someone who cheats on there partner. For argument sake, lets say you where seeing a man who was taking. You may start developing feelings for him, which is tough, but then also you made the decision to start an affair with a ... (read in full...)
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